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MIL Demands Son Leaves Pregnant Wife Alone During Holidays, Is Baffled He Says ‘No’
Thanksgiving is all about spending time surrounded by loved ones. It might be the only opportunity you have all year to visit your family and enjoy quality time playing board games with them, catching up on each other’s lives and eating your absolute favorite comfort foods.
But it’s not a requirement to be with your parents on that special day. Sometimes, life gets in the way, and it makes more sense to have a quaint celebration with your friends or partner. One mother, however, refused to accept the idea of her son staying with his wife over this holiday. Below, you’ll find the full story that a soon-to-be mom shared on Reddit, as well as some of the advice that invested readers left her.
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This woman and her husband decided to have a small Thanksgiving at home this year, since she’s too pregnant to fly
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But her mother-in-law refused to accept the fact that her son wouldn’t be traveling
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Thanksgiving week is the most chaotic and expensive time to travel in the United States
The week of Thanksgiving is the most popular time for travel in the United States. In 2024, over 71 million Americans traveled by car to reach their destinations for this holiday, and the Sunday after Thanksgiving is always the country’s busiest day of the year for air travel.
Nerd Wallet reports that last year, over 3.09 million travelers passed through American airports on the Sunday after Thanksgiving, making it a record-breaking day for air travel in the US. Because airports are so chaotic during this time, traveling home for the holiday can be an extremely stressful experience.
Travelers must brace themselves for intensely packed airports, long security lines, tense and stressed out airport employees and possible delays due to crowded runways and winter weather.
Not to mention the fact that the days leading up to Thanksgiving are some of the most expensive times to fly within the United States, so travelers will have to decide whether or not it’s worth it to spend hundreds on a quick weekend trip to their parents’ house. Even if you’re willing to travel on Thanksgiving Day, The Points Guy notes that the average journey will still cost a whopping $470.
Another important factor to consider in this situation is the author’s pregnancy. The Mayo Clinic recommends that women who are expecting stop traveling by plane once they reach 36 weeks. However, if the soon-to-be mother is experiencing any complications in her pregnancy, she might have to stop traveling even earlier.
In this case, it’s simply not an option for the author to join her husband and visit his family alongside him. Especially because only about 5% of babies are actually born on their due date. Meanwhile, over 90% show up within two weeks before or after their due date.
The majority of babies arrive slightly before or after their actual due date
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The last thing this author should have to worry about in the days leading up to her child’s birth is whether or not her mother-in-law is upset with her. Unfortunately, it’s quite common for women to have overbearing mother-in-laws, but the good news is that Choosing Therapy has some tips for how to navigate these relationships.
First, they recommend setting healthy boundaries. This may not be easy, but it certainly helps when you don’t live in the same city as your partner’s parents.
It’s also a good idea to consider exactly where her behavior is stemming from. Is she jealous, insecure or narcissistic? Perhaps she just doesn’t know how to express her love in a healthy way. Putting yourself in her shoes might help you understand where she’s coming from.
If possible, it may be best to simply avoid her. Your partner can see her whenever he wants, but you don’t need to tag along every time. And you certainly don’t need to spend any one-on-one time with her.
Another suggestion Choosing Therapy has is abandoning the goal of meeting your mother-in-law’s expectations. You can’t change her opinion on you, but you can control how it affects you. As long as you and your partner have a healthy relationship, that’s all you need to focus on.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this woman made the right call by setting boundaries with her husband’s mom? Feel free to weigh in, and then, you can find another Bored Panda article featuring in-law drama right here.
Readers were appalled by the mother-in-law’s behavior, and many assured the author that she had done nothing wrong
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DrBronxx 3 weeks ago
The one good thing I can say about that absolute nightmare of a MIL is that she inexplicably raised a son with his head on straight.
AnnwylTheBloodyLovesFerghus 1 week ago
Gah! At 17, I set my MIL straight. And her sugar baby, misogynistic husband, too. We told no one but my mom and sister when I went to the hospital to deliver and no one met the baby until we were ready. Hell, six months later I even offered to physically throw down with MLI's boy toy when he objected to the way I responded to my ex's insulting behavior in public. His suggestion was that my ex should slap me for my uppitiness. I dared him to step outside with me and have a go at me himself. He declined. Yeah, I may have been considered a b***h on wheels, but even as a young girl, I wasn't about to let a manipulative, a*****e h*g, and her flying monkey steamroll over me. I've made a lot mistakes, but not allowing a horridly hateful woman, who not only didn't raise her own son, but surrendered him to be raised by her mother because her husband (bio dad) was physically a*****e, to control me, was not one of them. They've all been in my rearview for decades. S***w 'em all!
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Zoe Vokes 3 weeks ago
The poll on this page has 1% saying he should spend Thanksgiving with his parents this year, so currently 1 person on BP read this and thought, “mums are more important than your wife and baby. He should potentially miss the birth of his child to go and eat a family meal and leave his heavily pregnant wife alone.”
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KatSaidThat 3 weeks ago
I've not had kids and even I understand that flying that close has risks. MIL has had them every year - she can get off her a**e and come down to see them - she has been invited. Wait until she realises that unless she makes an effort, they won't be seeing their new grandchild for a while either... why would you even ask your son that kind of thing?
DrBronxx 3 weeks ago
The one good thing I can say about that absolute nightmare of a MIL is that she inexplicably raised a son with his head on straight.
AnnwylTheBloodyLovesFerghus 1 week ago
Gah! At 17, I set my MIL straight. And her sugar baby, misogynistic husband, too. We told no one but my mom and sister when I went to the hospital to deliver and no one met the baby until we were ready. Hell, six months later I even offered to physically throw down with MLI's boy toy when he objected to the way I responded to my ex's insulting behavior in public. His suggestion was that my ex should slap me for my uppitiness. I dared him to step outside with me and have a go at me himself. He declined. Yeah, I may have been considered a b***h on wheels, but even as a young girl, I wasn't about to let a manipulative, a*****e h*g, and her flying monkey steamroll over me. I've made a lot mistakes, but not allowing a horridly hateful woman, who not only didn't raise her own son, but surrendered him to be raised by her mother because her husband (bio dad) was physically a*****e, to control me, was not one of them. They've all been in my rearview for decades. S***w 'em all!
Load More Replies... Zoe Vokes 3 weeks ago
The poll on this page has 1% saying he should spend Thanksgiving with his parents this year, so currently 1 person on BP read this and thought, “mums are more important than your wife and baby. He should potentially miss the birth of his child to go and eat a family meal and leave his heavily pregnant wife alone.”
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 3 weeks ago
I've not had kids and even I understand that flying that close has risks. MIL has had them every year - she can get off her a**e and come down to see them - she has been invited. Wait until she realises that unless she makes an effort, they won't be seeing their new grandchild for a while either... why would you even ask your son that kind of thing?
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