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Woman’s Out-Of-Line Comments About Son’s Fiancée Cost Her Access To Ever Meet Grandson
Oftentimes, a new baby brings everyone closer. Meeting the newborn becomes a family reunion in itself, where the child’s parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles make a day out of it.
But if you’ve read enough stories on this site, it only takes one entitled relative to ruin everything. This is what happened to this family when a woman demanded to meet her new grandson after saying something unforgivable to her son’s fiancée.
She may never meet her grandchild after what she did, yet she still refuses to own up to it.
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She had always been antagonistic towards her son’s fiancée
The situation reached its boiling point when she demanded to see the newborn child at the hospital
A grandparent’s strong relationship with their grandchildren begins with their adult children
While grandparents play an integral role in their grandchild’s life, they are, in no way, entitled to a relationship, especially if they are not on good terms with the child’s parents.
Such deep-seated conflicts, much like what happened in the story, don’t build up overnight. They build through a series of small missteps that turn into a full-blown problem over time.
“By the time contact is reduced or lost, there’s often a long history beneath the surface,” writes licensed counselor and educator Suzanne Degges-White. “Unfortunately, grandparents may not always recognize when small tensions are building or when they’re beginning to put the relationship at risk.”
In her article, Degges-White pointed out that disrespecting their child’s role as a parent is one of the biggest reasons why grandparents end up being distanced. It’s when they undermine authority, even unintentionally, by stepping in or offering unsolicited advice.
Conflict can also arise with sons-in-law or daughters-in-law, often from criticisms like what the grandmother in the story showed.
Protecting one’s peace should be the top priority when dealing with toxic parents
Most toxic parents are unaware of the effect they have on their children. That means it’s highly unlikely they’ll change their ways, or at least recognize their toxicity.
When reparations may be impossible, taking drastic measures like going no contact may be necessary to protect one’s peace.
“The main thing is to remember that your life belongs to you and it is your responsibility to take good care of that life,” says licensed professional counselor Andrea Mathews. “Boundaries are not unkind—they are just more authentic than the old unhealthy patterns.”
The man’s decision to not have his mother see his newborn son was within his rights, and likely the better course of action here. And he could continue the same arrangement until his mother makes amends, especially with his wife.
Many readers sided with her son, with some suggesting going no contact with grandma
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Kate Johnson 1 day ago
I would say, "Your unhinged behavior has just proven to me that I do not want my child exposed to your toxic instability. You cannot be trusted to respect our boundaries or our relationship, so you will no longer be part of our lives. This is entirely due to YOUR behavior. You can lie all you want to the rest of the family, but we both know the truth here."
Binky Melnik 1 day ago
Absolutely, and I hope they cling tightly to the uncle who is 180° away from the horrific “mother.” I can’t imagine why the wife would even *entertain* being in her presence ever again unless the MiL has had years of INTENSIVE therapy. My god; she’s a caricature of evil!
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Chrystina Sumpter 1 day ago
A cautionary tale: When my friend got pregnant with her first child, she thought her children should have a grandfather so she let her father back into her life and the lives of her children. You will no doubt be shocked to discover that this was a mistake. She once again went NC, this time permanently. She discussed it with her children because she didn’t want to hurt them. Turns out that not only was he a c**p father, he was a c**p grandfather, so the kids didn’t care. I won’t go into detail about what this awful, evil man did because it’s not my story, but it is telling that at the time of his d***h, only one of his three children had any contact with him , and that child was literally brain damaged. The moral of the story is Don’t let awful people into your children’s lives.
Kate Johnson 1 day ago
I would say, "Your unhinged behavior has just proven to me that I do not want my child exposed to your toxic instability. You cannot be trusted to respect our boundaries or our relationship, so you will no longer be part of our lives. This is entirely due to YOUR behavior. You can lie all you want to the rest of the family, but we both know the truth here."
Binky Melnik 1 day ago
Absolutely, and I hope they cling tightly to the uncle who is 180° away from the horrific “mother.” I can’t imagine why the wife would even *entertain* being in her presence ever again unless the MiL has had years of INTENSIVE therapy. My god; she’s a caricature of evil!
Load More Replies... Chrystina Sumpter 1 day ago
A cautionary tale: When my friend got pregnant with her first child, she thought her children should have a grandfather so she let her father back into her life and the lives of her children. You will no doubt be shocked to discover that this was a mistake. She once again went NC, this time permanently. She discussed it with her children because she didn’t want to hurt them. Turns out that not only was he a c**p father, he was a c**p grandfather, so the kids didn’t care. I won’t go into detail about what this awful, evil man did because it’s not my story, but it is telling that at the time of his d***h, only one of his three children had any contact with him , and that child was literally brain damaged. The moral of the story is Don’t let awful people into your children’s lives.
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