New Mom Decides To Leave Husband After His Reaction To Her Unplugging Wi-Fi So He Could Help Her

I love the fact he was the one pushing for a baby asap. Hope the judge wipes the floor with him and he's to pay for all the maintenance and childcare for this baby he wanted so much.

If you have overprotective friends or family in a situation like this you tell them very clearly that if they do anything to risk you losing custody they will lose the ability to have children and then they will never see you or your child again.

As a man myself, I'd just like to say she is married to a POS. How can he consider it reasonable to do nothing but work, play games and sleep, when he has a 3 month old baby? The gaming should have near completely stopped for now, so he can support his wife when he is not working or sleeping.

Jake sounds like a POS to me.

Who raises these scumbags.

People who have any fear of leaving a relationship, if in the USA, if you need/want to hide your address, consider getting a mailbox at a UPS (or similar) store. It will give you a street address and you can use that to get a drivers license. Have all mail forwarded to that address. The only bill that should have the actual address is the utility company and that should be in someone else's name. I had a stalker a few years ago and I needed to hide my home address. It isn't easy, especially with online searches, but it can be done. List the box - PO boxes do not work because you need some kind of a street address. One bill sent to the new home address is all that's needed. Most people don't think about this, but its imperative if you don't want someone showing up at your door.

I dated a Jake for about two years. Are all Jakes selfish asśholes?

You married a teenager unfortunately and he's never going to grow up. Especially as long as all of his friends are exactly the same way. I pray for their wives. Our father never did change to the day he died. I wish you luck.

Jake is an addict. Even 3-4 hrs of gaming a day is a lot, but addiction is not really about how much or how often. Cross addiction is incredibly common, he may have had a different addiction (like alcohol, smoking or sex) before the baby and he crossed over to gaming. Addicts rarely seek help before getting hit with some kind of reality check. OP needs to lean into her support. Stop lying to cover up Jake's addiction. She's not responsible for what other adults do with that information. Unfortunately she also needs to get help for herself. Even if this relationship ends, without help she will most likely marry another addict. That means therapy or some kind of 12 step program. There is a program for family members of gaming addicts, it's apparently called "Gamer-Anon". If she figures out that other addictions were going on prior, or one or both of her parents are an addict themselves (incredibly likely), she can find help in "Anon" programs for those addictions as well.

I hate to say it but it sounds like he is one of those guys who wants a mother. And a guy who got married because that's what his mama told him you do in life. You get married and have children. My father did this. He had 4 children. Blew money and cheated on my mom. I was around 12 when he stopped seing us at all. They divorced when I was 4 or 5. The second wife forced him to see us once a year for her birthdays we would spend the weekend at their house. After he blew all the money and cheated on her multiple times and lost every job he got. Which is exactly what he did to my mom. They divorced. Then we didn't hear from him again for many many years. One day my brother accidentally found where he was. So we sort of started talking again. He had remarried again and been divorced by that woman but was back with her again. He had married her and completely denied ever having any children. She still thinks that it was partially us kids fault. We were teenagers and younger. Wow.

Bye, Jake.

I didn't see "leave" as on option in the poll. That's what she should do. Let him fix his issues on his time, not their daughter's. OP is already alone. I know this from experience.

This post has made me so angry. Towards the beginning he said he couldn't help because he had "an important game." As a new father, the *only* way that game is important is if you are a professional gamer, and winning that game would bring some money in. BE A FATHER, you absolute deadbeat piece of s**t.

I could not imagine a man just ignoring his newborn baby kike this. My daughter had a baby a year ago, and her husband, well fiance at the time, did everything and anything for her. If he could have he would have breast fed that baby, and I think he really wanted to lol. Iam just so grateful that he hs a wonderful husband to my daughter and an absolytly amazing dad to my grandson

The title says "New Mom Decides To Leave Husband". I see no evidence of that.

Breastfeeding is no joke. It is painfully uncomfortable. My daughter also had trouble latching. She would get tired from sucking and fall asleep hungry then wake up screaming because she didn't get her fill. I was exhausted, frustrated, and my breasts hurt. I supplemented her feedings with formula and only bottle fed her breast milk that I pumped. It saved my sanity and my baby was happy and full. The people downplaying breastfeeding are AHs. Even pumping is no walk in the park. I have gotten very close to developing mastitis and if it weren't for the nutritional benefits breast milk offers I would have stopped long ago. I personally am not a fan. This poor woman has no support. Hopefully she opened up to her family and dropped the poor excuse of a husband!

A little bit of advice to any breastfeeding mother who is suffering with cracked nipples/baby unable to latch well: Nipple shields are a godsend! My son couldn't latch at all and I got so scared that he was going to starve if I didn't find a solution. A midwife friend suggested nipple shields and they really helped.

Advocating violence is stupid, folks. Stop it! She'll end up with relatives in jail, and the court case will hit the headlines and social media.

He has essentially deserted her

He sounds like my DIL. Only difference, no head phones, she just listens to the crying and ignores it. She won't put her phone down for anything other than sleep or shower (I'm assuming the sleep part). OP and my son would make good partners, too bad she wasn't around my area 4 years ago. My son works his a$$ off all day (construction) then comes home and has to take care of everything around the house.

My former husband was like this. I divorced when the child was 3. I tried to get back to him after divorce, for the sake of the child, which he suddenly started to take an interest in. Forward 5 years I had the second child. He, of course was just as dissinterested as with the first one. I was so messed up and entangled that it took many many years to get rid of his toxic lame a*s of my life. After a total of 34 years together, out which he had an income less than third of the time, he is entrenched in a smear campaign on how I allegedly alienated the children from him.... Turned his whole family against me and the kids. I suspect he has narcissistic personality disorder. I am grateful for my two wonderful boys, 17 and 25, and for getting out of this much stronger. I have my own place and modest income. Yet I can't help but wonder how life would have been along a real partner. Where there is no respect and reciprocity there is no future.

Y'all, straight people, stop getting married to people you barely know. You had only been together a year and a half and we're already married? You should have been barely moving in together by that point. You had a boyfriend who already didn't help with cleaning or maintaining a household and you thought he was suddenly become a responsible adult when you popped out a kid? He was obviously not mature enough to be an equal partner and definitely not a father. Just wish you would have given the relationship enough time to see that.

Used to be called a "computer widow". Wasted 6 years in a relationship that left nothing but being screamed at every time I interrupted him! Remember he doesn't care about you or Emma. He thought your pain was funny? How do you think he'll treat your daughter when she's in pain? Leave immediately, he offers nothing but misery, suffering, and a terrible life for you and an Abusive childhood that will leave Emma emotionally scared as an adult. And don't even consider a second chance for him. Any change would be another facade until he traps you, again. So true leopards never change their spots, but it makes excellent camouflage. Good luck focus on you and your daughter and setting yourselves free from the man child. And NO unsupervised visitation!!!

Sounds like he could do everything he's doing BY HIMSELF. He is certainly of no use to you or the child.

This marriage was never meant to be, even without Emma. You 2 never connected & rushed in like fools! Most couples aren't meant to be parents, PERIOD! Most women in new marriages aren't meant to be Mothers, PERIOD! You both go your separate ways now. If you need help with Emma turn to family members or if that's not feasible hire a part-time caregiver to ease the load. You , as a Mother should focus your attention on Emma, adjusting your work needs around Emma's needs.

It's possible the dad is experiencing PPD as well - it is a big change and he may be turning to gaming as a way of coping. That being said, she still needs to get the support she needs to be healthy (physically, emotionally, mentally) so she can continue meeting all of baby's needs. Being a new parent is hard enough WITH a supportive partner. Honestly at this point, she needs to do whatever it takes to survive.

People jump to conclusions really quick. And he may be completely in the wrong but people are instigating deception or malice just off of posts on the internet? Has anyone thought of referring her to mental health to ensure she is being supported and find alternative ways to stand by her husband and pull him back from this addiction and blasphemous action? The child will ultimately be affected by the divide of a mom and Dad long term. I feel that this escalated quickly after only what appears 3 months of him going from "was great, a completely different person" to whatever he is in now. I'm sure there were better routes than sneaking away and even contemplating bringing other family into this? Im sure he was being irresponsible, disrespectful, and careless after the baby, but there's always hope. There's plenty of ladies out there with post partum depression that contemplate or enact neglect on their babies and I've seen husbands stick through it and fight. It saddens me to see this.

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Jake could well be experiencing depression here. This does not excuse his behaviour but many many fathers experience this after the birth of a child. This avenue needs to be exhausted before tearing apart a family. Perhaps speaking with Jake's father first might be a good place to start.