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“AITA For Putting An Outside Lock On My Bathroom To Prevent My Wife From Using It?”
The bathroom is a sort of serene place, a location where one wasn’t to feel at ease. The reality of life and our biology is that we often have to make do with what we have. This is particularly true if you live with another person, where questions of space and ownership become more pertinent.
A man asked the internet if he maybe went too far when he placed an actual lock on his bathroom to keep his wife out, as her method of using it caused him discomfort. While on the surface, his solutions might look extreme, he gave some details that perhaps vindicated his decision.
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Bathrooms can cause an unexpected amount of arguments
As some commenters suggested, OP is not in the wrong, but it seems questionable how well a marriage can function if one needs literal locks to keep the other partner from doing something. On the one hand, they started out strong, as a lack of personal space is often the undoing of many new marriages. However, very quickly, the wife seems to be violating it for one reason or another (the comments suggest some possibilities) and ignoring her husband’s very reasonable, previously agreed-upon request. Whether or not he should make this a line in the sand is ultimately up to him, but it’s worth considering that if she will break this agreement, what else will she change if it suits her?
This might seem like a relatively minor issue, but research suggests that the little habits of one’s partner, particularly one you cohabit with, do affect your day-to-day functioning. Eating patterns are a major one, including everything from what a person eats, to when they prefer to take their meals. Interestingly, women are more affected by a partner’s habits before marriage, while men are more affected post-marriage.
These little, day-to-day things aren’t just mundane, they all fall into the category of relationship maintenance. Just being together, particularly in the same house, is not enough, active, conscious steps need to be taken to ensure both parties are happy. Daniel Canary from the International Encyclopedia of Marriage believes that “simply staying together is not sufficient; instead, the quality of the relationship is important. For researchers, this means examining behaviors that are linked to relational satisfaction and other indicators of quality.”
Good feelings aren’t enough to sustain a relationship, they must be maintained
Quantitative studies indicate that to keep a relationship happy and well-maintained, however, the couple chooses to define that, the good-to-bad interaction ratio should be roughly five to one. While OP might have a different view, it seems that every time his wife used his bathroom, with the subsequent results, this was, rightly, perceived as a negative interaction. While we don’t know that much else about his relationship, this regular thorn in his side was likely a regular enough irritant. In the comments he mentions also cleaning up after her, which no doubt factored into his decision to put a lock on the door.
Successful romantic relationships require open communication, showing trust and trustworthiness between both parties. A lock is a physical indicator that he does not trust her to keep her word. Similarly, we all need assurances in our relationships that a person will do what they have agreed to do. While she might not see the issue the same way, OP’s wife needs to understand how he feels about her use of his bathroom, particularly when she has a perfectly usable alternative herself. Even better, she could consider changing her “technique” to avoid the issue entirely. On the surface, bathroom usage is not the end of the world, but how this couple resolves this issue or leaves it unresolved will influence every forthcoming argument and disagreement.
Most readers sided with OP on the bathroom issue
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CD King 2 years ago
This is such a strange, and bizarrely, fascinating post. People are so strange in many of their personal habits. I'm just sitting here slowing shaking my head.
Thor Haugen 2 years ago
I think this is the definition of first world problems. I have a nice house with 4 bedrooms, three full baths, etc. Been here almost 10 years. I have never cared where any of my exs pooped. Although honestly it's never been a problem either. Through three relationships. As long as the fan is on and the door is closed. How exactly do you poop wrong?
Lakota Wolf (she/her) 2 years ago (edited)
To be fair, I know what OP is talking about. If someone sits too far forward on the toilet seat, when they poo, the log-o-poo won't splash nicely into the pool of water. It will land on the sloped side of the toilet bowl, leaving (basically) skidmarks. My family has owned a housecleaning service for 30 years, so I know what OP is talking about. It IS gross. There's no reason why OP's wife can't either sit further back so she poops into the water pool, OR cleans up after herself immediately with a toilet-bowl wand or scrubber or something. Edited to add: I do live in America, and I know that toilets in other countries work differently. But here in the US, they have a bowl that you sit over, and in the bottom of the bowl is a pool of water that you defecate/urinate into. If you sit too far forward on the seat, you'll "miss" the water and your waste will hit the side slope of the toilet. I'm assuming OP is in America, because of how they describe the toilet/poo situation.
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Molly Whuppie 2 years ago (edited)
This is very weird. Like, I get seperate bathrooms, and the wanting to use his so she doesn't have to clean hers. It's lazy, but whatevs. It's the panic that is the weird thing. I feel like most people wouldn't panic over cleaning a toilet. Get annoyed, sure. Find it disgusting? yes. But panic over it? no. I wonder if there is more to it somehow. In any case OP needs to talk to her about it and maybe encourage her to see someone professionally. Because if she can't cope with cleaning her own toilet, imagine what is going to happen if they decide to have kids. Kids can be Poop Monsters and OP is going to find himself on permanent poop duty.
Em 2 years ago
I read it more like she has 'her' toilet mentally classed as Not An Appropriate Place To S**t, and was panicking in the way one might if there was no toilet available in an emergency. Which, if anything, is even weirder, but I don't think it was actually panic about having to clean it.
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
The wife is like a wild animal marking territory. Either that, or she’s leaving you a subconscious metaphor for how she really feels about you. I mean, she had to go really badly, and was begging you to unlock your bathroom, all while standing right next to her own, unlocked, unoccupied, fully plumbed FULL, not half—-and half baths still have toilets—-bathroom. That. Is. Weird. Unless of course, her huge BMs have already hopelessly backed up her own toilet…
Royal Stray 2 years ago
Or it's 2 different types of toilets and hers has a more shallow bowl while his has a deep one
Load More Replies... Lakota Wolf (she/her) 2 years ago
Wife needs to either literally immediately clean up after herself after she poos in the loo, or she's forbidden from using that toilet. Honestly, it's weird to me that they have "separate bathrooms"/their own bathrooms, but if it works for them, that's fine. I share a bathroom with my boyfriend, and if EITHER of us leaves a mess in there, we clean it up. There are toilet bowl cleaners, wands, scrubs, TONS of tools and items to help one clean a toilet (and some of the modern wands you don't even have to touch, they have one-click-to-remove disposable pads on the ends.) I LOATHE cleaning toilets, but I still do it because I am a rational human being. Actually, scratch that - even my two cats leave less of a mess in their litterboxes, and my disabled dog takes cleaner/neater poops than OP's wife...
Libstak 2 years ago
I wonder if she w9rks and if she is one of "those" people who make a mess in public and work toilets and then act innocent and oblivious when it becomes someone else's nightmare there too?
rullyman 2 years ago
Blllleerreegghhhhhhh I've always wondered about people like that and how they leave their toilets at home. If I'm somewhere public that has a toilet brush (some nice places do), I'm not afraid to use it when needed.
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JayWantsACat 2 years ago
Did she not have this issue before you moved in? Or did they never even spend the night at each other's places to iron out these types of issues? I understand why there are reasons why people don't want to live together before marriage (nor have premarital sex). But it's insane to find out about obvious incompatibilities, both everyday and sexual, after you're marries.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
This is SO WEIRD!!! I have been with my husband 16 years as of today actually and still never want to poop around him (or anyone honestly) or leave any evidence that I do!! So gross!! Why would she do this to him it's so effing rude I can't believe it. That would make me SO MAD and she is taking a metaphorical s**t right on his head by doing this.
R Dennis 2 years ago
I love twists! I came her fully expecting the guy to be wrong, but no! I am 100% on his side! My wife always had to have the first bite of my food, often without even asking. I pointed out that it was some kind of dominance behavior and she disagreed and said she doesn't do it often. I kept pointing it out and she finally realized it was weird and stopped, but she didn't consciously see it until pointed out... our weird animal brains...
Debby Keir 2 years ago
Buy her a lavatory brush, with a pink bow tied on so she knows it's hers.....
Earl Grey 2 years ago (edited)
So if I got this right, the sequence was (1) get married; then (2) buy a house; then (3) move in together some months later? Who does it this way? Wife seems childlike and unable to articulate her underlying issue with her bathroom, perhaps some sort of phobia or potty-related child abuse PTSD? Go shopping together and let her pick out the toilet of her dreams, then have it installed in her bathroom. If that doesn’t work, then designate the bathroom as the Guests Only bathroom and keep it on perpetual lockdown. If the guy married a nutter, that’s what he deserves for failing to live together to work out such idiosyncrasies BEFORE getting married. Co-habitation is a protracted discovery process. Do not skip that step.
Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago
I agree with some of the posted comments that he should go poo in her toilet, but not just any poo...I mean a pickled egg, green apple, and blue raspberry drink mix poo with 15 bean soup and sugar free gummy bears for dessert. Make such an atrocious, odiferouis deuce of dastardly, sulfuric stench that the house looses resale value. Drop that H2S bomb with the understanding that it will continue until there aren't skid marks left either bowl... BWAAAHAAAAHAAAAAAhaaaahaaaaaaaa....Yeah, that might be a bit much....maybe....
Cyber Returns 2 years ago
Knock down the separating wall and remove a toilet. Problem solved. No one gets a bathroom to themselves. You share, meaning you can also have a bath, and she can also have a shower, and you can both use the same sh*tter
Nul Nemo 2 years ago
...and he can keep cleaning her cr*p... (Just a hunch.🤔)
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Ima Manimal 2 years ago
Or take a picture of how she leaves the bathroom and threaten to show her friends.
Ima Manimal 2 years ago
That marriage is doomed. If I were him, I’d take a huge dump in her toilet, not flush, and wiz on the seat.
Brechje Geutjes 2 years ago
I thing this is very funny, 'cause I have serious bowel issues and we have just one toilet. I call it 'the garden hose-effect'. Although we never ever have any conflicts about it. I'm a descent lady, I will clean the toilet after me. But I also have learned because my bowel issues to be honest about why I have to toilet so long, even when we sleep over by friends. No, it's not my favorite subject but I can't help my disease.
Almost sunny 2 years ago
This lady is weird, why would she do this and also not mind her partner seeing her c**p? Yuck.
Murdock Schlegel 2 years ago
Nothing a toilett brush couldnt fix. Standard in nearly every european household. Even some public restrooms have them.
Apps 2 years ago
I like the advice for the husband to go no. 2 in the wife's bathroom. Using her logic, it's his house too and he should be able to use any bathroom. He should sit forward and poop exactly as she does too. Leave her toilet bowl all streaky 🤮 I bet she sees the light in no time. On a different note, how narcissistic of her to only think of her comfort and not his. 🚩🚩🚩
Will Rodger 1 month ago
Just reading the title had me thinking the OP was going to be a complete and utter AH, but the twist was worthy of early M. Night Shyamalan movies. I can't get my head around why she doesn't clean up after herself, it's basic hygiene and good manners. On that alone I'd put a lock on both bathrooms, dig a hole in the backyard and put a shed around in for her to use.
Laura Smith 5 months ago
What a nasty pig. He just doesn't want to clean up after her nasty self. Go take a massive dump in her toilet and don't flush it
blatherskitenoir 2 years ago
Well, this is doomed. She is so entitled that she thinks nothing of s******g in his bathroom and not cleaning up after herself. Nothing good comes from being married to someone who takes the best for themselves and leaves you with c**p (literally in this case).
Livingwithcfs 2 years ago
Well that relationship going to work out well, locking doors, his and her bathrooms, lack of clear communication, childish behavior. Yip all the signs of a relationship heading for the rocks Good grief they are both behaving like children
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I would totally start sh*tting in her toilet and not even bothering to flush. "Oh, that's gross? That bothers you? Tough sh*t (literally). You leave sh*t smears all over MY toilet to clean up - so what exactly is the problem?"
Gracie Mae 2 years ago
From the title, I was all ready to to say YATA, but after reading, SHE is! Wow...how utterly inconsiderate and gross. Please don't give in. There is absolutely NO REASON why she should be using your bathroom when HERS is right there! Plan ahead, I don't see this lasting if she keeps insisting...
Houseof No 2 years ago
If it were myself AND I were married to such a unhygenic SLOB, I would have gone one better and installed a facial recognition lock on that door so that only you could access it. There are Youtube videos describing how to create this. NTA and sorry to hear you married a DISGUSTING CHILD who can't or won't clean up after herself.
Miranda Prince 2 years ago
This is definitely weird. Girl, you have your own bathroom. S**t in it!
Nancy Lynch 2 years ago (edited)
Is there an actual difference between the two toilets? Height? Seat? OP's might be more comfortable. Personally, I would want to use the shower.
Mora Chilis 2 years ago
I bet he is making up the poop on the toilet to make his story more "plausible". He just does not want her going in his bathroom because it stinks.
Venice 2 years ago
This sound like some kind of phobia. What did she do before she met you. At some point she shared a bathroom, in her parents hone. University residency maybe as a roommate etc. Or even having her own apartment Unless there was someone who always cleaned after her toilet visits. Hell even Rich people flush their own c**p. Doesn't sound like you have kids cause your hands will be deep into c**p more than you can ccount.dude I suggest you get her to a Dr cause that reaction to her own poop is not the norm. There's more at play here and she's gonna have to check it out. It may be something beyond her control and she may need help.
Squiffle Noses 2 years ago
A lot of these stories are extremely one sided and we shouldn't always jump to, 'she's clearly a monster', or, 'Red Flag! Leave her immediately!' until we get the other side of the story. This sounds to me like someone getting revenge on someone for something they've asked them to stop doing, but been ignored on. On the other hand... maybe she is just a monster and he should leave her.
Margaret Hinman 2 years ago
Well he's not accepting the role that women have had to play forever. Dealing with with cleaning up the disgusting s**t that males leave behind everywhere and always. Males are f*****g weak whiners.
Orion Red 2 years ago
There is missing info here I think. Maybe he has a bidet, maybe only his has a window or a vent fan, maybe she runs the shower.
Duckie Measles 2 years ago
That still doesn't excuse her refusal to clean up after herself.
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PurpleUnicorn🇮🇪 2 years ago
I feel this. My husband has his own en-suite bathroom, the rest of us mainly use the main bathroom (except for the shower which is in the en-suite). But for some reason he often comes out of one bathroom and into the other, drives me nuts!
Randy Sanders 2 years ago
My bathroom has a genuine Ferguson toilet. It was designed for a mans posterior, and has special seats as such. I am the only one that is allowed to use it, and there are plenty others to use in the house. So no, not unusual at all.
Kenneth Brown 2 years ago
One day you're going to wake up and your bathroom will be pink.
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Gerald Christopher 2 years ago
Tell her to put a little tissue in the front where the poop usually lands. Do this before she poops. So when she does poop it will fall on the tissue, and when she flushes, it will all go right out. No streaks, no stuck poop no problem.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Listen, buddy. This isn't the only way this woman is going to s**t on you if you stay in this relationship.
Nitka Tsar 2 years ago
Why didn‘t he just ask her to clean up after herself? He did not mention anything like that
Lori w 2 years ago
Honestly just show her the poo. If she's a reasonable person, she'll be embarrassed but check next time Most women don't have this problem it goes in the bowl- we do however, rarely lift the toilet seat, so if we are causing splash back etc, we are unaware. I think you should be able to share bathrooms. This post is a good reason to live together before marriage or buying a house.
pug nose curly tail 2 years ago
OMGGG HOW DISGUSTING!! I work with a girl/imbecile that does this, and it is the grossest, rudest, inconsiderate act of nastiness. I couldn't believe someone would leave this for someone else to clean up. OP needs to run and never look back. Ugh! I can't imagine having to deal with this at home.
Sillypants 2 years ago
Hahahahaha who doesn't know how to use a toilet brush? Clean up your s**t! This is weird. Good luck with your marriage, children.
PeepPeep the duck 2 years ago
Wow, save yourself the hassle and just part ways while you can 😆 stupid situation featuring two ridiculous people. Imagine being so petty
CD King 2 years ago
This is such a strange, and bizarrely, fascinating post. People are so strange in many of their personal habits. I'm just sitting here slowing shaking my head.
Thor Haugen 2 years ago
I think this is the definition of first world problems. I have a nice house with 4 bedrooms, three full baths, etc. Been here almost 10 years. I have never cared where any of my exs pooped. Although honestly it's never been a problem either. Through three relationships. As long as the fan is on and the door is closed. How exactly do you poop wrong?
Lakota Wolf (she/her) 2 years ago (edited)
To be fair, I know what OP is talking about. If someone sits too far forward on the toilet seat, when they poo, the log-o-poo won't splash nicely into the pool of water. It will land on the sloped side of the toilet bowl, leaving (basically) skidmarks. My family has owned a housecleaning service for 30 years, so I know what OP is talking about. It IS gross. There's no reason why OP's wife can't either sit further back so she poops into the water pool, OR cleans up after herself immediately with a toilet-bowl wand or scrubber or something. Edited to add: I do live in America, and I know that toilets in other countries work differently. But here in the US, they have a bowl that you sit over, and in the bottom of the bowl is a pool of water that you defecate/urinate into. If you sit too far forward on the seat, you'll "miss" the water and your waste will hit the side slope of the toilet. I'm assuming OP is in America, because of how they describe the toilet/poo situation.
Load More Replies... Molly Whuppie 2 years ago (edited)
This is very weird. Like, I get seperate bathrooms, and the wanting to use his so she doesn't have to clean hers. It's lazy, but whatevs. It's the panic that is the weird thing. I feel like most people wouldn't panic over cleaning a toilet. Get annoyed, sure. Find it disgusting? yes. But panic over it? no. I wonder if there is more to it somehow. In any case OP needs to talk to her about it and maybe encourage her to see someone professionally. Because if she can't cope with cleaning her own toilet, imagine what is going to happen if they decide to have kids. Kids can be Poop Monsters and OP is going to find himself on permanent poop duty.
Em 2 years ago
I read it more like she has 'her' toilet mentally classed as Not An Appropriate Place To S**t, and was panicking in the way one might if there was no toilet available in an emergency. Which, if anything, is even weirder, but I don't think it was actually panic about having to clean it.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
The wife is like a wild animal marking territory. Either that, or she’s leaving you a subconscious metaphor for how she really feels about you. I mean, she had to go really badly, and was begging you to unlock your bathroom, all while standing right next to her own, unlocked, unoccupied, fully plumbed FULL, not half—-and half baths still have toilets—-bathroom. That. Is. Weird. Unless of course, her huge BMs have already hopelessly backed up her own toilet…
Royal Stray 2 years ago
Or it's 2 different types of toilets and hers has a more shallow bowl while his has a deep one
Load More Replies... Lakota Wolf (she/her) 2 years ago
Wife needs to either literally immediately clean up after herself after she poos in the loo, or she's forbidden from using that toilet. Honestly, it's weird to me that they have "separate bathrooms"/their own bathrooms, but if it works for them, that's fine. I share a bathroom with my boyfriend, and if EITHER of us leaves a mess in there, we clean it up. There are toilet bowl cleaners, wands, scrubs, TONS of tools and items to help one clean a toilet (and some of the modern wands you don't even have to touch, they have one-click-to-remove disposable pads on the ends.) I LOATHE cleaning toilets, but I still do it because I am a rational human being. Actually, scratch that - even my two cats leave less of a mess in their litterboxes, and my disabled dog takes cleaner/neater poops than OP's wife...
Libstak 2 years ago
I wonder if she w9rks and if she is one of "those" people who make a mess in public and work toilets and then act innocent and oblivious when it becomes someone else's nightmare there too?
rullyman 2 years ago
Blllleerreegghhhhhhh I've always wondered about people like that and how they leave their toilets at home. If I'm somewhere public that has a toilet brush (some nice places do), I'm not afraid to use it when needed.
Load More Replies... JayWantsACat 2 years ago
Did she not have this issue before you moved in? Or did they never even spend the night at each other's places to iron out these types of issues? I understand why there are reasons why people don't want to live together before marriage (nor have premarital sex). But it's insane to find out about obvious incompatibilities, both everyday and sexual, after you're marries.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
This is SO WEIRD!!! I have been with my husband 16 years as of today actually and still never want to poop around him (or anyone honestly) or leave any evidence that I do!! So gross!! Why would she do this to him it's so effing rude I can't believe it. That would make me SO MAD and she is taking a metaphorical s**t right on his head by doing this.
R Dennis 2 years ago
I love twists! I came her fully expecting the guy to be wrong, but no! I am 100% on his side! My wife always had to have the first bite of my food, often without even asking. I pointed out that it was some kind of dominance behavior and she disagreed and said she doesn't do it often. I kept pointing it out and she finally realized it was weird and stopped, but she didn't consciously see it until pointed out... our weird animal brains...
Debby Keir 2 years ago
Buy her a lavatory brush, with a pink bow tied on so she knows it's hers.....
Earl Grey 2 years ago (edited)
So if I got this right, the sequence was (1) get married; then (2) buy a house; then (3) move in together some months later? Who does it this way? Wife seems childlike and unable to articulate her underlying issue with her bathroom, perhaps some sort of phobia or potty-related child abuse PTSD? Go shopping together and let her pick out the toilet of her dreams, then have it installed in her bathroom. If that doesn’t work, then designate the bathroom as the Guests Only bathroom and keep it on perpetual lockdown. If the guy married a nutter, that’s what he deserves for failing to live together to work out such idiosyncrasies BEFORE getting married. Co-habitation is a protracted discovery process. Do not skip that step.
Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago
I agree with some of the posted comments that he should go poo in her toilet, but not just any poo...I mean a pickled egg, green apple, and blue raspberry drink mix poo with 15 bean soup and sugar free gummy bears for dessert. Make such an atrocious, odiferouis deuce of dastardly, sulfuric stench that the house looses resale value. Drop that H2S bomb with the understanding that it will continue until there aren't skid marks left either bowl... BWAAAHAAAAHAAAAAAhaaaahaaaaaaaa....Yeah, that might be a bit much....maybe....
Cyber Returns 2 years ago
Knock down the separating wall and remove a toilet. Problem solved. No one gets a bathroom to themselves. You share, meaning you can also have a bath, and she can also have a shower, and you can both use the same sh*tter
Nul Nemo 2 years ago
...and he can keep cleaning her cr*p... (Just a hunch.🤔)
Load More Replies... Ima Manimal 2 years ago
Or take a picture of how she leaves the bathroom and threaten to show her friends.
Ima Manimal 2 years ago
That marriage is doomed. If I were him, I’d take a huge dump in her toilet, not flush, and wiz on the seat.
Brechje Geutjes 2 years ago
I thing this is very funny, 'cause I have serious bowel issues and we have just one toilet. I call it 'the garden hose-effect'. Although we never ever have any conflicts about it. I'm a descent lady, I will clean the toilet after me. But I also have learned because my bowel issues to be honest about why I have to toilet so long, even when we sleep over by friends. No, it's not my favorite subject but I can't help my disease.
Almost sunny 2 years ago
This lady is weird, why would she do this and also not mind her partner seeing her c**p? Yuck.
Murdock Schlegel 2 years ago
Nothing a toilett brush couldnt fix. Standard in nearly every european household. Even some public restrooms have them.
Apps 2 years ago
I like the advice for the husband to go no. 2 in the wife's bathroom. Using her logic, it's his house too and he should be able to use any bathroom. He should sit forward and poop exactly as she does too. Leave her toilet bowl all streaky 🤮 I bet she sees the light in no time. On a different note, how narcissistic of her to only think of her comfort and not his. 🚩🚩🚩
Will Rodger 1 month ago
Just reading the title had me thinking the OP was going to be a complete and utter AH, but the twist was worthy of early M. Night Shyamalan movies. I can't get my head around why she doesn't clean up after herself, it's basic hygiene and good manners. On that alone I'd put a lock on both bathrooms, dig a hole in the backyard and put a shed around in for her to use.
Laura Smith 5 months ago
What a nasty pig. He just doesn't want to clean up after her nasty self. Go take a massive dump in her toilet and don't flush it
blatherskitenoir 2 years ago
Well, this is doomed. She is so entitled that she thinks nothing of s******g in his bathroom and not cleaning up after herself. Nothing good comes from being married to someone who takes the best for themselves and leaves you with c**p (literally in this case).
Livingwithcfs 2 years ago
Well that relationship going to work out well, locking doors, his and her bathrooms, lack of clear communication, childish behavior. Yip all the signs of a relationship heading for the rocks Good grief they are both behaving like children
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I would totally start sh*tting in her toilet and not even bothering to flush. "Oh, that's gross? That bothers you? Tough sh*t (literally). You leave sh*t smears all over MY toilet to clean up - so what exactly is the problem?"
Gracie Mae 2 years ago
From the title, I was all ready to to say YATA, but after reading, SHE is! Wow...how utterly inconsiderate and gross. Please don't give in. There is absolutely NO REASON why she should be using your bathroom when HERS is right there! Plan ahead, I don't see this lasting if she keeps insisting...
Houseof No 2 years ago
If it were myself AND I were married to such a unhygenic SLOB, I would have gone one better and installed a facial recognition lock on that door so that only you could access it. There are Youtube videos describing how to create this. NTA and sorry to hear you married a DISGUSTING CHILD who can't or won't clean up after herself.
Miranda Prince 2 years ago
This is definitely weird. Girl, you have your own bathroom. S**t in it!
Nancy Lynch 2 years ago (edited)
Is there an actual difference between the two toilets? Height? Seat? OP's might be more comfortable. Personally, I would want to use the shower.
Mora Chilis 2 years ago
I bet he is making up the poop on the toilet to make his story more "plausible". He just does not want her going in his bathroom because it stinks.
Venice 2 years ago
This sound like some kind of phobia. What did she do before she met you. At some point she shared a bathroom, in her parents hone. University residency maybe as a roommate etc. Or even having her own apartment Unless there was someone who always cleaned after her toilet visits. Hell even Rich people flush their own c**p. Doesn't sound like you have kids cause your hands will be deep into c**p more than you can ccount.dude I suggest you get her to a Dr cause that reaction to her own poop is not the norm. There's more at play here and she's gonna have to check it out. It may be something beyond her control and she may need help.
Squiffle Noses 2 years ago
A lot of these stories are extremely one sided and we shouldn't always jump to, 'she's clearly a monster', or, 'Red Flag! Leave her immediately!' until we get the other side of the story. This sounds to me like someone getting revenge on someone for something they've asked them to stop doing, but been ignored on. On the other hand... maybe she is just a monster and he should leave her.
Margaret Hinman 2 years ago
Well he's not accepting the role that women have had to play forever. Dealing with with cleaning up the disgusting s**t that males leave behind everywhere and always. Males are f*****g weak whiners.
Orion Red 2 years ago
There is missing info here I think. Maybe he has a bidet, maybe only his has a window or a vent fan, maybe she runs the shower.
Duckie Measles 2 years ago
That still doesn't excuse her refusal to clean up after herself.
Load More Replies... PurpleUnicorn🇮🇪 2 years ago
I feel this. My husband has his own en-suite bathroom, the rest of us mainly use the main bathroom (except for the shower which is in the en-suite). But for some reason he often comes out of one bathroom and into the other, drives me nuts!
Randy Sanders 2 years ago
My bathroom has a genuine Ferguson toilet. It was designed for a mans posterior, and has special seats as such. I am the only one that is allowed to use it, and there are plenty others to use in the house. So no, not unusual at all.
Kenneth Brown 2 years ago
One day you're going to wake up and your bathroom will be pink.
Load More Replies... Gerald Christopher 2 years ago
Tell her to put a little tissue in the front where the poop usually lands. Do this before she poops. So when she does poop it will fall on the tissue, and when she flushes, it will all go right out. No streaks, no stuck poop no problem.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Listen, buddy. This isn't the only way this woman is going to s**t on you if you stay in this relationship.
Nitka Tsar 2 years ago
Why didn‘t he just ask her to clean up after herself? He did not mention anything like that
Lori w 2 years ago
Honestly just show her the poo. If she's a reasonable person, she'll be embarrassed but check next time Most women don't have this problem it goes in the bowl- we do however, rarely lift the toilet seat, so if we are causing splash back etc, we are unaware. I think you should be able to share bathrooms. This post is a good reason to live together before marriage or buying a house.
pug nose curly tail 2 years ago
OMGGG HOW DISGUSTING!! I work with a girl/imbecile that does this, and it is the grossest, rudest, inconsiderate act of nastiness. I couldn't believe someone would leave this for someone else to clean up. OP needs to run and never look back. Ugh! I can't imagine having to deal with this at home.
Sillypants 2 years ago
Hahahahaha who doesn't know how to use a toilet brush? Clean up your s**t! This is weird. Good luck with your marriage, children.
PeepPeep the duck 2 years ago
Wow, save yourself the hassle and just part ways while you can 😆 stupid situation featuring two ridiculous people. Imagine being so petty
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