Being a parent is hard work. Nobody is arguing otherwise. However, being a parent also entails an understanding that everyone else who has to deal with your kid has an equally difficult task. This is besides having to deal with the parent too.
So, when it comes to having an issue with someone else’s equally difficult job of caring for your kid, you gotta ask yourself several questions before going on the offensive. Especially if these issues are over LEGOs and stickers that were brought to preschool and never again seen.
Preschool teachers have to deal with more than just kids all day—it’s the parents too that can cause shenanigans
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And sometimes, these shenanigans can lead to the preschool teacher leaving notes that the parents might not like
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After having talked to the teacher, the principal, and her husband with zero results, the woman asked folks online for some perspective
The story goes that this one mother of a 3-year-old girl has been having issues with her daughter’s stuff getting lost in preschool. Previously, it was jackets that some other kid simply went home with that took a week to return. This time, however, it was toys.
The mom ended up having to forbid any toy-taking after two particular things went missing: a LEGO creation set and a sticker. Both times, the mom claims that the teacher was rude after being asked to go look for them.
But the straw that broke the camel’s back was when notices appeared, written by the teacher, essentially asking parents to label their kids’ stuff and asking parents to let kids stay at home if they are showing signs of sickness. Both were written in a bit of a rude and snarky manner.
When the mom went down to talk to the principal about all of this, she was essentially ignored. What’s worse, the woman’s husband thought she was overreacting, which in turn prompted her to post her predicament to Reddit.
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Despite the preschool teacher’s snarky approach, folks online were on the teacher’s side with this one
Yes, the teacher was rude, at least according to OP with how she responded. But, in all fairness, if the kid mixed in her LEGOs with the preschool’s set, there is no way to find out what pieces belonged to whom at this point. As for the sticker—the kid might be upset about it, but a sticker is not worth someone’s sanity at this point. At least, these were the main arguments.
And folks online, having read the story, sided with the teacher. Not only did the commenters find the teacher’s arguments reasonable, they also thought that the mom should have known better than to expect things to return, let alone in one piece.
They pushed for the idea to learn from this experience: to learn to say no to the daughter about taking anything that she holds dear and of value to school. Some pointed out that the world doesn’t revolve around her daughter, and putting pressure on teachers and expecting them to keep track of 12 kids and their mischief is definitely overreacting.
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Teachers being rude, while not a good thing, can be excused when considering their line of work in perspective
In context, preschool teachers are people too—they have the same feelings, emotions, and levels of tolerance just like anyone else. Being exhausted and hence snarky is a natural reaction coming from this.
Penn Foster Career School gave a detailed account of what it means to be a preschool teacher, and, suffice to say, it’s anything but easy. For starters, it’s physically demanding as every day entails 8 hours of very active work, running around, picking kids up, what have you.
And this is on good days. Kids might not always be happy and fun every day because they are living their own lives too, going through the motions same as anyone. And if that happens, watch out for that stray blob of paint coming your way as it can get messy.
Sure, preschool teachers make a huge difference in the world, but it comes with its own emotional baggage of missing the kids you taught when they grow up. Pair that with the average 30K annual salary, with California peaking at 42K, and you can now understand why some teachers are a tad bit bitter over being asked to look for a sticker.
But enough about that. More about you now: what are your thoughts on any of this? Do you side with the teacher, or is it the mom that you’d defend? Share your takes and stories in the comment section below!
The comment section was ruthless, saying that the mom had overreacted and there was no two ways about it
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And that is why I did not go into teaching. Does this woman realize how oblivious she sounds? "I know you've just worked 9 hours, but will you please tear this classroom apart to find A FREAKING STICKER?" Teacher is not your personal maid, and a three-year-old is not going to be able to watch out for their own belongings. Don't send toys at all, especially not small ones. Label their clothing, shoes, bags, etc. And when it comes to small children, expect that some things will be lost regardless, so don't send expensive or sentimentally valuable things. If your kid loves a certain sticker, make sure you have a bunch of them, because they will get lost.
She sound so oblivious it is clear she is. Oh dear, sticker that had no real reason being in you childs shirt came off and you want me to drop everything to look through every nook and cranny of the house hoping to find the sticker so you do not have to parent your little princess. Sure drama-mama.
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As someone working in childcare, there's an extremely good chance those signs were not directed just to you. We had 4 kids with the same backpack one summer. There was a mix up every week until everyone labeled their stuff.
Yeah, they probably were. And would not have to be if people just lable their damn things! Seriously, she is upset about a sticker but can not put some on her kids stuff herself to make things easier.
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Also. Ewwww to this AH mom who thinks the "don't bring sick children in" sign is personal. Jfc, woman! If it's personal to you, it's because *you* have done this!!
Could be. A mother of one complained to me that a pediatrician addressed her preschooler as "Buddy" instead of learning his name. She at least had the decency to ask me if she was over-reacting.
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I volunteer in my son's Montessori pre-k class 1x/week for 20 mins (reading or craft). For an approach to child development and classroom management that is steeped in order and calmness, its off-the-walls bonkers bananas all the time bc...small children. How stupid to the point of cruelty to be upset at the person who manages the kind of chaos only a room of tiny humans can create to find a sticker.
This. Have 2 young kids in your house an it is barely controlled chaos at the best of times! The classroom is far worse!
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How is the last note "snarky" in any way? The teacher is offering common sense solutions to problems apparently multiple parents have.
Some people see indirect communication (gentle hints instead of getting to the point) as an elite skill of the genteel instead of the passive-aggressive BS it is. So they get uncomfortable with direct communication because they want to be coddled.
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Unbelievable!!!! What an absolute entitled mother this is!! Look for Lego and a STICKER????!! Is this a joke? Wow just wow!! BIG YTA
Another inexperienced, entitled Mom. Don't send anything to preschool that you don't want to lose. Kids don't look at belongings like you do at that age. It's up to you to manage your child's expectations, mental health and happiness; not a "teacher" who is trying to watch 30 kids at the same time.
The child is crying over a lost sticker when her mom comes to pick her up? It's likely the child completely forgot about the sticker about 10 seconds after having it stuck to her shirt and more likely that she didn't care about it at all until mom showed up and started freaking out about it. Or mom is overly strict and the girl started crying because she knew mom was going to lose her s**t over it being lost.
Mom probably asked "Where's your sticker?" and started the melt down
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My mum was an English teacher for junior high. Some parents spent an hour yelling at her about their child's math grade. She did not teach math, as she kept reminding them, yet they kept at it. She had a good principal, though, and those parents were no longer allowed unsupervised meetings with her.
Load More Replies... Op is being absolutely absurd. Preschool teachers are there to help the childs development and to ensure their safety and not to look after their toys. When I was a preschool teacher we only allowed own toys to be brought on rare occasions and even then there was a clear understanding that's it's possible they get lost or broken.
Next up on dilusional parents: ”My child came home from preschool with a stain on her white shirt, should I sue the preschool and make them do my laundry and buy new clothes for my little princess?”
My daughter's former daycare kept giving the kids permanent and white board markers to play with. Why, I will never understand. I put her in the darkest clothes owned. Other kids wore the cutest dresses and I can only imagine how much money their parents wasted
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Good grief. Don't send stuff with your kids that they'd be heartbroken to lose. That's, like, parenting 101. The entitlement of this parentt is ridiculous.
Find a STICKER? Can't Mum just make sure she's got a sheet of the same ones?
Load More Replies... These types of parents are part of the reason I'm no longer a teacher. Your child is NOT special. And if you don't want something getting lost or ruined, it shouldn't leave the house....this stupid OP expecting the teacher to be responsible for this kid's toys and a friggin sticker. People need to stop breeding.
As a Kindergarten teacher, we ask parents to write the kid's name on every piece of clothing, the are allowed to bring toys with them as long they are not electronics. The Kids and the Parents know that is their toys and their responsibility to not loose/damage it, we will not look for it if the child can't find it anymore.
Jeez after five kids and one in kinder. Just don't think of anything coming back. Hence school clothes and jackets I know could be lost and end up at the free coat off at winter is okay . I am having to school my girlfriend because she's like I sent her with 100 dollar pair of gloves and they are gone. I told her well sorry but they aren't in the wrong here. She needed to hear this the op I mean and well my girlfriend haha.
OP - you're a moron. You sent your child with a LEGO build and actually expected that it would come home in one piece, from PRESCHOOL??? Yes, it's unfortunate. Did you learn ANY kind of lesson? Probably not, as you seem to think the world revolves around you and your precious little crotch goblin. YES - you label EVERYTHING, from clothes to backpacks/bags/ to ANYTHING you want to come back home. AND YES - giving parents a "head's up" on sickness protocol is something EVERY school (pre or otherwise) does. If your child is sick or has a fever, she stays home. Preschool is not your Nanny.
So since she'd mentioned the second sign, does it mean she would bring her kid in when the kid was sick? What a lovely woman.
if she thought it was aimed at her, then yes, I expect she's one of those people that doesn't care if her child makes the whole class sick
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Entitled parents are the worst! The only victims in this situations are the children. Not their fault their moms and dads have zero common sense.
"CaN yOu LoOk FoR iT?" About a sticker, or a couple of lego bricks? Entitled mummy, YATA.
Well, after nine hours of work for barely above minimum wage, of course she wants to spend her free time doing pointless busywork for an entitled snob.
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Children have to label their stuff, older people have to label their stuff, and adults have to label their food for the communal fridge. There is no excuse for this lady to think she's being targeted. The sticker got a good laugh out of me; no way that stuck more than 1/2 hour.
I don't even have kids. I can barely competently take care of my cat. Even I'd know that if a kid loves a certain sticker, get a few sheets of identical ones.
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Second grade teacher here. Coworker had a parent who decided to try a spelling activity at home that said parent made up. Then got mad at my coworker. Because the activity took too long. The activity that she made up.
As the daughter of a schoolteacher, I fully believe you. Mum once got parents yelling at her for an hour over their child's math grade. They kept at it, no matter how many times she reminded them she in fact taught English Lit, not math.
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You aren't the only parent there. Consider a group chat to ask other parents if they got the wrong item sent home with their child. Label everything. And a sticker can fall off. You child was prob ok about it till you reminded/asked where it was. Legos missing? Good luck. And a parent chat can really help.
If your 3 year old likes a sticker, get multiples of the same one. Even I know to do that with my cat's toys.
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She's gonna be the kid who "forgets" to tell her parents about school events where they're invited.
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Well, it's not like the teacher has anything to do but follow Widdle Preshuss around all day.
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Yes, you are TA. #1. The teacher is not responsible for lost toys from home. Home toys are just that- for home. If it isn't for Show and Tell, it belongs at home. It is NOT the teacher's job. #2. Wtf??!! Really??? A sticker? You are TA. #3. If a school notice makes you feel guilty, guess what? You, again, are TA! Entitled parents raise little shitmonsters. Ugh.
What an absolute Karen likely about to raise the next generation of them. Goodness sakes
I sincerely hope this is rage bait, because no one could be that dumb and obnoxious.
My mum was a schoolteacher for 33 years. Yes, people can be that awful. She taught junior high English Literature. A set of parents spent an hour yelling at her over their kid's math grade, no matter how many times she reminded them that Mr. YY was the math teacher, so they needed to talk to him. Then the parents got offended she would not have unsupervised meetings with them anymore.
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If this is for real (which I think is questionable), this mother sounds like someone who just can't be pleased. She objects when the teacher makes no apparent attempt to find her child's lost toys and when other kids mistakenly take her child's jacket, and also objects when the teacher takes action to reduce lost property issues by asking for children's belongings to be labelled? Does she have a better idea? What exactly does she expect the teacher to do? She doesn't really explain why she's chosen to take the notices personally: does her kid own both a pink puffer jacket and a Moana water bottle (the examples the teacher used to make the point that it's common for multiple pupils to own duplicate items)? Even if so, it may be coincidence. If she has reason to believe that she is the reason for the request not to bring children with infectious illnesses to school, maybe don't do that next time?
I foresee this AH being the troublemaker the entire time her child(ren) is in school. Hers will be the perfect child who never does anything wrong. It will always be the other kid's fault and she will be the first to blame the other parents, teacher, and school for everything. As bad a being the AH, she is also a Karen.
the teacher sounds perfectly reasonable. and if you see a sign saying to keep sick children at home so they don't infect the others as a personal attack on you, then that means you ARE the kind of person who doesn't care if their child gets everyone else sick, and that DOES mean YTA.
She needs to take her child to a home daycare if she wants personalized care. Better yet, stay home with her. Go and look for the sticker yourself (if you have the time.) I'm surprised that the daycare would allow personal items like that. Maybe they should have this woman sign a waiver stating that if her child brings personal items the daycare and all of it's employees are not responsible for them. Let's stop and think this through.
Having taught Kindergartners, I know that any parent who does not label everything, even colouring pencils, let alone jackets and water-bottles... is an idiot.
Having taught Kindergartners, I can tell you that any parent who does not label everything (even colouring pencils), let alone jackets and water bottles, is an idiot.
OMG what a drama mother. Honestly yes those notes are aimed at you because you are self centered woman who has no idea that teachers are way to busy to run around after your child's stuff. Name things clearly, leave toys and precious things at home, get your head out of your a=@÷
When did it stop being a requirement that everything a young child takes to school be labelled with a name label? I remember the original fabric ones which later changed to the iron-on adhesive kind.
I'm a mom of two, worked as a nanny and in different childcare settings as an assistant for about two decades. While I understand her frustration she needs to understand many childcare settings are understaffed, overcrowded and staff many are not well paid.. So having to use more time and attention on trying to find their kids' stuff is taking attention from the rest of the class.. Also is important to label your clothes, just in case because I've seen groups of children having the same bottle and even seeing the fight for who's who's bottle or even shoes.. And last but not least, I don't usually let my kids bring toys to nursery for the reason that under 5 don't understand boundaries that well.. So in a setting that toys are shared for anyone to use, bringing outside toys can bring a lot of disputes and headaches. So is best to avoid those things for everyone's sake..
Teacher does sound a bit unnecessarily snarky….but it’s possible that whatever this teacher says that is not “yes, ma’am” to this parent is going to be perceived as snarky. At my kids’ childcare, when parent provided nappies we’re running low, the staff would write on the front of the nappy “MORE NAPPIES PLEASE!!” So that after a long day at work, quickly putting together a meal for an overtired kid and getting them ready for bath and bed I would be confronted with “MORE NAPPIES PLEASE!”. Not a time I wanted to be reminded, or a useful time to remind me. I had a chat to them and said I know it was supposed to be cute and funny, but could they just tell me or write it in the handover book instead, please? Far more useful and friendly.
Those who care for your child are extremely busy. As busy or more so than you. Sounds like they are passing along the information in the most efficient way possible. A quick scrawl on the nappy takes less time than writing in the handover book (which some parents never read) or having a conversation. As a tired, overworked mum, maybe empathize with the caregivers' desire for brevity? They take care of the most precious thing in your life whilst you cannot; they keep the child safe and fed and clean and occupied, so you can do your work worry-free. It's not their job to see to your mental health beyond that. Be grateful you have a safe place to send your kid and get a therapist if you need someone to help you manage your moods whilst exhausted.
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In preschool I remember all of us had a personal sign. Little flower, star, mushroom., ball... What a child can use to identify his/ herself draw on their stuffs. And we were only allowed to have one little bag of things labelled with our personal signs. The bag included toothpaste, toothbrush, a pair of inside shoes, indoor chlotes, hairbrush. No toys were allowed.
K-5 school counselor here and students can lose track of stickers 2 minutes after they get them and we don't give them another. so while the signs may seem helpful, guidelines and policy needs to come in the form of emailed newsletters/reminders through school admin. but this sentence is poorly crafted and not representative of what happens over the course of a school day -- " For starters, it’s physically demanding as every day entails 8 hours of very active work, running around, picking kids up, what have you." if you don't know what pre-k teachers do, then go spend time in a school and find out so to write a more informed piece representative of both sides, not just what both sides think or have expressed about the issue.
I have two kids. One in daycare, one in kindergarten. There's no way any of them would be allowed in with their own hard toys. At both schools, kids can bring one (1) small, SOFT toy- something to cuddle with during nap time. And it's the kids responsibility to keep track of this one item...
Told the little guy not to take his rare 'Skeletor' Pez 'machine' to pre-school. We never saw it again. - filthy little thieves anyhow.
I just love the comments, because those are actual parents and self aware individuals who see the world and how it's for everyone's safety not just an idiot mother who doesn't see her delusions
As a daycare worker, I do understand some of the stuff she wrote on the papers since I deal with that too but the teacher could have worded it a bit differently, less passive aggressive. Also I don't agree with the mother as well. In my daycare we are not liable for kids losing their stuff, but we do help keep a watch over them but it's hard if you have 30 more kids with their own stuff. Like if it's very important, don't give it wo your kid. (Had a kid that lost their heirloom at the daycare,!! We weren't even informed that it was an heirloom, nor that the kid brought it, only after it was lost)
How was what the teacher posted passive-aggressive? They simply stated the rules, and were definitely not there for one person.
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I agree with the comments for the child’s learning moments, but these are also learning mom moments for who appears to be a new mom taking her kiddo to preschool. (Be sure your own demeanor is in check mama). BUT, there is NO reason for this teacher to be passive aggressive with a learning mom. Snarky signs are unprofessional. When I was a new mom with a kid in preschool, my kid’s preschool never got snotty with me when I asked about a missing whatever. If you can’t be professional to parents, even at the end of the day, get a new job. Everyone is tired; everyone has a story; everyone needs some grace when they’re learning (And that goes for the new teacher too). Signed, a 30-year first responder professional.
all other things being said, though, signs could have been worded better. at least the one about the belongings. "please label your child's belongings. many items look similar" instead of the passive-aggression
The parent isn't going to register that. "Of course my Widdle Preshuss is the only one to have a pink puffer jacket." People are stupid. You have to be very specific.
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OP should have labeled stuff, or not allow things taken to school. That said the teacher is a b***h. F**k her.
I am a teacher. I have a had my share of difficult parents. I am also a mother. As a teacher I would NEVER say anything to a parent in a snarky or rude way. I think the sign was in fact rude and could have been stated more clearly without the digs. Actually there should be no sign at all. This expectation of labeling your child's belongings shoulf be set before the child begins school. The toy part. Also should be stated as a clear expectation in the beginning of the year. Now i am a mother of a daughter with some OCD tendencies and I can see her getting worked up over losing a sticker when she was 3 or 4 or 5 even. It depends how something is communicated. If the mom just said can you please look for it? That might be unreasonable. I would say something like "if you happen to notice it can you please let me know". As far as toys if I were the teacher and a parent was not getting a toy back at the end of the day i would remind them of the policy of not bringing toys to school.
So how much Valium do you take? Good teachers learn patience quickly. If they are snapping at you, the parent, then you've been a MAJOR a*****e. It's also hilarious that you think parents pay attention to the expectations set before the school year. My mum taught for 33 years. If a parent had asked her to tear apart a classroom to look for a STICKER, she'd have told them to pound salt. There comes a point where you no longer need to be polite to someone who is being an horse's rear. Good schools have strict policies in place regarding how parents are allowed to communicate to the teachers and what they can ask of them, and teachers should have the right to ask that parents only communicate with them with an administrator present. Also, this was likely about the twentieth time OP had made a ridiculous demand. If she doesn't let up, the administration will no longer allow OP to speak to the teacher unsupervised. She's probably already the staff room joke.
Load More Replies... Some of these comments are really ruthless. I as a parent was appalled to have some of my daughter's teacher have a snarky or rude attitude. I am teacher also as I stated below. A special education teacher. It doesn't matter what kind of difficult day you have had. If I communicated in a rude way to any parent my principal would have been very upset with me. If you can't communicate in a friendly or at least neutral tone than maybe you should not be in this field. It is also a failure of the teacher to not have communicated her policies well enough to the mom from the beginning. I don't think the mom here is overreacting when expectations were not made clear from the getgo. This all needs to be said before a child steps foot in a classroom. It also depends how the mother communicated to the teacher as well bc both parents and teachers shoulf be respectful towards one another.
I am a teacher. I have a had my share of difficult parents. I am also a mother. As a teacher I would NEVER say anything to a parent in a snarky or rude way. I think the sign was in fact rude and could have been stated more clearly without the digs. Actually there should be no sign at all. This expectation of labeling your child's belongings shoulf be set before the child begins school. The toy part. Also shoulf be stated as a clear expectation in the beginning of the year. Now i am a mother of a daughter with some OCD tendencies and I can see her getting worked up over losing a sticker when she was 3 or 4 or 5 even. It depends how something is communicated. If the mom just said can you please look for it? That might be unreasonable. I would say something like "if you happen to notice it can you please let me know". As far as toys if I were the teacher and a parent was not getting a toy back at the end of the day i would remind them of the policy of not bringing toys to school.
I think you lost any sympathy when you focused on the compleatly wrong thing in the whole text.
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What the heck is snarky about please lable your stuff and we understand, but please?
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And that is why I did not go into teaching. Does this woman realize how oblivious she sounds? "I know you've just worked 9 hours, but will you please tear this classroom apart to find A FREAKING STICKER?" Teacher is not your personal maid, and a three-year-old is not going to be able to watch out for their own belongings. Don't send toys at all, especially not small ones. Label their clothing, shoes, bags, etc. And when it comes to small children, expect that some things will be lost regardless, so don't send expensive or sentimentally valuable things. If your kid loves a certain sticker, make sure you have a bunch of them, because they will get lost.
She sound so oblivious it is clear she is. Oh dear, sticker that had no real reason being in you childs shirt came off and you want me to drop everything to look through every nook and cranny of the house hoping to find the sticker so you do not have to parent your little princess. Sure drama-mama.
Load More Replies... As someone working in childcare, there's an extremely good chance those signs were not directed just to you. We had 4 kids with the same backpack one summer. There was a mix up every week until everyone labeled their stuff.
Yeah, they probably were. And would not have to be if people just lable their damn things! Seriously, she is upset about a sticker but can not put some on her kids stuff herself to make things easier.
Load More Replies... Also. Ewwww to this AH mom who thinks the "don't bring sick children in" sign is personal. Jfc, woman! If it's personal to you, it's because *you* have done this!!
Could be. A mother of one complained to me that a pediatrician addressed her preschooler as "Buddy" instead of learning his name. She at least had the decency to ask me if she was over-reacting.
Load More Replies... I volunteer in my son's Montessori pre-k class 1x/week for 20 mins (reading or craft). For an approach to child development and classroom management that is steeped in order and calmness, its off-the-walls bonkers bananas all the time bc...small children. How stupid to the point of cruelty to be upset at the person who manages the kind of chaos only a room of tiny humans can create to find a sticker.
This. Have 2 young kids in your house an it is barely controlled chaos at the best of times! The classroom is far worse!
Load More Replies... How is the last note "snarky" in any way? The teacher is offering common sense solutions to problems apparently multiple parents have.
Some people see indirect communication (gentle hints instead of getting to the point) as an elite skill of the genteel instead of the passive-aggressive BS it is. So they get uncomfortable with direct communication because they want to be coddled.
Load More Replies... Unbelievable!!!! What an absolute entitled mother this is!! Look for Lego and a STICKER????!! Is this a joke? Wow just wow!! BIG YTA
Another inexperienced, entitled Mom. Don't send anything to preschool that you don't want to lose. Kids don't look at belongings like you do at that age. It's up to you to manage your child's expectations, mental health and happiness; not a "teacher" who is trying to watch 30 kids at the same time.
The child is crying over a lost sticker when her mom comes to pick her up? It's likely the child completely forgot about the sticker about 10 seconds after having it stuck to her shirt and more likely that she didn't care about it at all until mom showed up and started freaking out about it. Or mom is overly strict and the girl started crying because she knew mom was going to lose her s**t over it being lost.
Mom probably asked "Where's your sticker?" and started the melt down
Load More Replies... It's so often the same parents who expect you to make allowances when they can't control their own kid's behaviour and make them sit quietly in a restaurant, for example. Teachers, nannies and childminders are not machines, or your inferior.
My mum was an English teacher for junior high. Some parents spent an hour yelling at her about their child's math grade. She did not teach math, as she kept reminding them, yet they kept at it. She had a good principal, though, and those parents were no longer allowed unsupervised meetings with her.
Load More Replies... Op is being absolutely absurd. Preschool teachers are there to help the childs development and to ensure their safety and not to look after their toys. When I was a preschool teacher we only allowed own toys to be brought on rare occasions and even then there was a clear understanding that's it's possible they get lost or broken.
Next up on dilusional parents: ”My child came home from preschool with a stain on her white shirt, should I sue the preschool and make them do my laundry and buy new clothes for my little princess?”
My daughter's former daycare kept giving the kids permanent and white board markers to play with. Why, I will never understand. I put her in the darkest clothes owned. Other kids wore the cutest dresses and I can only imagine how much money their parents wasted
Load More Replies... Good grief. Don't send stuff with your kids that they'd be heartbroken to lose. That's, like, parenting 101. The entitlement of this parentt is ridiculous.
Find a STICKER? Can't Mum just make sure she's got a sheet of the same ones?
Load More Replies... These types of parents are part of the reason I'm no longer a teacher. Your child is NOT special. And if you don't want something getting lost or ruined, it shouldn't leave the house....this stupid OP expecting the teacher to be responsible for this kid's toys and a friggin sticker. People need to stop breeding.
As a Kindergarten teacher, we ask parents to write the kid's name on every piece of clothing, the are allowed to bring toys with them as long they are not electronics. The Kids and the Parents know that is their toys and their responsibility to not loose/damage it, we will not look for it if the child can't find it anymore.
Jeez after five kids and one in kinder. Just don't think of anything coming back. Hence school clothes and jackets I know could be lost and end up at the free coat off at winter is okay . I am having to school my girlfriend because she's like I sent her with 100 dollar pair of gloves and they are gone. I told her well sorry but they aren't in the wrong here. She needed to hear this the op I mean and well my girlfriend haha.
OP - you're a moron. You sent your child with a LEGO build and actually expected that it would come home in one piece, from PRESCHOOL??? Yes, it's unfortunate. Did you learn ANY kind of lesson? Probably not, as you seem to think the world revolves around you and your precious little crotch goblin. YES - you label EVERYTHING, from clothes to backpacks/bags/ to ANYTHING you want to come back home. AND YES - giving parents a "head's up" on sickness protocol is something EVERY school (pre or otherwise) does. If your child is sick or has a fever, she stays home. Preschool is not your Nanny.
So since she'd mentioned the second sign, does it mean she would bring her kid in when the kid was sick? What a lovely woman.
if she thought it was aimed at her, then yes, I expect she's one of those people that doesn't care if her child makes the whole class sick
Load More Replies... Entitled parents are the worst! The only victims in this situations are the children. Not their fault their moms and dads have zero common sense.
"CaN yOu LoOk FoR iT?" About a sticker, or a couple of lego bricks? Entitled mummy, YATA.
Well, after nine hours of work for barely above minimum wage, of course she wants to spend her free time doing pointless busywork for an entitled snob.
Load More Replies... Children have to label their stuff, older people have to label their stuff, and adults have to label their food for the communal fridge. There is no excuse for this lady to think she's being targeted. The sticker got a good laugh out of me; no way that stuck more than 1/2 hour.
I don't even have kids. I can barely competently take care of my cat. Even I'd know that if a kid loves a certain sticker, get a few sheets of identical ones.
Load More Replies... Second grade teacher here. Coworker had a parent who decided to try a spelling activity at home that said parent made up. Then got mad at my coworker. Because the activity took too long. The activity that she made up.
As the daughter of a schoolteacher, I fully believe you. Mum once got parents yelling at her for an hour over their child's math grade. They kept at it, no matter how many times she reminded them she in fact taught English Lit, not math.
Load More Replies... You aren't the only parent there. Consider a group chat to ask other parents if they got the wrong item sent home with their child. Label everything. And a sticker can fall off. You child was prob ok about it till you reminded/asked where it was. Legos missing? Good luck. And a parent chat can really help.
If your 3 year old likes a sticker, get multiples of the same one. Even I know to do that with my cat's toys.
Load More Replies... She's gonna be the kid who "forgets" to tell her parents about school events where they're invited.
Load More Replies... Kids bringing toys to school is weird. And then she expects the teacher to keep track of them?
Well, it's not like the teacher has anything to do but follow Widdle Preshuss around all day.
Load More Replies... Yes, you are TA. #1. The teacher is not responsible for lost toys from home. Home toys are just that- for home. If it isn't for Show and Tell, it belongs at home. It is NOT the teacher's job. #2. Wtf??!! Really??? A sticker? You are TA. #3. If a school notice makes you feel guilty, guess what? You, again, are TA! Entitled parents raise little shitmonsters. Ugh.
What an absolute Karen likely about to raise the next generation of them. Goodness sakes
I sincerely hope this is rage bait, because no one could be that dumb and obnoxious.
My mum was a schoolteacher for 33 years. Yes, people can be that awful. She taught junior high English Literature. A set of parents spent an hour yelling at her over their kid's math grade, no matter how many times she reminded them that Mr. YY was the math teacher, so they needed to talk to him. Then the parents got offended she would not have unsupervised meetings with them anymore.
Load More Replies... If this is for real (which I think is questionable), this mother sounds like someone who just can't be pleased. She objects when the teacher makes no apparent attempt to find her child's lost toys and when other kids mistakenly take her child's jacket, and also objects when the teacher takes action to reduce lost property issues by asking for children's belongings to be labelled? Does she have a better idea? What exactly does she expect the teacher to do? She doesn't really explain why she's chosen to take the notices personally: does her kid own both a pink puffer jacket and a Moana water bottle (the examples the teacher used to make the point that it's common for multiple pupils to own duplicate items)? Even if so, it may be coincidence. If she has reason to believe that she is the reason for the request not to bring children with infectious illnesses to school, maybe don't do that next time?
I foresee this AH being the troublemaker the entire time her child(ren) is in school. Hers will be the perfect child who never does anything wrong. It will always be the other kid's fault and she will be the first to blame the other parents, teacher, and school for everything. As bad a being the AH, she is also a Karen.
the teacher sounds perfectly reasonable. and if you see a sign saying to keep sick children at home so they don't infect the others as a personal attack on you, then that means you ARE the kind of person who doesn't care if their child gets everyone else sick, and that DOES mean YTA.
She needs to take her child to a home daycare if she wants personalized care. Better yet, stay home with her. Go and look for the sticker yourself (if you have the time.) I'm surprised that the daycare would allow personal items like that. Maybe they should have this woman sign a waiver stating that if her child brings personal items the daycare and all of it's employees are not responsible for them. Let's stop and think this through.
Having taught Kindergartners, I know that any parent who does not label everything, even colouring pencils, let alone jackets and water-bottles... is an idiot.
Having taught Kindergartners, I can tell you that any parent who does not label everything (even colouring pencils), let alone jackets and water bottles, is an idiot.
OMG what a drama mother. Honestly yes those notes are aimed at you because you are self centered woman who has no idea that teachers are way to busy to run around after your child's stuff. Name things clearly, leave toys and precious things at home, get your head out of your a=@÷
When did it stop being a requirement that everything a young child takes to school be labelled with a name label? I remember the original fabric ones which later changed to the iron-on adhesive kind.
I'm a mom of two, worked as a nanny and in different childcare settings as an assistant for about two decades. While I understand her frustration she needs to understand many childcare settings are understaffed, overcrowded and staff many are not well paid.. So having to use more time and attention on trying to find their kids' stuff is taking attention from the rest of the class.. Also is important to label your clothes, just in case because I've seen groups of children having the same bottle and even seeing the fight for who's who's bottle or even shoes.. And last but not least, I don't usually let my kids bring toys to nursery for the reason that under 5 don't understand boundaries that well.. So in a setting that toys are shared for anyone to use, bringing outside toys can bring a lot of disputes and headaches. So is best to avoid those things for everyone's sake..
Teacher does sound a bit unnecessarily snarky….but it’s possible that whatever this teacher says that is not “yes, ma’am” to this parent is going to be perceived as snarky. At my kids’ childcare, when parent provided nappies we’re running low, the staff would write on the front of the nappy “MORE NAPPIES PLEASE!!” So that after a long day at work, quickly putting together a meal for an overtired kid and getting them ready for bath and bed I would be confronted with “MORE NAPPIES PLEASE!”. Not a time I wanted to be reminded, or a useful time to remind me. I had a chat to them and said I know it was supposed to be cute and funny, but could they just tell me or write it in the handover book instead, please? Far more useful and friendly.
Those who care for your child are extremely busy. As busy or more so than you. Sounds like they are passing along the information in the most efficient way possible. A quick scrawl on the nappy takes less time than writing in the handover book (which some parents never read) or having a conversation. As a tired, overworked mum, maybe empathize with the caregivers' desire for brevity? They take care of the most precious thing in your life whilst you cannot; they keep the child safe and fed and clean and occupied, so you can do your work worry-free. It's not their job to see to your mental health beyond that. Be grateful you have a safe place to send your kid and get a therapist if you need someone to help you manage your moods whilst exhausted.
Load More Replies... In preschool I remember all of us had a personal sign. Little flower, star, mushroom., ball... What a child can use to identify his/ herself draw on their stuffs. And we were only allowed to have one little bag of things labelled with our personal signs. The bag included toothpaste, toothbrush, a pair of inside shoes, indoor chlotes, hairbrush. No toys were allowed.
K-5 school counselor here and students can lose track of stickers 2 minutes after they get them and we don't give them another. so while the signs may seem helpful, guidelines and policy needs to come in the form of emailed newsletters/reminders through school admin. but this sentence is poorly crafted and not representative of what happens over the course of a school day -- " For starters, it’s physically demanding as every day entails 8 hours of very active work, running around, picking kids up, what have you." if you don't know what pre-k teachers do, then go spend time in a school and find out so to write a more informed piece representative of both sides, not just what both sides think or have expressed about the issue.
I have two kids. One in daycare, one in kindergarten. There's no way any of them would be allowed in with their own hard toys. At both schools, kids can bring one (1) small, SOFT toy- something to cuddle with during nap time. And it's the kids responsibility to keep track of this one item...
Told the little guy not to take his rare 'Skeletor' Pez 'machine' to pre-school. We never saw it again. - filthy little thieves anyhow.
I just love the comments, because those are actual parents and self aware individuals who see the world and how it's for everyone's safety not just an idiot mother who doesn't see her delusions
As a daycare worker, I do understand some of the stuff she wrote on the papers since I deal with that too but the teacher could have worded it a bit differently, less passive aggressive. Also I don't agree with the mother as well. In my daycare we are not liable for kids losing their stuff, but we do help keep a watch over them but it's hard if you have 30 more kids with their own stuff. Like if it's very important, don't give it wo your kid. (Had a kid that lost their heirloom at the daycare,!! We weren't even informed that it was an heirloom, nor that the kid brought it, only after it was lost)
How was what the teacher posted passive-aggressive? They simply stated the rules, and were definitely not there for one person.
Load More Replies... I agree with the comments for the child’s learning moments, but these are also learning mom moments for who appears to be a new mom taking her kiddo to preschool. (Be sure your own demeanor is in check mama). BUT, there is NO reason for this teacher to be passive aggressive with a learning mom. Snarky signs are unprofessional. When I was a new mom with a kid in preschool, my kid’s preschool never got snotty with me when I asked about a missing whatever. If you can’t be professional to parents, even at the end of the day, get a new job. Everyone is tired; everyone has a story; everyone needs some grace when they’re learning (And that goes for the new teacher too). Signed, a 30-year first responder professional.
all other things being said, though, signs could have been worded better. at least the one about the belongings. "please label your child's belongings. many items look similar" instead of the passive-aggression
The parent isn't going to register that. "Of course my Widdle Preshuss is the only one to have a pink puffer jacket." People are stupid. You have to be very specific.
Load More Replies... OP should have labeled stuff, or not allow things taken to school. That said the teacher is a b***h. F**k her.
I am a teacher. I have a had my share of difficult parents. I am also a mother. As a teacher I would NEVER say anything to a parent in a snarky or rude way. I think the sign was in fact rude and could have been stated more clearly without the digs. Actually there should be no sign at all. This expectation of labeling your child's belongings shoulf be set before the child begins school. The toy part. Also should be stated as a clear expectation in the beginning of the year. Now i am a mother of a daughter with some OCD tendencies and I can see her getting worked up over losing a sticker when she was 3 or 4 or 5 even. It depends how something is communicated. If the mom just said can you please look for it? That might be unreasonable. I would say something like "if you happen to notice it can you please let me know". As far as toys if I were the teacher and a parent was not getting a toy back at the end of the day i would remind them of the policy of not bringing toys to school.
So how much Valium do you take? Good teachers learn patience quickly. If they are snapping at you, the parent, then you've been a MAJOR a*****e. It's also hilarious that you think parents pay attention to the expectations set before the school year. My mum taught for 33 years. If a parent had asked her to tear apart a classroom to look for a STICKER, she'd have told them to pound salt. There comes a point where you no longer need to be polite to someone who is being an horse's rear. Good schools have strict policies in place regarding how parents are allowed to communicate to the teachers and what they can ask of them, and teachers should have the right to ask that parents only communicate with them with an administrator present. Also, this was likely about the twentieth time OP had made a ridiculous demand. If she doesn't let up, the administration will no longer allow OP to speak to the teacher unsupervised. She's probably already the staff room joke.
Load More Replies... Some of these comments are really ruthless. I as a parent was appalled to have some of my daughter's teacher have a snarky or rude attitude. I am teacher also as I stated below. A special education teacher. It doesn't matter what kind of difficult day you have had. If I communicated in a rude way to any parent my principal would have been very upset with me. If you can't communicate in a friendly or at least neutral tone than maybe you should not be in this field. It is also a failure of the teacher to not have communicated her policies well enough to the mom from the beginning. I don't think the mom here is overreacting when expectations were not made clear from the getgo. This all needs to be said before a child steps foot in a classroom. It also depends how the mother communicated to the teacher as well bc both parents and teachers shoulf be respectful towards one another.
I am a teacher. I have a had my share of difficult parents. I am also a mother. As a teacher I would NEVER say anything to a parent in a snarky or rude way. I think the sign was in fact rude and could have been stated more clearly without the digs. Actually there should be no sign at all. This expectation of labeling your child's belongings shoulf be set before the child begins school. The toy part. Also shoulf be stated as a clear expectation in the beginning of the year. Now i am a mother of a daughter with some OCD tendencies and I can see her getting worked up over losing a sticker when she was 3 or 4 or 5 even. It depends how something is communicated. If the mom just said can you please look for it? That might be unreasonable. I would say something like "if you happen to notice it can you please let me know". As far as toys if I were the teacher and a parent was not getting a toy back at the end of the day i would remind them of the policy of not bringing toys to school.
I think you lost any sympathy when you focused on the compleatly wrong thing in the whole text.
Load More Replies... What the heck is snarky about please lable your stuff and we understand, but please?
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