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New Mom Loses It After SIL Planned A Secret Visit To See Her Baby When She Wasn't At Home
New parents can sometimes be overprotective of their babies, but that’s quite understandable, isn’t it? After all, it’s their first time being a mother or father and they are bound to be scared or even overthink certain things. During such a time, family should also try to be understanding, right?
This family, on the other hand, did something peculiar, which really annoyed the new parents. When both of them were out of the house, the original poster’s (OP) mother-in-law planned a secret visit for her daughter to come see the newborn! Read on to uncover the full story!
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The poster and her partner are new parents of a 16-month-old, and her in-laws visit once every week to look after the baby while they go to work
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During work, the poster got a notification that there was someone in their driveway, and it turned out that her sister-in-law was visiting
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The couple was shocked that she planned this secret visit, but it was because she didn’t want to do anything wrong in front of the new parents
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They had never really objected to the woman visiting their baby, so they just couldn’t figure out why she would do it secretly
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The poster was irked about all the secrecy, so she decided to confront them about it and ask why they did it
Folks, brace yourself, for today, we dive into a very strange tale that happened in the poster’s life. She and her partner are new parents of a 16-month-old baby, so her in-laws come over once a week to watch him while they go to work. However, this nice arrangement instantly turned not-so-nice after what happened one day when they were out.
Well, the couple got a notification that there was someone in their driveway, and they texted the grandparents to ask who it was. Turns out, OP’s sister-in-law, who stays two hours away, had secretly planned to come and visit the baby. What’s annoying them more is that they never had any problem with her coming to see their kid, and that the in-laws would arrange this secretly.
Utterly baffled by this, they asked the mother-in-law about all the sneaky business. Apparently, she shared that her daughter, who’s childfree by choice, didn’t want to do anything wrong in front of the new parents, so she kept it a secret. This didn’t really convince the poster, as there was no other reason given, and she thinks that the sneakiness is unnecessary.
The couple also feels that since it’s their baby, they get to decide who comes to their house to see him. After she vented online, netizens were divided, but many suggested talking with her sister-in-law. The poster gave us an update that she’s planning to confront her in-laws, as she still can’t fathom why they would do something like this.
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Many people found the sister-in-law’s behavior quite bizarre, and just like OP, they couldn’t figure out why she did it. Some claimed that the grandma and her daughter crossed boundaries by not informing the couple about this. Time and again, research has shown that it’s important to respect these boundaries as they help maintain healthy relationships, but some people just don’t get it.
Also, for those who are unaware, there’s an actual thing called new mum anxiety, so we can understand where OP is coming from. People have reported that this phase can also be very emotional, and having a sense of control can help. Of course, the poster also wants to know about who comes and visits her baby, and is it not natural that she should be informed?
Besides, all this family secrecy can have a negative impact on OP’s health, not to mention, it may also feel like a loss of trust. We all know how difficult it is to gain someone’s trust when it’s broken. However, there were a few netizens who didn’t side with the poster as they felt that she was overreacting, or even being controlling.
Unlike many people who found this weird, they argued that there was no issue here and OP was just making a mountain out of a molehill. Some even claimed that she should stop micromanaging her in-laws since she’s getting free childcare from them. What about you? Which side of this debate would you pick? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
Many people sided with the poster, as even they found it weird, but some said that she sounds quite controlling
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Apatheist Account2 6 months ago
If one is worried about mucking things up with the baby, wouldn't it be preferable to have a parent there to whom one could hand the child back, so that they can deal with it? There are (if this is true) some really weird people out there.
Janelle Collard 6 months ago
OP + her hubs need to be on the same page re: secret visits. "Any more of this + you're cut off from seeing the baby or babysitting" would be a good start to the conversation.
K Barnes 6 months ago
I wonder why SIL is so anxious to interact with the baby around its parents, but feels safe doing so with her parents there. Could be a SIL thing, could be that OP and her husband aren't very kind/supportive as OP claims. Doesn't make the secrecy thing ok, but it makes me wonder why.
Apatheist Account2 6 months ago
If one is worried about mucking things up with the baby, wouldn't it be preferable to have a parent there to whom one could hand the child back, so that they can deal with it? There are (if this is true) some really weird people out there.
Janelle Collard 6 months ago
OP + her hubs need to be on the same page re: secret visits. "Any more of this + you're cut off from seeing the baby or babysitting" would be a good start to the conversation.
K Barnes 6 months ago
I wonder why SIL is so anxious to interact with the baby around its parents, but feels safe doing so with her parents there. Could be a SIL thing, could be that OP and her husband aren't very kind/supportive as OP claims. Doesn't make the secrecy thing ok, but it makes me wonder why.
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