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“This Is Not A Driveway”: Woman Prepares A Boulder-Sized Reality Check For Jerk Neighbors
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“This Is Not A Driveway”: Woman Prepares A Boulder-Sized Reality Check For Jerk Neighbors

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There’s no creature more determined than a neighbor who insists on making your life miserable.

This Redditor found herself up against one of these specimens—people who saw no issue in treating her yard like a drive-thru, ignoring all boundaries as they shamelessly cut through to the main street time and time again.

But she wasn’t one to back down, and her response kicked off an ever-escalating standoff featuring warning signs, rocks, and even boulders, turning her fight for peace into a multi-part saga.

Read all about it below.

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    The woman found herself dealing with neighbors who treated her yard like a drive-thru

    Image credits: Getty Images / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

    So she fought back with every tactic she could think of

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    Image credits: A. Calvar. / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

    “I’m keeping my eyes out for larger rocks”

    Bored Panda reached out to the author of the story, u/mosterhout, to see if there were any updates in her ongoing battle.

    Unfortunately, the mystery of who’s been moving the rocks remains unsolved. But that hasn’t shaken her determination to handle things peacefully—something she’s been practicing since childhood.

    “I participated in peer mediation and the Second Steps programs when I was in elementary school and learned effective ways for resolving conflict,” she told Bored Panda. “When you live next to people, it seems like the best practice to try to fix the situation on your own until the other party has made that impossible.”

    Of course, that doesn’t mean she’s backing down. In the meantime, she’s keeping an eye out for larger rocks. Because if diplomacy fails, maybe a few more boulders will do the trick.

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    More than 60% of people have feuded with a neighbor at some point in their lives

    If you’ve been lucky enough to have great neighbors your whole life, count your blessings—you’re in the minority. A survey by real estate tech company Offerpad found that more than 60% of Americans have had some kind of dispute with a neighbor at some point in their lives.

    Thankfully, far fewer are currently dealing with ongoing “beef”—around 20%. But that still means one in five people are actively at odds with the folks next door. Unsurprisingly, many of these conflicts, like OP’s, stem from yard disputes or home exterior issues (45%). Other common reasons for tension include excessive noise (40%) and, interestingly, social media posts (28%).

    Feuding with a neighbor is one of the most frustrating situations to be in. These are the people you live next to, meaning you’ll likely have to see (or hear) them regularly. And unless you’re willing to go through the hassle and expense of moving, you’re stuck dealing with whatever issues arise.

    So, when things reach a boiling point, the best approach is to address the problem directly. According to Canadian law firm Spraggs Law, there are a few strategies you can rely on to help make the discussion go more smoothly:

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    1. Keep an open mind
      If your neighbor does something annoying or complains about something you’ve done, try not to take it personally. Most people aren’t intentionally trying to cause problems. Assume they may not even realize the issue exists. Jumping to the conclusion that they’re the enemy only makes a peaceful resolution less likely.
    2. Be direct, but stay polite
      If a neighbor’s behavior is interfering with your quality of life, communicate the issue clearly and calmly. Be concise, and use “I” statements to express how it affects you rather than making accusations.
    3. Stay cool
      If your neighbor gets defensive or upset during the conversation, don’t escalate things. Staying calm and listening can help defuse the situation, making it easier to reach a solution.
    4. Listen to their side
      Understanding your neighbor’s perspective doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but it does make it more likely that you’ll find a resolution that works for both of you.
    5. Don’t rush it
      Sometimes, it helps to take a break and revisit the issue later. Explain your concerns, listen to their response, and if needed, give yourselves time to process before continuing the discussion.

    And honestly, the best way to avoid a neighborly feud is to build a good relationship before things go south. If an issue does arise, having that foundation can turn a potential battle into a simple conversation.

    But if all fails—or if the problem is serious or poses a danger—don’t hesitate to contact the authorities or those who can step in to help. Sometimes, a firm approach is the only way to set boundaries and keep the peace.

    Readers were baffled by the audacity of the neighbors

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    With many chiming in to share similar stories of boundary-pushing behavior

    The woman later posted an update, saying she contacted the property manager to resolve the issue

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    To her relief, they responded with plans for a fence

    Image credits: mosterhout

    Eventually, she returned with a final update

    Image credits: mosterhout

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    I am a Visual editor at Bored Panda, I'm determined to find the most interesting and the best quality images for each post that I do. On my free time I like to unwind by doing some yoga, watching all kinds of movies/tv shows, playing video and board games or just simply hanging out with my cat

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    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex-father in law had the problem of the goddamn mailman driving on part of his yard to do a U-turn. Every single day. His driveway was fifteen feet further up the road and he told the mailman he was fine with him using it. Did no good. So, FIL decided overkill was the best policy. He rented an auger, then took six foot lengths of railroad (no idea where he found that) and buried them 3 feet in the ground with concrete to make bollards, spaced five feet apart. Those things weren't going anywhere, and he used them as posts for a fence. Mailman couldn't do u-turns in his yard again and ended up getting fired for tampering with FIL's mail, but that is a different story.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There was a similar situation in a Detroit suburb last year (?). The homeowner got a news crew involved who filmed the postal employee driving on the lawn to avoid getting out of his truck. All it took was being added to the TV news for 💩 to hit the fan. No problem any longer. Who knew 🤷🏻‍♂️

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    Ruth Watry
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We lived on a corner lot when I was a kid, and people did a lot of damage to the grass. Parents got some boulders, and first two people who hit them called the police on us. Police told them that it was their fault, and people stopped driving over the lawn.

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    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex-father in law had the problem of the goddamn mailman driving on part of his yard to do a U-turn. Every single day. His driveway was fifteen feet further up the road and he told the mailman he was fine with him using it. Did no good. So, FIL decided overkill was the best policy. He rented an auger, then took six foot lengths of railroad (no idea where he found that) and buried them 3 feet in the ground with concrete to make bollards, spaced five feet apart. Those things weren't going anywhere, and he used them as posts for a fence. Mailman couldn't do u-turns in his yard again and ended up getting fired for tampering with FIL's mail, but that is a different story.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There was a similar situation in a Detroit suburb last year (?). The homeowner got a news crew involved who filmed the postal employee driving on the lawn to avoid getting out of his truck. All it took was being added to the TV news for 💩 to hit the fan. No problem any longer. Who knew 🤷🏻‍♂️

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    Ruth Watry
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We lived on a corner lot when I was a kid, and people did a lot of damage to the grass. Parents got some boulders, and first two people who hit them called the police on us. Police told them that it was their fault, and people stopped driving over the lawn.

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