Someone On Tumblr Explains Why People Divorce, And 1,480,000 People Agree
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What is love? This is a burning question that people have pondered over for centuries, inspiring some of the greatest works of art in human history (and 90’s Eurodance singer Haddaway). Yet still, we don’t really know. Sure, science has answered many questions in terms of chemical and hormonal reactions, attraction and the need for companionship, but that doesn’t much help us in terms of how to negotiate our own emotions and relationships.
25-year-old poet Taylor Myers, from Dayton, Ohio, decided to share her thoughts on the matter while plumbing the emotional depths of bitterness from a difficult experience. Her post, raw, fearful and full of regret, touched many people who had experienced the shocking contrasts between the intense, burning adoration of young love, and the cold ashes of realism that remain once the fire has faded.
Later on, perhaps in a less turbulent emotional state and seeking to add some balance to her unexpectedly viral prose, Taylor went back to add a more heartwarming lesson she learned in her ‘Relationships for Life’ class. Once again her words went viral, but this time for different reasons. “The reaction blew me away,” Taylor told Bored Panda. “I still get messages weekly from people telling me how it affected them, how it saved their relationship, or how it gave them the strength to walk away from someone that was holding them back. It blows my mind to know that something I created has touched so many people across the world, has urged them to come to me for advice or clarification or just a listening ear.”
Many people have asked or commented on the ‘Relationships for Life’ class that Taylor referred to, often with a dose of skepticism. Taylor found it to be invaluable however, and if you think about it, why shouldn’t we all learn more about something that will become one of the very foundations of our lives? “That class without a doubt molded the way I view and handle all my relationships, romantic or otherwise,” Taylor told us. “And I think they’re all healthier and more transparent because of that class. It should be taught everywhere.”
Scroll down below to check out Taylor’s eloquent writing for yourself, and let us know what you think in the comments!
This is 25-year-old poet Taylor Myers
She shared her deep and unusual fear about love
And people agreed with her
She later came back to her post but with a different perspective
Here’s how people reacted to her heartfelt post
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I recommend for people to stay single until someone actually COMPLIMENTS your life in a way that makes it better not to be single. Otherwise, it's not worth it.
*complement
@ Lizzy - Must be fun going around correcting peoples spelling, instead of adding to the conversation with something meaningful. LOL
Bread Lady - where are you when everyone is correcting you're/your and the like? Wish people realised that this is an international site with many languages and different skill sets and stop thinking it's about teaching each other how to spell. The people who claim it is OCD - go do something else to deal with it.
@Dilly No, it's not about fun or OCD. If I corrected a misspelling when it is obvious what the author intended to say (in the case of "you're/your"), then you are right about being a grammar nazi. In this case, however, the author of the comment highlighted that specific word by writing it in capitals to draw attention to its meaning. Sadly, the word she used has a completely different meaning than she intended. For those whose native or second language is English, it wouldn't be such a big problem to still get the intended message she is trying to convey. But like you said, this is an international website visited by people from all over the world with different skill sets and mother tongues. You can't expect everyone to completely understand what is being said when they get a strange translation after inserting the text in Google Translate due to the misspelling. Don't you think it's a waste when the meaning of the entire message would be lost because of one word?
I disagree. Love is an emotion, a feeling, one usually confused with other transient emotions. The choice comes in the commitment to the relationship. You can love without commitment or have commitment without love. The former won't last, the latter will. Love with commitment is the whole package.
I 100% agree with you. Love is an emotion, a relationship takes commitment. People get swept up by pretty weddings but don't think about marriage. Get their priorities wrong.
You are kinda saying the same thing though- that "commitment" which is a choice, is the requirement to make love work... you can mix the words around... but I think even when you don't FEEL loving... you still practice the commitment, which ultimately helps the love feeling return.
Wise words
You can disagree with definitions if you want to, but there are some pretty clear indicators of the differences between what people think is love (it's actually limerance, also known as infatuation), and the behaviors people demonstrate in long-term commitments. Limerence/infatuation is the emotion most people have associated with "love" and that's mostly because of how culture and media presents loving relationships. They present powerful, passionate, and intense behaviors and feelings, and then call them love (when they should be calling them infatuation or limerence). Under functional MRI imaging, there's been an interesting similarity between the brain activity shown by subjects describing feeling "in love" and the brain activity of people with opioid addictions.
"Words mean nothing. I am so tired hearing the loving words but not seeing the loving actions" - spot on.
I recommend for people to stay single until someone actually COMPLIMENTS your life in a way that makes it better not to be single. Otherwise, it's not worth it.
*complement
@ Lizzy - Must be fun going around correcting peoples spelling, instead of adding to the conversation with something meaningful. LOL
Bread Lady - where are you when everyone is correcting you're/your and the like? Wish people realised that this is an international site with many languages and different skill sets and stop thinking it's about teaching each other how to spell. The people who claim it is OCD - go do something else to deal with it.
@Dilly No, it's not about fun or OCD. If I corrected a misspelling when it is obvious what the author intended to say (in the case of "you're/your"), then you are right about being a grammar nazi. In this case, however, the author of the comment highlighted that specific word by writing it in capitals to draw attention to its meaning. Sadly, the word she used has a completely different meaning than she intended. For those whose native or second language is English, it wouldn't be such a big problem to still get the intended message she is trying to convey. But like you said, this is an international website visited by people from all over the world with different skill sets and mother tongues. You can't expect everyone to completely understand what is being said when they get a strange translation after inserting the text in Google Translate due to the misspelling. Don't you think it's a waste when the meaning of the entire message would be lost because of one word?
I disagree. Love is an emotion, a feeling, one usually confused with other transient emotions. The choice comes in the commitment to the relationship. You can love without commitment or have commitment without love. The former won't last, the latter will. Love with commitment is the whole package.
I 100% agree with you. Love is an emotion, a relationship takes commitment. People get swept up by pretty weddings but don't think about marriage. Get their priorities wrong.
You are kinda saying the same thing though- that "commitment" which is a choice, is the requirement to make love work... you can mix the words around... but I think even when you don't FEEL loving... you still practice the commitment, which ultimately helps the love feeling return.
Wise words
You can disagree with definitions if you want to, but there are some pretty clear indicators of the differences between what people think is love (it's actually limerance, also known as infatuation), and the behaviors people demonstrate in long-term commitments. Limerence/infatuation is the emotion most people have associated with "love" and that's mostly because of how culture and media presents loving relationships. They present powerful, passionate, and intense behaviors and feelings, and then call them love (when they should be calling them infatuation or limerence). Under functional MRI imaging, there's been an interesting similarity between the brain activity shown by subjects describing feeling "in love" and the brain activity of people with opioid addictions.
"Words mean nothing. I am so tired hearing the loving words but not seeing the loving actions" - spot on.