Person Refuses To Put Up With Neighbor’s Kid After One Of The Balls He’s Constantly Kicking Over The Fence Hits Their Puppy
Your home is your castle. Unless your neighbor’s kid is a spoiled prince who disregards other people’s — and, in this case, animals’ — well-being.
Recently, a Redditor and probably a Harry Potter fan who goes online by the nickname Slytherin_90 submitted a story to the popular ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ community, asking its members to help them make sense of a particularly frustrating situation.
The Redditor’s backyard is getting filled with balls and toys, and the kid on the opposite side of the fence can’t seem to stop. It got so bad that even their dog has developed anxiety. So the Redditor stopped giving the stuff back.
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Image credits: Helena Lopes (not the actual photo)
There’s a saying that goes “love thy neighbor as yourself,” but clearly not everyone has heard it.
In fact, according to one study on people’s relationships with their neighbors, over a third (36 percent) have had issues that escalate into full-blown arguments, with a quarter stating that they have a long-running feud with someone living next to them.
Many of those polled should be able to relate to the couple who had to endure the lawn mower, as the research commissioned discovered the most common reasons for an argument are over parking, followed closely by animal noise, and noise in general.
After the story went viral, the original poster (OP) provided more information on the issue
The data might explain why over 40 percent of Americans try to avoid their errant neighbors intentionally, with Northeast folks more than twice as likely to say their neighbors are rude when compared to the Southwest.
However, it’s worth mentioning that the biggest reason for said avoidance is simply not having the time to stop and chat.
But thinking the people next door are weird, and not getting along with them, or feeling they are too nosy are common reasons many avoid interaction as well.
And most people thought they weren’t doing anything wrong by keeping the balls and toys
Nearly a quarter (23 percent) say they have neighbors who they consider as friends, and 3 in 10 trust their neighbors a lot, while 86 percent rate themselves as either a good or very good neighbor.
However, this story does illustrate a somewhat counterintuitive reality. While a common stereotype suggests people who live in busy urban areas tend to be less respectful of those around them, the results of the survey reveal the opposite: city people are almost twice as likely to regularly hang out with their neighbors.
Some, however, said that they should just let the kid play
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F**k those that said the OP was an a*****e for not letting the child "play" ... that's not playing ... that's enabling entitled behavior when you can't respect another person's property and living ...
This! It’s one thing if the homeowner has no problem with it. But ASK FIRST! Don’t ever think you can force someone to must put up with anything on their own property. You can kick your footballs anywhere you want in your own yard. But once that football lands in my yard and bothers me—-especially if it hurts or traumatizes my child(ren) or pet(s)—-that football is now MINE. Same as if you gave it to me. You ain’t gettin’ it back.
Load More Replies...My nephew (6) always ended up kicking his footballs into his neighbour's garden as he wanted to kick the ball high as possible and didn't have much coordination. He knew he would have to ask the neighbour face to face for his ball back and apologise - luckily the neighbour on one side was was really understanding. The neighbour on the other had a similar situation with having a dog who loved nothing more than to attack and kill the invading football. My nephew learned very quickly not to kick the ball in that direction because he knew he wouldn't get the football back. No one ever got upset with the neighbour for not being able to return the balls so definitely NTA. Also it might be with looking into getting higher trellises for the fence or some way to prevent item from making it onto the lawn where a dog might mistake it for a tasty snack
I think this might be a good idea. Play with the dogs and the ball, teach the dog balls are fun, and it's no problem if he shreds them ;)
Load More Replies...At my old house the neighbor's kids were playing football on the one way street. We had a tall fence separating us from them. We had plants, my cats loved the garden the neighbors from our house (5apartments in one big house) had a baby who they were playing with in their garden (next to ours). The football ball kept accidentally falling into our yards. The kids have a huge football playground next to their elementary school max 15minutes walking distance. In five years I've lived in the same location as them they've broken our trees, our fence while trying to climb it to get the ball, we'd get like 4 a day. At first we've returned them, told them to be more careful (to their parents too) but nothing happened till one day the ball almost hit my neighbour's baby. He went ballistic, yelled how this has been going on for years (they had 2 children the baby and a toddler now) and then the parent threatened to call the police if he doesn't return the ball.
Mother of the baby called them the second voices were raised, the parents with kids who kick balls all over the place got fined, and then threatened to poison my cats with rat poison they left in a bag on my doorstep. Because when the police asked us, the witnesses what happened we told the truth. I've moved to attend college and took my cats with me. Parents qre a bit lonely without pets now but the balls have stopped... Because the kids got a big dog that doesn't attend dog school, and goes to the bathroom on our parking spaces... We're selling the apartment now if anyone's interested
Load More Replies...I think you have this very wrong. You spoke to the kid's dad and it hasn't stopped. so it seems more likely to me that it's the dad who is kicking the balls over the fence. It's his way of saying such as; "my kid can do as he likes", or, "who do you think you are coming round here complaining?". The most straightforward course of action that I would take every time. Is to throw every ball and toy over the fence into the park. Not back to the neighbor, over to the park. Adopting an attitude of; "it's nothing to do with me anymore, I've mentioned it, you should be more careful..." No need to say anything to them about it, the action speaks louder than words.
You have so much more control than I. Good on you. After I asked, any more would get cut open, filleted and thrown flopped back...
Load More Replies...Yeah yeah. We were all kids once. It's one thing to do something on accident a couple times but it's entirely something else when it's repeatedly being done over and over just to be an annoying little prick. I'd keep all the s**t he throws and kicks over and denie having ever seen any of it. I'd take it as far as forcing his parents to get law enforcement involved to get the stuff back. Yeah it's petty but being tortured by someone elses dumbass kid shouldn't be something anyone has to put up with on a daily basis.
My grandmother had this problem and the balls would hit her car. These kids had a large yard and did not have to play near the fence. After warnings and speaking to the mother to no avail, she started to keep them. These were donated to her church's after school program. As far as the just a kid comments. He is 7 which is the age of reason. He is not of an age where he cannot understand. He throws other items so it's no accident. Lastly, why should she clean up after another family's child?
I can tell you from experience it probably wouldn't make any difference
Load More Replies...I say pop the footballs and return them over the fence, but I'm petty
Don’t be so obvious…poke small holes for slow leaks…
Load More Replies...It seems funny how no one understands that there is a dog in distress involved... I personally would go with the ones suggesting using balls as some kind of trophies.
natural consequences does the teaching, ball comes over. It's bye bye now. You train for the outcome you want (or get). You return it , you train the behavior to keep doing the same and the balls over the fence. You keep it and donate the balls to the thrift store, never to be seen again, the boy is trained to stop the balls (and other toys) from entering the yard.
Load More Replies...F**k those that said the OP was an a*****e for not letting the child "play" ... that's not playing ... that's enabling entitled behavior when you can't respect another person's property and living ...
This! It’s one thing if the homeowner has no problem with it. But ASK FIRST! Don’t ever think you can force someone to must put up with anything on their own property. You can kick your footballs anywhere you want in your own yard. But once that football lands in my yard and bothers me—-especially if it hurts or traumatizes my child(ren) or pet(s)—-that football is now MINE. Same as if you gave it to me. You ain’t gettin’ it back.
Load More Replies...My nephew (6) always ended up kicking his footballs into his neighbour's garden as he wanted to kick the ball high as possible and didn't have much coordination. He knew he would have to ask the neighbour face to face for his ball back and apologise - luckily the neighbour on one side was was really understanding. The neighbour on the other had a similar situation with having a dog who loved nothing more than to attack and kill the invading football. My nephew learned very quickly not to kick the ball in that direction because he knew he wouldn't get the football back. No one ever got upset with the neighbour for not being able to return the balls so definitely NTA. Also it might be with looking into getting higher trellises for the fence or some way to prevent item from making it onto the lawn where a dog might mistake it for a tasty snack
I think this might be a good idea. Play with the dogs and the ball, teach the dog balls are fun, and it's no problem if he shreds them ;)
Load More Replies...At my old house the neighbor's kids were playing football on the one way street. We had a tall fence separating us from them. We had plants, my cats loved the garden the neighbors from our house (5apartments in one big house) had a baby who they were playing with in their garden (next to ours). The football ball kept accidentally falling into our yards. The kids have a huge football playground next to their elementary school max 15minutes walking distance. In five years I've lived in the same location as them they've broken our trees, our fence while trying to climb it to get the ball, we'd get like 4 a day. At first we've returned them, told them to be more careful (to their parents too) but nothing happened till one day the ball almost hit my neighbour's baby. He went ballistic, yelled how this has been going on for years (they had 2 children the baby and a toddler now) and then the parent threatened to call the police if he doesn't return the ball.
Mother of the baby called them the second voices were raised, the parents with kids who kick balls all over the place got fined, and then threatened to poison my cats with rat poison they left in a bag on my doorstep. Because when the police asked us, the witnesses what happened we told the truth. I've moved to attend college and took my cats with me. Parents qre a bit lonely without pets now but the balls have stopped... Because the kids got a big dog that doesn't attend dog school, and goes to the bathroom on our parking spaces... We're selling the apartment now if anyone's interested
Load More Replies...I think you have this very wrong. You spoke to the kid's dad and it hasn't stopped. so it seems more likely to me that it's the dad who is kicking the balls over the fence. It's his way of saying such as; "my kid can do as he likes", or, "who do you think you are coming round here complaining?". The most straightforward course of action that I would take every time. Is to throw every ball and toy over the fence into the park. Not back to the neighbor, over to the park. Adopting an attitude of; "it's nothing to do with me anymore, I've mentioned it, you should be more careful..." No need to say anything to them about it, the action speaks louder than words.
You have so much more control than I. Good on you. After I asked, any more would get cut open, filleted and thrown flopped back...
Load More Replies...Yeah yeah. We were all kids once. It's one thing to do something on accident a couple times but it's entirely something else when it's repeatedly being done over and over just to be an annoying little prick. I'd keep all the s**t he throws and kicks over and denie having ever seen any of it. I'd take it as far as forcing his parents to get law enforcement involved to get the stuff back. Yeah it's petty but being tortured by someone elses dumbass kid shouldn't be something anyone has to put up with on a daily basis.
My grandmother had this problem and the balls would hit her car. These kids had a large yard and did not have to play near the fence. After warnings and speaking to the mother to no avail, she started to keep them. These were donated to her church's after school program. As far as the just a kid comments. He is 7 which is the age of reason. He is not of an age where he cannot understand. He throws other items so it's no accident. Lastly, why should she clean up after another family's child?
I can tell you from experience it probably wouldn't make any difference
Load More Replies...I say pop the footballs and return them over the fence, but I'm petty
Don’t be so obvious…poke small holes for slow leaks…
Load More Replies...It seems funny how no one understands that there is a dog in distress involved... I personally would go with the ones suggesting using balls as some kind of trophies.
natural consequences does the teaching, ball comes over. It's bye bye now. You train for the outcome you want (or get). You return it , you train the behavior to keep doing the same and the balls over the fence. You keep it and donate the balls to the thrift store, never to be seen again, the boy is trained to stop the balls (and other toys) from entering the yard.
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