51 Things That Scream “I Am A Horrible Parent”

I overheard a conversation between to parents, one pro vax, one anti vax. Both said 'I couldn't bare it if something happened' - one referring to side effects and the other preventable illnesses. I think anti vax parents need education, not shame.

This is really sick and should be illegal. Children and not given the chance of consent.

And that includes the truth about their seㅤxuality or gender identity.

I had this from my mother. In my forties I confessed to her that I had had a miserable childhood partly because my sister was their golden child and I was ignored by both parents, but mainly her. Her reply was "why was I being so nasty saying things to upset her".

Pre-phones it was staring at the TV while ignoring your kid.

My sister has a brain; her kids don't have phones or tablets to avoid this very scenario. Plus lots of outdoor play and learning about gardening and animals and such. They're going to grow up well; I can tell.

Being constantly humiliated and made to feel bad and stupid as a child f***s you up for life, trust me. (Not my parents' doing; it was bad teachers and bullying peers the teachers didn't discipline appropriately).

I hate this. 🤬🤬

poor kid :( hope he can get out of that situation

I fully agree with everything here except the email issue. As a parent I prefer a phone call or text. Why you may ask? As it stands right now I get 1-3 emails a day from my kids school. No big deal right? Wrong I have 3 kids one in elementary, one in middle school and one in highschool. This means I usually have 30+ emails a week from kids school. Sometimes they send stuff over the weekend. Out of all these emails there are very few that apply to my actual child or us as a family specifically. Nobody got time for all that, please call or text and I will respond and make sure my child, their teacher, my spouse and I are all on the same page.

I had situational rules for my kids, they could act crazier in private (home/car) but in public were held to a higher standard. Restaurant rules, parking lot rules, etc. No screaming in the car though, that’s just dangerous, distracting the driver wasn’t allowed.

SO many cases were useless/ab.usive parents have their children taken away by CPS, repeatedly... and then go and have yet another baby anyway. Like TF are they even thinking? Half the time the baby ends up perishing if CPS doesn't take them away too.

This does suck. Striking a good balance is so difficult, though. You don't want to be too strict, but you also don't want to be too soft. Finding the line is the most difficult thing, especially when that line can shift. Dealing with a toddler who is fed and rested is different from dealing with one who is hungry and tired (and is refusing to eat or sleep).

I don't mind if you call your child something stupid. Just don't spell it stupidleigh.

I pretended to be jealous of a kid once. I was coming home on my bicycle and this neighbour kid's riding around in an awesome mini motorised car that looks like a real car. I loudly exclaimed "What?! You get to have a car while I'm stuck riding a bicycle?!" Kid broke into this huge grin and I heard him saying "Mum did you hear what that lady said?" while laughing.

Those same parents will sue the heck out of someone/the owners if that kid gets hurt.

I swear my Mom didn't even notice.

Geeezzz! 😡

I have a very large dog, he is great with children, but can be intimidating. I have had parents tell their crying children to "just go stand next to him and pet him! He won't hurt you!" Every time I have spoken up and told the child directly that they don't have to come near my dog if they don't want to. Seems more like sociological abùse than any sort of encouragement

You poor thing.

On the other hand, screaming is the primary outlet for someone who experiences the full range of emotions but has no experience to know how to handle them, so maybe we should also give the kids some grace.

"....I'll show you Mufasa's d***h scene! You'll know what real tears are then!"

Thankfully that's not possible in many countries.

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Gen X would like a word

That was exactly how my mother taught me smoking is bad - gave me one when I was 5 and I thought it cool. I coughed like crazy after one puff and never thought smoking was good again. One of the few genuinely good pieces of parenting she's done. Not sure it would be allowed these days.

Racism and queerphobia are both taught. Children are very much willing to understand that some boys like boys or some boys want to be girls, don't use them to peddle your vitriolic intolerance.

And this is why you don't have kids "to fix the marriage", "to make my life complete" or "to avoid a lonely old age" (the latter of which one creep on this site tried to use to shame me for being childfree by choice). First and foremost it's not about what the child gives you, but what you give your child.

Yep!!! Seen em riding around downtown Toronto WITHOUT Helmets.............

But always saying "no" is equally bad, especially when it's for no good reason

Isn't the idea of a rating that children won't be allowed into the movie? Here in Germany, if the movie is for children 6 and older, I will be turned away with my 5 yo.

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Too late to do anything at that point.

Best thing my Mom ever did was hand me an Oxford Concise Dictionary and teach me to use it properly. As an avid reader, it kept me from constantly asking what words mean and gave me the independence to explore words for myself.

So true.

Just think how many "likes" they'll get for the video of their child's f u n e r a l!

TBH, I don't know my own size. I usually start with a size that often fits, then I go up or down, according to te result. Like I have T-shirt in size 2XL to 5XL, and they are roughly the same size.

Ahhhhhh the 90's... what fun times

Not always. Good parents can have bad kids.

This always makes my husband mad too. I remind him that after being stuck in one place on the plane for so long and behaving has probably exhausted the family and his nerves are also strained so he is being intolerant. It's not, in my opinion, a sign of bad parenting - just something that annoys others while not actually putting them out more than half a minute.

or they were just treated as humans by their parents instead of curled objects.... With actual dialogue.. space to disagree and reason.. listened to AND heard AND seen... well adjusted kids can do surprisingly well in an adult setting without having lost their childhood or play... jumping to having to manage their parents is judging by a fairly narrow lens

I know lots of moms do this and probably it's usually not an issue, but moms that call their daughters "Sister or Sissy" just makes me cringe. You know they want to be the cool mom and be a friend instead of a parent.