Gender Reveal Party Turns Sour After In-Laws Claim Their Son Has More Rights To Name The Baby “Since He Is The Real Dad”
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Recently, Reddit user Papa_in-waiting1762 has taken it to the AITA community to ask people for advice after he got into a heated argument with his parents-in-law.
The author and his husband have been married for over 5 years, and already have a 3-year-old adopted daughter. However, this past year they decided to start a journey via surrogacy. “Since I have a low sperm count, it is my husband’s sperm and an egg donor (a friend of ours),” Papa_in-waiting1762 wrote in a post that caused quite a stir on the community.
But during the gender reveal party, things did not go quite as planned. Turns out, the parents-in-law insisted on picking a name for the baby and were not happy to hear the author had already done it. What followed turned into a nasty conflict that ruined the vibe and divided the family.
Recently, this dad shared how his parents-in-law told him he has no right in deciding the name for his own baby since “he isn’t a biological dad”
Image credits: Felipe Salgado (not the actual photo)
This is the whole post that the dad wrote on the AITA community, wondering if he hasn’t overreacted
Later, the author provided some more context about the whole situation
And this is how people reacted to the story
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I'd be worried for their daughter too. Since she was adopted and this new baby is a blood relative, grandma might not consider her as a "real" grandkid.
My first thought too, she might get sidelined now.
Disenfranchisement is real.
Wait I thought it was a boy (not to be rude or anything)
they already adopted a girl 3 years prior.
Ohhh lol I just re-read that part sorry
IM CONFUSED I THOUGHT HER HUSBAND WAS THE BIO DAD AND ONLY THE SURROGATES EGG AND WOMB WAS USED ?? DID I GET IT WRONG
Two men. The first child was adopted, and he said they used the husband sperm and a friend's egg for the surrogacy.
They already have a 3 year old daughter that they adopted, the second child will be the surrogate.
I think it's two dads in this story.
Yes, it says so at the beginning that both he and his partner are male.
It wasn't just the mother in law. The father in law was just as horrible too. They're both awful. Those two men are their children's parents. PERIOD.
Some folks don't even have a firm name till the birth is closer. With our first baby, we didn't have one till 2 weeks before he was born, and it was between hubby and me, period! our second child was between 2 names, one reflected a redhead and if blonde was a different one ( had the redhead). Either way, the grandparents/aunts or uncles could only agree or disagree but not offer any of their opinions. Bottom line, parents name their children, it's an A and B discussion and everyone can C themselves out of it.
Yeah, my parents didn’t have a name until the day before I was born. Tbf, they expected me to come out 2 days later, so they thought they would have 3 days instead of 1, but still. BABY NAMES ARE IMPORTANT, FOLKS! TAKE YOUR TIME!!!
oh noes, their behavior had consequences! So, by their thinking, this couple's daughter isn't their REAL daughter b/c she was adopted. Will they only treat this coming child as their REAL grandchild b/c blood?
I'd be worried for their daughter too. Since she was adopted and this new baby is a blood relative, grandma might not consider her as a "real" grandkid.
My first thought too, she might get sidelined now.
Disenfranchisement is real.
Wait I thought it was a boy (not to be rude or anything)
they already adopted a girl 3 years prior.
Ohhh lol I just re-read that part sorry
IM CONFUSED I THOUGHT HER HUSBAND WAS THE BIO DAD AND ONLY THE SURROGATES EGG AND WOMB WAS USED ?? DID I GET IT WRONG
Two men. The first child was adopted, and he said they used the husband sperm and a friend's egg for the surrogacy.
They already have a 3 year old daughter that they adopted, the second child will be the surrogate.
I think it's two dads in this story.
Yes, it says so at the beginning that both he and his partner are male.
It wasn't just the mother in law. The father in law was just as horrible too. They're both awful. Those two men are their children's parents. PERIOD.
Some folks don't even have a firm name till the birth is closer. With our first baby, we didn't have one till 2 weeks before he was born, and it was between hubby and me, period! our second child was between 2 names, one reflected a redhead and if blonde was a different one ( had the redhead). Either way, the grandparents/aunts or uncles could only agree or disagree but not offer any of their opinions. Bottom line, parents name their children, it's an A and B discussion and everyone can C themselves out of it.
Yeah, my parents didn’t have a name until the day before I was born. Tbf, they expected me to come out 2 days later, so they thought they would have 3 days instead of 1, but still. BABY NAMES ARE IMPORTANT, FOLKS! TAKE YOUR TIME!!!
oh noes, their behavior had consequences! So, by their thinking, this couple's daughter isn't their REAL daughter b/c she was adopted. Will they only treat this coming child as their REAL grandchild b/c blood?