“Why Marriage Is Hard”: 28 Hilarious And Frustrating Habits Shared By Married Couples On TikTok
In one of their recent videos, TikTok user Liv (@liveroniandcheese) said that for a long time, they had been hearing that marriage is hard. So after they finally got engaged themselves, they wanted to have a clearer picture of what it was that they’d signed up for.
Because of that, Liv asked married people on the platform to share all the things that make their everyday life harder than it would have been had they remained single. Here are the most popular replies the TikToker has received so far.
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I Love My Husband But Dang This Drives Me Insane
Yeah, at least he wipes. I've heard some ...don't.
Load More Replies...My friend got mad that her husband never put new paper in the bathroom when he took the last piece so... she hid a roll of paper in her bag and waited for him to finally put a roll in. And she waited... and waited... Two weeks in she had a very serious talk about hygiene with him. Turns out he'd rather use the bathroom at work than put in a new paper roll.
This is my bathroom right down to the mirror. I do the same thing because the roll holder is in an awkward spot. If I reach for it with my right hand, I have to twist my back and I'm getting old, so, no. If I use my left hand, it's like I have T-Rex arms.
It's called intentional incompetence. Some people call it.Weaponized, that's a little too strong. It's just intentional. They pretend they don't know how it works.
My boyfriend will change the roll, but leave the cardboard center roll thingy on the counter. There is a trash can literally 6" from the toilet. He could just reach his arm over and toss the cardboard roll. Or, if he really felt environmental, he could take the cardboard roll out of the bathroom with him, 20 feet away into the kitchen where our recyclables trash can is. But no - it sits on the counter for eternity until I finally lose my mind and take it out to the recyclables can myself.
If it’s 3am and I need a new roll, I will do this and fix it in the morning
What is it with people and toilet paper rolls? Is it that time consuming to just put a new roll on??
Some designers have created strange contraptions, which would involve a screwdriver every time. I'm not sure how the one on the photo works.
Load More Replies...Or when they put the roll on backwards (and, yes, there is a correct way). I am convinced it's a male thing.
No, there is no correct way, both ways function just fine. There is only preferences.
Load More Replies...So sorry. I freely admit that I do this. I don't want to mess with the taking out of the rod when I'm on the toilet and my hands are potentially dirty, but I always forget to fix it by the time I wash my hands. We fixed this problem by having a floor based holder with no fiddly bits so I can just slide it on without my anxiety giving me fits about spreading germs.
Salmonella is is found on the eggshell, not in the egg, so this shouldn't really increase the risk by much, if at all. Still kind of gross though.
Load More Replies...Probably getting thrown away too. Egg shells are great fertilizer for many plants .
Is that packaging polystyrene? We use recycled cardboard for our egg cartons in NZ. I just assumed, wrongly, that everyone did that.
Some brands do it, you just have to be willing to pay a bit more.
Load More Replies...I can totally see me making breakfast knowing I'll use all the eggs and putting the shells in the carton for ease of disposal only to have my OCD wife see the carton out of the fridge and put it back in before I have a chance to throw it out. Honest mistake with no one to blame..
I agree. Carboard is a lot better - and cheaper, too.
Load More Replies...A study by the Pew Research Center, which uses data from a nationally representative survey of nearly 10,000 Americans over 18 as well as from the National Survey of Family Growth, heralds a turning point in the makeup of the American family. As recently as 2002, those who had lived with a romantic partner (54%) were outnumbered by those who had married one (60%). But now, those proportions are almost reversed, with 59% of Americans having ever cohabited and only half having ever married.
It's The Small Things
Can't do this in my house - my two cats would be in those cabinets within five seconds of them being left open XD
Lakota, we have to have child locks on the cabinets. My kids are 16 and 13. The locks are for the cats. If we don't, they open the cabinets and knock half the stuff out overnight. Any time we forget, I wake up to flour, Cheez-its, cereal, etc.....ALL over the kitchen floor.
Load More Replies...My hubs does this, his parents do this and it drives me nuts. It looks like we live with a damn poltergeist with all the cabinet doors open.
Cabinet people sold me on "self-closing" cabinets. Here's the truth. They DON'T close themselves.
I'd open ALL of them every time he leaves some open. A little passive aggressive here. Lol
My husband left cabinet doors open and we discovered it was the beginning of dementia.
My mom does this my dad's blind and would run into them they're not married anymore
I had a house where you had to literally make sure the door touched the wood or it would swing open. My ex was tall so he would run into them...
I Could Make So Many Of These
Is there a napping kitten in there? I would excuse this if it was for that reason.
It looks like someone took their pants off while pooping and just walked away..
Load More Replies...Anyone Else?
My boyfriend will use the same waterglass for days. DAYS. It starts to literally get this gross greasy film ALL OVER IT (not just the rim.) All he fills it with is water... I have NO IDEA where the nasty greasy layer comes from. He does have oily skin, but jfc. I can barely keep myself from gagging when I see the glass out on the counter. When he finally changes the glass - if it's my turn to do the dishes - ugggh I can barely stand touching it. We have no shortage of cups - he could use a new one each day, plus we handwash all of our dishes every night. I swear he's going to get cholera from that nasty old glass some day.
Load More Replies...My husband will leave garbage on the counter, and the garbage can is literally right next to the counter. Drives me up the wall! My 8 year old son, knows how to throw things in the garbage a lot better than he does. The funny thing is, is if my son has opened a piece of candy, my husband will tell him to go throw the wrapper away. That’s when I say to him, “Instead of teaching our son, how about you teach yourself?” He hates it when I say that😂! I guess that’s why God only gave me 1 child, because he knew that between the two, I was going to feel like I had 9🫤
Hahaha that was my number 1 grievance while living in the US. Of course, now he switched to glasses.
That being said, why do people still tie the knot? To oversimplify in one word, security. The survey’s respondents had notably different levels of trust in their partners.
Two-thirds of the married individuals trusted their partners to tell them the truth but only half of the unmarried did.
Additionally, roughly three-quarters of married folks trusted their partner to act in their best interest but fewer than 60% of the unmarried felt the same way
And while 56% of married partners believed their partners could be trusted to handle money responsibly, only 40% of cohabiters felt the same way.
My cat trained my spouse to not leave socks on floor or anywhere. She would wait until we were asleep and then come in with the sock and the "look what I caught for you" meow, which woke them up. Now, no socks in the living room even though we lost her years ago.
I'd put them in his beer...which is probably why i never got married
If not smelly, kick it under the bed. If smelly -> trash. One day someone will wake up without any socks in the drawer ;)
That's what I used to do. Anything hubby left on the floor got kicked under the bed. He doesn't do that anymore!
Load More Replies...Why Can't They Close Cabinets And Drawers??
I've been trying to convince my husband we have a poltergeist that opens kitchen cabinets and drawers, but he refuses to believe it. Anyone know how to levitate a bed?
Load More Replies...My mom used to keep one little glass like that in the dishwasher at all times so she'd know if it had been run or not. If the cup was full of water, the dishes were clean.
Or you could just look inside and see it at a glance like a normal person
Load More Replies...It looks little enough, it could get flipped either during washing or opening and closing the dish washer... Unless there were witnesses.
Straight To Jail
And to mom: "yes, we shared, and since I went to the trouble to fetch the bag, it's sib's turn to throw the trash away"
Load More Replies...Scott Stanley, a research professor and co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver, Colorado, who was not involved in this study but has researched cohabiting extensively, says “Marriage has a high signal value as to intention.”
"When somebody tells you, 'That's my spouse,' you know a ton of information about the relationship and the level of commitment," he explains.
“But you could have 10 different couples tell you they’re cohabiting and for some of them it’s like dating with a lot of sleepovers, for others, it’s a lot like marriage in terms of their intention, and for another few, which is the worst deal, it’s one person thinking it’s one thing and the other person thinking it’s not. Cohabitation doesn’t force clarity like marriage does.”
I Swear I Can Track His Moments By The Trail He Leaves Behind
I left it this way this last time. Only took him 4 days to replace!
I Still Love Him
The same goes for cleaning the hair out of the bath tub. The woman I bought my place from had hair just below the shoulder, my bathtub drain was backing up day one so I snaked one of those hair things in the drain. I pulled out a couple of Wookies.
Load More Replies...THIS is the reason I want 2 bathrooms in my house even though it's just my BF and me! That, and sometimes both people need to use the bathroom
You can love someone and still communicate to them they're being gross or inconsiderate. In fact, I'd argue it's not really love if you're unwilling to help them grow
Leaving bits of your body for others to clean up is pretty nasty.
Load More Replies...This Is Why Marriage Is Hard
It's really not lol. But that's just a personal opinion.
Load More Replies...LOL, signs you might be married to a ginger cat. His tiny brain cell was real excited by this creative solution.
I Still Love Him
It takes just as much time and energy to put things in the hamper than it does to drop them on the floor.
No, you know, you have to open the hamper, which is sooo much work /s
Load More Replies...And end up hopping over discarded laundry until the door one day won't open as the dirty laundry has piled up too high.
Load More Replies...My husband throws them everywhere but the basket and then slides the basket behind the bathroom where you can barely open it
Pew’s researchers also discovered that married couples were more satisfied with how their partners handled most of the usual couple chafing points: parenting, chores, work-life balance, and communication.
In bed, it was too close to call and a bit sad: just 36% of married Americans and 34% of those living together are very satisfied with their sex lives.
Make It Makes Sense
Wait, is this not correct? Where else should I hang my dish towels? Or is it because it's bunched up?
To my eye, it doesn't look like a dish towel, but a floor rag. . And for the actual dish towels, maybe a peg on the wall would be a lot more appropriate - and hygienic.
Load More Replies...its not on the floor. wow, many of these are the most nitpicky things ever.
This infuriates me too and I have literally just fumed 5 minutes ago in the work kitchen. The boss leaves it on the kitchen table having used it as a napkin so he doesn't ruin his shirt, and some else scrunches it just like that. This place has made me OCD. I even repacked the dishwasher the other day because people are idiots.
That sort of looks like someone tried to basketball shoot the towel into the laundry basket and whiffed.
Or someone staged this. The hamper still has a price tag on it.
Load More Replies...You haven't ever lived with a spouse and kids? Because leaving it there, means that soon there's ten of them. Laundry loves company.
Load More Replies...Anythingvwith a resealable bag...looks like a psychopath or a gorilla opened it.
I Still Love Him
This is me. My husband just kicks them aside. But I'll snip at my boys to put their shoes away. Haha 🤣 I know, lead by example.
This was me until my dog started hiding them on me. Not chewing just hiding
Load More Replies...Mine takes them off right in the middle of the walking paths. I can tell when my husband is home because I am tripping over his shoes.
Mine likes to leave them standing directly in front of the door where they come off his feet.
We have a shoe rack & my husband will put his about a metre away from it, drives me up the wall
Why would he put them way under that table? He's going to wear them again tomorrow.
While nearly all of those surveyed named love and companionship as one of the major reasons for sharing their residence, those who were not married were more likely to cite financial pressures, convenience, and pregnancy as big motivations for moving in with each other.
As Stanley points out, money also keeps some people in cohabiting relationships when they don’t want to be. “In particular we find that when women say they’re moving in for reasons of financial convenience, that’s associated with negative characteristics of relationships," he said. "It’s like, ‘I wouldn’t be here if I could afford to live on my own.'”
His research also suggests that the common opinion that people should live together to test the relationship is ill-founded. "Over seven published studies, we’ve found that living together before you’re engaged is just riskier," he explained.
Does it need to be washed or something? Ugh. At least they didn't leave it to soak lol
As long as "soaking" means letting it sit for just the 5 minutes it generally takes to lift off non-burnt stuff like this.
Load More Replies...My SO will let it sit on the stove too, coz if he let it soaks in the sink means he is the one to wash.
These are all so petty. Who actually walks around there house taking photos of nothing
If it's a lot of little nothings every day it adds up to something
Load More Replies...This poor thing looks like it’s in self defense mode.. Hangers at the ready! 😆
OK, first of - the use of smooth plastic hangers makes it very easy to pull clothes off of them. Second - this closet is packed with clothes that have no business being there. I see space savers being used... So, how about a little clean up first? ;)
Or a bigger apartment. Ours at least doesn't have enough closet space for four people, though here i see only adults' clothes - also outdoor clothing.
Load More Replies...My husband's closet looks like this. It drives me crazy. I can't understand how it doesn't irritate him to see it like that.
That is a lot of dark clothing, maybe you need one more black top? This closet is too full, that is why the hangers look like that. Time to edit.
So is all the trouble worth it? Last year, the University of Chicago economist Sam Peltzman published a study in which he found that marriage was "the most important differentiator" between happy and unhappy people.
Married people are 30 points happier than the unmarried — income contributes to happiness, too, but not as much.
This heinous comment has been stricken from the record 😁
Load More Replies...Marriage Is Great! I Love My Husband
Is that the Royal Doulton with the blue periwinkles? (Keeping up Appearances sitcom reference for the non-Brits)
I was going to say... The mugs that are right behind the sink and the dishes that go in the sink instead of the dishwasher. Bought a Dirty/Clean magnet to show the dishwasher has dirty dishes in it and still...
hmmm... interesting... the dish drying rack is packed with dishes positioned right next to dishwasher... explain that part first :)
Sociologist and professor at the University of Virginia Brad Wilcox agrees. In his book 'Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization', he writes that "Marital quality is, far and away, the top predictor I have run across of life satisfaction in America. Specifically, the odds that men and women say they are ‘very happy’ with their lives are a staggering 545 percent higher for those who are very happily married, compared with peers who are not married or who are less than very happy in their marriages."
So maybe chipping away a few hills of clothes along the way is worth it.
It's an option... you don't have to have it on all the time...
Load More Replies...Stupid place to put the loo paper roll. Hard as to twist around to reach it.
Based on the model of this bidet, it only uses cold water... why am i not surprised ahahahah
I Still Love Him
I don’t quite get it. Should it be in the sink? In the dishwasher? Immediately cleaned?
seems to be perfectly staged. But the sink is dirty, so i wouldn't com[plain about this much LOL
Cupboard is left open - but do I see there a vessel that's got something inside it? Mobile screen is too small to look at it more closely.
I think that's just the design of the glass
Load More Replies...It looks a bit focused on men .... you should see the trail of empty cups, bottles, cans and toiletpaper rolls my wife manages to produce. maybe it is just that is bothering men a lot less than it annoys women ?? (PS: I Still Love Her)
I think you're right, women are more likely to complain about this stuff. My wife leaves her dishes on the counter, slams the cupboard doors, and leaves outside doors wide open. For the most part these things don't really bother me honestly. But if I leave some bread crumbs on the counter that's a big deal. Yeah, I still love her.
Load More Replies...So i guess your life is nice and your wedding ok if your problem is about toilet paper roll or a cup of coffee.
Honestly, this is just a list of insecure self-owns. They all scream, "my life and my relationship are so f*ing boring, that I decide to bi**h about insignificant issues." I've been needled to the door by partners that post about socks on the floor and toilet rolls because they need to feel superior in some way. Pro-tip: grow TF up, ask your partner for what you want and don't sweat the little s**t. Relationships are hard enough without one of you begging for internet sympathy for closing a f*ing cabinet door.
So much "look what my hubby did" ... how about some things the wifeys do. My wife never finishes a glass, leaves her snot-tissues next to the bed for days (allergies), can't fill the dishwasher without somehow blocking the rotating spray thingies, undresses everythign at once and lets me separate panties from pantyhose from pants when I do. the laundry, always uses max-power on the stove and burns anything she tries to heat up ... the list goes on. But so does her's.
Okay kids, time to take off the sugar coating. This is *NOT* what makes marriage hard. Here is what makes marriage hard... becoming sexually bored (your own fault), becoming emotionally distant (your own fault), being tired all the time (not your fault), never having any time (not your fault), having a special needs child (no one's fault), partner developing a chronic medical condition, the loss of a pregnancy or child, in-laws needing a place to stay, parents needing continuous care, diverging career paths, home wreckers, addiction, financial stress due to medical bills, defaulting on a mortgage, affairs, secret second lives, malaria (jk, thanks for reading this far). But open cupboards and hair in the sink?? Those are just reminders of all the love you have in your life. Charish it.
As a man I can say that all boys when they are young are taught that the only way to keep your future wife on her toes and to not be complacent, is to not close cupboard doors and drawers. Believe it or not there is even a certificate that is handed out when this skill has been dutifully learnt. Mine hangs proudly - out of sight. Be a man, don't close the cupboards and drawers.
🤣🤣 Sometimes they let girls in those classes too... My certificate is here somewhere, probably crumbled up under the bed🤣
Load More Replies...I'm still in love with my husband after 27 years of marriage. However, he does 90% of the things on this list. Pick your battles ladies.
Not one mention of the bathroom being cluttered with shampoo, conditioner, lotions and mskeup! Not one mention of the amount of trash that has to be taken out, but no trash if she is out of town.
It looks a bit focused on men .... you should see the trail of empty cups, bottles, cans and toiletpaper rolls my wife manages to produce. maybe it is just that is bothering men a lot less than it annoys women ?? (PS: I Still Love Her)
I think you're right, women are more likely to complain about this stuff. My wife leaves her dishes on the counter, slams the cupboard doors, and leaves outside doors wide open. For the most part these things don't really bother me honestly. But if I leave some bread crumbs on the counter that's a big deal. Yeah, I still love her.
Load More Replies...So i guess your life is nice and your wedding ok if your problem is about toilet paper roll or a cup of coffee.
Honestly, this is just a list of insecure self-owns. They all scream, "my life and my relationship are so f*ing boring, that I decide to bi**h about insignificant issues." I've been needled to the door by partners that post about socks on the floor and toilet rolls because they need to feel superior in some way. Pro-tip: grow TF up, ask your partner for what you want and don't sweat the little s**t. Relationships are hard enough without one of you begging for internet sympathy for closing a f*ing cabinet door.
So much "look what my hubby did" ... how about some things the wifeys do. My wife never finishes a glass, leaves her snot-tissues next to the bed for days (allergies), can't fill the dishwasher without somehow blocking the rotating spray thingies, undresses everythign at once and lets me separate panties from pantyhose from pants when I do. the laundry, always uses max-power on the stove and burns anything she tries to heat up ... the list goes on. But so does her's.
Okay kids, time to take off the sugar coating. This is *NOT* what makes marriage hard. Here is what makes marriage hard... becoming sexually bored (your own fault), becoming emotionally distant (your own fault), being tired all the time (not your fault), never having any time (not your fault), having a special needs child (no one's fault), partner developing a chronic medical condition, the loss of a pregnancy or child, in-laws needing a place to stay, parents needing continuous care, diverging career paths, home wreckers, addiction, financial stress due to medical bills, defaulting on a mortgage, affairs, secret second lives, malaria (jk, thanks for reading this far). But open cupboards and hair in the sink?? Those are just reminders of all the love you have in your life. Charish it.
As a man I can say that all boys when they are young are taught that the only way to keep your future wife on her toes and to not be complacent, is to not close cupboard doors and drawers. Believe it or not there is even a certificate that is handed out when this skill has been dutifully learnt. Mine hangs proudly - out of sight. Be a man, don't close the cupboards and drawers.
🤣🤣 Sometimes they let girls in those classes too... My certificate is here somewhere, probably crumbled up under the bed🤣
Load More Replies...I'm still in love with my husband after 27 years of marriage. However, he does 90% of the things on this list. Pick your battles ladies.
Not one mention of the bathroom being cluttered with shampoo, conditioner, lotions and mskeup! Not one mention of the amount of trash that has to be taken out, but no trash if she is out of town.
