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Mom Is Losing Sleep After Finding Out Who Her Son’s GF Is, People Shrug Their Shoulders As He’s Already 19
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Mom Is Losing Sleep After Finding Out Who Her Son’s GF Is, People Shrug Their Shoulders As He’s Already 19

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A massive age gap in a relationship isn’t always a dealbreaker if both people are on the same wavelength. But how do you know when a couple is heading for disaster?

A woman facing a similar dilemma turned to the internet for some much-needed guidance. She shared that her 19-year-old son was dating a 30-year-old divorced mom of two. When she objected, her son quickly went into rebellion mode.

Read on to see how the story unraveled, how netizens weighed in, and what the experts have to say.

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    She said the woman is a divorcée, and a mother of two children

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    There was plenty of opinion and advice going around in the comment section

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    The woman came back with an update, and gave more details about her son’s relationship

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    People in the comments advised the woman to stay out of her son’s relationship

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    Public opinion in the comments quickly shifted after the update

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    Indrė Lukošiūtė

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    I am a Visual editor at Bored Panda, I'm determined to find the most interesting and the best quality images for each post that I do. On my free time I like to unwind by doing some yoga, watching all kinds of movies/tv shows, playing video and board games or just simply hanging out with my cat

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    David
    Community Member
    1 hour ago

    If this was the other way with the genders the comments on reddit would be filled with the pitchfork crowd. This is creepy, she first met him when he was 17 as "platonic friends" and within 2 years are dating, but also shortly after meeting her he broke up with his same age girlfriend. While 17 they said is the age of consent in their location, this is still grooming and creepy.

    Cee Cee
    Community Member
    1 hour ago

    Age of consent in the UK is 16.

    Nervousaloevera
    Community Member
    1 hour ago

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    A 30 year old dating a 19 year old is creepy, regardless of gender. I sympathise with the mother hating the idea and worrying her son is being preyed on. I don't think she handled it perfectly, but far fewer of us are perfect in reality than internet comment sections want us to be.

    Ace
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 hour ago

    That's a very recent, very modern, take on it. Much less common this way round but it's ot so long ago that an age gap like that in reverse would have been considered perfectly normal. Nowadays it tends to be automatically assumed to be paedophîlia (even allowing for the fact that the word is inaccurate for people of that age). I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I dont know enough to judge, but automatic knee-jerk reactions like your comment are all too common.

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    David
    Community Member
    1 hour ago

    If this was the other way with the genders the comments on reddit would be filled with the pitchfork crowd. This is creepy, she first met him when he was 17 as "platonic friends" and within 2 years are dating, but also shortly after meeting her he broke up with his same age girlfriend. While 17 they said is the age of consent in their location, this is still grooming and creepy.

    Cee Cee
    Community Member
    1 hour ago

    Age of consent in the UK is 16.

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    Nervousaloevera
    Community Member
    1 hour ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    A 30 year old dating a 19 year old is creepy, regardless of gender. I sympathise with the mother hating the idea and worrying her son is being preyed on. I don't think she handled it perfectly, but far fewer of us are perfect in reality than internet comment sections want us to be.

    Ace
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 hour ago

    That's a very recent, very modern, take on it. Much less common this way round but it's ot so long ago that an age gap like that in reverse would have been considered perfectly normal. Nowadays it tends to be automatically assumed to be paedophîlia (even allowing for the fact that the word is inaccurate for people of that age). I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I dont know enough to judge, but automatic knee-jerk reactions like your comment are all too common.

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