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We love labels. But in some cases, it’s just impossible to find one. A situationship is a romantic or physical — for the lack of a better word — connection that lacks commitment, expectations, and therefore, definition.

It sits in the gray area: more intimate than friendship, but not exclusive.

To get a clearer sense of what that looks like, we invite you to jump in with us on an online thread where people have shared the most diabolical things their situationships have said to them.

And technically, can you even be mad at someone if you were never really together?

#1

Hands typing a message on smartphone in situationship communication context “You know you don’t have to message me every time to let me know you got home safe? x”

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Alexia
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11 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apologies, I thought you were interested in my safety.

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    #2

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything “I don’t wanna sound insensitive but would you still wanna come over?” The day my mom passed away from cancer

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    3 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not the coming over - who wouldn't want to get comfort from a partner? It's the wording. It's not an invitation to be held, or just having someone holding OP's hand. It's basically a "Okay, your Mum died, but I can still fvck you, right?"

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    #3

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything “ I don’t want anything serious with you but I don’t like the idea of you seeing other people”

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    #4

    DJ playing to lively crowd at nightclub with fog and disco lights We were at the club and the dj said “single ladies put your hands up?” And this guy said “yo put your hand up” and lifted my hand for me 😭😭😭😭😭😭

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    #5

    Woman in winter coat and hat looking down during a difficult situationship talk We were hanging out and I asked “do you think about me when I’m not around?” He responded “I don’t think about you even when you are around”

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    #6

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything “I am happy with you but I don’t want to miss the opportunity to possibly be happier with someone else”

    kneecoalllllll , George Dagerotip Report

    Alexia
    Community Member
    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are a scum, but you don't want to miss the opportunity to possibly be a scum with someone else.

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    #7

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything “I want you to be my girlfriend” *30 min later “sorry I changed my mind I didn’t think this through”

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    #8

    Smiling man with curly hair and hat symbolizing relief after situationship struggles i finally ended things with him and he told me he was proud of me

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    #9

    Person with curly hair and serious expression illustrating frustration in a situationship “Do you think we’ll go to each others weddings” while we were on a trip together

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    #10

    Man with sunglasses looking down, showing a reflective moments in a situationship "you are such a great girl. you have SO much love to give. I just don't want it"

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    Janelle Collard
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Good to know. NEXT!"

    #11

    Couple in intense eye contact depicting a tense situationship conversation “I can totally see myself marrying you and having kids with you, but I won’t”

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    #12

    Young man and woman standing outdoors in thoughtful conversation about situationship “I might be getting back together with my ex, but I’ll keep you updated”

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    #13

    Man looking serious while talking to woman in urban situationship scene “Realizing how horrible I treated you makes me want to treat her better”

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    #14

    Woman listening intently while having conversation outdoors in a situationship "when I am with you I enjoy every moment but when we are apart I don't think about you at all"

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    Robert Benson
    Community Member
    2 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That could just be ADHD. Possibly. It probably isn't, but it could be.

    #15

    Young woman with curly hair standing outdoors with mountains in background “I thought I wanted you, but now that I have you, I realised I don’t want you”

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    Julie S
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    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He liked the chase.

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    #16

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything He texted me months after I ended it to come over, I replied I’m on a date. He said “great take the leftovers to go for us please”

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    #17

    He ended things with me because and I QUOTE "I need to keep on top of my laundry."

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    #18

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything ‘I want someone like you but…not you’ ✨

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    Alexia
    Community Member
    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like a guy I dated once in my early 20s. "I want someone like you, but with blonde hair and blue eyes" (I'm a brunette, green eyes) 👁️

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    #19

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything Flew to London from New York to see him and he only wanted to lay on the couch after work, and when I mentioned how far I flew he said “you could’ve flown from the moon and it wouldn’t have mattered” :D

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    Earonn -
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    1 minute ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, if he's tired from work he's tired from work. Also depends on the work. OP is insensitive and the real problem here.

    #20

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything “The only reason I saw u today is becaus the girl i’m talking to is on vacation”

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    #21

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything “You’re the perfect girl. I’d marry you right now if there weren’t so many options out there”

    brieferraro , Kateryna Hliznitsova Report

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    #22

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything “Have fun at your friend’s birthday, hopefully you meet the love of your life”

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    #23

    Couple holding hands walking up marble stairs inside historic building in situationship setting He said he was busy....
    He was busy getting married

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    #24

    Sad woman covering one eye with hand wearing beige hoodie indoors “You didn’t answer, you’re learning, proud of you”

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    #25

    Serious woman talking to man in a cafe during discussion “Sorry I couldn’t talk to you I found out I have high cholesterol and it’s been a lot”

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    #26

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything I told him i felt like he hated me sometimes to which he said “you know in order to hate you that means i gotta care about you which i dont”

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    #27

    77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything He called me his practice girlfriend

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    troufaki13
    Community Member
    5 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm gonna practice my high-kick and my punch on you, then.

    #28

    “Even when I’m married and have kids we are still going to be doing this”

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    #29

    „My biggest fear is that if I ask you to marry me - you’d say yes“

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    #30

    We’re on a romantic date and he said “this situation is perfect to say ‘i love u’ the problem is that i don’t”

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    #31

    He rushed us both out of his house early the next morning so he could go to his dentists appointment, both hopped in our separate cars, but I waited in my car and watched him circle the block and go back in the house 😂😂😂

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    troufaki13
    Community Member
    5 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would've gone back to the house and knock on the door 😂

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    #32

    I told him I needed to put myself first and put my energy into someone that actually wants me . And he said “ Periodt” 😂😭😩

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    #33

    Smiling freckled young man in casual grey sweater outdoors “Don’t be sad Its over, smile because it happened” 😂😂😂

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    Janelle Collard
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    10 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends upon what "it' was.

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    #34

    Not a situationship but my ex husband said to me while we were married, “why do you let me treat you so badly?” 😅

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    Alexia
    Community Member
    5 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least he had some sort of awareness. Good that you left.

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    #35

    Hi, so is situationship code for dating people who hate you???😭😭😭

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    #36

    “i’m sorry your heart was collateral damage of my boredom”

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    #37

    “I’m emotionally in love with you but not physically attracted to u”

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    #38

    Me: “I love you” him: “I have love for you”

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    #39

    He broke no contact saying “i miss you” then ghosted me RIGHT AFTER and when i pointed it out he said “just cause i miss you doesn’t mean i have to talk to you” LIKE????

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    #40

    ”If we started dating can we break up for summer and do whatever we want and then start dating again in october”

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    WindySwede
    Community Member
    8 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "We can do the first part, just not the other thing"

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    #41

    “Let’s not confuse intimacy with love”

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    #42

    “You’re a star that refuses to shine” like wtf does that even mean

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    #43

    Broke up with me through SPOTIFY

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    #44

    I asked him why he kept leaving and coming back (8 times in the span of less than two years) he said "it's because you always let me" I was left speechless

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    #45

    “I left my phone at work” for 4 days????

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    #46

    Told me I reminded him of Carrie Bradshaw

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    Julie S
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    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

    #47

    “In like 8 years from now on my wedding day I’m gonna be looking at my wife walk down the aisle and think about you and how you’re the one who got away”

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    #48

    He was a pilot and he’d bring his cat over to my place every time he went on a trip. One day, he texted me casually, “Hey, I met someone new and we’re dating now. I’ll bring the cat over on Sunday.”

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    #49

    “can’t keep texting you everyday, what if i meet someone i like…”

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    #50

    “I love you”, for the first time, exactly 30 minutes before cheating on me

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    #51

    “I don’t like me for you” was TOP TIER

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    #52

    “You’re everything I want in a person, I just don’t want you to be my person” 💀

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    #53

    “We don’t have to talk everyday” fast forward we are 5 years in, married with a baby on the way 😅

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    Julie S
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    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A happy ending.

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    #54

    “I need to end the casual part of our relationship because I’m starting to catch feelings for you and I can see myself being with you and I care for you but I promised myself I would never be with a *my job role*” We met at work and do the same job 🙄

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    #55

    “I just like your attention more than I like you as a person”

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    #56

    I told him that I was okay being in a situationship because I would rather have that than not have him in my life at all and he said “yikes” 😐

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    Marianne
    Community Member
    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you really want to have a relationship, don't settle for less.

    #57

    Confessed to his face that I was in love with him and he said “why would you say that”

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    #58

    “Why’s it matter if im kissing other people im obvs coming home with you”

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    Ashtophet
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    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The backup plan… I had a guy like that when I was younger…

    #59

    ”I didn’t wish you a happy birthday cus I wasn’t sure if you’d want me to” excuse me 😃

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    #60

    I told him “all I’m asking for is the bare minimum “ he said “but I am giving you the bare minimum “ 🫠

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    #61

    “I can see myself marrying you” after ending things with me

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    #62

    I don’t see myself dating you right now, but that doesn’t mean that I’ll never see myself dating you at some point in the future

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    Marianne
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    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the definition of benching.

    #63

    “I was hoping I’d develop feelings for you” huh💀

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    #64

    “I’d rather stay in because if we don’t work out I’d have wasted my time and money”

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    #65

    “I’ve never made a plan in advance. I don’t do calendars, I’m spontaneous.”

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    #66

    he broke no contact after ghosting me for a month. he asked if i miss him, i said no and this was his response 💀

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    #67

    “You deserve love and I don’t have any to give” then got married a year later

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    #68

    We were hanging out with our mutual friends and he texts me “so bored, kinda wanna leave”. So I say “me too”. Then he says out loud “you can leave if you want” 😐

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    #69

    Kiss me on the forehead and say we’re just friends

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    #70

    “You’re perfect. I love you. Let’s be friends”

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    #71

    “I don’t want a relationship” soon after I sense that his energy has gone off with me. I asked him “are you talking to someone else?” He goes “yes I am and I want something serious with her, not you” 💀 💀 💀

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    #72

    Don’t tell anyone about our situationship because I would get bullied

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    #73

    “i don’t need a girlfriend, i have you”

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    #74

    “I just use tinder as entertainment purposes when I’m bored, I don’t talk to them, you’re the one I want”

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    #75

    Him: I love you. Me: No, you don’t. Him: No, I don’t.

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    #76

    “You need to value yourself more” 😭

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    #77

    To whichever young girl needs to see this today: if you're stressing because he is not texting you anymore, or if you're simply getting ghosted after a few dates, you must read make him quietly obsessed by mia mercer, it is one of the best dating books out there.

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