Worker Gets Scolded For ‘Barking Orders’ Handling A Crisis, Cues Malicious Compliance
Interview With AuthorThere’s a time and a place for everything. Sure, politeness, diplomacy, and good manners are essential in workplace environments. We’re big fans of them. However, when there’s a disaster of epic proportions heading your way, it might be time for proactivity and using more urgent language. Otherwise, your colleagues might not understand that they have to take action immediately.
Redditor u/Brewthirty17, who used to work at a major petroleum company, recently went viral after sharing how being overly polite at the wrong time can potentially spell disaster. Scroll down for his story in full.
Bored Panda got in touch with the author of the viral story, redditor u/Brewthirty17, and he was kind enough to answer our questions. You’ll find the thoughts he shared with us as you read on.
If there’s an incoming disaster, politeness might have to take a back seat for a little while
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One petroleum company employee shared how he proved to his coworkers that being overly nice in critical situations doesn’t always work
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Respectful communication isn’t always possible when the stakes are high
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Redditor u/Brewthirty17, who posted the viral story on r/MaliciousCompliance, shared a bit more information about what happened and gave his take on leadership in the workplace.
The OP clarified to us that his boss did not actually reprimand him. “He told me I did the right thing,” he told Bored Panda that his superior was supportive of how he’d taken charge of the situation.
According to the author, the qualities of a true workplace leader “would depend on the job.” There are no one-size-fits-all answers here. A lot depends on the context.
“In that job, you have to be able to seize the moment and use the knowledge you have to quickly solve an issue if there could be environmental impact,” he said, referring to his own professional experience.
In the meantime, the OP shared his insights on how to best tackle any disagreements that people have with their colleagues. In his view, emotional intelligence plays an important part here.
“It takes having the ability to read people,” he said, adding that “everyone reacts to what is said in a different way.”
Workplace leadership is centered around balance. On the one hand, you want to be empathetic and supportive, as well as inspire your colleagues to go above and beyond the call of duty.
On the other hand, as a boss or manager, you are expected to get results. There are efficiency goals, profit margins, investor expectations, and [checks notes] key performance indicators to consider.
Even at the best of times, balancing the more human aspects of business with the financial ones is a tough task. Now imagine doing that under intense pressure.
In critical situations, whether we’re talking about business or politics, it becomes necessary to prioritize. You weigh your options and consider the consequences of each alternative course of action.
For instance, you might come to the conclusion that not taking charge (i.e. remaining passive) would be awful for absolutely everyone involved, so you step up and potentially put your career on the line for the greater good.
Similarly, you might recognize that under these specific circumstances, you may need to temporarily sacrifice one thing (e.g. being super nice to everyone) to get the desired result (i.e. everyone responds to avoid a major disaster).
In tense situations, leaders have to decide what outcomes are the most desirable and what sacrifices they have to make
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However, it’s frustrating when you get called out for what, objectively, is a massive win. Niceness, while fundamental to most human interactions, can have negative consequences for businesses if it’s used at all times without regard for the context.
Politeness and respect should be the default for no-risk everyday interactions. But when we’re talking about the possibility of a major oil spill, you have to be honest with yourself: is someone’s feelings getting hurt more important than an ecological catastrophe?
Similarly, in other critical situations, like war, natural disasters, and the like, human lives take precedence over feelings. While it would be wonderful if everyone were polite all the time, you also need to know that the people around you can follow orders when needed instead of standing idly by, avoiding taking on any and all additional responsibility.
Or, in other words, it’s not just the workplace leader’s communication style that you have to take into account. You also have to be mindful of how one’s coworkers respond to information, criticism, and requests. Are they team players? Are their concerns valid or are they trying to game the system to do less than the absolute minimum at work? Overworking and micromanaging your staff is a big ‘no,’ however, the employees also need to be able to pull their own weight and do what’s required of them in their contract.
Employees want their leaders to be trustworthy, and compassionate, and to motivate them
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As noted by Gallup, leaders have a lot of responsibility resting on their shoulders. They are expected to build relationships, develop people, lead change at work, inspire their colleagues, think critically, communicate clearly, and create an atmosphere of accountability.
Meanwhile, employees want leaders whom they can trust, who are compassionate, and who offer stability as well as hope for the future.
According to Indeed, one of the most fundamental things for workplace leaders to master is good communication. They’re also expected to lead with empathy, be positive and boost morale, be confident in their abilities, and have a clear vision for the future.
On top of that, good leaders are transparent about the job and state of the company, own up to their mistakes whenever they make them, know how to delegate, and try to motivate their staff so that they feel empowered at work.
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Been there, and I decided to let the crew h@ng themsleves. We were taking out the far end walls of a facility to expand the size of the building. I was on one wall, my crew of 5 was on the other one, and I decided to just watch and wait. Well, I got mine taken down while they were still trying to figure it out. They decided to tie a beam from the wall to the back of the work van, then proceeded to gun it, which lifted the back end about 4 feet off the ground. They eventually got the wall down, but not before they bent the frame of the van which seriously f***ed it up.
Oh, did they get their widdle feelings hurt?? Boo hoo! Put on your big boy panties and f*****g deal with it you big babies! 🤪
OK so yes I've seen this happen before, but I've also worked with people who thought the company would die without and were under the illusion that they were the most knowledge when this couldn't have been further from the truth. All the work posts have a similar theme "I'm the most important person in the company and it will fall apart without my input" "I sure showed them'. Maybe I'm just being cyclical but I do wonder if a lot of these posts are by people who fall into the category of being deluded!!!! Worked with 1 guy like this before, all he talked about was how much more than everyone he knew and tried to butt into everything and was nearly always wrong. Of course a broken clock is right twice a day so on that rare occasion he was right he thought it proved how superior he was! Guy did hardly any work either 😕
Too many people today suffer from the Dunning Kruger effect and are typically vindictive are surly if they are "told what to do". The paradox is if you had asked nicely they would have likely laughed it off and ignored it because it didn't project an authoritative "aura", if you know what I mean. If they were the least bit enlightened they would have asked "John" what he saw to determine that a spill was imminent. A lessons learned situation.
I wonder if OP was just a d**k with the orders in a crisis like total military drill sergeant, people got annoyed and complained. His boss and maybe everyone else knew what hes like tried to tell him dont go all military drill sergeant try to be commanding but not over the top. Then he writes the post about how all he did was not say please and thank you and since noone was there and all they have is OP's account they agree with him. Maybe none of what I said is true but when you don't have the otherside you can't really tell if what OP said is accurate
OP straight up admitted they were barking orders. Which is what you are supposed to do in emergency situations. If acting like a military drill Sergent stops an emergency that's what you do.
Load More Replies...Those guys need to be sent out to the oil patch and let the drillers and roughnecks have at them. Niceties expected in the oil business...it's the end of times.
As someone who handles medical emergencies on a regular basis, niceties can get people killed or severely injured. You can be clear and direct without being rude, and all my colleagues have that understanding. Clear, concise, direct communication is the only way to handle any kind of emergency.
Work at my local theater that has a small but full kitchen. I was on fryer and it was busy so i was moving fast. I had crew behind me (near the warmer) just hanging out talking. One of them was hold the knife out just playing around with it. I nearly turned n ran into it as i dont havr eyes behind me and im moving fast to keep up on orders. Thankfully i was able to stop n move in time but i SNAPPED at him for just having the knife pointed straight out n not leaving it on the counter where it belonged and that he could seriously hurt someone. As well as being in the way of a very busy station not doing anything but talking. He didnt like that i went off like that n just walked off with the others to the back room to talk. Honestly amazes me how many team members there are with little to no food saftey knowledge
This reminds me of an incident 30 years ago, when working in a lab at midnight with a $10 million irreplaceable prototype, one of the hardware engineers burst in the lab and screamed “shut the [device] down now! NOW!” We immediately hit the emergency stop. It turned out that a safety sensor had given a false alarm, but it was obviously the right call. As one person put it, he didn’t unclench his sphincter for three days afterwards.
Been there, and I decided to let the crew h@ng themsleves. We were taking out the far end walls of a facility to expand the size of the building. I was on one wall, my crew of 5 was on the other one, and I decided to just watch and wait. Well, I got mine taken down while they were still trying to figure it out. They decided to tie a beam from the wall to the back of the work van, then proceeded to gun it, which lifted the back end about 4 feet off the ground. They eventually got the wall down, but not before they bent the frame of the van which seriously f***ed it up.
Oh, did they get their widdle feelings hurt?? Boo hoo! Put on your big boy panties and f*****g deal with it you big babies! 🤪
OK so yes I've seen this happen before, but I've also worked with people who thought the company would die without and were under the illusion that they were the most knowledge when this couldn't have been further from the truth. All the work posts have a similar theme "I'm the most important person in the company and it will fall apart without my input" "I sure showed them'. Maybe I'm just being cyclical but I do wonder if a lot of these posts are by people who fall into the category of being deluded!!!! Worked with 1 guy like this before, all he talked about was how much more than everyone he knew and tried to butt into everything and was nearly always wrong. Of course a broken clock is right twice a day so on that rare occasion he was right he thought it proved how superior he was! Guy did hardly any work either 😕
Too many people today suffer from the Dunning Kruger effect and are typically vindictive are surly if they are "told what to do". The paradox is if you had asked nicely they would have likely laughed it off and ignored it because it didn't project an authoritative "aura", if you know what I mean. If they were the least bit enlightened they would have asked "John" what he saw to determine that a spill was imminent. A lessons learned situation.
I wonder if OP was just a d**k with the orders in a crisis like total military drill sergeant, people got annoyed and complained. His boss and maybe everyone else knew what hes like tried to tell him dont go all military drill sergeant try to be commanding but not over the top. Then he writes the post about how all he did was not say please and thank you and since noone was there and all they have is OP's account they agree with him. Maybe none of what I said is true but when you don't have the otherside you can't really tell if what OP said is accurate
OP straight up admitted they were barking orders. Which is what you are supposed to do in emergency situations. If acting like a military drill Sergent stops an emergency that's what you do.
Load More Replies...Those guys need to be sent out to the oil patch and let the drillers and roughnecks have at them. Niceties expected in the oil business...it's the end of times.
As someone who handles medical emergencies on a regular basis, niceties can get people killed or severely injured. You can be clear and direct without being rude, and all my colleagues have that understanding. Clear, concise, direct communication is the only way to handle any kind of emergency.
Work at my local theater that has a small but full kitchen. I was on fryer and it was busy so i was moving fast. I had crew behind me (near the warmer) just hanging out talking. One of them was hold the knife out just playing around with it. I nearly turned n ran into it as i dont havr eyes behind me and im moving fast to keep up on orders. Thankfully i was able to stop n move in time but i SNAPPED at him for just having the knife pointed straight out n not leaving it on the counter where it belonged and that he could seriously hurt someone. As well as being in the way of a very busy station not doing anything but talking. He didnt like that i went off like that n just walked off with the others to the back room to talk. Honestly amazes me how many team members there are with little to no food saftey knowledge
This reminds me of an incident 30 years ago, when working in a lab at midnight with a $10 million irreplaceable prototype, one of the hardware engineers burst in the lab and screamed “shut the [device] down now! NOW!” We immediately hit the emergency stop. It turned out that a safety sensor had given a false alarm, but it was obviously the right call. As one person put it, he didn’t unclench his sphincter for three days afterwards.


































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