Family Has To Pick Sides After Woman Refuses To Bake More Cakes For Cousin After She Disappeared When She Had To Pay For The First One
Being the best at something in your family is tough sometimes. For example, if you have a bit of IT knowledge, everyone expects you to be a tech guru, troubleshooting and fixing all of their devices. If you can knit, people will demand custom things to be knitted by you, without realizing how much work it can take!
Reddit user u/spicyfonduex is stuck in a similar situation. She can make tiered cakes with custom decor on them and her family expects her to cater for their events for free.
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Meeting your family’s expectations is difficult, especially when you feel like they are asking too much of you
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A woman wanted to know whether she is a jerk for refusing to bake her cousin a second cake after she didn’t compensate her for the first one
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The issue began when the cousin started asking for a three-tiered, themed cake for her son’s birthday, but the poster was already overloaded with work
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Although the poster refused to bake the cake initially, she caved after being shamed in family chats by her cousin
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She overworked herself making the cake and received no payment for the cake 4 months later, even though it was promised to her
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When the cousin came back to ask for another cake again, the poster refused and was promptly berated by the cousin and her family
The Original Poster (OP) is 22 years old and she is renowned in her family for baking cakes. Therefore, when her cousin Janice’s son’s birthday rolled around, she asked her whether she could bake a cake for the celebration. OP refused as she was very busy at the time, finishing up with her finals and her thesis.
Janice tried pushing her, but OP refused. A little while later, the cousin started raising drama in their family group chat, saying how stressed she was as she was trying to make her son’s birthday special. She followed that with saying how OP refused to bake her a cake even if she was willing to pay, a fact she hadn’t mentioned during their previous conversation.
A while later, she made a group chat with the OP and her mom where they harangued her to bake the cake, saying that they would pay from everything A to Z. OP finally caved and said that she would make them the 3-tiered, Cocomelon-themed cake that Janice wanted.
The cake was perfect for the day of the birthday party, although OP had been sleep-deprived for 3 days to make the cake. She mentions that everyone loved the cake, but she didn’t receive her pay on the same day.
She waited a couple of days to receive payment, but nothing. She tried calling – also nothing. She tried messaging them on the family group chat, messaging Janice and her mother personally, but they seemed to be unreachable in any way.
OP said she isn’t a confrontational person so she just let it go, but mentioned that she wouldn’t forget this. Four months passed and Janice texted OP again, this time asking for a cake for her birthday. She refused, as they didn’t pay last time.
Janice became pushy, saying that her mom would pay for both cakes this time. OP was unconvinced and said that she wouldn’t do anything for them.
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The cousin then started berating her, calling OP a b*tch and telling her that the cake should be free as it was not pretty and people didn’t like the taste. OP called them out on it, saying that it’s “funny that she’s still asking me for another cake after she hated the first one.”
Janice then sent her a long message, calling her names and saying that she’s a jerk for not helping the family. Janice’s mother joined in, further calling her rude and greedy for not being able to wait for the payment.
At the end of the story, OP says that the family has become divided, Janice’s side calling OP a jerk, while OP’s brother says that she should take them to small claims court.
In the comments, OP specifies that the cake would have cost 240 dollars for baking it alone, excluding gas, delivery, and other costs. It seems that she wanted to take them to small claims court, but decided not to, as she is graduating and doesn’t want more stress in her life. OP also mentions that the harassment caused her therapist to prescribe a bigger dose of anti-anxiety medication.
OP’s story is a good example of crossed boundaries in a familial relationship: begging her to make the cake, shaming her in chats with omitted information, and refusing to compensate her for her work are just a few.
The benefits of having boundaries are quite obvious – we get more resources for self-care. By giving others as much as we are comfortable giving, we strengthen our own sense of self and protect our mental health.
In order to set healthy boundaries, we first have to know what types of boundaries there are. According to the Taylor Counseling Group, there are 6 types of boundaries. These types are as follows: physical, emotional, time, sexual, intellectual and material. A lot of the time, when people encroach on your boundaries, they may run into one or several of them.
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They also suggest various ways to establish and maintain these boundaries. We’ll be talking about the most impactful ones.
A big thing is learning to say “no”. It may be difficult to do, especially to family members, but it does get easier with each time you say it. If you notice that your family member may be unable to take “no” for an answer, it could be time to reconsider your relationship.
It’s never a good idea to gossip about your family members. Gossip may lead to conflicts and feelings of resentment. This is especially true if the drama is happening on social media. Removing yourself from any situation where drama may occur is always beneficial, as it’s usually counterproductive to mental and emotional health.
Another important thing is to value your time and to ask others to value it too. Sometimes, family members may be too focused on their own issues and completely ignore the time constraints of others. If you are constantly left waiting or people want you to perform mammoth tasks for them without any reward, perhaps it’s time to tell them that you have other priorities.
Finally, the most important thing, enveloping all of the previous advice, is that you should put yourself first. Helping others all the time against your true wishes is a sure-fire way to become burned out and exhausted.
So make sure to take care of yourself, pick your battles carefully, and you will actually have more resources to help people when they need it most!
The original post gathered more than 2 thousand upvotes, with upwards of 300 comments. The community judged the baker not to be a jerk, saying that the family are the rude ones in this situation and that taking them to small claims court would be a good lesson for the rest of the family.
Commenters said that the poster was right not to bake the second cake and that she should seriously consider taking the cousin to small claims court
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Fück that shìt. MFers owe her. Family or not, they got no right treating someone like that. Disrespecting them, calling them names and then, have the absolute fücking gall to turn around and say "respect your elders"???! Nah man, in my world respect begets respect. You don't show me any and you get none in return. You disrespect me and I do the same back. That's some double standards bullsh!t. Seriously p!sses me off.
Definitely. They didn't respect her time (she had a thesis to write and exams), and didn't respect her by dragging her around during the family group chat to bully her into making the first cake. Then gaslighting her, trying to trick her into making another cake for free, then insulting her and her work, and to top it off getting their side of the family to try and bully her. They are lucky if all she told them was stfu and gth. Her aunt is not behaving as an aunt, nor an elder, let alone an adult. (Just wondering now if the aunt was the "favored" one in her family). They don't respect her, so they shouldn't expect any respect in return.
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I am 63 years old. Not once in my life do I recall a birthday cake other than a chocolate frosted layer cake. Maybe. When did kids birthdays become so fru fru. I used to bake or make chocolate candy suckers for class birthday parties for my boys but that's about as extravagant as it got. Geez.
Trying to top whatever your friends, neighbors and relatives has always been a thing but social media has brought on a whole new level of one up-manship to those who have sprung from this era. Also as a bonus, a spotlight has been put on these people and this type of a$$holery.
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My wedding had a small 3 tier cake for the 100 guests... who the hell gets a 3 tier for a wee babe's birthday? Clearly they have money to burn. Absolutely take them to court.
Well no they do it by burning through the money and good will of their family.
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They were rude first. Saying no is not rude. Insulting someone's personality and craftsmanship is. She was well within her rights to say stfu and gth. Good for her
Maybe I'm unnatural, but I honestly don't see why people put up with such disrespectful, insulting and bullying behaviour from family members, and why other family members demand that you put up with that sort of behaviour because "family." No one has the right to treat anyone like that regardless of genetics, and it's disgusting that others (usually older female members) expect you to accept it. My appendix might be an intimate part of me, but if it turns toxic and turns against me, it's getting cut out and gone. Concentrate on those people who treat you well and whose company you enjoy and look forward to, and cut the toxic aholes out.
Yeah NTA. She used family as her flying monkeys to guilt trip you into making a themed three tier cake, had a resort party for a two year old (again, at someone else's expense) - strung you along without payment and then had the gall to ask for more? IMO anyone in your family that took her side is part of the problem, pretty sure anyone with common sense has realized or will realize she is a narcissistic spoiled brat. And she is stressed ... Huh. Stressed about trying to look impressive while mooching off people and treating them badly, I guess? It's pretty hard to pull off seeming worthy of respect while acting so badly.
Who is that incompetent that they can't bake a flipping cake for themself?
I don't want to bake my own cakes. But the grocery baker works just fine. No need to torment family. Sometimes people become so entitled with family. We forget we need to treat them at least as nice as we would treat a stranger.
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Gotta love relatives...most of them are given to you by the devil 😈. What a cluster f**k of a******s! Take these cheap a******s to small claims and then write them out of your life.
Well, lesson learned. Obviously they don’t respect you or value your expertise, or you as a family member.
Where in the monsterous side of the universe did BP find the photos?
I'm not paying a fortune for my kid's birthday cake. He picks a theme, and he gets the best I can do.
Up until sometime I would agree that you should respect the elders but... Now I believe that respect shouldbe earned and it goes both ways. How is it that you were disrespectful when your cousin and her mother used you, manipulated you and tricked you? No such people doesn't deserve respect. It doesn't mean that you should suffer just because they are family. Either go and claim your money or just take them out of your life completely. They don't worth it. They only want to use you.
I am sorry but grandma have to take that old way of living out her head. Just because they they kept their mouth close when being treated like c**p back in their days doesn't mean it was the right thing. Nobody deserves to be call out their name, put down, trying to ruin her reputation etc.. So no she has every right to tell them to stfu. It was between her and Janice. Janice is 22 with a 2 year old child she is now grown let her handle her own battles and you don't have to worry about being told to stfu. This family reminds me of my family. I get treated the same way.
Make her the fugliest, worst tasting cake in the history of cakes. Tell her that's what a "free" cake should look like, and if they wanted a professionally baked cake, they have to pay a professional
Just bullies. That's what they do. Bully people into giving in or helping them or giving them something for free. If they were just completely relentless, she could always just say yes but then make a cake out of mashed potato and cardboard with worms and dirt inside it and frost it really well. Might teach them a lesson to never ask again for a free cake.
Just make the worst looking and tasting cake you can think of. Guarantee they won't ask again. And there is this little feature across all social media and your phone, it's called BLOCK. It works for family too.
Tell the mom of the 2 year old to make her kids cake herself and to bug off. Tell the other women who are bugging you the same thing. They are the b#!;&$@ not you. Set boundaries for interacting with these people or else they will make your life hell. I have a sister in-law who acts like this , so I know from experience. Also, don't expect any money from these moochers, and again, set your boundaries and protect yourself from these creepy relatives/in-laws. And , Block your phone and social media from these jerks so they can't harass and try to use you any more.
Definitely not the a hole but I would have made them a laxative cake this go round and after her party was over just say I hope this gets the sh** cleared up between us!
Should have made her a single layer cake that tasted like sh!t and was decorated in insults about the cousin. Then when she and her mom complain tell them "You get what you paid for."
The opportunity to solve this is to say sure but make a terrible flavour cake and have a photo of the invoice decorated as the icing. They are then stuck without a cake and have another reminder to pay up.
Weird hill to die on, refusing to pay the... what... $20 for the cake and causing family anarchy?
I think bakers should have a food appreciation form for the people who are paying/willing to pay for said bakery items so that later it can be used as evidence if they trashtalk about the food being horrible. They did't say that while cramming it down their mouth holes, why complain now? That should be grounds for a penalty payback.
Nope they said that they would pay and they didn't so tell them hell no!!! You put time into that 1st cake on the promise that your time would've been compensated. Also of she didn't like the 1st one why in the blue blazes is she asking for another one. The sense of entitlement is crazy. It amazes me how people always want you to do something for free. You did right by telling them to stfu just because you are old you don't get a pass to say what you want you give respect you get it period! That woman made you a promise and didn't do it so block them all live your best life. But honestly you should've got your payment before they got the 1st cake I don't do nothing for free for anyone period
Sorry, but your relatives are classless freeloaders. That they feel entitled to demand you make a cake (it started as a request, but was obviously an expectation and thus a demand). You made a mistake in baking the first cake, but may have been lulled into submission by the offer to pay. Lesson learned! It isn’t worth the time and emotional stress of taking them to court, in my opinion. You will feel better to just go on with your beautiful life and find happiness in the people that are honest and treat you with respect. No need to call those loser’s names- the Internet has done a fine job calling them what they are. Over time, they may realize what jerks they are and try to make amends. in any event, I hope you are surrounded by people who truly love you and enjoy your baking skills and good company. This unfortunate event should not define your future - perhaps you can start a bakery part time to help offset your study costs. Good luck ❤️
I'd make them a chocolate cake from a mix and decorate it lavishly. Tell them you got the recipe idea from the movie, "The Help," and flash your brightest smile.
Small claims court sounds like a good idea to me. I helped a friend sue his brother for approximately $750 here in Maricopa County, Arizona, Justice Courts ("Justice of the Peace"). Friend won + court fees quite easily, and he also received judgment/order to GARNISH WAGES for the repayment, too. His brother had been dodging the Justice Court's Constable, who serves the "small claims" judgment on the "Defendant."
She's showing her true colors. Take her to court for breach of verbal contract. Print out all the texts, especially any where she bullied OP into making the cake and any excuses for not paying. When she wins make sure to get the name of her employer to garnish wages if applicable and she doesn't pay.
I’d agree to make the 2nd one - and suddenly I’d be really terrible at making cakes. Use a boxed mix, under or over bake it, & frost it fresh out of the oven. Completely ignore their color, flavor, design specs. Then be sure to take a nice slow scenic route to the venue. They won’t ask you again, but if they do, repeat.
Honestly, I'd send a message to the family gc telling them you have a big surprise/gifts for everyone in order to lure them all there. Then make a post asking where everyone was when you tried to reach out to them. Then I would ask her in front of everyone who was in the original gc why you were never paid and why there's been no response to the issue of payment every time you've asked, especially since she begged and pleaded in front of them to have you make it and promised to pay you. Now she's calling you names and is asking for another cake! Which really takes some nerve. If there's no response, I would leave a message to all of them not to contact you anymore, and I'd get a new phone# to boot. There's no need to make any contact with them anymore. If no one will stand up for you knowing what she did was wrong or-worse- they feel you should just do it for free- then you don't want to talk to them anymore anyway. I'd cut ties. It's really sh!tty that they did this. Her not paying is almost less insulting than the way the family is responding. She's just a user but the family are telling you that you're time/effort doesn't matter. Where does it end?
Tell the cousin that this conflict will stop coming up if she just stops having birthdays.
There's nothing more embarrassing than having debt collectors knock on your door with a court order in their hands
YTIdiot for having given in to the bullies by making the cake the first time around. All the rest was unnecessary, should have blocked then and there; live & learn.
14 years ago my sister on my dad's side asked me to watch her kids so she can go out for Valentines day. I told her no because I was going through. Now 21 years ago on 2/18 I was 6 months pregnant and about to be marry. My fiance so call jealous friend try to kill me and my unborn child my daughter, and he killed my fiance. Me and my daughter survived, but I had a lot of surgeries to go through etc. I just finally started counseling. I was reliving the whole thing every night from 2/1 on. I never deal with people outside of work during that month. I just stay to myself with my daughter. I explain to her that I needed time to myself since I been reliving the nightmare. She said I will pay you I said no. She called my mother and my selfish mother tells me she's my sister I should help her out. That I should be over what happened to me to asked my doctor to put me on medicine. Minds you this is my sister from my dad's side. My dad died when I was 20 months old. I never knew my sister
Until after I almost lost my life. I told her yeah now I have my degree in early childhood learning and have years of childcare plus over 1000 hours of trainings. I can charge $20 an hour for each kid. But I didn't I told her I will charge only $30 for the whole night $10 for each child plus if i have to order food. I have 1 kid she had 3 now 5. I told her i leave out my house at 8am Sundays to get to church. So i need her to be there no later than 7:45am. Kids was loud running and jumping through my 2 bdrm apartment. I started to panic and stress and had to go into my room and pray. I recognize when I am about to snap. I couldn't deal with a lot of noise in a small area. Sometimes I still can't. I was so afraid that I was going to black out again. I called my cousin and she came over to sit with me. Come morning time I am calling my sister to see when shes coming. She didn't answer she finally called me back a little after 9 telling me she's sorry. I have things im committed to at
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This is a Reddit post. If the OP updates, you'll be able to see it there.
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Wow. OP's family is a bunch of freeloading deadbeats. But why engage with them? I wouldn't bother with court though. It's just not worth it. But you need to go no contact with your cousin and your aunt. They've been bullying you for nearly a year (OVER CAKE?) and YOU'RE the one who's disrespectful? No. Cut them off and any of their flying monkeys who take their side.
Well, you shoulda asked for the money up front. At least half. Also, you took on the extra project despite refusing to initially. Last mistake was doing anything for family and thinking they'd actually pay up. Sorry, but consider it a lesson well learned.
Fück that shìt. MFers owe her. Family or not, they got no right treating someone like that. Disrespecting them, calling them names and then, have the absolute fücking gall to turn around and say "respect your elders"???! Nah man, in my world respect begets respect. You don't show me any and you get none in return. You disrespect me and I do the same back. That's some double standards bullsh!t. Seriously p!sses me off.
Definitely. They didn't respect her time (she had a thesis to write and exams), and didn't respect her by dragging her around during the family group chat to bully her into making the first cake. Then gaslighting her, trying to trick her into making another cake for free, then insulting her and her work, and to top it off getting their side of the family to try and bully her. They are lucky if all she told them was stfu and gth. Her aunt is not behaving as an aunt, nor an elder, let alone an adult. (Just wondering now if the aunt was the "favored" one in her family). They don't respect her, so they shouldn't expect any respect in return.
Load More Replies... I am 63 years old. Not once in my life do I recall a birthday cake other than a chocolate frosted layer cake. Maybe. When did kids birthdays become so fru fru. I used to bake or make chocolate candy suckers for class birthday parties for my boys but that's about as extravagant as it got. Geez.
Trying to top whatever your friends, neighbors and relatives has always been a thing but social media has brought on a whole new level of one up-manship to those who have sprung from this era. Also as a bonus, a spotlight has been put on these people and this type of a$$holery.
Load More Replies... My wedding had a small 3 tier cake for the 100 guests... who the hell gets a 3 tier for a wee babe's birthday? Clearly they have money to burn. Absolutely take them to court.
Well no they do it by burning through the money and good will of their family.
Load More Replies... They were rude first. Saying no is not rude. Insulting someone's personality and craftsmanship is. She was well within her rights to say stfu and gth. Good for her
Maybe I'm unnatural, but I honestly don't see why people put up with such disrespectful, insulting and bullying behaviour from family members, and why other family members demand that you put up with that sort of behaviour because "family." No one has the right to treat anyone like that regardless of genetics, and it's disgusting that others (usually older female members) expect you to accept it. My appendix might be an intimate part of me, but if it turns toxic and turns against me, it's getting cut out and gone. Concentrate on those people who treat you well and whose company you enjoy and look forward to, and cut the toxic aholes out.
Yeah NTA. She used family as her flying monkeys to guilt trip you into making a themed three tier cake, had a resort party for a two year old (again, at someone else's expense) - strung you along without payment and then had the gall to ask for more? IMO anyone in your family that took her side is part of the problem, pretty sure anyone with common sense has realized or will realize she is a narcissistic spoiled brat. And she is stressed ... Huh. Stressed about trying to look impressive while mooching off people and treating them badly, I guess? It's pretty hard to pull off seeming worthy of respect while acting so badly.
Who is that incompetent that they can't bake a flipping cake for themself?
I don't want to bake my own cakes. But the grocery baker works just fine. No need to torment family. Sometimes people become so entitled with family. We forget we need to treat them at least as nice as we would treat a stranger.
Load More Replies... Gotta love relatives...most of them are given to you by the devil 😈. What a cluster f**k of a******s! Take these cheap a******s to small claims and then write them out of your life.
Well, lesson learned. Obviously they don’t respect you or value your expertise, or you as a family member.
Where in the monsterous side of the universe did BP find the photos?
I'm not paying a fortune for my kid's birthday cake. He picks a theme, and he gets the best I can do.
Up until sometime I would agree that you should respect the elders but... Now I believe that respect shouldbe earned and it goes both ways. How is it that you were disrespectful when your cousin and her mother used you, manipulated you and tricked you? No such people doesn't deserve respect. It doesn't mean that you should suffer just because they are family. Either go and claim your money or just take them out of your life completely. They don't worth it. They only want to use you.
I am sorry but grandma have to take that old way of living out her head. Just because they they kept their mouth close when being treated like c**p back in their days doesn't mean it was the right thing. Nobody deserves to be call out their name, put down, trying to ruin her reputation etc.. So no she has every right to tell them to stfu. It was between her and Janice. Janice is 22 with a 2 year old child she is now grown let her handle her own battles and you don't have to worry about being told to stfu. This family reminds me of my family. I get treated the same way.
Make her the fugliest, worst tasting cake in the history of cakes. Tell her that's what a "free" cake should look like, and if they wanted a professionally baked cake, they have to pay a professional
Just bullies. That's what they do. Bully people into giving in or helping them or giving them something for free. If they were just completely relentless, she could always just say yes but then make a cake out of mashed potato and cardboard with worms and dirt inside it and frost it really well. Might teach them a lesson to never ask again for a free cake.
Just make the worst looking and tasting cake you can think of. Guarantee they won't ask again. And there is this little feature across all social media and your phone, it's called BLOCK. It works for family too.
Tell the mom of the 2 year old to make her kids cake herself and to bug off. Tell the other women who are bugging you the same thing. They are the b#!;&$@ not you. Set boundaries for interacting with these people or else they will make your life hell. I have a sister in-law who acts like this , so I know from experience. Also, don't expect any money from these moochers, and again, set your boundaries and protect yourself from these creepy relatives/in-laws. And , Block your phone and social media from these jerks so they can't harass and try to use you any more.
Definitely not the a hole but I would have made them a laxative cake this go round and after her party was over just say I hope this gets the sh** cleared up between us!
Should have made her a single layer cake that tasted like sh!t and was decorated in insults about the cousin. Then when she and her mom complain tell them "You get what you paid for."
The opportunity to solve this is to say sure but make a terrible flavour cake and have a photo of the invoice decorated as the icing. They are then stuck without a cake and have another reminder to pay up.
Weird hill to die on, refusing to pay the... what... $20 for the cake and causing family anarchy?
I think bakers should have a food appreciation form for the people who are paying/willing to pay for said bakery items so that later it can be used as evidence if they trashtalk about the food being horrible. They did't say that while cramming it down their mouth holes, why complain now? That should be grounds for a penalty payback.
Nope they said that they would pay and they didn't so tell them hell no!!! You put time into that 1st cake on the promise that your time would've been compensated. Also of she didn't like the 1st one why in the blue blazes is she asking for another one. The sense of entitlement is crazy. It amazes me how people always want you to do something for free. You did right by telling them to stfu just because you are old you don't get a pass to say what you want you give respect you get it period! That woman made you a promise and didn't do it so block them all live your best life. But honestly you should've got your payment before they got the 1st cake I don't do nothing for free for anyone period
Sorry, but your relatives are classless freeloaders. That they feel entitled to demand you make a cake (it started as a request, but was obviously an expectation and thus a demand). You made a mistake in baking the first cake, but may have been lulled into submission by the offer to pay. Lesson learned! It isn’t worth the time and emotional stress of taking them to court, in my opinion. You will feel better to just go on with your beautiful life and find happiness in the people that are honest and treat you with respect. No need to call those loser’s names- the Internet has done a fine job calling them what they are. Over time, they may realize what jerks they are and try to make amends. in any event, I hope you are surrounded by people who truly love you and enjoy your baking skills and good company. This unfortunate event should not define your future - perhaps you can start a bakery part time to help offset your study costs. Good luck ❤️
I'd make them a chocolate cake from a mix and decorate it lavishly. Tell them you got the recipe idea from the movie, "The Help," and flash your brightest smile.
Small claims court sounds like a good idea to me. I helped a friend sue his brother for approximately $750 here in Maricopa County, Arizona, Justice Courts ("Justice of the Peace"). Friend won + court fees quite easily, and he also received judgment/order to GARNISH WAGES for the repayment, too. His brother had been dodging the Justice Court's Constable, who serves the "small claims" judgment on the "Defendant."
She's showing her true colors. Take her to court for breach of verbal contract. Print out all the texts, especially any where she bullied OP into making the cake and any excuses for not paying. When she wins make sure to get the name of her employer to garnish wages if applicable and she doesn't pay.
I’d agree to make the 2nd one - and suddenly I’d be really terrible at making cakes. Use a boxed mix, under or over bake it, & frost it fresh out of the oven. Completely ignore their color, flavor, design specs. Then be sure to take a nice slow scenic route to the venue. They won’t ask you again, but if they do, repeat.
Honestly, I'd send a message to the family gc telling them you have a big surprise/gifts for everyone in order to lure them all there. Then make a post asking where everyone was when you tried to reach out to them. Then I would ask her in front of everyone who was in the original gc why you were never paid and why there's been no response to the issue of payment every time you've asked, especially since she begged and pleaded in front of them to have you make it and promised to pay you. Now she's calling you names and is asking for another cake! Which really takes some nerve. If there's no response, I would leave a message to all of them not to contact you anymore, and I'd get a new phone# to boot. There's no need to make any contact with them anymore. If no one will stand up for you knowing what she did was wrong or-worse- they feel you should just do it for free- then you don't want to talk to them anymore anyway. I'd cut ties. It's really sh!tty that they did this. Her not paying is almost less insulting than the way the family is responding. She's just a user but the family are telling you that you're time/effort doesn't matter. Where does it end?
Tell the cousin that this conflict will stop coming up if she just stops having birthdays.
There's nothing more embarrassing than having debt collectors knock on your door with a court order in their hands
YTIdiot for having given in to the bullies by making the cake the first time around. All the rest was unnecessary, should have blocked then and there; live & learn.
14 years ago my sister on my dad's side asked me to watch her kids so she can go out for Valentines day. I told her no because I was going through. Now 21 years ago on 2/18 I was 6 months pregnant and about to be marry. My fiance so call jealous friend try to kill me and my unborn child my daughter, and he killed my fiance. Me and my daughter survived, but I had a lot of surgeries to go through etc. I just finally started counseling. I was reliving the whole thing every night from 2/1 on. I never deal with people outside of work during that month. I just stay to myself with my daughter. I explain to her that I needed time to myself since I been reliving the nightmare. She said I will pay you I said no. She called my mother and my selfish mother tells me she's my sister I should help her out. That I should be over what happened to me to asked my doctor to put me on medicine. Minds you this is my sister from my dad's side. My dad died when I was 20 months old. I never knew my sister
Until after I almost lost my life. I told her yeah now I have my degree in early childhood learning and have years of childcare plus over 1000 hours of trainings. I can charge $20 an hour for each kid. But I didn't I told her I will charge only $30 for the whole night $10 for each child plus if i have to order food. I have 1 kid she had 3 now 5. I told her i leave out my house at 8am Sundays to get to church. So i need her to be there no later than 7:45am. Kids was loud running and jumping through my 2 bdrm apartment. I started to panic and stress and had to go into my room and pray. I recognize when I am about to snap. I couldn't deal with a lot of noise in a small area. Sometimes I still can't. I was so afraid that I was going to black out again. I called my cousin and she came over to sit with me. Come morning time I am calling my sister to see when shes coming. She didn't answer she finally called me back a little after 9 telling me she's sorry. I have things im committed to at
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Load More Replies... Wow. OP's family is a bunch of freeloading deadbeats. But why engage with them? I wouldn't bother with court though. It's just not worth it. But you need to go no contact with your cousin and your aunt. They've been bullying you for nearly a year (OVER CAKE?) and YOU'RE the one who's disrespectful? No. Cut them off and any of their flying monkeys who take their side.
Well, you shoulda asked for the money up front. At least half. Also, you took on the extra project despite refusing to initially. Last mistake was doing anything for family and thinking they'd actually pay up. Sorry, but consider it a lesson well learned.
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