“My Bank Account And My Therapist Are Still Recovering”: 47 People Share Red Flags That Made Them End Things

Good. I really don’t understand how people treat pets as if they were disposable.

Oh hell no!

Someone characterizing their being handed a car as "success" is a much bigger red flag.

When someone says “Oh we never argue…” you know something is very wrong in that relationship.

I never understood the free meal thing. I would rather eat mr.noodle every night then sit across from someone I do not like just to get a restaurant meal. I mean the food may be good but you have to make conversation and be fake the entire time. Why ? Is it worth it ?

That's some escalation.

OP really should have paid more attention. There are two options 1) new husband is not a good guy and his parents know it or 2) parents scapegoat new husband and he can’t do anything right. Either way, it is in fact a huge red flag.

Cheating is generally a way of life, not a one-off mistake.

Your mom needs a new boyfriend.

Women do this too

Why make a reservation for a first date?

Her withholding the information from you but you found out anyway might be a red flag.

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Tell her to move to LA and date a Weinstein

I so want to dance and sing but cant around anyone whose opinion might effect me

But why would you want to?

My husband and I have always been very competitive. Thing is, no matter who wins, the other is always happy for them.

Why??????????????????

First of all, stop checking Instagram in the middle of the night. If you haven’t screwed up your sleep yet, it’s just a matter of time. Second, anyone who jumps to conclusions without discussion or evidence is not someone you want in your life.

I don’t know you. You don’t get to INSIST on anything.

Ick.

I’m not disinterested, but I cannot engage in news and politics every day due to my mental disorders. With my double depression and anxiety, watching the news is enough to send me into a nervous breakdown.

If you’re always alone, why bother to be in a relationship.

Statistically, it is the standard of living of women and children that goes down more significantly after a divorce. So when men say they don’t want to be screwed in the divorce, what they’re really saying is if we get divorced, I don’t want to give you your fair share.

I'd need to know what they meant by loyalty.

Why the f*ck would you ever feel the need to prove to anybody that you’re not wearing makeup?

Ick.

A red flag whether he's lying or telling the truth.

So his aggression and violence are not because of anger but because he is choosing to be aggressive and violent? I don’t think that’s the flex he thinks it is.

No, you’re not wrong. I had the same therapist for 20 years. Started seeing her when my Dad was dying. Stopped seeing her when I had processed his d***h. When I ran into issues, I’d go back. If you are in therapy as a way of life, then you either need a better therapist or you should really seek inpatient treatment.