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Mom Refuses To Pay Babysitter An Extra $10 For ‘Crisis Pay’, So He Refuses To Babysit
Mom Refuses To Pay Babysitter An Extra $10 For ‘Crisis Pay’, So He Refuses To Babysit
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Mom Refuses To Pay Babysitter An Extra $10 For ‘Crisis Pay’, So He Refuses To Babysit

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Babysitting is a tough of line work to be in. On the one hand, it can be an extremely fulfilling job that gives you a lot of experience on how best to deal with kids and parents alike. On the other hand, it can be extremely frustrating. Especially when you don’t get paid what you rightfully deserve.

Redditor u/InfinitelyFig, a teenage babysitter, shared how he was stiffed and refused to help his neighbor out with her kids anymore until she paid him the $10 he was owed. You see, they’d agreed that he’d get the extra ‘crisis pay’ if he ever needed to call an emergency number, which is exactly what happened. The teen turned to the AITA community for some advice. Scroll down for the full story and how the internet reacted to it.

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    It’s absolutely essential that parents and babysitters are on the same page when it comes to pay

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    A teenager shared how they refused to babysit his neighbor’s kids anymore because he got stiffed the last time he worked

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    Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

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    The sitter and the mom both stuck to their version of things

    Neither the teenager nor his neighbor wants to back down. The crux of the issue seems to be the $10 that the woman owes the OP. She was an hour and a half late to return one time that he was babysitting her kids. And it appears that they had an agreement for exactly this sort of situation: if the redditor has to call an emergency number (in this case, the woman’s sister), he gets $10 extra dollars because it’s a crisis situation.

    However, the woman argues that she simply got lost and it wasn’t a real emergency, so the entire situation doesn’t qualify for extra crisis pay. And yet… here we are.

    From our perspective, it’s unfair to suggest that the teenager earns enough for babysitting as it is. The exact amount of money earned or owed isn’t the issue here. It could be 10 cents or $1,000—what matters is the principle. If there’s an agreement, you have to follow through. There has to be clarity. Otherwise, you can’t have any trust. And why should anyone choose to help you out with nannying the kids if they feel like they’re not being compensated fairly for their time?

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    There are many factors that determine how much a babysitter gets paid

    However, if the agreement is unclear or open to interpretation, situations like this one are the perfect opportunity to change them so everyone’s on the same page. A friendly chat about the rules going forward is the best way to navigate these sorts of emotionally messy situations. Calling the babysitter you rely on ‘entitled’ when you need a break from parenting isn’t going to win you many friends. It’s best to take a step back and think how you’d treat any other babysitter, for instance, if they were a grownup and not from your local area. Everyone deserves courtesy and respect, so long as they respond the same way.

    The pay you receive for working as a nanny will depend on a very wide range of variables. For instance, if you’re a seasoned professional with several degrees in child psychology and work with a reputable company, your rates are obviously going to be far higher than if you’re a teenager saving up for a new bike. Where you live and what the demand for babysitters is like in your local area will also affect your pay.

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    A lot also depends on what you manage to personally negotiate and how involved you’re expected to be while looking after the munchkins: whether it’s just keeping an eye on them and microwaving some food or if you’re asked to cook dinner from scratch, tidy up the home, and make sure the adorable little angels finish their homework.

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    Pay also depends on what city you’re living in

    According to a study conducted by Urbansitter, the average hourly rate for a babysitter in the United States in 2022 was $20.57 for one child and $23.25 for two children. ‘Today’ reports that the most expensive babysitters were to be found in New York City, where their average rate was $23.45 per hour for looking after one kid, and slightly higher—$24.77—for two munchkins.

    However, if you happen to live in San Antonio, Texas, babysitters average just $12.70 per hour for one child and $15.66 for two kids. Some parents have found creative ways to reduce their costs. For instance, a couple might decide to team up with their friends so that a single person takes care of both families’ kids.

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    ‘Today’ explains that some other cost-saving measures include couples going out on weekdays because babysitters’ rates are going to be lower than on Friday or Saturday evenings. Meanwhile, sitters are also more likely to accept lower pay the less they have to do at home. For example, if the kids are fed, bathed, and ready for bed by the time they arrive, the parents won’t have to pay as much as when the nanny has to do everything themselves.

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    The teenage babysitter shared a bit more context in the comments

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    Most people were on the sitter’s side. Here’s what they thought about the entire situation

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

    Writer, Senior Writer

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

    Writer, Senior Writer

    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's weird that their mom and the lady with the kids are calling them 'entitled'. Because they expect to be paid based on the parameters agreed to? If anyone is entitled it's that lady for expecting them to babysit despite not paying what's owed.

    Marnie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. If the lady with the kids didn't like that her words were taken verbatim, she should have paid the $10 and then added some nuance onto the agreement for next time.

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    CatLady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That mother doesn't respect her son very much if she lets him get ripped off. If she forces him to go back and keep babysitting without being properly paid, all she's doing is teaching him that he deserves to be taken advantage of. That's not a good way to move into adulthood.

    Rae Mo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree! Also, his mother's response makes me wonder if she's a single mom as well because she clearly gave what sounds like a single mom response instead of taking up for son.

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    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing that gets me, is that there was no text from Ann later that night apologising or at least to let him know she was ok, and then the next day at the door, again no apology (none mentioned anyway) for being late and worrying a teenager. Sometimes an apology can go a long way.

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Entitled people don’t even know how to apologize, nor would it occur to them to do so.

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    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's never a good lesson to teach your kids that getting less than agreed at work is fine.

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s what I was thinking. If someone taught me to know my worth and value when I was younger, it would have saved me a lot of trouble dealing with employers that took advantage of my lack of self-confidence.

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    CaptainFluffy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we all just need to take a moment to appreciate her hilarious excuse for being late home. Sure she was stargazing…

    Ron Baza
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, she was lying on her back, so…

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    Weasel Wise
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A woman decides to make a few babies and then calls someone else's child "entitled" when they won't do favors for her. Did I sum that up correctly?

    Tanya Lee
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My worst babysitting experience: Sunday- my piano teacher calls me to see if I can babysit her 3 kids for a few hours (ages 8, 5, and 2). She and her husband needed to make a trip to the nearby city to purchase some things. I start babysitting at 3pm. They said they would be home no later than 7pm. 7 comes and goes and no word from them. I put the kids to bed. A little after 8pm I try calling their cellphone numbers- no answer. The hours keep going by and I can't get ahold of them. I'm wondering if I need to call the cops. They don't come home until 2:30am. The mom "apologizes" and says they just got to talking over dinner and lost track of time (calling bs on that one). The dad drives me home and then only gives me a $20 bill. I'm shocked and visually upset. I just babysat their 3 kids for almost 12 hours and he wants to give me only $20. He sees my face and says "oh sorry that's all the cash I have on me right now" Found a new piano teacher after that and no more babysitting.

    Gardener of Weeden
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should have called police, when they did not answer. Your parents were ok with this?

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    Markus He/It/E/Cloud/Ti
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As far as the babysitter knew, Ann could've been in an accident and died in that countryside trip. How were they supposed to know? With their psychic powers?

    MR
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What does the difficulty in being a single mother have to do with being considerate of the person watching your kids? And of course they're "entitled." They're entitled to the agreed upon money as part of the agreement you made. You pay bargain basement rates for babysitting and when you disappeared, OP had no clue what happened to you. It was an emergency enough that your own sister showed up to watch over the kids trying to get ahold of you. Hell, you were gone until midnight. Well AFTER the agreed upon time. That is an emergency. Once that could get the cops called.

    Rachel Ann
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're right. The babysitter was well within her rights to call the cops. That would have made it an emergency, wouldn't it?

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    WonderWoman
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP should as many pointed out, be charging a lot more. And I think it is fabulous that OP stuck to their guns and said pay me as we agreed or no more. Shame on OPs mother - she should be supporting their child, although she is the one who lowballed the amount OP charges.

    Ken Beattie
    Community Member
    2 years ago

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    Is it low compared to professional (taxable) baby sitting or low compared to what other kids would be paid? Assuming the kids are good (and there was nothing in the post to indicate otherwise) $8.50 an hour could be a cruisy job and (relatively) easy money. While McD's might pay more it's definitely not a cruisy job.

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's weird that their mom and the lady with the kids are calling them 'entitled'. Because they expect to be paid based on the parameters agreed to? If anyone is entitled it's that lady for expecting them to babysit despite not paying what's owed.

    Marnie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. If the lady with the kids didn't like that her words were taken verbatim, she should have paid the $10 and then added some nuance onto the agreement for next time.

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    CatLady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That mother doesn't respect her son very much if she lets him get ripped off. If she forces him to go back and keep babysitting without being properly paid, all she's doing is teaching him that he deserves to be taken advantage of. That's not a good way to move into adulthood.

    Rae Mo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree! Also, his mother's response makes me wonder if she's a single mom as well because she clearly gave what sounds like a single mom response instead of taking up for son.

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    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing that gets me, is that there was no text from Ann later that night apologising or at least to let him know she was ok, and then the next day at the door, again no apology (none mentioned anyway) for being late and worrying a teenager. Sometimes an apology can go a long way.

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Entitled people don’t even know how to apologize, nor would it occur to them to do so.

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    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's never a good lesson to teach your kids that getting less than agreed at work is fine.

    Marilyn Russell
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s what I was thinking. If someone taught me to know my worth and value when I was younger, it would have saved me a lot of trouble dealing with employers that took advantage of my lack of self-confidence.

    Load More Replies...
    CaptainFluffy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we all just need to take a moment to appreciate her hilarious excuse for being late home. Sure she was stargazing…

    Ron Baza
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, she was lying on her back, so…

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    Weasel Wise
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A woman decides to make a few babies and then calls someone else's child "entitled" when they won't do favors for her. Did I sum that up correctly?

    Tanya Lee
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My worst babysitting experience: Sunday- my piano teacher calls me to see if I can babysit her 3 kids for a few hours (ages 8, 5, and 2). She and her husband needed to make a trip to the nearby city to purchase some things. I start babysitting at 3pm. They said they would be home no later than 7pm. 7 comes and goes and no word from them. I put the kids to bed. A little after 8pm I try calling their cellphone numbers- no answer. The hours keep going by and I can't get ahold of them. I'm wondering if I need to call the cops. They don't come home until 2:30am. The mom "apologizes" and says they just got to talking over dinner and lost track of time (calling bs on that one). The dad drives me home and then only gives me a $20 bill. I'm shocked and visually upset. I just babysat their 3 kids for almost 12 hours and he wants to give me only $20. He sees my face and says "oh sorry that's all the cash I have on me right now" Found a new piano teacher after that and no more babysitting.

    Gardener of Weeden
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should have called police, when they did not answer. Your parents were ok with this?

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    Markus He/It/E/Cloud/Ti
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As far as the babysitter knew, Ann could've been in an accident and died in that countryside trip. How were they supposed to know? With their psychic powers?

    MR
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What does the difficulty in being a single mother have to do with being considerate of the person watching your kids? And of course they're "entitled." They're entitled to the agreed upon money as part of the agreement you made. You pay bargain basement rates for babysitting and when you disappeared, OP had no clue what happened to you. It was an emergency enough that your own sister showed up to watch over the kids trying to get ahold of you. Hell, you were gone until midnight. Well AFTER the agreed upon time. That is an emergency. Once that could get the cops called.

    Rachel Ann
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're right. The babysitter was well within her rights to call the cops. That would have made it an emergency, wouldn't it?

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    WonderWoman
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP should as many pointed out, be charging a lot more. And I think it is fabulous that OP stuck to their guns and said pay me as we agreed or no more. Shame on OPs mother - she should be supporting their child, although she is the one who lowballed the amount OP charges.

    Ken Beattie
    Community Member
    2 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    Is it low compared to professional (taxable) baby sitting or low compared to what other kids would be paid? Assuming the kids are good (and there was nothing in the post to indicate otherwise) $8.50 an hour could be a cruisy job and (relatively) easy money. While McD's might pay more it's definitely not a cruisy job.

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