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Guy Notices Fiancée Never Wears Engagement Ring, Starts Questioning The Relationship
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Guy Notices Fiancée Never Wears Engagement Ring, Starts Questioning The Relationship

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While opinions really do vary, a lot of people have certain expectations about what their proposal will look like. The location, the planning, the outfits and, yes, the ring might be important. So if you’ve gone to all the trouble to get a really, really nice ring, chances are you might be unhappy when your partner barely touches it.

A man asked the internet for advice when he noticed that his fiancée had stopped wearing her rather expensive engagement ring. We reached out to the man who shared the post via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.

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    An engagement ring is generally seen as a strong sign that someone has committed to marriage

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    So one man was concerned when his fiancée stopped wearing hers

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    There are very practical reasons one might not wear rings at all

    Not everyone is comfortable or practical enough to wear their engagement ring every single day, and that is fine. Some people may have work or daily regimens that make perpetual ring-wearing a no-go. Nurses and other healthcare workers are clear candidates for this but also chefs, construction workers, or anyone who has hands (and rings) subject to heavy usage may take off the ring to avoid damage, snagging, or hygiene concerns. In line or finger work where gloves are worn, a ring can be a risk to safety, and in sport or art pursuits, such as pottery, rock climbing, or weightlifting, it can interfere with grip or be painfully jammed. A temporary removal is often less relationship-focused and more ring-and-finger-preservation focused.

    Physical comfort is another common reason. A finger that swells with warm weather, an allergy to a certain metal, or even a hand injury can cause a ring to become an irritation. Others simply aren’t used to wearing rings, finding them fiddly or restrictive, especially if they’ve never been “jewelry types.” They may also be concerned about slight weight changes or skin texture and wish to keep the ring out of sight until they feel more comfortable. We, unfortunately, don’t have enough information about that to speculate here, but it does not seem like the fiancée enjoys lots of jewelry, given her chosen profession.

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    For others, there’s an emotional or personal factor: wanting to be able to think of oneself independently of the status of a fiancée. Transitioning from “dating” to “engaged” is sometimes a shift in identity, and even if they love their betrothed, there are some who need time to process that transition in seclusion. They might choose a lesser-known band on a chain, keep the ring stashed at home, or merely wear it on holidays until they feel comfortable enough to have a constant reminder.

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    Communication is and remains key in any long term relationship

    It takes honest, empathetic communication to understand and reconcile these decisions. If you’re the one who feels hurt or insecure when the ring falls off, explain to them in a relaxed tone: “I know you have practical reasons, but wearing the ring on your hand reminds me that we’re in this together.” Hear them out, maybe they’ve been bothered by greasy fingers after coming home from a long day of work or scared of losing the ring while out and about. Acknowledging that you listen to their complaints shows respect for their autonomy and care for their comfort.

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    From there, consider compromises that satisfy both partners’ needs. Perhaps they can wear the ring on date nights and family events, but stash it in a secure location during work hours or vigorous exercise. If the ring’s physical style is the issue, a temporary silicone band or a second “placeholder” ring will signal commitment without sacrificing functionality. Others would rather wear a pendant version of the ring suspended from a chain, keeping the actual ring in a secure box while continuing to keep its significance near to heart. The man seems to believe that the amount he spent on the ring should, in some way, affect her decision making. If anything, this should be a red flag to her, if he believes that money equals this sort of entitlement.

    Reassurance goes a long way too. Explain to your partner that the ring is symbolic, valuable because of what it means, not because of how brightly it glows. Inform them that you trust them to make their own decision, whether they wear the ring all day or keep it in a drawer, and reassure them that your love and commitment are not dependent on adornments. Over time, as the partners listen to one another and feel understood, the ring acquires a celebratory connotation and loses its anxiety component.

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    Engagement rings are personal matters, and not having one is not a do-one-for-all mandate. By recognizing the utilitarian and psychological reasons why someone has chosen to forgo the daily wear, and by offering empathy, flexible solutions, and genuine reassurance, couples can turn what could otherwise be a cause of contention into a means of building trust and increased understanding.

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    Some readers thought he really was overreacting

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    Some thought his concerns were valid

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    Bernd Herbert
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's weird how some people were put into a spot by society, media and popculture that an overpriced piece of metal and gems is a requirement to get married. $7K! Absolutely bizarre.

    David Andrews
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poster admits that she wears it when they go somewhere nice, so in effect she has an expensive piece of jewellery which she likes to wear on special occasions, what is wrong with that? Seems less like he is worried that she does not like the ring or is regretting the engagement, more like he wants a symbol on her hand to show she "belongs" to someone. Also, bit weird in the comments for these people to be saying he should get her a silicone ring or cheap one to wear day to day. Fine if she wanted that, but sounds like she is not bothered about having a ring on all the time, so why push something that she is not attached to, and doesn't have the sentimental meaning, just to have something on a finger?

    Fellfromthemoon
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in a healthcare-related field. In my experience, no jewellery (precious metal, cheap or plastic) is allowed on the hands (often including wristwaches) most of the time. As one commenter said, try doing household chores while wearing a ring, and not even a simple band, but a gemstone sticking out. Larger pieces of jewellery (rings with a stone sticking out counts as a big piece) are simply not convenient for everyday use, carries the risk of injuries, as some also mentioned, and the jewellery will be also ruined, lost, or unlawfully taken. (BTW, this is the reason why I don't think earrings for little children are a good thing. Until kiddo knows when and how to take it out and put it back, and follows protocoll reliably, no earrings.)

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    Rika
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring cost about 20 euros, it was a simple band, it still bothered me when doing daily chores. I couldn't imagine constantly wearing a ring that could get caught in my clothes or worse, it could puncture latex gloves if I'm working in the medical field. I also don't understand why someone would be expected to wear a 7k ring on a daily basis when it can get lost so easily. Wearing it on a necklace would make more sense - but OP sounds like a paranoid AH when his fiancee gives him valid reasons not to wear the ring and he assumes she must be cheating.

    Mike Crow
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    1 week ago

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    He was fine with work and working out but then she gave no reason for other times. It is still a large part of western society and in this custom not wearing it is a signal that she is available. Even their old friend said it.

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    Bernd Herbert
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's weird how some people were put into a spot by society, media and popculture that an overpriced piece of metal and gems is a requirement to get married. $7K! Absolutely bizarre.

    David Andrews
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poster admits that she wears it when they go somewhere nice, so in effect she has an expensive piece of jewellery which she likes to wear on special occasions, what is wrong with that? Seems less like he is worried that she does not like the ring or is regretting the engagement, more like he wants a symbol on her hand to show she "belongs" to someone. Also, bit weird in the comments for these people to be saying he should get her a silicone ring or cheap one to wear day to day. Fine if she wanted that, but sounds like she is not bothered about having a ring on all the time, so why push something that she is not attached to, and doesn't have the sentimental meaning, just to have something on a finger?

    Fellfromthemoon
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in a healthcare-related field. In my experience, no jewellery (precious metal, cheap or plastic) is allowed on the hands (often including wristwaches) most of the time. As one commenter said, try doing household chores while wearing a ring, and not even a simple band, but a gemstone sticking out. Larger pieces of jewellery (rings with a stone sticking out counts as a big piece) are simply not convenient for everyday use, carries the risk of injuries, as some also mentioned, and the jewellery will be also ruined, lost, or unlawfully taken. (BTW, this is the reason why I don't think earrings for little children are a good thing. Until kiddo knows when and how to take it out and put it back, and follows protocoll reliably, no earrings.)

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    Rika
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My engagement ring cost about 20 euros, it was a simple band, it still bothered me when doing daily chores. I couldn't imagine constantly wearing a ring that could get caught in my clothes or worse, it could puncture latex gloves if I'm working in the medical field. I also don't understand why someone would be expected to wear a 7k ring on a daily basis when it can get lost so easily. Wearing it on a necklace would make more sense - but OP sounds like a paranoid AH when his fiancee gives him valid reasons not to wear the ring and he assumes she must be cheating.

    Mike Crow
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    1 week ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    He was fine with work and working out but then she gave no reason for other times. It is still a large part of western society and in this custom not wearing it is a signal that she is available. Even their old friend said it.

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