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Woman Is Disgusted By Her 25 Y.O. Brother Dating A 16 Y.O., Decides To Uncover Their Secret
Some might say that you have to stand up to your family members no matter what. At the same time, some might highly disagree with such a statement — what if your family member is doing something so wrong you just can’t stay silent? Like this woman who found out that her brother’s new girlfriend is their 16-year-old neighbor. And since the brother is 25 years old, the woman just couldn’t stay silent.
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What should you do when you learn that one of your family members is doing something illegal, like dating a minor?
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The woman found out her 25-year-old brother was dating their next-door neighbor, who is 16-year-old, and hid the relationship
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She told the girl’s parents about the relationship, they called the cops, and many people in the woman’s life accused her of ruining her brother’s life
During one of the family dinners on Sunday, the OP’s 25-year-old brother told everyone he has a new girlfriend named Ann, whom he met on campus. The next morning, the post’s author noticed her brother talking to a next-door neighbors’ 16-year-old daughter named Mary Ann. When they kissed, the OP understood that her sibling’s new girlfriend was a teenage girl she used to babysit years ago.
So, she let her parents know about it, but they dismissed it as a harmless crush. That didn’t satisfy the OP, so she went to the girl’s parents and told them the truth. Contrary to the post’s author’s parents, the girl’s folks had quite a reaction — they called the cops.
It seemed that everyone in the post author’s life heard about this situation. And interestingly, not many were on the OP’s side, and they accused her of ruining her brother’s life and/or being jealous (even though she’s in a committed relationship). In fact, the only ones on her side were a few of her friends and her aunt with a husband. So, the woman came to Reddit to ask whether she was wrong to tell everyone about her brother’s illegal relationship.
Well, quite a lot of people on Reddit took her side, just as a few of the woman’s friends and her aunt had. They praised her for being the only adult in the situation who understood how problematic the relationship was. In their words — the OP saved the girl from immense trauma in the future, which would surface once she understood how inappropriate the relationship was.
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The netizens weren’t off when they expressed such a thought. Minors dating older people isn’t a new thing, sadly. And what is more sad is the effect these kinds of relationships have on these minors.
Minors and adults not only have a gap between their ages number-wise but with regards to their experience and maturity as well. Even if it’s said that the minor is “mature for their age,” it either means that they had to grow up too fast, which can be damaging for their mental health, or it’s simply a manipulation tactic to justify an illegal relationship.
These relationships usually end in a minor getting traumatized in one way or another. For instance, getting pressured into doing something they don’t want to, being manipulated, getting taken advantage of, and so on. And so, it tends to haunt them for many years to come.
So, we can agree with the folks online who stated that the woman speaking out about her brother’s wrongdoing possibly saved the neighbor’s daughter from years of trauma. Just as the OP said in her post — what would have happened if the girl had gotten pregnant? So, the post’s author isn’t the one to blame, but her brother is. At the end of the day, he is a full-blown adult and should have known better than to get involved with such a young girl.
People online didn’t take the path that many people in the woman’s life took, and they praised her for protecting the girl from an immoral and illegal relationship
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Lene 1 year ago
When I was 17 I got my first bf. He was 27. The relationship was so awful. Like... SA and he tried to make me feel bad for not loving him enough to sacrifice such a "little" thing for him. He even had this ongoing joke with his coworkers about how we'd probably marry some day. He was so gross in so many ways and so f***ing immature! Also, that relationship has ruined so much for me in so many ways. I ended up moving away from Copenhagen partly because I was scared to meet him on the street.... I wasn't sure if I'd end up in a grave or in a prison cell if I did. It was 18 months down the drain for me. He was such an a-hole and he was just a very very bad choice for me. Probably my worst, actually. So if anyone is in doubt: no teenager should be with a person 10 years older than them. In my opinion and personal experience.
Throw Away 1 year ago
I was 16, he was 26. We dated for a year, then stayed in touch until we got back together when I was 22. I married him at 27 and we had 2 children in 5 years before I found out about his cheating and got divorced. I'm 42 and a single mom of 10 and 13 yr olds. I have struggled my whole life with the grooming he did to me. unhealthy obsession with being a pick me girl that revolves around s3x. Again, I am now 42 and happily divorced from that man but stuck co parenting (or lack thereof) for the next 10 years. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, YOU SAVED HER AND HOPEFULLY THE OTHERS. IT IS NOT APPROPRIATE. good job!!
JustABored1 1 year ago
I'd keep an eye on your own daughters around him!! 🤗
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- 1 year ago (edited)
"trying to ruin my brothers chance at love" - because a 16-year-old was his only chance??
Negatoris Wrecks 1 year ago
For most of those predatory clowns who pull that bs, yes. You'd be surprised how much pitty and support/enabling immature gross dudes get.
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David 1 year ago
the sick thing is, if you look at the law, in most European Countries and a 1/3 of US states, this is not actually illegal. Lots of age of consent laws need to change.
Cecil 1 year ago
Some states in US have consent laws that make sense... not sure but something like a relative age difference of 2 years for people under 20. So a 16yr old can consent to being with an 18 yr old
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BarkingSpider 1 year ago
As someone who was in this position at 16, THANK YOU to OP for stepping in. You may feel grown up at 16, but a person in their 20s knows you are still a child. Your brain is not fully formed and often makes bad decisions. Anyone in their 20s trying to date a high school kid has something wrong with them.
Laura Lou 1 year ago
OP is definitely not in the wrong! A 16 year old and a 25 year old have pretty much nothing in common anyways so it's hard to imagine how her brother could even be attracted to her besides the obvious. Her family and even some of her friends have shown her their true colors by berating her for telling the neighbors (if they thought it was fine why would they be worried that her parents know? They know it's wrong). I hope the girl does well in therapy.
bElLa sTairZz 1 year ago
as someone around her age in this. a 16 year old should definently not be dating a guy in his mid twenties. you get looks for being with someone two years older let alone NINE
Sonja 1 year ago
It is possible that a couple can have a serious relationship with an age gap of 5 years. But there's a huge difference between a guy falling in love with one, certain younger girl and one praying on younger girls. And there's a difference between a guy falling in love and a guy grooming. But here comes the caveat, it is almost impossible for a young girl to find out the difference. From their point of view, with their limited experience, both usually looks the same. They just don't have the neccessary knowledge to see the difference. That's why it's so often illegal. Fact is, true love can wait. And the most important thing is always to do no harm. Protection of children is more important than enabling the rare exception of two people being honestly in love. And I'm saying that after 26 years of happy relationship with my five years older husband whom I met at 16 and started dating at 17. But I wouldn't have known at 17 if he was a predator. I was lucky.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
First, this age gap is 9 years. Second, the girl’s age makes the gap even wider, as she is not an adult, physically, mentally, emotionally, and experience-wise. He IS. If she was 16 and he was 35, it wouldn’t make a difference, but she’s 16 and he’s 25. The balance of power is WAY off in their dynamic. The advantages he could take of her lack of experience are downright horrible. He could tell her anything about adulthood and she will believe him. He could manipulate her into doing just about anything for him “to prove her love”. Disgusting perv is what he is. Hope his parents are proud of their disgusting perv son. The fact that he immediately dummied up when asked particulars about his new girlfriend is a red flag, since he had given the impression he was happy in that relationship—-apparently she isn’t going to be his date to his company’s Company Picnic/Christmas Party/whatever, though I would just love to see a video of him trying to explain her to his boss. Right before he gets fired. If he had sex with these underage girls, the 2 we know of and who knows how many others, that’s called Statutory Rape and it’s a felony. Bro could be looking at felony convictions, each of which could get him 10 to Life on average in most states PLUS he will be on the Sexual Predators List and have to register himself with the police every time he moves house. His known whereabouts and any name changes will have to be reported and added to the National Sex Offender Website. If he manages to get paroled, he can pretty much kiss getting a decent job goodbye. He won’t be able to run from his crimes, no matter what. So , in the eyes of the law (if not those of his parents and the other harassing OP), he pretty much f****d himself, especially if he did the same to at least one of the girls (my money is on yes he did, at least with the other girl and who knows how many other underage girls). At least OP, Aunt and Uncle, and others on her side are people who have their heads on straight.
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ILoveMySon 1 year ago
The fact that this isn't the first assault makes me question whether OP was his victim as well. Perhaps parents don't wish to address "dirty little secrets "?
Lene 1 year ago
When I was 17 I got my first bf. He was 27. The relationship was so awful. Like... SA and he tried to make me feel bad for not loving him enough to sacrifice such a "little" thing for him. He even had this ongoing joke with his coworkers about how we'd probably marry some day. He was so gross in so many ways and so f***ing immature! Also, that relationship has ruined so much for me in so many ways. I ended up moving away from Copenhagen partly because I was scared to meet him on the street.... I wasn't sure if I'd end up in a grave or in a prison cell if I did. It was 18 months down the drain for me. He was such an a-hole and he was just a very very bad choice for me. Probably my worst, actually. So if anyone is in doubt: no teenager should be with a person 10 years older than them. In my opinion and personal experience.
Throw Away 1 year ago
I was 16, he was 26. We dated for a year, then stayed in touch until we got back together when I was 22. I married him at 27 and we had 2 children in 5 years before I found out about his cheating and got divorced. I'm 42 and a single mom of 10 and 13 yr olds. I have struggled my whole life with the grooming he did to me. unhealthy obsession with being a pick me girl that revolves around s3x. Again, I am now 42 and happily divorced from that man but stuck co parenting (or lack thereof) for the next 10 years. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, YOU SAVED HER AND HOPEFULLY THE OTHERS. IT IS NOT APPROPRIATE. good job!!
JustABored1 1 year ago
I'd keep an eye on your own daughters around him!! 🤗
Load More Replies... - 1 year ago (edited)
"trying to ruin my brothers chance at love" - because a 16-year-old was his only chance??
Negatoris Wrecks 1 year ago
For most of those predatory clowns who pull that bs, yes. You'd be surprised how much pitty and support/enabling immature gross dudes get.
Load More Replies... David 1 year ago
the sick thing is, if you look at the law, in most European Countries and a 1/3 of US states, this is not actually illegal. Lots of age of consent laws need to change.
Cecil 1 year ago
Some states in US have consent laws that make sense... not sure but something like a relative age difference of 2 years for people under 20. So a 16yr old can consent to being with an 18 yr old
Load More Replies... BarkingSpider 1 year ago
As someone who was in this position at 16, THANK YOU to OP for stepping in. You may feel grown up at 16, but a person in their 20s knows you are still a child. Your brain is not fully formed and often makes bad decisions. Anyone in their 20s trying to date a high school kid has something wrong with them.
Laura Lou 1 year ago
OP is definitely not in the wrong! A 16 year old and a 25 year old have pretty much nothing in common anyways so it's hard to imagine how her brother could even be attracted to her besides the obvious. Her family and even some of her friends have shown her their true colors by berating her for telling the neighbors (if they thought it was fine why would they be worried that her parents know? They know it's wrong). I hope the girl does well in therapy.
bElLa sTairZz 1 year ago
as someone around her age in this. a 16 year old should definently not be dating a guy in his mid twenties. you get looks for being with someone two years older let alone NINE
Sonja 1 year ago
It is possible that a couple can have a serious relationship with an age gap of 5 years. But there's a huge difference between a guy falling in love with one, certain younger girl and one praying on younger girls. And there's a difference between a guy falling in love and a guy grooming. But here comes the caveat, it is almost impossible for a young girl to find out the difference. From their point of view, with their limited experience, both usually looks the same. They just don't have the neccessary knowledge to see the difference. That's why it's so often illegal. Fact is, true love can wait. And the most important thing is always to do no harm. Protection of children is more important than enabling the rare exception of two people being honestly in love. And I'm saying that after 26 years of happy relationship with my five years older husband whom I met at 16 and started dating at 17. But I wouldn't have known at 17 if he was a predator. I was lucky.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
First, this age gap is 9 years. Second, the girl’s age makes the gap even wider, as she is not an adult, physically, mentally, emotionally, and experience-wise. He IS. If she was 16 and he was 35, it wouldn’t make a difference, but she’s 16 and he’s 25. The balance of power is WAY off in their dynamic. The advantages he could take of her lack of experience are downright horrible. He could tell her anything about adulthood and she will believe him. He could manipulate her into doing just about anything for him “to prove her love”. Disgusting perv is what he is. Hope his parents are proud of their disgusting perv son. The fact that he immediately dummied up when asked particulars about his new girlfriend is a red flag, since he had given the impression he was happy in that relationship—-apparently she isn’t going to be his date to his company’s Company Picnic/Christmas Party/whatever, though I would just love to see a video of him trying to explain her to his boss. Right before he gets fired. If he had sex with these underage girls, the 2 we know of and who knows how many others, that’s called Statutory Rape and it’s a felony. Bro could be looking at felony convictions, each of which could get him 10 to Life on average in most states PLUS he will be on the Sexual Predators List and have to register himself with the police every time he moves house. His known whereabouts and any name changes will have to be reported and added to the National Sex Offender Website. If he manages to get paroled, he can pretty much kiss getting a decent job goodbye. He won’t be able to run from his crimes, no matter what. So , in the eyes of the law (if not those of his parents and the other harassing OP), he pretty much f****d himself, especially if he did the same to at least one of the girls (my money is on yes he did, at least with the other girl and who knows how many other underage girls). At least OP, Aunt and Uncle, and others on her side are people who have their heads on straight.
Load More Replies... ILoveMySon 1 year ago
The fact that this isn't the first assault makes me question whether OP was his victim as well. Perhaps parents don't wish to address "dirty little secrets "?
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