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Girlfriend Fakes Strawberry Allergy, Guy Finds Out It Was Just Preference And Is Beyond Livid
Sometimes, when we want to have successful relationships with other people, we have to sacrifice something, make compromises, and try to work together. After all, relationships are like a two-way street that requires people to meet each other in the middle as much as possible, if they want it to work.
In the OP’s case, they had to sacrifice their most beloved comfort food — strawberries, after learning that their girlfriend is allergic to them. The problem arose when, 2 years later, they found out that the tale about the allergy wasn’t very close to the truth.
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For the entirety of their life, the post’s author had a comfort food — strawberries
Image credits: Alexander Grey / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
When they started dating their girlfriend, they gave up eating the berries completely, as she was allergic to them
Image credits: Eve Lyn / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
For 2 years they never gave into cravings for their favorite food, just to keep their significant other safe
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Then, one day they learned that she wasn’t actually allergic — she simply didn’t like the taste of them and came up with a lie that would prevent her partner from eating them also
The OP has always loved strawberries. And it was not a simple preference for them – they were basically obsessed, as they described it as “one of the few foods I both loved and could rely on when I was anxious and struggling to eat.” So, it was a big deal in their life.
Then, around 2 years ago, when they started dating their girlfriend, she told them that she’s allergic to these berries. She even went on to say that a mere kiss from OP after eating them could pose an actual physical risk to her.
She didn’t specify what kind of allergic reaction her being near him after he ate strawberries would cause, but it was implied that it wouldn’t be nice. Typically, food allergies manifest with tingling in the mouth, swelling of the lips, throat, and face, hives, and, of course, the worst case scenario, anaphylaxis.
The latter is when an immune system releases chemicals that force a body into a state of shock, weak pulse, skin rash, nausea, and vomiting, to the extent that it can be fatal if not treated right and quickly enough.
So as to not to risk any of that, the OP decided to cut the strawberries out completely. Not only them, but anything with their flavor, just to be safe. As they said, “When someone says they have an allergy, you take that seriously.”
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Now, 2 full years later, the author found out that their girlfriend isn’t actually allergic to strawberries at all. Turns out, she simply doesn’t like their taste, so she came up with a lie about an allergy just to make sure that the partner hadn’t eaten them before they kissed, so she didn’t have to taste them. Quite a bizarre lie, isn’t it?
Well, the original poster thought so, too. What makes the situation so bad in their eyes is the fact that she knew how big a sacrifice giving up strawberries was for him, and she still kept up the lie for years. And there wasn’t any proper reasoning behind it, just a simple dislike of them.
Just like us and the OP, netizens thought this lie was rather disturbing too. They were shocked that she kept up this lie for so long and pointed out that this might be a sign that it isn’t the only thing she’s keeping from him. Basically, this whole incident just sets up a path for trust issues in a relationship.
If not dealt with, trust issues can be so harmful to a relationship that they can end it. When one’s trust is violated with such a lie, like in this story, a person might have a hard time believing other things their partner says. Even if mistrust isn’t based on reality, it can strain the relationship and eventually lead to its downfall. In fact, lack of trust is named as one of the most common reasons why couples end up splitting.
So, we can only hope that this couple will manage to go through this bump in their road. Or maybe, if it’s not too cynical, they will realize that they’re not meant to be together and will find their way to people who won’t lie to them about such important things as allergies. At least the OP deserves that, for sure.
This made the person spiral in terms of how selfish her move was, and netizens couldn’t agree more
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Lila Allen 7 months ago
In law enforcement there is a rule of thumb...little lie/big lie. What it means is if they lie about stuff they don't need to, there is a very good chance they are lying about other stuff too.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
As someone who is both a compulsive liar and habitual liar, this is 100% true. I know it is, because it's what I do. It started as a self-defense/protection mechanism in my childhood (my mother was horrendously abus!ve to me in all ways one can abúse a child) so I learned early on to lie to her and say what she wanted to hear/what she wanted me to say. It unfortunately became an ingrained habit/life pattern that I still struggle with today. (Weirdly, I'm way less likely to lie to people online; I'm very open about myself and my struggles online. But IRL/with people who are close to me, I lie as a defense mechanism/to "protect" myself.) For example, if my now-ex asked me if I'd ever heard xyz song, I would say "Yes!" because in my mind, I didn't want to make him angry/disappointed that I'd never heard it. (It's illogical, I know.) If OP's gf lies about a food allergy (which, IMO, is a WAY more serious lie than "yes, I've heard that song!") then she is ABSOLUTELY lying about other stuff.
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Ace 7 months ago (edited)
There were a number of things that my wife ate that could make me feel nauseous, notably Marmite (yeast extract), which she sometime forgot about and e.g. left the jar open, or even just a knife not washed or put in the dishwasher, which would annoy me but was genuinely accidental, but I could never have asked her to give up completely. Similarly the smell of fish was something she hated, so I never cooked it even for myself expect when she was away ut would often eat it when we went out. It's not difficult to manage and simply compromise. Claiming an allergy is ultimately selfish, even narcissistic, and definitely a sign that she really doesn't give a flying fsk about his feelings. What's odd is that he doesn't mention anything else; I would expect other aspects of their relationship to mirror this, even if only in small ways.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
It’d be a dealbreaker for me if I couldn’t have the foods I love. If someone told me sushi would k**l them, I’d tell ‘em they’d need to get away from me, then, because I eat sooo little food that to take the foods away I love most would mean I’d come close to dying, if not outright dying. And if I found out someone had lied about it? I can’t even find the words for what it’d mean. Grrr. This girl sounds truly AWFUL.
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A girl 7 months ago (edited)
My mom told us she was allergic to cats. She wasn't allergic. She just didn't like cats. After I moved out, I had 8. I'm down to just one really hairy dog now.
Lee Gilliland 7 months ago (edited)
My dad disliked cats, too, although he was enough of a man he did I try the allergy rout. All three of us girls had cats, and my mother had cats. The funny part was after my parents divorced, he married a lovely lady with acat, and it was a take-all-of-me situation. So everybody had cats.
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Lila Allen 7 months ago
In law enforcement there is a rule of thumb...little lie/big lie. What it means is if they lie about stuff they don't need to, there is a very good chance they are lying about other stuff too.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
As someone who is both a compulsive liar and habitual liar, this is 100% true. I know it is, because it's what I do. It started as a self-defense/protection mechanism in my childhood (my mother was horrendously abus!ve to me in all ways one can abúse a child) so I learned early on to lie to her and say what she wanted to hear/what she wanted me to say. It unfortunately became an ingrained habit/life pattern that I still struggle with today. (Weirdly, I'm way less likely to lie to people online; I'm very open about myself and my struggles online. But IRL/with people who are close to me, I lie as a defense mechanism/to "protect" myself.) For example, if my now-ex asked me if I'd ever heard xyz song, I would say "Yes!" because in my mind, I didn't want to make him angry/disappointed that I'd never heard it. (It's illogical, I know.) If OP's gf lies about a food allergy (which, IMO, is a WAY more serious lie than "yes, I've heard that song!") then she is ABSOLUTELY lying about other stuff.
Load More Replies... Ace 7 months ago (edited)
There were a number of things that my wife ate that could make me feel nauseous, notably Marmite (yeast extract), which she sometime forgot about and e.g. left the jar open, or even just a knife not washed or put in the dishwasher, which would annoy me but was genuinely accidental, but I could never have asked her to give up completely. Similarly the smell of fish was something she hated, so I never cooked it even for myself expect when she was away ut would often eat it when we went out. It's not difficult to manage and simply compromise. Claiming an allergy is ultimately selfish, even narcissistic, and definitely a sign that she really doesn't give a flying fsk about his feelings. What's odd is that he doesn't mention anything else; I would expect other aspects of their relationship to mirror this, even if only in small ways.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
It’d be a dealbreaker for me if I couldn’t have the foods I love. If someone told me sushi would k**l them, I’d tell ‘em they’d need to get away from me, then, because I eat sooo little food that to take the foods away I love most would mean I’d come close to dying, if not outright dying. And if I found out someone had lied about it? I can’t even find the words for what it’d mean. Grrr. This girl sounds truly AWFUL.
Load More Replies... A girl 7 months ago (edited)
My mom told us she was allergic to cats. She wasn't allergic. She just didn't like cats. After I moved out, I had 8. I'm down to just one really hairy dog now.
Lee Gilliland 7 months ago (edited)
My dad disliked cats, too, although he was enough of a man he did I try the allergy rout. All three of us girls had cats, and my mother had cats. The funny part was after my parents divorced, he married a lovely lady with acat, and it was a take-all-of-me situation. So everybody had cats.
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