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First dates are usually a bit weird and awkward. But when the person uses you to cover an expensive restaurant bill or tries to recruit you to a pyramid scheme, they're unbearable.

A few weeks ago, Redditor u/Eseohii posted a question to r/AskReddit, saying "Those who've walked out on first dates, what was your 'I'm out of here' moment?" and people instantly filled the comment section with crazy characters and surprising stories.

Here are some of them.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Had a first date with a girl who insisted we go to a really expensive place, where she ordered a $25 dollar appetizer, $45 steak and a $15 drink. She wouldn't put down her phone, kept taking calls and answering texts. The waitress noticed and motioned for me from behind her. I excused myself, and the waitress had separate bills all made up and asked if I wanted to pay my share and leave her at the table. I said, "That would be wonderful!" So I did.

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She did but I wonder how the waitress knew this was a date and not this man with a relative or someone where it would be rude to leave them at the table with their half of the bill. And if the female date didn't have any money or credit card with her...?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What wonderful waitress. I hope you gave her a big tip. Yo should have dated her instead.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yeah this is an expert strategy by the waitress. She's gonna get $0 on $85 from the girl, but a huge tip from the guy she saved, instead of a mediocre tip on the full bill from what would have been a very unhappy guy leaving.

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Miss Cris
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It wasn't the first time this waitress detected this situstion there.

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fu yu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hope that girl had the phone number to her credit/debit card institution! Not putting down the phone is rude AF

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Chris Kane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get why someone would go on a date with a a person they didn't like just for good food??

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Pamela Blue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can you even appreciate good food if you're staring at your phone constantly?

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Dre Mosley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Make that first date a coffee date. Low financial risk for both parties.

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Rose Rosee
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I realized that they were going to stick me with the entire bill. I went to the bathroom, and on the way out, I saw the server. I told her the what was happening and if I could pay only what I ate, not the dude I was with, nor his friends. The sweet lady let me pay just for me and I tipped her, she led me through the kitchen to the alley. I walked down the alley, hit the street, hopped on the train and went home. The guy I was dating was blowing my phone up, but who cares. He was a real piece of work and I was young and stupid. Some people are just asses.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bad date, but kind waitress, overall it's not too lousy dinner.

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SuperChicken
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Couldn't the girl be a bit more rude? I mean, if she's not interested in the guy, couldn't she have ended the date? On the other hand, the waitress is awesome. I hope he gave her a really good tip.

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Pamela Blue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sounds like an "influencer." Thinks she deserves the best of everything, free of course. Those are also the types who spend every second on their phone keeping track of how many followers they get.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

omg I love this I would have done the exact same thing some people just think they are entitled to the world for free.

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Id row
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, to be a fly on the wall when she discovered he was gone. I'd have paid to see that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you take someone to a place where they can get a $45 steak on a first date?

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Henry Halliday
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Think it's less about the price of the steak and more that she was rude as hell and obviously was there for a free meal. Dude would probably be ok with it if she had bothered to engage.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great waitress! It's reasons like this they deserve more respect.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay not my first date, but thought I would share. A long time ago (yeah I know) I was dating this guy I was really into. We made plans to hang out and while out I mentioned we should get something to eat. He said he was broke so I told him no big deal, I had his meal. I should mention I had payed for him before, and honestly looking back I should not have been doing it so often. Anyway on the way to the restaurant we run into 2 of his good friends. They kind of invited themselves, and I pulled him aside and told him, I'm paying for him and not them. He assured me that they had money. Okay. We all go to the restaurant and order. His friends ordered drinks, so did he a lot of food etc. The check comes and it's on one bill. I look at the check, gave the check to his friends, so they could see their portion. They would not look at the bill. I gently pull his arm, and whisper "what the hell is going on" He shrugs and goes right back to laughing with his friends. I was so pissed off.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTG, good move, Hope he tipped the waitress well, she was worth it,

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love a follow up to this story! Lol imagine the look on the girls face when she receives her end of the bill + notices her "date" already paid his portion and left

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Savithri Amendra
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

good !! you dont need to live your whole life with someone who cant be social.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Insisting on going to a really expensive restaurant is a red flag! And the waitress deserves a good tip! 👍🏻

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Azure Adams
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Waitress had your back and good one you that was the right response

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Michele Israel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for you! She was beyond rude, and just out to be pampered and get a free meal.

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Sherry Donald
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least her "This will never work" signal was working in your favor ( :

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Nicholas Yu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That obnoxious woman will go home complaining that "there are no good men left."

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Mateo Buysse
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this really happened that waitress should have gotten a raise, a tip, or both.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beautiful!! Hopefully he asked that waitress out on a date!

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Mare Freed
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I'd thought of this when I was a waitress years ago. Maybe I'd have even gotten a date out of it!

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Jill Tremblay
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perfect! I wonder how long it took her to realize he was gone....lol

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For that waitress to do that, she must have seen it a LOT in the past.

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Laura Perkinson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, could she have been ruder! I would have loved to see the look on her face.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And he and the waitress lived happily ever after. That was a good waitress

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Dan Pieniak
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL..... Meet you on our first date at the Barnes and Noble café. I once picked up a "lady" and we went to a family restaurant. During the date she mentioned she was just looking for free meals, since her boyfriend was in prison.

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jane don
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup--Don't Talk to her Just Run away--Such a gentleman--

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Jim Pederson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that you tipped that waitress well. She probably saved from a whole lot of grief.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for him! When you’re on a date with somebody, you’re supposed to have your attention on your date! She just wanted a free meal!

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When I was still with my BF we'd often fly out to visit his sis and her husband. You might find the following, amusing. The LAST time we were there we didn't stay with them yet went out to dinner as always. She always ordered "top shelf Long Island Ice Teas...2 which coast $20 EACH followed by THE most expensive steak on the menu which, as per usual, she always sent back (control issues...hope they spit on it). The last time I let her order her "usual" (see above) and half way thru the meal I announced.... "Oh, this time it's gonna be 'Dutch' to which she was now freakin' out as she had no cash and gawd forbid no credit cards...her husband bailed her out, BTW....but can you imagine? Just was dying to tell about this as a "YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE" moment!!! It was hilarious e.g. after ordering about $75 just for her....he was nice and I think he knew I was tired of this and also he looked like he agreed I shouldn't have had to pay for it this time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Awesome waitress, & good on you for not accepting the behavior!

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Alex Hamilton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That'll teach her. Loved to have been there when she realised. hehe

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dang observant waitress;should've asked HER out, instead!

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Michael Naretto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She probably knew she would get just one date and decided to live it up....

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is where I ask the waitress for her number. Awesome of her

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the waitress must be used to seeing that sort of thing. Pretty bad when dates are nothing more than sharing space without actually interacting

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet the waitress got a great tip from the guy, but non from the girl. I would have loved to see what happened next!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah. Apparently it's a thing on Tinder to go on dates just for the free meal.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

and then the waitress was tipped handsomely part seems missing?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Could be a nontipping country, but even if it was in the US, don’t jump to conclusions. They might have assumed that part would be obvious.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But... why didn't he just say something? You are on a date!! If she's on the phone the whole time why do you even continue with the date? I kind of feel like that if he's not saying anything when she orders expensive dishes and apparently is not even talking to him then the fault lies with him. He should have left way before. Stand up for yourself, don't force the waitress to do it for you!!!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do you people post this clutter on every story? Just move on if you think it's fake.

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As if a waitress would do that. For all she knew they could have been married. This is another totally made up story .

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Does anyone actually believe this bullshit. No waitress is going to do this. Is she a personal friend who knows you are on a blind date ? Did you explain to her that you were on a tinder date ?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Servers become people experts..... that is what makes the difference between good Servers and great Servers. This was obviously a high-end establishment and it's obvious that they staff it with professionals.

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Incel fantasy. Didn't happen. At a really expensive place, waiters behave extremely professionally, and would not insert themselves into the customer's lives, especially in a presumptive fashion like this.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

$45 steak isn't cheap by any means but I don't think it's 3 star Michelin we're talking here either.

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Well that was a cowardly back-stabbing act. Did the guy even ask her if they were spitting the bill? Essentially you were as low as your date... Neither you nor she should ever date anyone again. And the waitress was a little s**t too.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uh? First date? And if she's going to sit on her phone the whole time on a DATE, she can go screw herself as she obviously doesn't care about the date. The guy had every right to walk out and 'did the guy even ask her if they were spitting the bill?' really?? It's his money. Not hers. He is not a walking bank and shouldn't be expected to pay for her food. His, yes. Not hers. Only if he OFFERS to do (same goes if the roles were reversed/not taking into account gender).

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I drove us. Started to parallel park (been working/parking in SF for years by then) and he said, “I’ll park this for you, women don’t do well at parallel parking.” At dinner he was dismissive only to female wait staff.

I ran into these two hilariously drunk surfer dudes on my way from the bathroom, they told me my date was a jerk. We laughed about it and I went back to my table.

When leaving, the drunk dudes were also outside, I said bye to them and Assholio had the nerve to bark, “she’s with me!”

I told him to wait while I got in the car and unlocked the doors..except I didn’t. I drove off and left him standing there. The two drunk dudes whooped and yelled go, lady, go! Such an awesome finish to a terribly embarrassing date.

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Bored Panda got in touch with u/Eseohii and they told us the idea for the post came from a real-life example. "My friend had been on a date but walked out because the guy had researched her whole life and was reading off facts about her to her," the Redditor told us. "I was curious what other crazy things people have encountered on a date that made them say 'nope.'"

All these comments under the post only strengthened u/Eseohii's belief that "even after agreeing to a date you're not obligated to follow through if it's not worth your time!"

Even if we disregard the extreme cases, they think it's not "rude" to abandon your first date. "Life is way too short to keep engaging in things you're not truly interested in," the Redditor said.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) On a first date with a military guy. He spent a large portion of the date talking about why the strippers in Toronto were better than the strippers where we lived. To change the topic, I asked him if he did any volunteer work with the military overseas and he said "NO! I joined the military to kill people not help people!" I got my bill, chugged my beer, and left as fast as I could.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) The fact that within 10 minutes of meeting him he started making sexual comments and "joking" about following me home so he could stalk me if I rejected him.

I got out with the help of a bartender who let me leave out the back door.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Having the usual get to know you conversation over drinks. I was telling how my car was stolen the night before and her response was.."Don't you just hate blacks?" I never said who stole it....I was out of there...

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As more Americans turn to online dating and the #MeToo movement leaves its imprint on the dating scene, nearly half of U.S. adults – and a majority of women – say that dating has become harder in the last 10 years.

Since there are no guarantees whether or not a date will work out for you, you have to be emotionally prepared for pretty much everything that might happen. "Having the right level of expectation is really important to ensuring you both enjoy your date, and stay motivated for future ones," dating coach Hayley Quinn told Bored Panda.

"Dating is a process, so don't go on a first date expecting to meet 'The One'! A good level of expectation to have for a first date is that you're going to have fun and be curious about the other person. A first date isn't about anyone judging anyone else, it's just an opportunity to see if that level of connection between you could be there," Quinn explained.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Went to pick up my blind date. She opened the door and looked at me.

"Ew"

I looked at her and said "Yeah, I agree" and turned on my heel and left. Total date time Less than 5 minutes.

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What a terrible woman. I think their response was warranted, based on her manners alone.

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We were talking about out pets and I told her about my cat and she said if we were to continue dating I would have to get rid of him because she doesn't like cats. For a moment I thought she was kidding because who would ask that of a first date (or any date). It became clear she wasn't kidding and was mad I wasn't taking her suggestion seriously. I didn't end up leaving, I was in the middle of my fettuccine alfredo and I wasn't about to scoop it into some doggy bag like some caveman. She took an Uber.

I haven't had many memorably bad dates, but that was the worst. Im willing to make certain reasonable changes for the right person, but cats are non-negotiable.

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My hero. You never have a relationship with someone who doesn't like your pets or children.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) This guy and I were eating dinner after chatting for a couple of weeks, and unprompted (in the middle of something I was saying) and completely unrelated to what was being discussed he said something along the lines of, “So you know in order for this to work you’re gonna have to share yourself right? My friends and I like to pass girls around.”

I was pretty dumbfounded and after a bit of stuttering I told him I didn’t think it was going to work, asked for a to-go box and my portion of the check, and noped the f**k outta there.

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Most of us have probably been in an awkward situation where the date isn't going well and we want to leave early but can't find a nice way to do it. According to Quinn, that's something we need to take care of before, not during the evening.

"Instead of thinking about ending a date early, I would try to avoid planning dates where you're going to end up feeling over-committed!" the dating coach said. "Skip dinner and keep it to casual drinks or a coffee in an area that's convenient to you."

However, if you get enough bad vibes to start feeling you need to hit the eject button, then Quinn advises to be candid and say something along the lines of, "I appreciate you meeting me, but although it's awkward I want to be upfront that I don't think we have that chemistry."

"If you feel too unsafe to do this, yes you can make an excuse to leave (the old phone a friend) or tell a member of staff at the venue that you're looking for Angela, this is a code word to let members of staff know you feel unsafe, and they should assist you into a taxi," the dating coach said.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Not me but this happened to a friend. Context: friend has a beard. So my friend picks up this girl and they’re on their way to dinner and she says “You do realize that if this is gonna work you have to shave that off right?” He didn’t say anything, just turned around and dropped her back off at her house

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for him. If she was willing to make unreasonable demands before the first date even got under way, she was NOT a keeper.

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We chatted online. At the time I was a smoker and told him. He said no big deal because he smokes too. Decided to meet up at Starbucks for coffee. First thing he said, "hi. By the way when I said I smoke, I was talking about meth."

I said "oh, bye". And turned around and left.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Great chats online, decided to meet in person.

He's got a blue tooth headset with a little LED light that shows it's on. He keeps it on during drinks. I work up the nerve to ask if he can take off the headset while we're eating dinner.

With pride and complete confidence he says, "Don't worry! You totally have my full attention. This isn't a phone headset, it's a camera."

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I had invited a guy off a dating site to my house. When I opened the door, he said he could kill me if he wanted, and to never meet anyone off the internet again.

My two male roommates were in the kitchen because they knew this guy was coming, and heard him. They ran him out of the house pdq

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) He was 45 minutes late picking me up (weather was quite poor so I gave him a pass)

Get to the coffee shop, take off my jacket and immediately he says, “I see you brought your A game, or should I say, D game “ referring to my breasts. (I’m surprisingly busty for my frame)

Even the people 2 tables over just stopped and looked at him.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh geez. I just cringed hard on her behalf. I would have immediately turned on my heel while putting my jacket back on and left.

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He told me I wasn’t pretty enough to be so confident. Like what??? I was shocked but the server came to my rescue and was like girl get outta here no charge for your drink!

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I had to pick him up and he complained about everything. My car, the way I drove, my music taste, why was I being so quiet while carefully plotting my escape plan. Definitely the moment he said “My friends really want to meet you. I need them to know you’re real.” Annnnnnndddddd that’s when I bounced.

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Date one - seemed nice so invited him in for literal coffee... attempted rape, I broke his nose.

He texted the next day to ask if we could pick up where we left off.

He was a doctor in a women's psychiatric unit, and he knew where I lived. I moved 4 weeks later.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So where is the part where she called the police and his work and got him arrested and fired? Or did she just care for her own safety?

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Blind date set up by my GRANDPARENTS. I love my grandad and he’s done so much for me so I went. We met at a bar where my best friend worked. We get drinks and I’m talking to my friend. He says “this homo trying to hook up with you?” 1. He’s not gay 2. It wouldn’t matter if he was 3. He was just checking in on me.

So I’m already done with him at this point but my ride is still over an hour away. His mate shows up at one point and starts trying to flirt with me. It was gross. My date then starts asking about “my hot friends” and if I can get them to come out. I said “I like my friends so… no” He starts being racist against Pacific Islanders. And was horribly rude to this German guy there drinking. when my ride gets there I said “I’m leaving.” He said “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me” I said “thanks but I’d rather gouge out my eyes”

The next day he messaged me and said “you probably think I’m a bit of a c**t after last night but do you want to go out again” I had no intentions of ever seeing him again so I explained why his behaviour was unacceptable and suggested he try making friends who are girls so he sees them as something other than a hole to stick his d**k in.

I told my grandparents everything. They told his parents and apparently his dad was super embarrassed.

My grandparents were then informed to stay out of my love life and any time they brought it up I just say “I’ve got a big d**k, you should come home with me”

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#18

She wouldn't stop making fun of me. She was 26 and I was 36 (though if it matters, we were at the same place in our careers/income) and she kept making ageist jokes about how I was old and decrepit. Eventually, after telling her pretty directly to lay off, I just said "you know, I'm not enjoying this, I'm going to go," and paid for the table and left.

Later she said it was because she was overcompensating because she was self-conscious about how much younger she was, but that just means that when she's uncomfortable she goes straight to demeaning the other person.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I had a first date with a girl who told me, "Actually I'm engaged but I'm not 100% sure if he's the right one. So I'm going to go out on a few dates to see if I change my mind."

Check please!

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#20

She had 22 cats and would just randomly take in strays. Not give them any vet care and was planning on keeping a recent litter. I love cats... I paid the bartender when she went to the bathroom and hyper walked to the door. Forwarded her contact info and a summary of what she told me to the humane society.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) First date we are at a Japanese restaurant. She asked me my star sign, I replied "Scorpio". She leaned over the table and slapped me clean & hard across the face. Naturally I was shocked and confused, I mouthed "What...?", she firmly says "I NEVER date Scorpios". I went to the bathroom, came back - she had gone, and paid for everything.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that‘s weird. but she paid for everything :). Somehow i find that story amusing. (Her slapping him is a No Go of course. Please don‘t take me wrong. I just find the circumstances amusing because it‘s so absurd.)

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He was a friend of a friend. He went to a restaurant and ordered our food. While we waited he started to say things like “First I’ll eat this meal then I’ll eat you out”. I laughed cause I thought he’s just joking. I thought he’s just nervous and his mouth lost his filter.

Then when the waitress later asked if we want more to drink he was like “Yes, bring us something strong” I said not for me and that i have to drive later and just want a coke and he looked at me and was like “Don’t be stupid. You think I’ll f**k you once and let you leave? You’ll at least stay the night” The waitress looked at me with wide eyes like im crazy for even being there. After she left I told him that he has to stop with this that it was rude and that we’re on our first date.

He apologized and for 10 min it was okay. Then, as if a switch was turned on he said just like that (mid sentence without even ending his previous story) “You know what, I can’t control myself anymore. Either we go now or I’ll f**k you on this table” I told him I’ll go to the bathroom. He complained like a baby that we have to go now. I went anyway and went to the waitress, payed for the food and left without a word.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) First date. Went bowling, turned around and he was going through my phone. A little soon, I think....

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We met at the restaurant, I had arrived first to get a table, the server showed her over, we shook hands, I pushed her chair in. The server asked if we would like a drink or to hear the specials. She picked up the menu, asked the server for a wine list without even looking at them, looked intently at me and said "how much money do you make?" I said "excuse me?" In a confused tone somewhat taken aback. She stared at me and said very slowly and deliberately "how much money do you make in a year?" I looked over at the server who was still standing there with a really awkward look on their face, thanked them for their assistance so far. Turned to my "date" and said I was sorry but I had to leave, and I got up and walked out.

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#25

He brought two friends along which was unexpected. They were all drunk. I flagged down a waitress while one guy left to go do something. I ordered my food, the other two confessed they'd already eaten. Third guy walks back in to the restaurant, dripping blood from a horrific gash in his arm. In shock, I ran to my car & grabbed my first aid kit, cleaned & butterflied the wound, bandaged it, had the guy elevate his arm while the waitress called 911. Got cleaned up, returned to find the un-injured guys had just eaten my food. Grabbed my kit & my purse and walked out.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You deserve an award for behaving this calm and considerate, what an absolute nightmare.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Went to meet a guy for the first time at his house. There was a pile of toenail clippings on his coffee table. And it wasn’t one recent clipping. It was like, many clippings. Out the door I went.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) He invited me and a friend to play dodgeball with a group of folks I’ve never met. We’re having an ok time, he’s paying more attention to his friends but that’s fine because I’ve got my friend to keep me occupied. We’re hanging out in the parking lot before the first game is about to start when out of nowhere he grabs a ball and throws it at my crotch as hard as he can. This motherf**ker screams “wham, bam, right in the clam!”

I immediately turn to my friend and ask her if she’s ready to leave. I say goodbye to him and his friends. Immediately come home to a grip of texts about how “immature” I was behaving.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) She finally let it slip that she had a bf lol "but it was totally fine bc things had been going bad for a long time and she was going to break up with him." My thoughts were that if she would do that to him she'd do it to me. No thanks.

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#29

When he asked me to change my clothes because they were not sexy enough and told me what I had to order for food… he ended the date by talking about his gun collection…

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Went first for a walk, he did not shut up for a like minute for one hour, complains about everything and everyone in his life, not even ask nor allow me to give a comment.

Set down, he orders food for me, without even asking; get's his drink, bartender mentions the caps are difficult to open, but he arrogantly and rudely brushes him off, tries to open them himself but ends up spilling juice all over himself. Yells like it was the staff's fault and how the country he is from is superior. No regard for people, just yelling. At that point, I wanted to get under the table because that was actually a restaurant I frequently visit (from a small town with just a handful of restaurants). Continues to talk about how superior and above all that "incompetence" he is, and when he becomes manager, he would fire people like that. Continues with complaints for another hour.

I offer to split the check considering that he talked about money issues and because I obviously did not want to see him ever again so did not want to feel like I "owe" him anything. He yells at me, I leave the money on the table, walk-off. He basically continues yelling at stuff for going after check again with the "in my country" talk about how they have it on the spot. Grabs my hand and says angrily to wait for him. Asked me literally 2 questions finally, I say I will grab a taxi but he forcefully insists to walk me home. To avoid him making another scene, I accept.

We walk in silence, I try to have him off and leave, he insists to follow me home how there are probably some "dangerous" people around, he tried to force himself on me on my front door (the one of the yard, fence or how it is called), even though I said I don't think it will work. Exact words, "you owe it to me, we went on a date, I did not waste my money for nothing". I literally pushed him off (he was skinnier) and threw another 20$ (besides the ones I already left for my meal in the restaurant) at his face, saying "here, we are done", got instantly in the yard, locked the fence, while hearing him yell, and sent him a text that I will call the police if he does not get the f**k out of there. He left.

The worst part is, his aunt was our neighbor, my mom knew his mom and were good friends, and the next day, on my way out she literally had the audacity to ask "how did it all went" (I am pretty sure she heard him screaming awful things since literally, their house is like 10m from mine, across the street, literally) and I told her just "you should have raised him better". They never spoke to me again. I am absolutely fine with that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k politeness, if someone makes you that uncomfortable, leave. Your security trumps his discomfort. What a douchebag, glad you could escape.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) She looked over my shoulder and said, “Oh, my other date is here.”

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#32

Guy wanted to meet a place I use to work at, I showed up and he was already there. I order vodka and we're glaring into the menu while his shots arrive and he's just pounding them. Base bartender is giving the stinkeye, I know him so I'm like WTF. The date steps out for the bathroom or vape and the bartender beelines to my table to warn me this guy is a raging alcoholic that "f**ked around" with his cousin a few months back. I noped right out of there.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I get from most of the stories here is that bar and wait staff are the real heroes.

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I sat down across from him and within 5 mins of meeting me he tried to slide his hand up my dress under the table. Yikes.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again can't we all just discuss things beforehand? I mean I'm sure there are people out there who would be ok with this kind of behavior and if she was one of them and gave concent then fine by all means. But just assuming and acting on this thought is disgusting

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) I met a girl in small bookstore, we seemed to hit it off so I asked her out. She took me to a nearby ATM to get some cash for dinner and she and her partner tries to rob me. They had been having some success with the setup over the summer, so the SFPD was watching ATMs in the area and arrested them both.

I spent the night at the police station being interviewed and writing my statement; No dinner, no first date sex, and the shop sold the book I wanted.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Blind date - she took to a fetish party - asked me if i wanted to pee on a guy with her- told her no thanks I'll use the urinal this time and split.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll admit - there was a point in my life when I would've thought "Oh, she's interesting..."

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) The first time I dated someone from Tinder, the date turned out to be a recruiting event for one of those Costa Coffee pyramid scams.
Apparently the guy was missing his quota so he used Tinder as a recruiting tool. Unfortunately for him, I realized quickly what it was and left ASAP. F**k that guy.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It multi level marketing- pyramid schemes are illegal 😂😂 this is a famous line all period schemes use

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#37

People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) When I realized she was trying to get her ex get jealous of me. She chose the place and time and it was where her ex worked at that time.

Left and apologized to the ex.

Later she texted me saying that she'd forgive me for the faux pas if went to another date-she still picked the same time and place. I ghosted her.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) Walked into a guy’s house and heard his mom yell out “Guy, who the hell is that? I told you I didn’t want no more girls in here!” Turned around and walked out.

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People Who've Walked Out Of First Dates Share The Moment They Realized They Should Leave (40 Stories) On my very first date ever, I go to a movie with my girlfriend that I also had my first kiss with about a week earlier at a dance. She doesn't mention anything about this, but she ends up bringing her sister. Her IDENTICAL TWIN sister. I had no idea who was who all date long and didn't find a way to ask. She later tells my friend she thinks I am more into her sister than her.

Very awkward. Much confused.

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#40

A dude was under the impression that because I used an ice cream cone emoji I had consented to bathroom-at-bar-sex . I was like “hell no” and he looked at me like I told him I was a flat earther

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