This story comes from a concerned mother of a baby girl who is wondering whether she has crossed the line. The woman who goes by the handle RealisticEnd465 shared that her daughter has a very thick unibrow. And although she finds her beautiful, other people don’t.
“I am SO tired of the comments from other people. Literally on a daily basis, people tell me I should dress her up as Frida Kahlo for Halloween, jokingly ask if she has a caterpillar on her face, tell me dad must be really hairy, etc.,” the mom explained.
Fed up with all the comments about her daughter’s appearance, RealisticEnd465 decided to it was the best decision to shave “a little separation into her brow.” This didn’t sit well with her husband, and now the two are torn apart.
A mother is wondering if she went too far by shaving her baby daughter’s unibrow after her husband got mad at her
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Most people have two distinct eyebrows, with a more faint patch of hair between two. However, on some people, this brow hair is much thicker, which results in the appearance of one long eyebrow known as a unibrow or monobrow.
Scientists have identified a gene that appears to influence whether or not your eyebrows meet in the middle: the PAX3 gene on chromosome 2. There is a difference in the DNA that seems to correspond with varying degrees of unibrow.
According to them, the PAX3 is the monobrow gene, which has previously been shown to control where in the face “nasion” is located – the point at the middle of two eyebrows.
Many people sided with the mother and said that she did nothing wrong
One of the authors of this research, Kaustubh Adhikari, who is a researcher in Cell and Developmental Biology, UCL, argues that “it is reasonable to see it associated with monobrow, too, which is hair covering that part.” He added that “rare mutations of PAX3 have been shown to cause Waardenburg syndrome type 1 (85% of patients with this condition have monobrow).”
“We also found that the gene PRSS53, which has also evolved to be different in East Asians, is involved in making hair either curly or straight, as verified through our extensive labwork,” Adhikari explained.
Others called the dad out for not noticing the change in his daughter for a whole month
Some people tend to be more judgmental about other people’s looks than others. In some cases, they even become bullies. To find out what exactly happens in the mind of critics, we spoke with Dr. Lise Deguire, clinical psychologist and author of a multiple award-winning book “Flashback Girl: Lessons on Resilience From a Burn Survivor.”
“In my clinical experience, the people who are most judgmental towards others are secretly the most harshly judgemental towards themselves. Inside, these people are highly self-critical. It is no wonder then that they treat others the same way they treat themselves, critically and harshly. Frequently, when these people learn to be more loving and accepting towards themselves, they also become more tolerant and sympathetic towards others,” Dr. Lise explained.
The clinical psychologist explained that people’s judgment and criticism of us feel terrible, sometimes even devastating. “When this happens, the first thing to do is to notice your own pain and distress and to treat yourself kindly. It hurts, plain and simple. Having compassion for your pain will help you bear it.”
“Once you have recovered from the hurt of being judged, it is good to remember that anyone judging you that harshly is probably in a lot of pain themselves,” Lise said and added that awareness may help you to move beyond the hurt of the moment.
Some, however, claimed that mom was in the wrong, and she may potentially harm the baby’s confidence in the future
Wtf, stand up for jerks who shame people and babies and tell them your baby is Beautiful no matter what and that they should be ashamed for even saying anything about how someone look!
I get the mother's perspective, but in the big picture, this is projecting your own insecurities on to your child. My daughter has had a large freckle on the white of her eye since she was 2. It is harmless and can be easily removed. Since it was a cosmetic feature and not a health concern, we opted to leave it alone and if she expresses that she would like it to be removed, then we will support her. We give her teachers a heads up as to what it is because it can be easily mistaken for an eye injury, as it is large and red. Kids have certainly commented, but she just tells them what it is and that's it. She is now 12 and still has not expressed any insecurities or desire to remove it. Should she later on, we will support her. But that desire will not come from any encouragement or comments from us. We don't care, as she is beautiful with or without it.
You have to understand that kids don't always tell you about their insecurities, because they are too sensitive about them to even share with their parents. I know I was. My parents had no idea how cruel kids were about a birthmark I had and only got to know about all of it when I had it removed when I started dating my husband and didn't want him to see it. Please directly ask your kids if they are happy about their birthmarks or if they rather had them removed. Might save them decades of insecurities.
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I was all set to go YTA, but Mom has a point. All these comments about the baby's unibrow will 100% be said to her on the school yard when she's older. As far back as I can remember, my super thick hair has always been what most people comment on and kids were cruel to me back then. For context, I'm white and I have never met anyone with hair thicker than mine. It sticks out, literally. "Fro-ey, Jr." "She's rough and tough with her afro puff" and comments about my race as a result of my very thick hair have always been there. I SO wished there was something I could do to make it so people would notice ME and not just my unusual hair. A unibrow is a much easier solution. Like OP said, when her daughter's old enough to decide on her unibrow, she can. That's the thing: she CAN decide about shaving her unibrow. I wish I could have decided to have normal hair, that way my self esteem would be MUCH better than it is now. I say NTA.
Wtf, stand up for jerks who shame people and babies and tell them your baby is Beautiful no matter what and that they should be ashamed for even saying anything about how someone look!
I get the mother's perspective, but in the big picture, this is projecting your own insecurities on to your child. My daughter has had a large freckle on the white of her eye since she was 2. It is harmless and can be easily removed. Since it was a cosmetic feature and not a health concern, we opted to leave it alone and if she expresses that she would like it to be removed, then we will support her. We give her teachers a heads up as to what it is because it can be easily mistaken for an eye injury, as it is large and red. Kids have certainly commented, but she just tells them what it is and that's it. She is now 12 and still has not expressed any insecurities or desire to remove it. Should she later on, we will support her. But that desire will not come from any encouragement or comments from us. We don't care, as she is beautiful with or without it.
You have to understand that kids don't always tell you about their insecurities, because they are too sensitive about them to even share with their parents. I know I was. My parents had no idea how cruel kids were about a birthmark I had and only got to know about all of it when I had it removed when I started dating my husband and didn't want him to see it. Please directly ask your kids if they are happy about their birthmarks or if they rather had them removed. Might save them decades of insecurities.
Load More Replies... I was all set to go YTA, but Mom has a point. All these comments about the baby's unibrow will 100% be said to her on the school yard when she's older. As far back as I can remember, my super thick hair has always been what most people comment on and kids were cruel to me back then. For context, I'm white and I have never met anyone with hair thicker than mine. It sticks out, literally. "Fro-ey, Jr." "She's rough and tough with her afro puff" and comments about my race as a result of my very thick hair have always been there. I SO wished there was something I could do to make it so people would notice ME and not just my unusual hair. A unibrow is a much easier solution. Like OP said, when her daughter's old enough to decide on her unibrow, she can. That's the thing: she CAN decide about shaving her unibrow. I wish I could have decided to have normal hair, that way my self esteem would be MUCH better than it is now. I say NTA.
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