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As we have said more than once, a wedding is one of the most important days in the life of any person, and any wedding consists of a whole set of traditional elements that we are actually so used to that we don’t even notice.

White bridesmaid dress, 'something borrowed, something new', walking down the aisle with beautiful classical music, exchanging rings, kissing at the altar, changing of the bride's last name, honeymoon trip... Wait, let's go back one step - just the tradition of taking a husband's last name today is gradually fading into the past. Or not?

Image credits: @_MercyFul

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hitex
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, same here. Not letting someone else name rename my law practice

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    hitex
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a practicing attorney before I married, I get this. My business is my name. I can't just change my name and expect everyone to know it's the same business.

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    It all started with this tweet from user @_MercyFul, as she wondered why women today refuse to take their husband's last name after marriage. The thread went viral with women coming up with various reasonings, from totally comical to completely logical and justified. So please feel free to read a selection of the most interesting opinions thoroughly collected by Bored Panda especially for you.

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    Antonia
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    just that. (And when I got divorced I didn't have to change my name back for the whole world to know)

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    Historically, the tradition in which a woman takes her husband's last name after marriage comes from an ancient patriarchal society, when the wife actually left her own family after the wedding, joining the husband's extended family. Today, of course, this is not the case, but the tradition still persists.

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    And still, there are exceptions - for example, in Greece since 1983, according to the law, a woman retains her maiden name throughout her life. Or in Spain, where every child born receives two last names - the first is the name of the father, and the second is the mother's. However, local activists are also deeply concerned that this rule de facto downplays the role of the maternal last name.

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    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m adopted, and this would be my reasoning! I loved my adopted father and I’m proud to call myself by his last name. It’s something that he absolutely chose to give me (by choosing to adopt me) and I’m grateful.

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    Bored Seb
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's a patriarcal tradition that needs to die.

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    hitex
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you ever get divorced, then you'll have to do all of it again to change it back. Many women choose not to change it back just bc of having to go thru the same hassle all over again

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    According to a 2015 study, approximately 70% of American women take their husband's last name after changing their marital status. A year later, a similar survey among British women showed almost 90%. Looks pretty strange, doesn't it? "What is it - a harmless tradition or something that has crept into our world from the past?" asks Simon Duncan, professor at the University of Bradford, in his 2019 study.

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    Nikole
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, there should be no transference of “ownership”… Fathers giving their daughters away in weddings is so icky too.

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    Libstak
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That should be good enough as a reason except my nephew in law changed his name to my nieces surname because he didn't want his children known by his pedophile fathers surname.

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    "Some men still insist on this - a kind of echo of the patriarchal tradition of the past," Professor Duncan emphasizes. "And some women do not mind, taking it for granted, they say that they dream of becoming 'Mrs. So-and-so' by changing their identity". The researcher goes further, calling what's happening now 'pretty dangerous,' whether the couple is deliberately sticking to an old tradition or just doing it 'as is customary.'

    And so this collection, as we do think, will be of interest to both women and men. If you started thinking about the reasons for the emergence and development of such traditions in the contemporary world, then this list was definitely not in vain. So please feel free to scroll it to the very end and maybe add your own reasoning for keeping your own name after leaving the altar.

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    hitex
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My child has my husband's last name. No qualms there. I have to clarify often that her dad & I are married but I'm a divorce attorney so that's a non issue for me.

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    N Miller
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. I took the surname my husband now uses, but it's his mother's maiden name, not his father's. So, I guess we both changed our names, just to the same thing. Couldn't really do it the other way round because then he would have been (not the real names) Lewis Lewis...

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    the cat overlord
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it says her last name is power, i don't blame her for keeping it!

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    Lollipop Girl
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hi, Mrs. My History, I'm Lollipop Girl (bad dad joke, I'm sorry)

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    Chantel Dvorak
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have a friend who is madly in love with his wife after 25 years and introduces his wife as his "first wife". She laughs at people's reactions. They were meant for each other.

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    Sarcastic person they/them
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s a real thing, men don’t own women. so there’s no reason for women to take men’s names unless they want to.

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    hitex
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And my name is easier to pronounce and spell than his too! Believe it or not, new clients care about little things like being able to easily pronounce who they will ge doing business with over time.

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    Cara
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I took his surname as it was nicer than mine. Now I’m divorcing the kn@bwomble, I can’t decide what to do. Cara Panda maybe?

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    that sapio planet (he/him)
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one? If I get married, I'm instantly combining my surname with my wife's. Length isn't as big as an issue as what she's saying.

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    Feathered Dinosaur
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope her name is a part of her, and not apart from her

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