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Couple Done With Constant Police Visits Take Revenge On Elderly Neighbor
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Couple Done With Constant Police Visits Take Revenge On Elderly Neighbor

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Getting along with your neighbors can be quite a challenge if they’re unreasonable. For instance, if they are unusually sensitive to even the smallest noises, it can make your daily life practically impossible. One redditor, u/xProperlyBakedx, shared a story from nearly two decades ago about an elderly neighbor who kept complaining about excessive noise.

She constantly kept calling the police on the OP and his wife. At one point, the author had enough and got some petty revenge, scaring her. While some internet users thought the Reddit user’s reaction was warranted, others thought he might have gone too far. You’ll find the full story as you read on. Bored Panda has reached out to the author of the post via Reddit and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from him.

It can be a nightmare to live next to neighbors who keep complaining to the police about you when you’re doing nothing wrong

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A man shared how he and his wife tried to handle a complicated situation with an overly sensitive neighbor

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It’s unclear why the woman behaved as she did, but she may have been dealing with some serious issues

According to the author of the viral r/pettyrevenge post, it was stressful to have the police show up randomly at the door of his apartment. The neighbor’s noise complaints continued even when the OP and his wife were out of the building, too.

As many redditors who read the story pointed out, the elderly woman probably had health or mental health issues. The author of the post, u/xProperlyBakedx, agrees that she needed proper support and professional help, and should not have been living alone.

However, the man was at the end of his wits. He and his wife tried seemingly everything they could think of. They spoke to the office managing the building. They talked to the police. They even tried to approach their neighbor, but she had an unusually sensitive reaction to this.

Completely frustrated, the man kicked the door from within his apartment when he saw his neighbor walking past it in the hall, scaring her. He then pretended to be vacuuming so when the police came around again, he had a cover story. “Was I [a jerk] and super petty? Definitely. Do I regret it? Sometimes. Would I do it again? [Absolutely],” the OP wrote.

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The reaction to the post was mixed. Some redditors were appalled that anyone would scare someone who clearly had deeper issues. Others, however, pointed out that it becomes difficult to care about these issues when your own quality of life takes a huge nosedive.

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Getting a mediator involved can be invaluable in these sorts of sensitive situations

Obviously, nobody should be scaring old ladies or people who need help with mental health issues. At the same time, just because someone is older does not automatically make them right. Not every complaint about excessive noise is valid. And if the complainer is unwilling or unable to talk things about with their neighbors, you’re essentially stuck.

In sensitive cases like this one, it’s best to get a third party involved. If someone can mediate the entire conflict, it can get everyone on the same page looking for viable compromises.

The people managing the building, the neighbor’s family members, or even a representative of the town you’re living in could help navigate the situation.

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Neighbors need to keep the racket to a minimum, but they also need to learn to tolerate everyday noise, too

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Older buildings can let a lot of sound through because of thin walls, ceilings, and floors. So if you’re a person who is particularly sensitive to what your neighbors are doing throughout the day, you may want to invest in soundproofing your place.

Alternatively, if you can’t bear people doing chores and watching TV while the sun’s still up, it may be worth considering moving. You may need a place that’s far more isolated.

On the flip side, if there really is excessive noise in the building, then your neighbors need to knock that off ASAP. Try talking to them about the issue first on neutral ground. Try to be friendly and explain how their behavior is affecting you.

Remember that the more diplomatic you are (at least at first), the more likely you are to get them to change their habits. You don’t want to make it feel like you’re attacking them. Even if you’re genuinely outraged by their parties in the middle of the night, try to be civil. Trade contact info so that you can get in touch if things ever get out of hand again.

However, if your neighbors are unreasonable and ignore your warnings about their after-hours noisiness, it’s perfectly reasonable to take other measures. Get in touch with the authorities, as well as the building’s management.

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The author shared some more of his thoughts in the comments of his post

Some people suggested that the neighbor may have been behaving this way due to health issues

Here’s how some readers reacted to the story

Other internet users shared their own experiences with bad neighbors

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Christine C
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am the wife of the OP. What I can add to this is the times I tried to speak with her. One occasion we came home from the store taking in groceries and I saw her pull up so I decided to try to talk to her. She locked herself in the car and wouldn't even look at me. The second time I knocked at her door she opened called me an explicit word and slammed the door on my face. I went to the office and they tried to get her to come to a mediation but all she wanted was our apartment to be empty. The office asked us if we'd be willing to move to another apartment. I don't know about you but moving is hell so the answer was no. We have never and even to this day have never had an issue with a neighbor. I will also add I was not happy with my husband, as he knows, when he scared her when I was at the office speaking to management regarding the situation. As I respect everyone's opinion however back then I was a CNA and worked with individuals with dementia if she was she was high functioning.

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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate stories like this, because YES OP was AH, but everyone will say he was justified to do it. He was already always in the right and the situation was going to play itself out the same way eventually without stooping to her level. Kicking the door to scare her and then lying about it did nothing to show her why her behavior was wrong and made him a liar. So while I am happy that his situation worked out, he should still be ashamed of messing with an old woman who obviously had issues of her own.

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tl gmc
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right, she might just need hearing aids too. Not the guys fault, but it sounds like no one was there to help her or recommend going to the doctors. My grandma started hearing loud music last year, we went to her house and it was quiet. We let her know and after going to the doctors and getting the second pair of hearing aids, no music. The cops failed here, they should've told her to go to the doctors or asked for her family's numbers or took her somewhere to help elderly people.

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Ima Manimal
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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Old age is never an excuse for bad behavior unless there’s mental illness or dementia involved.

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Christine C
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am the wife of the OP. What I can add to this is the times I tried to speak with her. One occasion we came home from the store taking in groceries and I saw her pull up so I decided to try to talk to her. She locked herself in the car and wouldn't even look at me. The second time I knocked at her door she opened called me an explicit word and slammed the door on my face. I went to the office and they tried to get her to come to a mediation but all she wanted was our apartment to be empty. The office asked us if we'd be willing to move to another apartment. I don't know about you but moving is hell so the answer was no. We have never and even to this day have never had an issue with a neighbor. I will also add I was not happy with my husband, as he knows, when he scared her when I was at the office speaking to management regarding the situation. As I respect everyone's opinion however back then I was a CNA and worked with individuals with dementia if she was she was high functioning.

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ThisIsMe
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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate stories like this, because YES OP was AH, but everyone will say he was justified to do it. He was already always in the right and the situation was going to play itself out the same way eventually without stooping to her level. Kicking the door to scare her and then lying about it did nothing to show her why her behavior was wrong and made him a liar. So while I am happy that his situation worked out, he should still be ashamed of messing with an old woman who obviously had issues of her own.

tlgmc avatar
tl gmc
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right, she might just need hearing aids too. Not the guys fault, but it sounds like no one was there to help her or recommend going to the doctors. My grandma started hearing loud music last year, we went to her house and it was quiet. We let her know and after going to the doctors and getting the second pair of hearing aids, no music. The cops failed here, they should've told her to go to the doctors or asked for her family's numbers or took her somewhere to help elderly people.

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Ima Manimal
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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Old age is never an excuse for bad behavior unless there’s mental illness or dementia involved.

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