This Guy Has A Medical Checkup, His Wife Gets Jealous And Comes In Despite Him Asking Her Not To Go, Gets Called Out
Standing before the altar, we vow to always love and respect our future spouse, care for them and protect them. Of course, many of the words in these vows are nothing more than a tribute to tradition, but it is quite fair that, by tying the knot with another person, we obviously rely on mutual respect and trust.
Unfortunately, many people perceive the words of their wedding vows only once – during that very wedding ceremony, and they perceive it as a figure of speech and nothing more. If only they took it to heart – after all, in this case, many family dramas could have been avoided. For example, such as the one about which we are now going to tell you.
Having appeared in the AITA Reddit community just a few days ago, this story, initially told by user u/AmenaFox1, has already managed to gain about 27.6K upvotes and around 8.5K different comments in a relatively short time. What does this indicate? Most likely, that the story managed to get the readers hooked. So let’s figure it out together.
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The author of the post is married and her husband had some health issues throughout the last weeks
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So, the author of the post says that her husband has been facing some health issues in the last few weeks, so he has to visit the doctor regularly. We do not know exactly what kind of issues these are, we can only guess. What we know from the Original Poster’s story is that when she asked her husband if they could go to the doctor together, he just flatly refused.
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The man told his wife he’d prefer to attend the doctor’s appointments alone, but the woman got jealous
According to the OP’s husband, he felt more comfortable having privacy with his doctor. The wife jokingly supposed that the doctor was a woman, to which the husband simply glanced at her in bewilderment. The author of the post turned everything into a joke, but a grain of doubt had already grown in her soul. We all know perfectly well how this works – as soon as we doubt something, our imagination obligingly draws the most unpleasant pictures before our eyes. In general, after a few days, that tiny seed of doubt managed to germinate into a whole tree of jealousy…
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The wife barged into the doctor’s office yet found nothing reprehensible – but her husband got upset with her showing up
The woman found out what day and time her husband’s next examination was scheduled for, and firmly decided to meet him at the doctor’s office. Seeing her husband go in, she waited around ten minutes and went in as well, identifying herself as his wife. To her surprise, she did not see anything reprehensible in the doctor’s office. However, it was clear that the husband was upset by her appearance – he refused to even look her way and refused to speak as well.
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After talking a little with the doctor (by the way, a man, as the author of the post notes), the wife waited for her husband and they left the office together. In the car, however, the man let his emotions run wild, criticizing his wife for “trying to spy on him” while he asked her for some privacy. At the same time, in her own words, the woman herself saw absolutely nothing reprehensible in her behavior.
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The man said the wife broke his personal boundary, showing distrust for him, yet the woman thinks he overreacted
She said that firstly, she was his wife, secondly, she was well aware of what his issues were, and thirdly, she just wanted to show support. However, the husband said that this time the wife simply overstepped his one boundary, refusing to respect his wish and made him more stressed than he already is in these hard times he’s going through. A family drama flared up, but the woman honestly admits that she does not consider herself guilty of anything.
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“Of course, we don’t know if this woman’s husband has given her any jealousy in the past,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, who was contacted by Bored Panda for comment on the story. “But be that as it may, she definitely showed a huge lack of trust in her partner, and besides, she violated his personal boundaries.”
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“Yes, in her own words, the wife was aware of her husband’s health problems. However, this does not mean that she is obliged to know all the issues that they discuss with the doctor. If the husband said that he was uncomfortable with the violation of privacy when communicating with the doctor, so it is, and his decision must be respected,” Irina Matveeva believes.
Both the expert and most people in the comments suppose that the woman’s behavior was simply inappropriate
It must be said that the vast majority of commenters also agree with the expert’s opinion, believing that the wife doesn’t have the right to invade her partner’s privacy after he requested to go alone. According to people in the comments, a signed piece of paper doesn’t give her the right to stalk her spouse. “You have zero respect for him, obviously,” one of the commenters simply wrote.
According to some commenters, the wife is really manipulating words in this situation, not really wanting to support her husband, but actively distressing him. After all, as people think, his medical appointments are his own private business and the woman may have actually negatively impacted his health as he felt way less comfortable to open up to the doctor in her presence. “You weren’t there to be supportive him, you were there to be nosy,” commenters state.
Family drama can actually come in many different forms – from this mother-in-law who constantly harassed her daughter-in-law until she finally showed the insulting texts to the husband, making him disown his mother, to this hubby who cheated on his pregnant wife and therefore got banned from delivery room. Whatever the case, please feel free to write your comments on this particular story.
I'm just cheesed off that she didn't have the courage to reply to the other posters lol, what a delusional self centred awful woman ...
The YTA posts very rarely have comments back. I think it's because when they find out they're TA, the narcissism takes over and "you can't believe the internet" takes over haha
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The doctor should have immediately kicked out OP, banned her, then fired the person who let her in.
Should have keptvher a*s at home and show support from there. No way op isn't a troll.😒
I wish I could think so, but my mother and sister are exactly like OP. My mom used to barge in on my doctor appointments when I was trying to get my migraines diagnosed/treated to tell the doctors that my pain "wasn't real" (this was while I was an adult, not a child.) My mom and sister both open my mail and read it. I'm 40 years old and I'm STILL not allowed to close doors in the house, let alone lock them. I wouldn't even be surprised if my sister installed a GPS tracker in my van, as she and my mom already did that to my dad's caregiver's PERSONAL vehicles, back when my dad was still alive. My dad died almost two years ago and they never removed - or told - the caregiver about the tracker on his car. My mom owns a few properties and she and my sister will go into the houses when the tenants aren't there, WITHOUT their permission. They are absolutely horrible, narcissistic people who do not care in the slightest about other peoples' privacy or what other people want or feel.
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I'm wondering if she is actually more abusive than she is an a-hole, and he wanted to talk to the doctor about how to build up his courage to finally put an end to her abuse... which she interrupted. I bet the doctor was p*ssed off too
I dont think I've seen such an AH mauling in a while. Categorically in the wrong, doubling down in the single follow up comment, this woman needs therapy (and burn medication for some comments) to understand she's got serious issues that needs resolving before the internet is a place she can ever visit again.
Yeah. OP is sooo YTA! If she truly wanted to show support at the Dr office she'd have stayed out in the waiting room. Better yet, she could have told her husband that she felt a need to support him and asked how she could do it, what would show him support. Then do that.
I normally prefer to show a bit more sympathy in most cases, but in this one, OP is an absolute disgusting AH! Who barges into a private meeting with a doctor/therapist just by virtue of marriage alone???!!! Even if you have been tied together by a certificate and ring, some things are just for your or your other half's attention only and should be respected. I hope husband recovers from this and OP takes a long, hard look in the mirror and realizes her cr*p or it might be Divorce City soon if she keeps this up... Smh...
Like one of the comments addressed, I'm floored that she got in. What kind of medical clinic allows anyone in without expressed permission? I used to work at a hotel and you wouldn't believe how many people tried to check in with their spouses credit card without their spouse. It doesn't matter that it might be the same account, I wasn't allowed to do it because how am I supposed to know there isn't a nasty divorce in the works or something like that. Same thing applies to this situation. Even if she's his emergency contact, if it's not an emergency, she needed his permission which she already knew she didn't have.
I was worried when she made a comment about the doctor possibly be a woman... she is a jealous controlling woman who has no boundaries. She acted in a totally inappropriate way.
YTA I can't belive she has that little control over herself that she got jealous of her husband going to a doctor. She broke all sorts of personal boundaries. If this is her normal modus operandi I wouldn't be surprised if the husband wanted to talk to the doctor about how stressed he is at home. She seriously needs to see someone and get help for her behavior as this is not ok in any way
When I had cancer, people kept insisting on coming to my doctor appointments. They insisted I needed “support” and someone to advocate for me, though I kept saying no. Asked if they needed to come to the dentist too. Anyway, gave in and let one come along. They tried asking questions about things doctor and I had already discussed a million times, wasting our time. We politely humored them. They were extremely uncomfortable when doctor had me strip for an exam, palpitating things, which was the real purpose of the appointment. normally I would be mortified to have an audience but the uncomfortable look on their face was worth it. They stopped asking to attend.
This was a total lack of respect for her husband, his wishes and his boundaries. She deserved to be put in her place.
And now her husband will never confide in her again. She has just built a wall between them that may destroy the marriage.
YTA doesn’t even cover this. You have NO RIGHT to do that. The doc was also in the wrong for not asking the husband if it was ok to discuss it with the wife. If it wasn’t ok with him, out she goes to the waiting room. NO medical info goes to anyone whom the patient has not given permission to go to. On admission to hospital we must ask if there is anyone specific they do not want info given to. Like, “ No info to any of my siblings.” “Info to immediate family only”. If we come into speak to the patient about their medical condition or other info, if there is a person/ people at the bedside first ask them if it’s ok to discuss it in front of them. If the answer is no, those people must leave until we’re done talking. Legally we MUST adhere to this. As a former nurse, this having happened makes my head want to explode.
Brave new world. I can’t believe nobody can see anything on the wife’s side. In this therapeutic society, nobody understands what marriage *is.*
Load More Replies... I'm just cheesed off that she didn't have the courage to reply to the other posters lol, what a delusional self centred awful woman ...
The YTA posts very rarely have comments back. I think it's because when they find out they're TA, the narcissism takes over and "you can't believe the internet" takes over haha
Load More Replies... The doctor should have immediately kicked out OP, banned her, then fired the person who let her in.
Should have keptvher a*s at home and show support from there. No way op isn't a troll.😒
I wish I could think so, but my mother and sister are exactly like OP. My mom used to barge in on my doctor appointments when I was trying to get my migraines diagnosed/treated to tell the doctors that my pain "wasn't real" (this was while I was an adult, not a child.) My mom and sister both open my mail and read it. I'm 40 years old and I'm STILL not allowed to close doors in the house, let alone lock them. I wouldn't even be surprised if my sister installed a GPS tracker in my van, as she and my mom already did that to my dad's caregiver's PERSONAL vehicles, back when my dad was still alive. My dad died almost two years ago and they never removed - or told - the caregiver about the tracker on his car. My mom owns a few properties and she and my sister will go into the houses when the tenants aren't there, WITHOUT their permission. They are absolutely horrible, narcissistic people who do not care in the slightest about other peoples' privacy or what other people want or feel.
Load More Replies... I'm wondering if she is actually more abusive than she is an a-hole, and he wanted to talk to the doctor about how to build up his courage to finally put an end to her abuse... which she interrupted. I bet the doctor was p*ssed off too
I dont think I've seen such an AH mauling in a while. Categorically in the wrong, doubling down in the single follow up comment, this woman needs therapy (and burn medication for some comments) to understand she's got serious issues that needs resolving before the internet is a place she can ever visit again.
Yeah. OP is sooo YTA! If she truly wanted to show support at the Dr office she'd have stayed out in the waiting room. Better yet, she could have told her husband that she felt a need to support him and asked how she could do it, what would show him support. Then do that.
I normally prefer to show a bit more sympathy in most cases, but in this one, OP is an absolute disgusting AH! Who barges into a private meeting with a doctor/therapist just by virtue of marriage alone???!!! Even if you have been tied together by a certificate and ring, some things are just for your or your other half's attention only and should be respected. I hope husband recovers from this and OP takes a long, hard look in the mirror and realizes her cr*p or it might be Divorce City soon if she keeps this up... Smh...
Like one of the comments addressed, I'm floored that she got in. What kind of medical clinic allows anyone in without expressed permission? I used to work at a hotel and you wouldn't believe how many people tried to check in with their spouses credit card without their spouse. It doesn't matter that it might be the same account, I wasn't allowed to do it because how am I supposed to know there isn't a nasty divorce in the works or something like that. Same thing applies to this situation. Even if she's his emergency contact, if it's not an emergency, she needed his permission which she already knew she didn't have.
I was worried when she made a comment about the doctor possibly be a woman... she is a jealous controlling woman who has no boundaries. She acted in a totally inappropriate way.
YTA I can't belive she has that little control over herself that she got jealous of her husband going to a doctor. She broke all sorts of personal boundaries. If this is her normal modus operandi I wouldn't be surprised if the husband wanted to talk to the doctor about how stressed he is at home. She seriously needs to see someone and get help for her behavior as this is not ok in any way
When I had cancer, people kept insisting on coming to my doctor appointments. They insisted I needed “support” and someone to advocate for me, though I kept saying no. Asked if they needed to come to the dentist too. Anyway, gave in and let one come along. They tried asking questions about things doctor and I had already discussed a million times, wasting our time. We politely humored them. They were extremely uncomfortable when doctor had me strip for an exam, palpitating things, which was the real purpose of the appointment. normally I would be mortified to have an audience but the uncomfortable look on their face was worth it. They stopped asking to attend.
This was a total lack of respect for her husband, his wishes and his boundaries. She deserved to be put in her place.
And now her husband will never confide in her again. She has just built a wall between them that may destroy the marriage.
YTA doesn’t even cover this. You have NO RIGHT to do that. The doc was also in the wrong for not asking the husband if it was ok to discuss it with the wife. If it wasn’t ok with him, out she goes to the waiting room. NO medical info goes to anyone whom the patient has not given permission to go to. On admission to hospital we must ask if there is anyone specific they do not want info given to. Like, “ No info to any of my siblings.” “Info to immediate family only”. If we come into speak to the patient about their medical condition or other info, if there is a person/ people at the bedside first ask them if it’s ok to discuss it in front of them. If the answer is no, those people must leave until we’re done talking. Legally we MUST adhere to this. As a former nurse, this having happened makes my head want to explode.
Brave new world. I can’t believe nobody can see anything on the wife’s side. In this therapeutic society, nobody understands what marriage *is.*
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