Man Abandons Teen Son When He Finds Out He Is Not His Real Dad, Mad At Bro Who Says He Is Family

He actually could still be the father - two RH- parents can certainly have an RH+ child plus these would've been known during pregnancy because there would've been issues - dude's definitely TA for abandoning son but they really need a DNA test.

But, the uncle also needs to understand that this kid now represents the loss of an entire lifetime of "what ifs" and opportunities to his brother. If the man hadn't been baby trapped as a teen, he could have gone to college, and what would his life be now? If he had known his wife was cheating earlier, he wouldn't have had the additional kids and become even more trapped. It's not as simple as "I raised this kid-he's mine"--there's now this whole weight of "I made extreme and continual sacrifices for this kid that mean my life won't be what I wanted. Ever. And not only was I robbed, since it's not my kid, but the kid himself has turned out to be ungrateful and horrible, so I don't even get a consolation prize." The uncle is going to find himself without a brother (and probably a mother and sister) if he is not sensitive to his brother's feelings, which are real and valid, and hold just as much weight as the nephew's.

So I realised one thing is this post. And it's a pattern. No one gives a s**t about the man. It's always the kid. The man is also largely a victim. But it's always "suck it up". Just look at this one - man's world is falling apart, kid is an a*****e to him, and people are taking the kid's side. Man is expected to just move on with a snap of the fingers, feelings not validated. Even the OP, who is the brother is not on his side. It's sad. This is why men no longer date or marry. No matter what, we are f****d.