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17YO Has No Interest In Knowing Dad’s Stepkids, Calls Cops After Being Forced By Dad’s Wife
Every family dynamic is different, with most parents trying to do their best for their children in order to give them a good life. Sometimes, when the adults are absent or neglectful, it can create a rocky relationship with their kids and lead to more problems later on in life.
This is exactly what one teen experienced when his biological dad and his wife tried to force him to bond with his half-siblings. The teen didn’t want a relationship with the other children, and this made his dad’s new wife extremely angry.
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Kids need to be given time to adjust to having half-siblings, or else it might lead to a lot of tension and conflict
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The poster shared that he had been raised by his grandparents since he was four because both his biological parents had been deemed unfit to raise him
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Eventually, the teen’s dad got married, and they had kids, whom the man wanted his son to meet and bond with, despite the teen’s reluctance
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The dad’s wife also tried to convince the teen’s grandparents to let him meet her children, and she was very persistent about it
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The teen had to get the cops involved because his dad’s new wife kept harassing him and demanding that he meet his half-siblings
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The teen didn’t care about his half-siblings and wasn’t interested in them being in his life, despite his dad saying he shouldn’t miss out on having siblings
The teen explained that he had been raised by his grandparents ever since he was four because his parents had been seen as unfit to raise him by child protective services. Due to the conflict between them and their inability to reach a compromise, they had to forgo their parental duties, and the kid began staying with his grandparents instead.
Government agencies working for the welfare of children find out if a parent is unfit to raise their child by launching an investigation. They check for signs of misconduct, neglect, or lack of safety, which is when they make a plan of action for the child’s welfare. This can involve figuring out custody between parents or even guardians, which in this case was the teen’s grandparents.
The OP had hardly any contact with his parents after their bad behavior during supervised visits, and he preferred it. That was until his dad tried to convince him to meet his wife and their kids. The teen knew that he had half-siblings, but he had no desire to connect with them or be a big brother to any of them, which annoyed his dad.
One of the biggest reasons why the poster might not have wanted to build much of a connection with his dad and his new family was because of the way he had been abandoned in his childhood. Experts state that neglectful parents’ actions can affect a child’s emotional, physical, and mental development so much that they carry through feelings into adulthood.
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It wasn’t just the OP’s dad who was trying to get him to connect with his half-siblings; his father’s wife also tried her best to make it a reality. She went so far as to harass the teen’s grandparents and kept pestering them to let the kids meet. Eventually, the OP had to call the cops on her twice due to her overbearing behavior.
The poster told his father’s new wife that he had no interest in knowing his half-siblings and that he didn’t care if they weren’t in his life. This angered the woman, as well as the OP’s dad, who felt that he would benefit from having siblings and maintaining a bond with the other children.
What they didn’t seem to understand was that kids often find it tough to accept and adjust to having half-siblings. There might be an element of jealousy or insecurity about the way their parents interact with the new kids. That’s why research states that adults should give the children enough time to adjust to the situation and build a relationship with one another on their own.
Even though the OP was firm about his decision to stay away from his dad’s other kids, he also wondered if he was wrong to reject their efforts at building a connection. He even received a letter from his half-siblings requesting that he meet them, which must have put him in quite a dilemma.
What do you think about the teen’s decision not to meet his father’s other children? Let us know your honest thoughts.
Folks sided with the poster and told him that it was ultimately his decision whether he wanted to meet his half-siblings or not
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KatSaidThat 2 days ago
That's one way to push you even further away. Which one of their kids needs a transplant?
Tabitha 2 days ago (edited)
Bio dad only has one more year of child support to pay, if he’s paying (or ever paid) in the first place. So it’s not really about money, if it ever was. It’s about control. Bio dad, bio mom, and step mom are all control freaks with a grudge against each other and the poor child caught in the middle and finally rescued by his grandparents and taken out of that environment permanently. Now he’s 17, and any family court judge would leave it up to him to decide where he wants to live and who he wants to live with. Of course he’d pick his grandparents. They’ve been the only loving and secure home he known, after his first four tumultuous and unstable years with his bios. What do you want to bet stepmom was an affair partner, which is why there’s so much vitriol in the two bio parents’ relationships? Then stepmom decided she was the one and only mother that OP needed, and she was going to make that happen—-by force if necessary. Nah, OP is so much better off where he is right now, and has been since he was four. Any family court judge would back him and his grandparents up 100%.
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FreeTheUnicorn 2 days ago
Involving the other kids really shows how little the bio dad and wife care about people beyond their own wants. They are being manipulative on purpose, and lash out when it doesn't work. Hopefully OP stays far away. I would contact the school and just give them the heads up that they don't expect trouble, but bolo for harassment and illegal contact. They've already sent the daughter to do their dirty work I'm sure the next step is "accidentally" running into OP and that's easiest at school.
Dusty's mom 2 days ago
It's heartbreaking to think those half siblings may be desperate to have an older sibling who might make their home lives better. Like the adopted kids you hear of who dream their original parents are actually smart, attractive, rich, and want their kids back. Kids make dream assumptions about people they don't know. It's not fair to OP to have to shoulder those dreams and assumptions. He's a teenager, almost out of high school, and starting his life. He doesn't need a bunch of kids expecting him to solve their problems. But my heart breaks for those children who are clearly looking for a hero in their lives, when all they have are a couple of deadbeats.
KatSaidThat 2 days ago
That's one way to push you even further away. Which one of their kids needs a transplant?
Tabitha 2 days ago (edited)
Bio dad only has one more year of child support to pay, if he’s paying (or ever paid) in the first place. So it’s not really about money, if it ever was. It’s about control. Bio dad, bio mom, and step mom are all control freaks with a grudge against each other and the poor child caught in the middle and finally rescued by his grandparents and taken out of that environment permanently. Now he’s 17, and any family court judge would leave it up to him to decide where he wants to live and who he wants to live with. Of course he’d pick his grandparents. They’ve been the only loving and secure home he known, after his first four tumultuous and unstable years with his bios. What do you want to bet stepmom was an affair partner, which is why there’s so much vitriol in the two bio parents’ relationships? Then stepmom decided she was the one and only mother that OP needed, and she was going to make that happen—-by force if necessary. Nah, OP is so much better off where he is right now, and has been since he was four. Any family court judge would back him and his grandparents up 100%.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 2 days ago
Involving the other kids really shows how little the bio dad and wife care about people beyond their own wants. They are being manipulative on purpose, and lash out when it doesn't work. Hopefully OP stays far away. I would contact the school and just give them the heads up that they don't expect trouble, but bolo for harassment and illegal contact. They've already sent the daughter to do their dirty work I'm sure the next step is "accidentally" running into OP and that's easiest at school.
Dusty's mom 2 days ago
It's heartbreaking to think those half siblings may be desperate to have an older sibling who might make their home lives better. Like the adopted kids you hear of who dream their original parents are actually smart, attractive, rich, and want their kids back. Kids make dream assumptions about people they don't know. It's not fair to OP to have to shoulder those dreams and assumptions. He's a teenager, almost out of high school, and starting his life. He doesn't need a bunch of kids expecting him to solve their problems. But my heart breaks for those children who are clearly looking for a hero in their lives, when all they have are a couple of deadbeats.
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