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Guy Says Fam Is “Wild” At Christmas, GF Unprepared For Screaming Matches And Alcohol-Fueled Fights
Christmas is an interesting time, and families even make it more interesting. Some families argue over who burned the roast potatoes, others debate whether “Lethal Weapon” is a Christmas movie. And then there are families who turn Christmas Day into what feels like a reality TV show.
Today’s Original Poster (OP) could never have seen the first Christmas with her boyfriend’s family ending in a total disaster. So when her boyfriend invited her for dinner with his family again this Christmas, she was caught between choosing chaos or spending the holidays alone.
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The author was invited to her boyfriend’s seemingly lovely family for Christmas, expecting a cheerful but slightly lively celebration
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Upon arrival, she found the family already drunk, with his mother swearing, his sister verbally attacking everyone, and his dad watching documentaries while shouting
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Throughout the day, wine was thrown, chocolates were smashed into walls, throwing up occurred, and they all alternated between screaming, crying, and passing out
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By the end, she was relieved to leave and now faced the dilemma of attending again or spending Christmas alone, questioning what constitutes a “normal” family holiday
The OP most likely thought she had hit the jackpot when she first met her boyfriend’s family. They did church charity work, volunteering at a local school, helping elderly neighbors with their lawns, so when she was invited to Christmas dinner the previous year, she excitedly agreed. Her boyfriend warned that they did tend to be a bit “wild” over the holidays, but she brushed it off as harmless.
However, when they arrived at noon, everyone was already drunk. Her boyfriend’s mother was shouting and swearing, his dad was planted in front of World War 2 documentaries, loudly announcing how kids today wouldn’t survive war. His sister also accused them of turning up “like vultures” for free food despite the fact that they had been invited.
As the day dragged on, things only got worse. His mother threw wine over his dad’s head, his sister argued with everyone and eventually hurled a tub of chocolate across the room in rage. At some point, his dad started throwing up, and instead of helping, his mother attempted to smear the vomit back onto his face with kitchen roll.
By evening, his mother sat crying, his dad passed out upstairs, and his sister angrily watched TV while screaming at everyone to stop talking. The OP’s boyfriend, on the other hand, wandered around drunk, casually squashing chocolates into the walls. Now, a year later, he invited her again since everyone “enjoyed it so much” last year. When she pointed out that the entire day was nothing but fighting and chaos, he got defensive.
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The chaotic Christmas dinner described in the story isn’t just a funny or extreme anecdote, it’s a situation that experts say is all too common when alcohol and holiday stress collide. According to the BBC, alcohol can amplify underlying family tensions by lowering inhibitions and intensifying emotions, often turning minor disagreements into full-blown arguments.
Proverbial Homemaker adds that while families may have different traditions, constant arguing and hostility despite alcohol are never healthy hallmarks of a holiday gathering. In fact, such behavior usually signals deeper issues, like unresolved resentments or poor communication habits, particularly in complex family setups or households where emotional labor is high.
Given these dynamics, The Independent emphasizes that it’s completely reasonable to opt out of stressful family events. Setting boundaries, such as declining an invitation, protects mental health and prevents the buildup of resentment.
They stress that “family first” doesn’t apply in harmful situations, and prioritizing your own emotional safety is both valid and necessary. So in the context of this story, taking a break from such a volatile holiday could be a healthier choice than risking another day of chaos.
Netizens also urged the OP not to go this year, maintaining that spending Christmas alone would be far healthier than voluntarily walking back into what several described as a deeply dysfunctional environment. Beyond that, they pointed out that tolerating this now could mean living with it for years to come.
What would you do if you were in the OP’s shoes? Would you go back next year for the sake of tradition, or would you skip it entirely? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens maintained that the author shouldn’t spend Christmas with her boyfriend’s family, urging her to choose peace over a potential disaster
What do you think ?
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 hour ago
I mainly read these things to make me realise that my family isn't too bad. Job done!
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 hour ago
I mainly read these things to make me realise that my family isn't too bad. Job done!
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