Doctors Can’t Figure Out How To Help A Violent Child, Mom Can’t Take It Anymore And Kicks Her Out

Parenting is extremely stressful as it is. But what do you do when your child’s behavior becomes dangerous—to you, your family, and even themselves?

One woman recently took to TikTok to explain that she had to remove her 9-year-old daughter, who struggles with mental illness, from their household for the safety of everyone involved. The child would injure her siblings, hurt the family dog, and once even nearly caused a car accident. It was, by all accounts, a lot to handle.

Her video ended up getting a divided reaction. Some viewers sympathized with her decision, while others felt that separating from a child should never be an option.

Scroll down to hear her side of the story and share your thoughts.

The woman’s daughter, who suffers from mental illness, was putting both herself and her family in danger with her behavior

Woman in a car sharing her experience about removing her mentally ill daughter from the home due to challenges faced.

Image credits: meggles2446

So, the mom made the difficult decision to remove her from the household

Alt text: Mom explains why she made the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home for safety reasons

Text excerpt from a mom explaining why she made the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Mom explains painful choice to remove mentally ill daughter from home for safety reasons during driving incident.

Text excerpt showing a mother explaining incidents leading to the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Text showing a mother explaining why she made the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Text describing violent incidents involving a mentally ill daughter, highlighting a mom’s painful choice to remove her from home.

Text excerpt showing a mom explaining the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Alt text: Mom explains why she made the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home due to worsening behavior.

Image credits: meggles2446

Watch the full video below

@meggles2446♬ original sound – meggles

Up to 77% of parents of children with complex care needs experience burnout

Image credits: dimaberlin / freepik (not the actual photo)

When people decide to have children, they usually prepare themselves for the common struggles of parenthood. Sleepless nights, tantrums, school troubles, teenage rebellion. It’s all part of what most expect. And even then, it’s incredibly hard.

But for parents raising a child with a mental illness, the challenges can go far beyond what’s considered typical. These parents often face overwhelming emotional, physical, and logistical stress.

In fact, research shows that up to 77% of parents of children with complex care needs experience burnout—a rate significantly higher than that of parents with neurotypical children.

Depending on the child’s condition, parenting may involve constant monitoring, intensive accommodations, and navigating situations where the child could hurt themselves or others. It’s no wonder many parents feel pushed to their limit.

Experts emphasize that while mental health treatments often focus on the child, the well-being of the parent is just as important, but too often overlooked. According to CBS News, researchers and pediatric mental health professionals argue that therapies should support the entire family, not just the child.

“I have so many parents sit across from me on the couch and cry,” Danielle Martinez, a behavioral health specialist at Driscoll Children’s Hospital in Corpus Christi, told CBS. “The hospital is creating peer support groups, to launch by the fall, for family members whose children are under the facility’s care.”

“They felt so alone, felt like bad parents, felt like giving up,” she added, “and then felt guilty for wanting to give up.”

And when a parent’s physical or mental health begins to break down, the consequences can ripple outward. It not only affects the parent, it also limits their ability to manage their child’s condition and offer the support that’s so desperately needed.

“Parents are a kid’s most important resource and need to be a concern,” explained Mary Ann McCabe, a member of the board of directors at the American Psychological Association, an associate clinical professor of pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine, and a psychologist in independent clinical practice.

It’s clear that this is a deeply complex and emotional issue. Parents of children with mental illness aren’t just dealing with a difficult diagnosis, they’re often carrying the weight of it alone. That’s why care and healing need to extend to the whole family. Because the toll it takes can truly be heartbreaking.

Plenty of people sympathized with the woman and supported her choice

Screenshot of a social media comment by Lisa G saying zero judgment regarding a mom's choice about her mentally ill daughter.

Mom explaining her painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home in a heartfelt social media post.

Mom explains why she made the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter for early intervention and better help.

Alt text: Woman sharing her perspective on the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Comment about a mom explaining her painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home due to violence risks.

Comment from a mom explaining her painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home, highlighting early help for kids.

Comment on social media about protecting all babies, related to mom explaining choice to remove mentally ill daughter from home.

Alt text: Comment from Stephanie Patterson about the painful choice of removing a mentally ill daughter from the home.

Comment from a mom explaining the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home to protect her family.

Comment on social media post about the painful choice to remove a mentally ill daughter from the home, supporting the difficult decision.

Comment by Carolina Moreno explaining the difficult decision to remove a mentally ill daughter from the home for safety reasons.

Comment expressing gratitude for acknowledging and protecting everyone, posted by user dogluver99 on social media.

Comment expressing understanding and support about a mom’s painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Comment discussing the difficult choice a mom made to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home, expressing empathy.

Comment from user explaining the painful choice to remove mentally ill daughter from the home and seeking understanding.

Comment on social media by user Messijessi supporting a mom's painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from home.

Alt text: Online comment discussing the painful choice of removing a mentally ill daughter from the home for family peace.

Comment from Tam explaining why a mom made the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Alt text: Mom shares her experience making the painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home in a heartfelt comment.

Comment by Neh discussing the decision to get professional help for her mentally ill daughter outside the home.

Some shared similar experiences with difficult children

Screenshot of a comment discussing experiences with a mentally ill family member who lived in institutions for treatment.

Comment from Shayleen Rivera sharing a personal story related to removing a mentally ill daughter from the home.

Comment discussing the painful choice to remove a mentally ill family member from the home for professional help.

Comment from a user supporting the mom’s painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Alt text: Online comment about parents making the painful choice to remove a mentally ill family member from the home.

Comment discussing challenges of managing a young child with autism, medication, and behavioral issues at home.

Comment expressing wish for mother’s sense of priorities regarding mentally ill daughter removed from home for safety.

Others, however, believed the situation could have been handled differently

Comment on social media about a mother’s painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home.

Comment discussing understanding the challenges of raising a mentally ill daughter and the painful choice to remove her from home.

Alt text: Comment expressing sadness about a mom’s painful choice to remove her mentally ill daughter from the home

Comment on mental illness and medication suggesting therapy and family involvement for consistent support and positive reinforcement.

Comment discussing mental health stigma and the difficult choice a mom made regarding her mentally ill daughter.

Poll Question

Total votes ·

Thanks! Check out the results:

Total votes ·

Newsletter

Subscribe to Access
Exclusive Polls

Subscribe

By entering your email and clicking Subscribe, you're agreeing to let us send you customized marketing messages about us and our advertising partners. You are also agreeing to our Privacy Policy.

Thank you! You've successfully subscribed to newsletters!

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing!

Follow Bored Panda on Google News!

Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda!