Family Upset After Guy Stops Toddler From Ruining Expensive Cake: “Everyone Glared”
You don’t have to be a parent to know that toddlers aren’t exactly the GOAT when it comes to personal hygiene and washing hands. Those little fingers go (almost) everywhere as kids explore their surroundings and learn about the big, wide, germ-filled world. And often, those hands go straight into the mouth afterwards.
One man was horrified when they watched a 2-year-old stick their icky hands into a family member’s expensive birthday cake. In a bid to discreetly save the cake from a party of germs, the guy moved it out of the toddler’s reach. All hell broke loose, as it often does when you take something away from an invested child. But the anger didn’t only come from the little human. The person has now been accused of ruining the entire event. And they’re left wondering if it’s true.
Little kids are still learning the ways of the world, and they depend on their parents to guide them
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One man took matters into his own hands when a toddler’s mom and dad chose not to
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Researchers have found fecal matter under the fingernails of young kids
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How many different germs would you say are on your hands? 10? 100? 1,000? No. According to Pfizer, our hands carry on average 3,200 different germs belonging to more than 150 species.
And the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimates that only 19% of people in the world wash their hands after using the toilet. The CDC says a single gram of human feces can contain one trillion germs. But we also know that many children love to play on the floor, or outdoors, digging in dirt, petting animals and touching whatever tickles their fancy.
“Older children with increased mobility and motor skills are likely to have increased exposure to fecal sources in the domestic environment, are more likely to spend time on dirt floors or courtyards (rather than an elevated surface such as bed or mat) and also have the ability to pick up contaminated objects and/or feces,” notes a 2019 research paper.
The research was carried out in rural Bangladesh, with the aim of finding out just how many germs are present on the hands of young kids, whether their age plays a part and whether visibly dirty fingernails and hands contain more bacteria than those that appear clean. The team found that 43% of the children they inspected had E. coli on their little hands.
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According to the CDC, E. coli are “bacteria found in many places like the intestines of people and animals.” Most are harmless but some can make you sick and give you diarrhea. While a bout of diarrhea might not always sound serious, the CDC says that diarrheal diseases and pneumonia are the leading causes of child deaths around the world. The CDC website states that about 1.8 million children under the age of 5 die from those illnesses each year.
In Bangladesh, the researchers found that kids who are mobile (crawling, walking or running) are more likely to have fecal matter on their hands than very young babies. Out of the 584 children who took part in the study, almost half had E. coli in their hand rinse samples. 46% of the kids had visible dirt particles under their nails, 31% appeared unclean, and 23% appeared clean. Most of the children’s finger pads were clean.
E. coli wasn’t all the researchers found crawling under the fingernails of toddlers. “Soil-transmitted helminth ova and larvae have also been detected,” they said.
In a totally separate study, or experiment, an American mom, who works as a microbiology lab technician, once found staphylococcus and yeast on her children’s hands. But she wasn’t too worried, and here’s why.
Getting dirty isn’t always bad. In fact, scientists say keeping your child too clean can be detrimental to their health. Exposure to certain bacteria can actually help children develop stronger immune systems. “Several studies suggest that early exposure to dirt may reduce kids’ risk of developing allergies and autoimmune conditions,” reads the Live Science site.
The American lab tech mom told Today.com that our skin protects us from a lot of the germs and bacteria we encounter. “To have a healthy immune system, you’ve got to be exposed to stuff,” said Tasha Sturm. The expert believes that kids getting dirty is not the problem. As long as children are taught to wash their hands before eating.
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My niece is younger than this kid and already knows not to do something like this. But then her parents aren't useless gits who refuse to discipline their kids.
YTA are unhinged. There is no excuse for a two year old to act like this unless the parents allow it. There have to be boundaries. Two is not too young to start learning this. Parents need to parent.
It also means not interpreting tantrums as a signs of trauma (that lets the kid manipulate others). I can understand parents occasionally being too tired to impose boundaries, but they usually don't mind someone intervening (politely).
Load More Replies...When my nephew was 2 he used to walk around and point to things he wasn't supposed to touch and say "no, no". We never had to move things away from him because he understood the word no. Sadly my brother and his wife were tired by the time they had the 2nd kid and my niece was a terror of a toddler because they didn't put the same effort in to parenting her.
Although of course i am not there to witness child nr 2 and the (lack of) parenting, i feel like I must point out that kids can differ greatly in personality and willingness to listen and stick to the rules (testing of boundaries). My second one is also a terrible monster, in a completely different way than my first one was. That does not mean that my second child does not get boundaries, rules and regulations, but he keeps trying to break them and see what will happen. When said boundary is put in to place, all hell breaks loose. My goodness, I really think I have hearing damage from all the surprisingly loud screams that come from such a tiny creature in moments like that. Sometimes 5 or 6 times a day (it's getting better though). And what makes it worse, since it is kid nr 2, sadly he sometimes can get away with things, simply because i have to spread my attention over 2 children. This, for a toddler, only adds to the confusion and makes the temper tantrums so much worse!
Load More Replies...Crazed germaphobe? Where did you get that from BP? This brat needs to be taught manners and not partake in anything involving others' food, drink, possessions etc. Parents need to be sent to parenting classes.
Too bad the late great Debbie the gorilla isn't around as a foster mother. At the zoo, she fostered several baby gorillas whose mothers couldn't or wouldn't care for them. She was very patient, but she did teach the little ones not to grab food.
Load More Replies...This is so incredibly gross! How can the rest of the family allow this to happen?! 🤮
Because they worship babies and can't admit to being wrong about anything. It's a disease with entitled people.
Load More Replies...Wrong. Kids are kids. Adults who don't patent their kids properly are disgusting.
Load More Replies...If your girlfriend is on your side, I think it's high time you both go low/no contact with her family. There are lots of red flags in this story: favouritism, lack of limits, bullying, gaslighting ... You two don't need that kind of toxic s**t in your lives. If your girlfriend agrees with her family, it's high time you realise that's a doomed relationship. Either you break up or you accept those people will be part of your life forever. Do you really think you can put up with them for years? If you have children, do you think you will be able to tolerate them near your child, encouraging rude and entitled behaviour?
I have a feeling that those who commented that OP is the AH, are the same type of parents to their own kids, as OPs BIL. Children need boundaries/limits, especially as toddlers. By not telling your kids 'no' you're actually setting them up for a world of hurt and causing more harm than good. I understand parenting is extremely difficult at times but it's crucial that they are taught proper boundaries and right from wrong. Imho, the younger generations (late gen Z- current) are proof of the radical changes in parenting styles. The amount of entitlement/disrespect I've seen from many of those 25 and younger is mind blowing. I'll be 40 this year and I feel like my Xennial generation was the last to be raised in more of an authoritative style. In my opinion all of the free range, helicopter and lawnmower parenting that has increasingly become more common, is going to negatively effect all of us, in a major way. Please don't have kids if you don't want to parent.
Ugh, my 1 1/2 yr-old was like this - couldn't keep his hands off of anything. Went to a relative's not child-proofed home. He was terrible. Had to take him into a room by myself and basically follow him around so he didn't destroy anything. I think I was in tears. Fortunately, he's an amazing man now. Can't imagine what he would be like if we allowed Mr. Destructo to have his way!
I can see why you'd want to have a meltdown yourself. One of my relatives was stuck in traffic with a screaming 1 1/2 year old during a long drive. He told us afterwards, "That was worse than my vasectomy." He and his wife are great parents, by the way.
Load More Replies...NTA. My friend has a 4 years old daughter. and when I visited her, she offered me snacks. But her toddler went and touch every single piece with her little sticky hands. Friend didn't say anything, I said "NO", but toddler ignored it. I did not eat it.
My niece is younger than this kid and already knows not to do something like this. But then her parents aren't useless gits who refuse to discipline their kids.
YTA are unhinged. There is no excuse for a two year old to act like this unless the parents allow it. There have to be boundaries. Two is not too young to start learning this. Parents need to parent.
It also means not interpreting tantrums as a signs of trauma (that lets the kid manipulate others). I can understand parents occasionally being too tired to impose boundaries, but they usually don't mind someone intervening (politely).
Load More Replies...When my nephew was 2 he used to walk around and point to things he wasn't supposed to touch and say "no, no". We never had to move things away from him because he understood the word no. Sadly my brother and his wife were tired by the time they had the 2nd kid and my niece was a terror of a toddler because they didn't put the same effort in to parenting her.
Although of course i am not there to witness child nr 2 and the (lack of) parenting, i feel like I must point out that kids can differ greatly in personality and willingness to listen and stick to the rules (testing of boundaries). My second one is also a terrible monster, in a completely different way than my first one was. That does not mean that my second child does not get boundaries, rules and regulations, but he keeps trying to break them and see what will happen. When said boundary is put in to place, all hell breaks loose. My goodness, I really think I have hearing damage from all the surprisingly loud screams that come from such a tiny creature in moments like that. Sometimes 5 or 6 times a day (it's getting better though). And what makes it worse, since it is kid nr 2, sadly he sometimes can get away with things, simply because i have to spread my attention over 2 children. This, for a toddler, only adds to the confusion and makes the temper tantrums so much worse!
Load More Replies...Crazed germaphobe? Where did you get that from BP? This brat needs to be taught manners and not partake in anything involving others' food, drink, possessions etc. Parents need to be sent to parenting classes.
Too bad the late great Debbie the gorilla isn't around as a foster mother. At the zoo, she fostered several baby gorillas whose mothers couldn't or wouldn't care for them. She was very patient, but she did teach the little ones not to grab food.
Load More Replies...This is so incredibly gross! How can the rest of the family allow this to happen?! 🤮
Because they worship babies and can't admit to being wrong about anything. It's a disease with entitled people.
Load More Replies...Wrong. Kids are kids. Adults who don't patent their kids properly are disgusting.
Load More Replies...If your girlfriend is on your side, I think it's high time you both go low/no contact with her family. There are lots of red flags in this story: favouritism, lack of limits, bullying, gaslighting ... You two don't need that kind of toxic s**t in your lives. If your girlfriend agrees with her family, it's high time you realise that's a doomed relationship. Either you break up or you accept those people will be part of your life forever. Do you really think you can put up with them for years? If you have children, do you think you will be able to tolerate them near your child, encouraging rude and entitled behaviour?
I have a feeling that those who commented that OP is the AH, are the same type of parents to their own kids, as OPs BIL. Children need boundaries/limits, especially as toddlers. By not telling your kids 'no' you're actually setting them up for a world of hurt and causing more harm than good. I understand parenting is extremely difficult at times but it's crucial that they are taught proper boundaries and right from wrong. Imho, the younger generations (late gen Z- current) are proof of the radical changes in parenting styles. The amount of entitlement/disrespect I've seen from many of those 25 and younger is mind blowing. I'll be 40 this year and I feel like my Xennial generation was the last to be raised in more of an authoritative style. In my opinion all of the free range, helicopter and lawnmower parenting that has increasingly become more common, is going to negatively effect all of us, in a major way. Please don't have kids if you don't want to parent.
Ugh, my 1 1/2 yr-old was like this - couldn't keep his hands off of anything. Went to a relative's not child-proofed home. He was terrible. Had to take him into a room by myself and basically follow him around so he didn't destroy anything. I think I was in tears. Fortunately, he's an amazing man now. Can't imagine what he would be like if we allowed Mr. Destructo to have his way!
I can see why you'd want to have a meltdown yourself. One of my relatives was stuck in traffic with a screaming 1 1/2 year old during a long drive. He told us afterwards, "That was worse than my vasectomy." He and his wife are great parents, by the way.
Load More Replies...NTA. My friend has a 4 years old daughter. and when I visited her, she offered me snacks. But her toddler went and touch every single piece with her little sticky hands. Friend didn't say anything, I said "NO", but toddler ignored it. I did not eat it.


























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