Bride Refuses To Give Up Her Dream Wedding Venue For Sister’s Shotgun Wedding, So Her Family Turns Against Her
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If you’re lucky, your family members, love, support, and inspire you. If you’re not so lucky, they’re selfish manipulative psychos who will turn against you the second they need something.
Reddit user u/paperweightfairy and her fiance have booked their dream wedding venue in advance. They weren’t in a rush, so it seemed perfectly fine to wait a bit and have the ceremony they both wanted. As the big day was nearing, however, her sister got pregnant. Which wouldn’t be a problem in itself. But the gal started pressuring paperweightfairy, demanding she and her fiance give up their wedding plans. And she wouldn’t stop even after hearing a polite “no.”
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“The relationship with my sister was always okay,” paperweightfairy told Bored Panda. “But it was because I gave in to her demands too easily (e.g when she was little, I would let her blow out my birthday cake candles, she would get a present. I would agree to do her chores so she could go out. I filled out her job applications because she didn’t know how to, etc.) The time we had a real sibling rivalry was on the day of my graduation when she had a fit.”
Luckily, nothing has changed between her and her fiance since it all began. “He is extremely mad at my family and doesn’t want them to come [to our wedding].”
However, her nan’s reaction really surprised paperweightfairy. “While we all coddled my sister for being the baby, my Nan never showed favoritism till this point.”
People said a lot of things to the bride
To clear things up, she posted a few updates of the situation
You probably couldn’t find a family without any hard times. During these family feuds, it’s important to think clearly. However, not letting emotions get the better of us is definitely easier said than done. Still, there are a few simple things you can do to make it easier for yourself:
- Stay true to the facts. When people are going back and forth, they might forget the essence of the issue. Therefore, it’s important to determine what it is that you’re fighting over and try to prevent the conflict from getting even bigger.
- Pause. We have a tendency to respond to a situation immediately because we want our voice to be heard. And if someone starts throwing accusations at us, it’s natural to try and defend ourselves. But putting some distance between you and whomever you are fighting with first is a very good idea. Gathering your thoughts could help both of you gain some perspective.
- Set boundaries. You need to set clear boundaries to maintain not only your safety but your sanity as well. Defining these limits very clearly and not letting anyone belittle what you’ve decided might actually save you a lot of energy.
- Redefine relationships. Lastly, if things continue to deteriorate and you ran out of options, you may have to redefine your relationship with that family member. The fact that you’re related doesn’t mean you must live in misery. Toxic dynamics don’t help anyone.
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The sister is extremely selfish to expect that of you. If it’s too stressful for her to organise a wedding whilst she is pregnant then she can wait til after the baby is born or get married at a registry office etc. There is no excuse for the sisters behaviour and just because she is pregnant does not give her the right to manipulate others to get her way and same goes to the rest of the family taking her side and trying to manipulate you also. So glad you have your in-laws and aunt to stand by you. Best wishes on your wedding day and hope all goes well.
agreed
Its unbelievable to me that not only does the sister have the balls to ask the responsible sister (who was getting her PhD) to give up the spot she reserved ahead of time, but she decides to use the fact that she and her fiance couldnt keep their pants on as leverage? Fuck her, fuck her fiance, fuck her entire family for thinking that is OK. sounds like the author of this came out of a dysfunctional family and rose to greatness. I think she should uninvite everyone... keep the venue booked and do a destination wedding. A double FUCK YOU to her family.
Actually, her fiance was properly furious, because the prego sister had promised she wouldn't do this, and did it anyway. So good on him for calling his baby-mama out on her shit. He even called up and apologized to the phd sister. Soooooo, not fuck him. He did right. I wouldn't be surprised to see a marriage never happen now that he realizes she's untrustworthy. If he was smart, he'd get his ducks in order and leave her quick.
@Kristin - Judging by this performance, prego sister's fiancé will probably call off the wedding altogether....or he should. He would've dodged a bullet. She's a manipulative jerk.
@aunt messy- thats one hot potato of an idea. cause like who the actual fruck would want to marry someone whon screams at her older sister, the family BOYCOTTS THEIR OWN DAUGHTER, and etc likes honesty get ur ass whacked sister & family.
Yeah I don't understand why she is insistent on marrying before the baby comes
Just an excuse to steal the lovely wedding venue and be bloody idle.
Right! 1) Why would you want to have a shotgun wedding?! and 2) Not sure why getting married and taking on heaps of debt before bring a child into the world is a priority?!
Good frocking luck with that. You think the little sister is entitled now, wait until she has the baby. The child is going to be an excuse for everything. Example 1. Sorry do you mind if we cut in line my d/s is so tired and is going to get cranky soon. Example 2. I have a kid be careful if you park too close I’ll ding your car. Most of the time entitlement doesn’t get better in these situations. I say cut the toxic relationship.
The sister and her family are basically all assholes. Fuck off already. The good news is she is marrying into a logical and reasonable family that loves her for her.
She’s losing a toxic family and gaining a protective one. Sounds like a win-win.
I predict all the comments are going to say she should keep the venue so I'm going to be different and suggest that it be decided with Mortal Kombat, each sister choose a champion and have them fight to the death, winner gets the venue.
There's nothing to fight for. One sister booked in due time. The other didn't. Condoms are cheap.
To take the argument to the point of ridiculous, the venue sister should point out that her sister could have an abortion and reschedule her wedding accordingly.
Condoms are cheap, "pre-arranged" paid for weddings are cheaper.
Better she used birth control then getting pregnant before wedding. And now want everything of her sister's bug day bad her parents,, did they adopt the girl whom they r asking to give up her plans of her big day.
Given how well prepared she is, pregnant sis has zero chance; she probably shows up without a pistol and expecting no DEMANDING to use the smart sis's.
I like your idea duel to the death.
Now we're talking.
Her sister's emergency is not her problem. I like it.
By Mortak Kombat, you mean the video game? Right?
Lol, I have no problem correctly spelling Combat unless it's following the word Mortal. Damn you video games!!!
The way her family is acting? Nope. I'd make them go with the real thing.
more things should be settled in the Thunderdome...two men enter one man leaves! or women as the case may be :)
But Who run Bartertown?
Your prediction turned out to be right
Or a dance off...The pregnant sister will never be able to keep pace 😉 x
The sister is extremely selfish to expect that of you. If it’s too stressful for her to organise a wedding whilst she is pregnant then she can wait til after the baby is born or get married at a registry office etc. There is no excuse for the sisters behaviour and just because she is pregnant does not give her the right to manipulate others to get her way and same goes to the rest of the family taking her side and trying to manipulate you also. So glad you have your in-laws and aunt to stand by you. Best wishes on your wedding day and hope all goes well.
agreed
Its unbelievable to me that not only does the sister have the balls to ask the responsible sister (who was getting her PhD) to give up the spot she reserved ahead of time, but she decides to use the fact that she and her fiance couldnt keep their pants on as leverage? Fuck her, fuck her fiance, fuck her entire family for thinking that is OK. sounds like the author of this came out of a dysfunctional family and rose to greatness. I think she should uninvite everyone... keep the venue booked and do a destination wedding. A double FUCK YOU to her family.
Actually, her fiance was properly furious, because the prego sister had promised she wouldn't do this, and did it anyway. So good on him for calling his baby-mama out on her shit. He even called up and apologized to the phd sister. Soooooo, not fuck him. He did right. I wouldn't be surprised to see a marriage never happen now that he realizes she's untrustworthy. If he was smart, he'd get his ducks in order and leave her quick.
@Kristin - Judging by this performance, prego sister's fiancé will probably call off the wedding altogether....or he should. He would've dodged a bullet. She's a manipulative jerk.
@aunt messy- thats one hot potato of an idea. cause like who the actual fruck would want to marry someone whon screams at her older sister, the family BOYCOTTS THEIR OWN DAUGHTER, and etc likes honesty get ur ass whacked sister & family.
Yeah I don't understand why she is insistent on marrying before the baby comes
Just an excuse to steal the lovely wedding venue and be bloody idle.
Right! 1) Why would you want to have a shotgun wedding?! and 2) Not sure why getting married and taking on heaps of debt before bring a child into the world is a priority?!
Good frocking luck with that. You think the little sister is entitled now, wait until she has the baby. The child is going to be an excuse for everything. Example 1. Sorry do you mind if we cut in line my d/s is so tired and is going to get cranky soon. Example 2. I have a kid be careful if you park too close I’ll ding your car. Most of the time entitlement doesn’t get better in these situations. I say cut the toxic relationship.
The sister and her family are basically all assholes. Fuck off already. The good news is she is marrying into a logical and reasonable family that loves her for her.
She’s losing a toxic family and gaining a protective one. Sounds like a win-win.
I predict all the comments are going to say she should keep the venue so I'm going to be different and suggest that it be decided with Mortal Kombat, each sister choose a champion and have them fight to the death, winner gets the venue.
There's nothing to fight for. One sister booked in due time. The other didn't. Condoms are cheap.
To take the argument to the point of ridiculous, the venue sister should point out that her sister could have an abortion and reschedule her wedding accordingly.
Condoms are cheap, "pre-arranged" paid for weddings are cheaper.
Better she used birth control then getting pregnant before wedding. And now want everything of her sister's bug day bad her parents,, did they adopt the girl whom they r asking to give up her plans of her big day.
Given how well prepared she is, pregnant sis has zero chance; she probably shows up without a pistol and expecting no DEMANDING to use the smart sis's.
I like your idea duel to the death.
Now we're talking.
Her sister's emergency is not her problem. I like it.
By Mortak Kombat, you mean the video game? Right?
Lol, I have no problem correctly spelling Combat unless it's following the word Mortal. Damn you video games!!!
The way her family is acting? Nope. I'd make them go with the real thing.
more things should be settled in the Thunderdome...two men enter one man leaves! or women as the case may be :)
But Who run Bartertown?
Your prediction turned out to be right
Or a dance off...The pregnant sister will never be able to keep pace 😉 x