Guy Asks If He’s The Jerk For Helping His Younger Brother And Not The Twin Sister Who’s The Parents’ Favorite
If you ask any parent “who’s your favorite child?”, chances are you will almost always hear the official answer: “we love them both equally” or “we do not play favorites” or the like. On rare occasions you will hear them joke about who the favorite is, but maintain a stance of all kids being treated equally. Though it might not be the case, but they at least try their best to avoid scarring their children for life.
However, there are, sadly, parents who play favorites and don’t even try to hide it. Enter this Redditor who got some flack for supporting his brother, who the parents openly treated like a scapegoat, but favored his twin sister. So much, in fact, so as to spoil her.
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While everyone agrees that parenting isn’t easy, everyone also agrees that parents shouldn’t give in to favoritism either
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So, a 20-year-old male Redditor turned to the r/AmITheA-Hole community about a predicament he found himself in. You see, OP has twin siblings—“Joe” and “Jill”. Now, the parents always wanted a daughter, so when they had twins, the daughter was showered with love, but Joe, on the other hand, as an extra kid in this deal, got the role of the “scapegoat”.
As for OP, he is the oldest grandson on both sides of the family, so he is in a more fortunate position, but the problem is really not with just the parents as it’s the entire family that’s playing the favoritism game.
But, because the older brother has a heart, he started taking on a supportive role with regards to Joe—not only because he detested how spoiled the twin sister was because of the way their parents pampered her, but also because it was the right thing to do and he didn’t want him to be alone in the family.
A concerned brother turned to Reddit to find out if he was wrong to side with his brother whom the parents are effectively scapegoating
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OP explained that whenever the parents would take Jill shopping, he’d take Joe skating with his friends; whenever the parents were at Jill’s kiddie pageant, the older bro would drag his friends to watch his school musicals. “Small things like that,” though considering everything, those aren’t small things, but rather very meaningful things and we commend OP for being the best brother ever.
And now everyone’s older, and the twins are reaching their high-school graduations. Jill, to no surprise, is going to university in San Francisco, which is all being paid for by the parents, but Joe’s going to the same university in Seattle that OP is going to. What is more, he got a full scholarship, which, again, to no surprise, meant that the parents were going to give him nothing.
While the parents were busy pampering the twin sister, the older brother was always being there for the twin brother
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In response to this, OP started getting in touch with people he knew to see if anyone was hiring next fall. The two were discussing all of this on FaceTime, with OP reassuring his brother that he will make sure everything is just fine. In fact, it was probably for the best as it would just mean he’s independent from the parents and they won’t be attaching any strings if they help financially.
And it seems the sister must have overheard them talking, as she also started relentlessly bugging OP about helping her find a job. She too started asking him to help her find a job because she didn’t want dad “nagging her” about it.
And when it came time for college, the sister noticed just how supportive the older bro was of the younger bro, but not of her
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The older brother did try to politely explain that he doesn’t know anyone in San Fran and that she’d get more help from mom and dad, and she was unhappy, to say the least. The sister started accusing him of favoring Joe over her, which he did admit was true, but it wasn’t like she was even trying to be likable with her “golden child” attitude. So, he asked the internet to explain to him who’s wrong here.
And it seems the internet was on OP’s side as it ruled him to not be the a-hole in this situation. For the most part, people were not only saying that he wasn’t the bad guy, but also that he went above and beyond by being a very good big brother, a role model who showed love and support more than most of us could say about our siblings.
People weren’t quick to judge OP, but they also saw hope in the sister—all she needed was the same love and support
There were those who, however, did say that Jill isn’t bad either—she is redeemable, and showing a bit more kindness and explaining the whole situation of how the parents playing favorites has led to how things are right now might be a key turning point in how she develops further. It was the parents who were to blame here.
It is important to note that there were some who related to this story all too much, being scapegoat kids as well, and were grateful the big brother took matters into his own hands.
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I had a situation like this when I was growing up, but I was the "golden child" while my little brother was the scapegoat/bad boy. My next older sister went out of her way to hang out with him, despite a 10 year age difference. When we got a little older, she took him on road trips and helped him find part time jobs. I was hurt and resentful at first, but I quickly figured out that she was just levelling the playing field. I'm still grateful that she stepped in that way.
That's how a sane, compassionate person would see it. I'm glad that you understood the dynamic and what your sister was doing.
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I was Joe growing up. Nothing I did was ever good enough, but two brothers were the golden kids. I had a ton of aunts and uncles and a few recognized how differently my parents treated me so whenever they were in town they'd pay special attention to me. My parents put my brother through junior college because otherwise he wouldn't have gone. I got a full ride scholarship so the second theater conservatory in the country and they called me foolish for getting a useless degree. When I was in combat in the Army, they barely acknowledged I was there and never once asked me about it when I got home. The extra love from cousins and aunts saved me as a kid. When I came out as gay, they pretty much washed their hands of me.
"The extra love saved me as a kid." Being ghosted by your parents is deadly. OP probably saved Joe's life.
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Guess it's time to have a talk with Jill about OP's motivations. Maybe she'll learn a thing or two, it's not her fault for being favorited and it's also not her fault that this caused pricess-like behavior. However, as they're both almost adults, I think she could handle to hearing the opposite side of the story.
I used to babysit these three kids, two girls and a boy. The youngest child, a girl, looked like an angel. No other way to describe it. But oh my God, was she aware of it. Bratty, spoiled, demanding, throwing tantrums, nothing was ever good enough. She even told an older student that I’d abused her whilst babysitting after I wouldn’t let her have 5 bowls of ice cream the night before. Her older sister wasn’t as genetically blessed, and it was very obvious that the parents were aware of it. Same outcome as the above story, I favoured the non-favourite. Because she was such a sweet kid, and she tried so hard to get her parents’ attention. I don’t know what happened to her, but I hope she found a better family later.
I was the golden child growing up because my mother wanted a girl and she supposedly got pregnant with me on purpose. It certainly helped that I was a quiet, low-maintenance, artistic kid. Her pregnancy with my brother caused financial issues and they didn't want another kid. Then he was born with health issues, was active and playful, looked more like his father, and couldn't control his bladder because of a medical condition. I tried to be like the OP here, but I had ongoing trauma and mental illnesses to work through at the same time. There were no other siblings to help with this.
This happens in my family, except my brother is the Jill and my sister is the Joe, and it's only their mom playing favorites.. It's rather infuriating but my other brother is there doing this exact same thing for her because she is truly awesome and she doesn't deserve that treatment ever. Her twin is entitled opinionated and a mammas boy, still a kind kid though and they're both spoiled from our dad.
I was definitely the golden child between myself and my brother, but this was mostly due to his behavioral issues. I was definitely a princess and a bit of a jerk like OP's sister... BUT being financially dependent on my grandmother for things like college did come with slot of strings attached. Those strings suck, and OP recognizes that already. Perhaps sister has to fight harder than he realizes for everything she has, which can cause princess syndrome as well. It comes with a self-hatred, and the inability to do things for yourself. OP is definitely not the jerk, but hoping real life humbles sister and makes her a better person too. It certainly did me, and one of the best feelings after being under someone else's thumb is being free and not having to answer to someone else, and knowing you pay your own bills from your own hard work. It's very validating.
I don’t get why people are defending the sister. It doesn’t sound like she’s a nice person at all. She can’t see that her parents treat her brother like s**t in 18 years, or does she ignore it because it doesn’t affect her…She might have been raised to be entitled but she also CHOOSES TO BE. The older brother is AMAZING!
I am sorry, but reading this story back, I don't see where you are getting that she "ignores" anything. What is she to do? Children are not in charge of their parents. She is just 18, so she has been an adult a whole YEAR?? How was she to control her grown, adult parents behavior toward their own child? Seems you are being quite unfair. What did you read, other than his saying she is a 'princess" that led you to that conclusion? What did she do that made her not a "nice person"? Be her parents favorite, something completely out of her control?
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NTA, and none of this is really the fault of either twin, it's all the parents. Jill will hopefully learn how her parents raised her to be, grow some self awareness and break away from that. Also, I wish I had friends like OP.
Definitely NTA. You filled the gap and supported your brother... Your sister may not need that support so much right now, but as she begins experience life away from your parents, she may quickly realize how wrong they were to treat Joe that way. Continue supporting Joe, as he needs that, but give your sister opportunities to strengthen the relationship among all three of you. Hopefully she'll she the light with some time and distance. 🙂
Yeah, slightly different, I love my sister but have nothing in common with her so just avoid her. My oldest niece is an absolute entitled arsehole who was spoiled by my parents and causes family rows constantly, I can't be doing with it.
NTA good brother because joe could've feel into depression abd tell jill what you noticed and see what see says or changes before you totally ghost her
I would just keep telling Jill the same thing, you don't know anyone from SF but once she eventually wakes up and sees how horrible her parents are try and build a relationship with her. She didn't do anything to make her in favour other than be born so don't tell her that you are in favour of your brother but don't treat her like a spoilt little princess. She'll wake up at some point and then maybe you can build a relationship with her.
I wish someone would have done something like this for me because I know how it feels to be a twin of the only girl in the family and a scapegoat of the same family
My mom was terrible, since I had a better relationship with my dad (how DARE a 3 year old have a preference, this is all an evil scheme and does not say anything about her as a parent) so when she had my sister, it was HER daughter and always told me how she prefered her over me, and that I hated her. I have a 10 year older half brother from her side that lived with us and we grew closer, because she was raised to be my mother's extension, she would bully me, and anytime she would cry me or my brother would take the blame regardless of what happened (once my brother bought his own mp4, random drama and it reduced to pieces) so yeah, naturally we would have the better relationship, as my sister was essentially unapproachable. Years passed, my sister started to show her anxiety disorder, guess who is to blame, obviously she doesn't love my sister as much anymore, and she has been developing in her own person, but this ordeal definetly scarred her a lot, we are best friends now <3
idk why ppl be judging your bro so harshly , your sister is a princess who needs to face life on her tho so no i don't believe your the assehole but she is for assuming you to give her what ever she wants aswell , at least he be trying bc his parents arent gonna help out of the ' good' of there hearts like they would for her so no , just keep doing what your doing and if she keeps bad mouthing you let her cry to your parents for you don't owe her a apology for not knowing anyone around there aswell as your actually trying to help him bc the parents are untrustworthy !
I am not a twin and still know what it feels like to deal with favorites. I wasn’t as smart, or funny, worthy. I was apparently a problem, they hoped would marry money, I liked art, and music. But wasn’t even wanted at his wedding, and even now, sometimes people are surprised to hear he has a sister. So NO, he’s not a jerk for being there for him. (And yes, I would still be there for my brother, KNOWING he would not be there for me)
ESH. I get OP's inclination, but siblings should not allow the sins of the parents to dictate their relationship to each other. It's great, truly great, that he's looking out for his little brother here, but his parents have set his sister up for failure, and he should find a way to foster that relationship too. I'm sure she feels the hurt, that she is not closer to her older brother.
He is doing things with his brother while she is with thier parents. He is doing what he can to help out but cant be in 2 places at once like the parents can with the divide and conquer model - if my sisters and I had conflicting events dad would go to one, mom the other and they would switch kids the next time so we got equal of both and the "free" sisters divided with our parents. OP's parents arent making that an option for him when they spend no time or effort on the brother.
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You are handling this right, I'm a female but I was like your brother Joe. My dad didn't even think my 2 brothers should ever have to work in factories they were too good for th My older sister was mom's favorite I don't know how many times I invited mom to go shopping just before she said she didn't feel good then I'd see her and my sister going. When my dad passed I didn't shed a tear for him. I even witness his will since I wasn't in it but his ex daughter in was ( of course they were a little too close). The good thing is I had to go to work at 14 so anything I have is mine and everything I have accomplished I'd did myself. Your brother is lucky to have you. You and him can take pride that everything you 2 have you both worked for. Don't feel guilty about not helping your sister. If you help her she will keep feeling entitled. Plus going to college she is not going to have your mom and dad to fall back on. She needs to able to stand on her own like in the real world.
Even though I was the youngest in my family and the only girl, I was nonetheless the scapegoat and black sheep of the family. My oldest brother helped me and in turn became the other scapegoat. Sadly he passed away at 34 partly due to the treatment he received. The favoritism in our home growing up was blatant to say the least. The Golden Child still doesn’t have a clue why there was anything wrong with the way we were raised.
I'm an only child and every time I wish I'd had some siblings, I read stories like this.... *sigh*
I'm the middle sister and I was the favorite. My mother made no secret of this. She kept me, fostered my 5 yr older sister off to the maternal grandparents and sent my 18 mo younger sister to our paternal aunt and uncle. Basically we were all the 'only' child in our family groups. Grandparents were dirt poor, aunt and uncle were the Norman Rockwell types. Mother and I traveled/moved around a lot, she had more than 5 husbands, some had kids and she was very abusive to me. I was her favorite after all. I was even named the same name as my older sister. Imagine that if you can. When my sisters visited us we didn't get along very well because we each came from entirely different lifestyles and there was a lot of jealously. They didn't know about the abuse and the drunken stepfathers and the traffic of step siblings. They thought my life was all glamour and fun while I envied their stable, caring, loving family lives. I really thought I was the favorite kid that no one really wanted.
Screw Jill, she needs a fakking reality check. So many women have the princess syndrome, the sooner reality hits them squarely in their face the better.
Poorly written articles are so annoying. Stop repeating the same information. If you want people to read the source material too, then post the link. Don't copy and paste the original and then repeat what it says.
My mom grew up as the scapegoat and her older sister who's not even a year older being the golden child (grandma got pregnant the moment she started sleeping with my grandfather again after giving birth to my aunt). This has soured their relationship for the rest of their lives. My aunt's eldest daughter is only 6 months older then me, and the dynamic between our mothers also impacted us. Out of all my aunt's children, she is the only one I'd actually get physical with (well more like her starting to slap me when I did something she didn't liked and me beginning to cry with my aunt never bothering to get my cousin to apologize and my mom deciding it was time to go home). Neither I and my cousin or my mom and her sister hate each other. Its just that my mom embraced the role of the black sheep in the family and raised me to be free and independent, whereas my aunt grew up to be an ice queen who's wealthy, a bit snobbish & entitled, and has a strict husband who raisedthem to be such.
What the acronym...EAH -Everybody is an a*****e here? The whole family sounds aweful to me. It's one thing to pick up slack from parents - yay, big brother, well done - but brushing off the sister completely is not nice.
Well its not like you actually know the sister and know she deserves the dislike or not.
Load More Replies... As far as I'm concerned,decent parents don't pick favorites it is never the kids fault that you might have flown two for one. You speed 'em and this CB is the result. If you wanted a daughter so bad, adopt. There are plenty who have to give up kids for reasons beyond "it's another boy or I only want the girl from this roll in the hay. When are these entitled babies ever going to see that are creating life, not an accessory for their purse? Babies really have no business making babies. Responsible pausing adults know this is possible. If you're going to act adult, take precautions. Simple. Betcha they divorce within a year of their princesses debut.
"Hey Joe, whaddya know?" "My parents hate me." "...Holy shi--, have some ice cream."
She's a "brat" bc of his parents; children are a product of how they are raised. It sounds like both twins got screwed bc one is now entitled and the other feels invisible they have crap for parents. He should have helped both, by teaching her humility and how to be humble, bc they were both done a disservice, just in different ways. I get it's not his job to raise his siblings, but he basically did the exact same thing his parents did by showing favoritism for one and helping that one flourish while the other will eventually flounder because of the way she was raised.
Wtf is Jill's problem. I'm pretty sure she wants all the money she can get and gets jealous when her little bubble pops and she realises that the whole world doesn't revolve around her.
It's not entirely her fault though is it. If the parents had treated their kids equally they'd all be a lot less screwed up.
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In terms of numbers, the older brother is the only family member favouring the boy twin. The girl twin is favoured by both parents and her relatives. I suspect the boy expects respect only from his big brother. The girl possibly expects to be well-treated by everyone regardless of someone else's greater need or her own merits.
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I had a situation like this when I was growing up, but I was the "golden child" while my little brother was the scapegoat/bad boy. My next older sister went out of her way to hang out with him, despite a 10 year age difference. When we got a little older, she took him on road trips and helped him find part time jobs. I was hurt and resentful at first, but I quickly figured out that she was just levelling the playing field. I'm still grateful that she stepped in that way.
That's how a sane, compassionate person would see it. I'm glad that you understood the dynamic and what your sister was doing.
Load More Replies... I was Joe growing up. Nothing I did was ever good enough, but two brothers were the golden kids. I had a ton of aunts and uncles and a few recognized how differently my parents treated me so whenever they were in town they'd pay special attention to me. My parents put my brother through junior college because otherwise he wouldn't have gone. I got a full ride scholarship so the second theater conservatory in the country and they called me foolish for getting a useless degree. When I was in combat in the Army, they barely acknowledged I was there and never once asked me about it when I got home. The extra love from cousins and aunts saved me as a kid. When I came out as gay, they pretty much washed their hands of me.
"The extra love saved me as a kid." Being ghosted by your parents is deadly. OP probably saved Joe's life.
Load More Replies... Guess it's time to have a talk with Jill about OP's motivations. Maybe she'll learn a thing or two, it's not her fault for being favorited and it's also not her fault that this caused pricess-like behavior. However, as they're both almost adults, I think she could handle to hearing the opposite side of the story.
I used to babysit these three kids, two girls and a boy. The youngest child, a girl, looked like an angel. No other way to describe it. But oh my God, was she aware of it. Bratty, spoiled, demanding, throwing tantrums, nothing was ever good enough. She even told an older student that I’d abused her whilst babysitting after I wouldn’t let her have 5 bowls of ice cream the night before. Her older sister wasn’t as genetically blessed, and it was very obvious that the parents were aware of it. Same outcome as the above story, I favoured the non-favourite. Because she was such a sweet kid, and she tried so hard to get her parents’ attention. I don’t know what happened to her, but I hope she found a better family later.
I was the golden child growing up because my mother wanted a girl and she supposedly got pregnant with me on purpose. It certainly helped that I was a quiet, low-maintenance, artistic kid. Her pregnancy with my brother caused financial issues and they didn't want another kid. Then he was born with health issues, was active and playful, looked more like his father, and couldn't control his bladder because of a medical condition. I tried to be like the OP here, but I had ongoing trauma and mental illnesses to work through at the same time. There were no other siblings to help with this.
This happens in my family, except my brother is the Jill and my sister is the Joe, and it's only their mom playing favorites.. It's rather infuriating but my other brother is there doing this exact same thing for her because she is truly awesome and she doesn't deserve that treatment ever. Her twin is entitled opinionated and a mammas boy, still a kind kid though and they're both spoiled from our dad.
I was definitely the golden child between myself and my brother, but this was mostly due to his behavioral issues. I was definitely a princess and a bit of a jerk like OP's sister... BUT being financially dependent on my grandmother for things like college did come with slot of strings attached. Those strings suck, and OP recognizes that already. Perhaps sister has to fight harder than he realizes for everything she has, which can cause princess syndrome as well. It comes with a self-hatred, and the inability to do things for yourself. OP is definitely not the jerk, but hoping real life humbles sister and makes her a better person too. It certainly did me, and one of the best feelings after being under someone else's thumb is being free and not having to answer to someone else, and knowing you pay your own bills from your own hard work. It's very validating.
I don’t get why people are defending the sister. It doesn’t sound like she’s a nice person at all. She can’t see that her parents treat her brother like s**t in 18 years, or does she ignore it because it doesn’t affect her…She might have been raised to be entitled but she also CHOOSES TO BE. The older brother is AMAZING!
I am sorry, but reading this story back, I don't see where you are getting that she "ignores" anything. What is she to do? Children are not in charge of their parents. She is just 18, so she has been an adult a whole YEAR?? How was she to control her grown, adult parents behavior toward their own child? Seems you are being quite unfair. What did you read, other than his saying she is a 'princess" that led you to that conclusion? What did she do that made her not a "nice person"? Be her parents favorite, something completely out of her control?
Load More Replies... NTA, and none of this is really the fault of either twin, it's all the parents. Jill will hopefully learn how her parents raised her to be, grow some self awareness and break away from that. Also, I wish I had friends like OP.
Definitely NTA. You filled the gap and supported your brother... Your sister may not need that support so much right now, but as she begins experience life away from your parents, she may quickly realize how wrong they were to treat Joe that way. Continue supporting Joe, as he needs that, but give your sister opportunities to strengthen the relationship among all three of you. Hopefully she'll she the light with some time and distance. 🙂
Yeah, slightly different, I love my sister but have nothing in common with her so just avoid her. My oldest niece is an absolute entitled arsehole who was spoiled by my parents and causes family rows constantly, I can't be doing with it.
NTA good brother because joe could've feel into depression abd tell jill what you noticed and see what see says or changes before you totally ghost her
I would just keep telling Jill the same thing, you don't know anyone from SF but once she eventually wakes up and sees how horrible her parents are try and build a relationship with her. She didn't do anything to make her in favour other than be born so don't tell her that you are in favour of your brother but don't treat her like a spoilt little princess. She'll wake up at some point and then maybe you can build a relationship with her.
I wish someone would have done something like this for me because I know how it feels to be a twin of the only girl in the family and a scapegoat of the same family
My mom was terrible, since I had a better relationship with my dad (how DARE a 3 year old have a preference, this is all an evil scheme and does not say anything about her as a parent) so when she had my sister, it was HER daughter and always told me how she prefered her over me, and that I hated her. I have a 10 year older half brother from her side that lived with us and we grew closer, because she was raised to be my mother's extension, she would bully me, and anytime she would cry me or my brother would take the blame regardless of what happened (once my brother bought his own mp4, random drama and it reduced to pieces) so yeah, naturally we would have the better relationship, as my sister was essentially unapproachable. Years passed, my sister started to show her anxiety disorder, guess who is to blame, obviously she doesn't love my sister as much anymore, and she has been developing in her own person, but this ordeal definetly scarred her a lot, we are best friends now <3
idk why ppl be judging your bro so harshly , your sister is a princess who needs to face life on her tho so no i don't believe your the assehole but she is for assuming you to give her what ever she wants aswell , at least he be trying bc his parents arent gonna help out of the ' good' of there hearts like they would for her so no , just keep doing what your doing and if she keeps bad mouthing you let her cry to your parents for you don't owe her a apology for not knowing anyone around there aswell as your actually trying to help him bc the parents are untrustworthy !
I am not a twin and still know what it feels like to deal with favorites. I wasn’t as smart, or funny, worthy. I was apparently a problem, they hoped would marry money, I liked art, and music. But wasn’t even wanted at his wedding, and even now, sometimes people are surprised to hear he has a sister. So NO, he’s not a jerk for being there for him. (And yes, I would still be there for my brother, KNOWING he would not be there for me)
ESH. I get OP's inclination, but siblings should not allow the sins of the parents to dictate their relationship to each other. It's great, truly great, that he's looking out for his little brother here, but his parents have set his sister up for failure, and he should find a way to foster that relationship too. I'm sure she feels the hurt, that she is not closer to her older brother.
He is doing things with his brother while she is with thier parents. He is doing what he can to help out but cant be in 2 places at once like the parents can with the divide and conquer model - if my sisters and I had conflicting events dad would go to one, mom the other and they would switch kids the next time so we got equal of both and the "free" sisters divided with our parents. OP's parents arent making that an option for him when they spend no time or effort on the brother.
Load More Replies... You are handling this right, I'm a female but I was like your brother Joe. My dad didn't even think my 2 brothers should ever have to work in factories they were too good for th My older sister was mom's favorite I don't know how many times I invited mom to go shopping just before she said she didn't feel good then I'd see her and my sister going. When my dad passed I didn't shed a tear for him. I even witness his will since I wasn't in it but his ex daughter in was ( of course they were a little too close). The good thing is I had to go to work at 14 so anything I have is mine and everything I have accomplished I'd did myself. Your brother is lucky to have you. You and him can take pride that everything you 2 have you both worked for. Don't feel guilty about not helping your sister. If you help her she will keep feeling entitled. Plus going to college she is not going to have your mom and dad to fall back on. She needs to able to stand on her own like in the real world.
Even though I was the youngest in my family and the only girl, I was nonetheless the scapegoat and black sheep of the family. My oldest brother helped me and in turn became the other scapegoat. Sadly he passed away at 34 partly due to the treatment he received. The favoritism in our home growing up was blatant to say the least. The Golden Child still doesn’t have a clue why there was anything wrong with the way we were raised.
I'm an only child and every time I wish I'd had some siblings, I read stories like this.... *sigh*
I'm the middle sister and I was the favorite. My mother made no secret of this. She kept me, fostered my 5 yr older sister off to the maternal grandparents and sent my 18 mo younger sister to our paternal aunt and uncle. Basically we were all the 'only' child in our family groups. Grandparents were dirt poor, aunt and uncle were the Norman Rockwell types. Mother and I traveled/moved around a lot, she had more than 5 husbands, some had kids and she was very abusive to me. I was her favorite after all. I was even named the same name as my older sister. Imagine that if you can. When my sisters visited us we didn't get along very well because we each came from entirely different lifestyles and there was a lot of jealously. They didn't know about the abuse and the drunken stepfathers and the traffic of step siblings. They thought my life was all glamour and fun while I envied their stable, caring, loving family lives. I really thought I was the favorite kid that no one really wanted.
Screw Jill, she needs a fakking reality check. So many women have the princess syndrome, the sooner reality hits them squarely in their face the better.
Poorly written articles are so annoying. Stop repeating the same information. If you want people to read the source material too, then post the link. Don't copy and paste the original and then repeat what it says.
My mom grew up as the scapegoat and her older sister who's not even a year older being the golden child (grandma got pregnant the moment she started sleeping with my grandfather again after giving birth to my aunt). This has soured their relationship for the rest of their lives. My aunt's eldest daughter is only 6 months older then me, and the dynamic between our mothers also impacted us. Out of all my aunt's children, she is the only one I'd actually get physical with (well more like her starting to slap me when I did something she didn't liked and me beginning to cry with my aunt never bothering to get my cousin to apologize and my mom deciding it was time to go home). Neither I and my cousin or my mom and her sister hate each other. Its just that my mom embraced the role of the black sheep in the family and raised me to be free and independent, whereas my aunt grew up to be an ice queen who's wealthy, a bit snobbish & entitled, and has a strict husband who raisedthem to be such.
What the acronym...EAH -Everybody is an a*****e here? The whole family sounds aweful to me. It's one thing to pick up slack from parents - yay, big brother, well done - but brushing off the sister completely is not nice.
Well its not like you actually know the sister and know she deserves the dislike or not.
Load More Replies... As far as I'm concerned,decent parents don't pick favorites it is never the kids fault that you might have flown two for one. You speed 'em and this CB is the result. If you wanted a daughter so bad, adopt. There are plenty who have to give up kids for reasons beyond "it's another boy or I only want the girl from this roll in the hay. When are these entitled babies ever going to see that are creating life, not an accessory for their purse? Babies really have no business making babies. Responsible pausing adults know this is possible. If you're going to act adult, take precautions. Simple. Betcha they divorce within a year of their princesses debut.
"Hey Joe, whaddya know?" "My parents hate me." "...Holy shi--, have some ice cream."
She's a "brat" bc of his parents; children are a product of how they are raised. It sounds like both twins got screwed bc one is now entitled and the other feels invisible they have crap for parents. He should have helped both, by teaching her humility and how to be humble, bc they were both done a disservice, just in different ways. I get it's not his job to raise his siblings, but he basically did the exact same thing his parents did by showing favoritism for one and helping that one flourish while the other will eventually flounder because of the way she was raised.
Wtf is Jill's problem. I'm pretty sure she wants all the money she can get and gets jealous when her little bubble pops and she realises that the whole world doesn't revolve around her.
It's not entirely her fault though is it. If the parents had treated their kids equally they'd all be a lot less screwed up.
Load More Replies... In terms of numbers, the older brother is the only family member favouring the boy twin. The girl twin is favoured by both parents and her relatives. I suspect the boy expects respect only from his big brother. The girl possibly expects to be well-treated by everyone regardless of someone else's greater need or her own merits.
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