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Man Prepares For Another Party Ruined By Wife’s Know-It-All Friend, Considers Speaking Up
Hosting a party is a lot of fun, but it’s also a big responsibility, as it involves bringing many people together whose personalities and ideologies may be different. Sometimes, a rude guest can ruin the vibe of the event just with their behavior, which is why hosts need to be vigilant.
This is exactly what a man was struggling with since his wife had planned to host a dinner party, and he knew that one of the guests would be extremely obnoxious. He felt stuck between keeping the peace and subduing the entitled guest.
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Every host worries about entertaining their visitors and making sure the party is running smoothly
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The poster shared that one of the dads from his kid’s swim team is a professor who’s extremely arrogant and spouts nonsense with complete confidence
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Since the poster had been a victim of the pseudo-intellectual professor before, he felt anxious about the man coming over for their dinner party
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The poster wanted his wife’s event to be successful and wondered if he should ignore the professor or confront the guy head-on
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When the host’s husband asked for advice online, most people told him to let the professor be so that he could make a mess of things himself
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The poster later told folks that the professor and his wife left the party first, after a racist comment of his was shut down by a mixed-race guest
The OP made it clear right at the start that since he’s introverted, he doesn’t enjoy having many people over, but since his wife likes entertaining, he goes along with it. The only thing that’s been tough to deal with is a guest who’s a professor that keeps lecturing people and forcing his unwanted opinions on them.
Dealing with rude house visitors like this is definitely tiresome, and studies have found that nearly 37% of hosts have dealt with a bad houseguest at some point. Even though it might be difficult to stop someone from behaving badly at a party or an event, their actions can be managed by gentle redirection or a calm conversation.
With stubborn and pretentious guests like the professor, it’s harder to figure out how to keep them under control. The OP felt anxious because of that and knew that the obnoxious man’s way of talking might annoy other guests or make them feel uncomfortable, which would then ruin his wife’s event.
When it comes to hosting parties like this, it’s important for the party-giver to do their best to make it an enjoyable experience for everyone. Expert hosts share that if annoying or rude guests are to be expected, it’s best to communicate this beforehand with everyone else who’s invited so as to avoid unwanted surprises.
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The poster didn’t know how to handle the annoying professor, which is why he asked folks online for their advice. Most people told him to stay in his lane and let the other man say whatever he wanted so that people would realize on their own how tiresome he was to be around.
This actually worked quite well because, as the OP updated later, nobody was paying attention to the professor. Since they were ignoring him so much, he tried to provoke people with his comments, which didn’t go down well at all. Especially as he tried to tell a mixed-race woman that she didn’t understand the complexities of race like he did.
This is exactly why psychologists state that when a houseguest turns out to be rude, it’s best to observe them without any judgment and avoid controlling them. This will save you from a lot of stress and allow them to face the consequences of their actions.
The poster was glad that he did just that, because the professor felt so uncomfortable when someone else confronted him that he and his wife left the party early. This relieved the OP of his stress and allowed him to relax and enjoy his video games.
How would you have handled a pretentious guest like this? Do share your thoughts and whether you’ve ever been in a situation like this.
Folks were shocked by the professor’s behavior and were glad that he got what he deserved
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Earonn - 3 months ago
One of the regulars of one of my pubs was a Nobel Prize laureate. I didn't know when I met him for the first time, I was just standing at the bar, nursing my pint, and he came to order for his group. While he waited, we chatted as one does in pubs. Lovely elderly guy. The bar manager told me afterwards because she knows about my interest in science. Ever since when anyone tries to be uppity with their "knowledge" I bring up that guy "If a Nobel Prize laureate can be polite and modest, then you have no reason to behave like this".
KatSaidWhat 2 months ago
I worked for an HPB surgeon and got chatting to a patient while he was waiting to see him. It was an interesting discussion and he came in a couple more times. The last time he came in, he gave me an signed, illustrated book. That man was Felix Pirani. RIP.
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Luke Branwen 3 months ago
Can't imagine a worse nightmare than being trapped on a party with freakin' Jordan Peterson.
Max Fox 2 months ago
I would like to point out that the caricature that the OP invented sounds nothing like Jorden Peterson. Again, I know many academic a44holoes (like Peterson), and they do not talk like the OP's invention. Hell, the OP just had to watch a Peterson blather or two and they would have done a better job inventing an academic b******d.
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Kate Johnson 3 months ago
Tell your wife that you've done all you're going to do to accommodate her extroversion and now it's her turn to be considerate of your needs. If she can't do that, next time she invites them over, have other plans.
Paul C 3 months ago
I'm concerned as to why OP's wife would invite someone who she knew OP clearly doesn't want to share social time with. That's a massive wife issue. If the sexes were reversed, would people not condemn it?
Crystalwitch60 1 month ago
As a woman , no matter what I’m NOT having inhuman things like him in MY HOUSE !! No one talks down to me anymore, I loath it it’s arrogant ignorant, and shows the person up to be a all round nasty pos , I’m done with them in my life at 60 ,this thing sounds insufferable!, n needs putting back in his bloody box n locking it n throwing key away eugh , im also an introvert, cant be around people , bar my kids tbh ( being an empath,hell imagine having to be in a room with THAT n being able to feel his emotions n feelings HELL NO ) his wife needs to get a grip don’t she
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Tabitha 3 months ago
There is nothing more tiring than dealing with someone who is being pedantic about subjects they know little to nothing about. Even worse when they b**t into conversations they aren’t part of and aren’t wanted.
Uncle Panda 3 months ago
Time to let some air out with a game of pin the tail on the donkey - "What kind of insecurity drives you to propound on things you know nothing about?" Keep asking for current citations, etc. "You have a PhD in one thing, what does that have to do with this topic?"
Tyranamar Seuss 3 months ago
I like the idea of asking him for citations. But he'll probably come up with some from some God forsaken hole in the internet.
Load More Replies... Max Fox 2 months ago
Sorry, but it's made up. Likely by somebody with a chip on their shoulder. To begin with, if that Bad Guy was a sociology professor, he would be using jargon terms that are widely used in the field. "animal flesh corporate complex."was invented by the OP, and mentioned nowhere else in writing. Second, "research the human condition as a impartial observer." sounds exactly like what a person would write if they knew nothing about academia except what they saw on TV or on films. I wrote as somebody who has spent four decades as an academic, and was also a campus brat as a kid. I know exactly how the biggest a$$holes professors talk, and that isn't it. It is a typical ploy and post by people who are trying to prove that they Smart Even Though They Don't Have A University Education.
Lee Gilliland 2 months ago
I think youmight be a fan of _Cats in the Belfrey_?
Load More Replies... Janet C 2 months ago
Ask people like that a WHY question. Force them to explain what they said. WHY do you believe you are an expert on that since your expertise is X? WHY would you say something like that to a woman of mixed race? WHY would you say something like that after you yourself attended a professional sporting event just last night? Toss the ball back in their court.
Earonn - 3 months ago
One of the regulars of one of my pubs was a Nobel Prize laureate. I didn't know when I met him for the first time, I was just standing at the bar, nursing my pint, and he came to order for his group. While he waited, we chatted as one does in pubs. Lovely elderly guy. The bar manager told me afterwards because she knows about my interest in science. Ever since when anyone tries to be uppity with their "knowledge" I bring up that guy "If a Nobel Prize laureate can be polite and modest, then you have no reason to behave like this".
KatSaidWhat 2 months ago
I worked for an HPB surgeon and got chatting to a patient while he was waiting to see him. It was an interesting discussion and he came in a couple more times. The last time he came in, he gave me an signed, illustrated book. That man was Felix Pirani. RIP.
Load More Replies... Luke Branwen 3 months ago
Can't imagine a worse nightmare than being trapped on a party with freakin' Jordan Peterson.
Max Fox 2 months ago
I would like to point out that the caricature that the OP invented sounds nothing like Jorden Peterson. Again, I know many academic a44holoes (like Peterson), and they do not talk like the OP's invention. Hell, the OP just had to watch a Peterson blather or two and they would have done a better job inventing an academic b******d.
Load More Replies... Kate Johnson 3 months ago
Tell your wife that you've done all you're going to do to accommodate her extroversion and now it's her turn to be considerate of your needs. If she can't do that, next time she invites them over, have other plans.
Paul C 3 months ago
I'm concerned as to why OP's wife would invite someone who she knew OP clearly doesn't want to share social time with. That's a massive wife issue. If the sexes were reversed, would people not condemn it?
Crystalwitch60 1 month ago
As a woman , no matter what I’m NOT having inhuman things like him in MY HOUSE !! No one talks down to me anymore, I loath it it’s arrogant ignorant, and shows the person up to be a all round nasty pos , I’m done with them in my life at 60 ,this thing sounds insufferable!, n needs putting back in his bloody box n locking it n throwing key away eugh , im also an introvert, cant be around people , bar my kids tbh ( being an empath,hell imagine having to be in a room with THAT n being able to feel his emotions n feelings HELL NO ) his wife needs to get a grip don’t she
Load More Replies... Tabitha 3 months ago
There is nothing more tiring than dealing with someone who is being pedantic about subjects they know little to nothing about. Even worse when they b**t into conversations they aren’t part of and aren’t wanted.
Uncle Panda 3 months ago
Time to let some air out with a game of pin the tail on the donkey - "What kind of insecurity drives you to propound on things you know nothing about?" Keep asking for current citations, etc. "You have a PhD in one thing, what does that have to do with this topic?"
Tyranamar Seuss 3 months ago
I like the idea of asking him for citations. But he'll probably come up with some from some God forsaken hole in the internet.
Load More Replies... Max Fox 2 months ago
Sorry, but it's made up. Likely by somebody with a chip on their shoulder. To begin with, if that Bad Guy was a sociology professor, he would be using jargon terms that are widely used in the field. "animal flesh corporate complex."was invented by the OP, and mentioned nowhere else in writing. Second, "research the human condition as a impartial observer." sounds exactly like what a person would write if they knew nothing about academia except what they saw on TV or on films. I wrote as somebody who has spent four decades as an academic, and was also a campus brat as a kid. I know exactly how the biggest a$$holes professors talk, and that isn't it. It is a typical ploy and post by people who are trying to prove that they Smart Even Though They Don't Have A University Education.
Lee Gilliland 2 months ago
I think youmight be a fan of _Cats in the Belfrey_?
Load More Replies... Janet C 2 months ago
Ask people like that a WHY question. Force them to explain what they said. WHY do you believe you are an expert on that since your expertise is X? WHY would you say something like that to a woman of mixed race? WHY would you say something like that after you yourself attended a professional sporting event just last night? Toss the ball back in their court.
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