
Hubby Stands Firm Against Postpartum Wife Who Wants To Rehome Their Family Cat Due To Its Clinginess
Interview With ExpertCaring for a pet is a big responsibility, and it takes a lot of love, care, and effort. Although there might be tough times where pet parents struggle to look after their furry friends, their strong bond with each other is often what gets them through it all.
Unfortunately, this isn’t what happened with one woman who had just had a baby. She was struggling to look after her 4-month-old and kept getting annoyed by her clingy pet cat. Eventually, she thought of rehoming it, but her husband strongly vetoed the idea.
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Looking after an animal is a wonderfully rewarding experience, but it can get tough, especially if people are dealing with big life changes at the same time
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The poster shared that she was four months postpartum and struggling to look after her baby because of the clinginess of her cat
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The poster shared that she was four months postpartum and struggling to look after her baby because of the clinginess of her cat
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She felt overwhelmed by the feline constantly wanting attention, leaving fur all around the house, and having to clean up its litter
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The woman didn’t know whether she should figure out a way to rehome the cat or suck up her feelings for the sake of her husband
It is difficult to know what to do in a situation like this because the woman’s feelings are valid, as she has to deal with all the things that come with having a baby. On the other hand, the cat also has equal rights to take up space in their home, as it has probably been a part of their family for a while.
According to studies on over 1000 pet parents, many people feel overwhelmed and stressed out by their pets after having a child. This could be due to all their newly added responsibilities, which don’t leave them with enough time to spend with their furry friends.
To also get an expert’s perspective on this situation, Bored Panda reached out to Nigel Reed, who is the founder of The Dog Guardian, which provides in-depth information about dog behavior, training, and well-being. We asked Nigel why some people immediately want to rehome their pet after having a baby. He said that it might be because “they feel overwhelmed.”
“The baby brings huge changes, and if the dog adds stress, such as barking, jumping, or needing attention, the parents are often at breaking point with their own needs not being met, and they think they cannot manage both child and dog. It is often about the person’s emotional state. What once felt manageable or even enjoyable can suddenly feel like too much,” he explained.
It’s definitely possible that the OP felt many of these feelings as well. Earlier on, their cat’s clinginess must have not bothered her so much, but after having to care for her baby, she might have felt touched-out and in need of some personal space.
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Nobody truly wants to rehome their pet, but sometimes, desperate situations call for desperate measures. The woman also mentioned that she had started seeing her cat as a burden and wanted him to go to a home where he would be valued and wanted. Her husband was extremely against the idea because he felt that they’d be abandoning a member of their family.
We asked Nigel if there was anything pet parents could do to make the post-baby transition easier. He said that it’s important to “prepare early. Teach the [pet] calm behaviour around everyday activities, such as relaxing when you leave, come home, or when visitors arrive.”
“Be sure to teach them that you decide when to interact throughout the day so they learn to wait for you to make decisions and are ready to play or cuddle, rather than them dictating when and how interactions unfold. After the baby arrives, keep boundaries in place. Do not feel guilty, as it will not help,” he added.
It is indeed difficult to look after a baby and a demanding pet, but it is possible with a little effort and patience. Hopefully, the husband will realize that his wife is under tremendous stress and find easier ways to keep their cat in check so that it doesn’t cling to her so much.
Do you have any suggestions for this couple, or do you think the woman should find a way to rehome the feline? Let us know your thoughts.
People were not sympathetic toward the woman’s plight and felt that she was being cruel in thinking of rehoming the cat
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I wonder, when OP gets a new baby, is she also going to "rehome" the first one that suddenly no longer fits her lifestyle ?
But but but... it's clingy and wants to sit on her lap!
Load More Replies...Get the catio another commenter recommended and invest in a Roomba to take care of the majority of the cat hair. Or have your husband do the vacuuming. Or hire a maid/nanny for a few months until you’re used to the new routine. Believe me, your baby will love your cat, and your cat will love your baby, and both their lives will be better for having each other. It’s a beautiful thing to see, so you shouldn’t deprive anyone of it.
An answer that will actually Help! Rather than beating up a women that may well have PPD. Everyone else belittled the new mom Thank You for Your kindness
Load More Replies...It distresses, traumatizes, and stresses animals when they are removed from their homes and families and thrust amongst strangers/into a strange place. Animals DO have feelings, emotions, and memories - not quite the same as humans do, but they DO feel and they CAN become depressed. Pets are 100% family members - you are responsible for their care and health the same way you are for a human baby. Yes, there are situations when rehoming an animal is necessary, but "the cat wants attention!" is NOT one of those situations. OP can get an automatic feeder to mitigate the cat begging to be fed. All of this being said, what, if anything, is OP's husband doing to help with any of this - baby and/or cat? He needs to scoop the litterbox and help clean up the fur at a minimum. As an aside, a bit of cat hair isn't going to harm the baby.
Yes, if husband is adamant on keeping the cat he should be vacuuming before and after work, emptying the litter box, keeping the water filled, and cleaning the pram every morning before work. And if baby is bottle fed he can be the one getting up for the overnight feeds so she doesn't have to deal with the cat getting under her feet. If he wants to keep the cat, he needs to do the work to make it manageable until the baby is older.
Load More Replies...I wonder, when OP gets a new baby, is she also going to "rehome" the first one that suddenly no longer fits her lifestyle ?
But but but... it's clingy and wants to sit on her lap!
Load More Replies...Get the catio another commenter recommended and invest in a Roomba to take care of the majority of the cat hair. Or have your husband do the vacuuming. Or hire a maid/nanny for a few months until you’re used to the new routine. Believe me, your baby will love your cat, and your cat will love your baby, and both their lives will be better for having each other. It’s a beautiful thing to see, so you shouldn’t deprive anyone of it.
An answer that will actually Help! Rather than beating up a women that may well have PPD. Everyone else belittled the new mom Thank You for Your kindness
Load More Replies...It distresses, traumatizes, and stresses animals when they are removed from their homes and families and thrust amongst strangers/into a strange place. Animals DO have feelings, emotions, and memories - not quite the same as humans do, but they DO feel and they CAN become depressed. Pets are 100% family members - you are responsible for their care and health the same way you are for a human baby. Yes, there are situations when rehoming an animal is necessary, but "the cat wants attention!" is NOT one of those situations. OP can get an automatic feeder to mitigate the cat begging to be fed. All of this being said, what, if anything, is OP's husband doing to help with any of this - baby and/or cat? He needs to scoop the litterbox and help clean up the fur at a minimum. As an aside, a bit of cat hair isn't going to harm the baby.
Yes, if husband is adamant on keeping the cat he should be vacuuming before and after work, emptying the litter box, keeping the water filled, and cleaning the pram every morning before work. And if baby is bottle fed he can be the one getting up for the overnight feeds so she doesn't have to deal with the cat getting under her feet. If he wants to keep the cat, he needs to do the work to make it manageable until the baby is older.
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