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Woman Refuses To Take Back Boyfriend Who Blew Up Their Relationship, Makes Internet Proud
There’s nothing wrong with being social, meeting new people, and making new friends. And yet, if your significant other suddenly spends a suspicious amount of time with someone new, whom they tell you “not to worry about,” it’s a bit of a red flag.
This is what one anonymous woman had to deal with. She found out that her boyfriend lied about going on a trip with his brother, when in fact, he went on a getaway with a 21-year-old from church. The woman decided to confront her deceiving partner. You’ll find her story and update below.
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It’s incredibly suspicious if your significant other suddenly starts spending lots of time with a new female friend, and then tries to cover it up
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A woman shared how her relationship imploded after she caught her boyfriend lying about a trip that he took with his ‘brother’
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Your inner alarm bells should be ringing if your partner unexpectedly changes their behavior, and there are no clear reasons for this
Spending time with your new friends, acquaintances, or colleagues isn’t an issue. However, lying about it most certainly is. It indicates that you likely have ulterior motives, feel guilty about whatever you’re doing, and don’t respect your partner enough to tell them the truth.
If you have to fabricate an entire story about how you’re supposedly meeting up with your sibling in one place, only to go elsewhere with someone else entirely, the odds are that you’re trying to cover your tracks. It’s incredibly likely that you’re trying to cheat on your significant other.
The mature thing to do would be to break up with your significant other if you find that you no longer have feelings for them and the relationship has run its course. The immature thing is to try to have an affair with someone 9 years younger than you while hoping that your current partner won’t find out.
Probably the biggest red flag that your significant other may be unfaithful to you is if their behavior suddenly undergoes massive changes. To be fair, there are numerous other reasons why someone’s behavior can change, including stress in their personal or professional lives. But as a rule of thumb, it’s suspicious if your partner acts out of character for no clear reason.
For instance, PsychCentral points out that suspicious behavior can include things like your significant other suddenly paying more attention to their appearance. This can include things like buying new clothes, changing grooming habits, and frequently working out for the benefit of someone else.
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Good communication, as always, is the foundation of all healthy relationships. If it breaks down, it’s an indication that you’re dealing with deeper problems
It’s also iffy if your partner starts spending more time away from home, more frequently, or starts going on new business trips.
Other infidelity red flags to keep an eye out for include things like unexpectedly becoming incredibly secretive, changing one’s intimacy habits, and accusing you of cheating out of nowhere.
On top of that, other suspicious behaviors include a sudden surge in technology use, increased or unexplained expenses, changes in communication, and randomly being unable to reach them.
“Your partner is unreachable via text message or calls at a time they typically would be available. Their location finder is no longer working, and you can’t reach your partner for hours on end,” Licensed Therapist and Relationship expert Jennine Estes Powell told PsychCentral. She added that once you reach your partner, they might have excuses for what happened.
According to Verywell Mind, a breakdown in communication is “never a positive sign.” There are probably underlying issues if your significant other stops sharing their day with you, doesn’t say “I love you,” or doesn’t even communicate with you anymore.
In the meantime, it’s also suspicious if your partner suddenly gets very defensive when you mention infidelity, picks fights more often, becomes more critical of you, wants more thrills, or exhibits signs of low self-esteem or negativity.
What are your thoughts, Pandas? How would you react if you found out that your significant other went on a trip with someone else and then lied about it to you? Have you ever caught your partner cheating? What are some subtle relationship red flags to keep an eye out for? If you feel like sharing, you can do so in the comments down below.
People were outraged, and they rushed to give the author some practical advice
Later, the woman shared a follow-up post about her situation
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And here’s what folks said after reading the update
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Tabitha 15 hours ago
He went on a weekend away with his “church group” friends. A weekend getting drunk and most likely drunkenly cheating with his best ”church friend”, who also happens to be 21 to his 30. Typical “christian” behavior, in my long experience, and the reason I am not religious and haven’t ever been, as I easily saw through the hypocrites, even when I was young. Now, before you jump down my throat, let me tell you that I am NOT at all talking about anyone who has true faith and lives by it. No, those are legitimately good people who do not proselytize, so even a non-believer like me can get along really well with them. They don’t have to advertise their faith lime the hypocrites do, because they simply live it. I AM, however, talking about the hypocrites, like the drunk, cheating boyfriend and his church friends in this particular instance.
Sparky Hughes 12 hours ago
That’s the sad thing about Christian hypocrites. I am Christian and know I am flawed. I am kind, honest and fair. I have discussed my faith when people ask. But the sad thing is that some do bad in the name of their faith which is just wrong. I go to a non denominational church and my pastor drives home that we are all flawed and focuses on our walk, not the world’s. He also calls out hypocrisy in how we are called to treat others and how hard it is to reconcile how nasty the church crowd in general is at restaurants on Sundays. The worst are the drivers with the fish. I had some lady cut me off and I changed lanes. We hit a red light and she is cussing me out through her window. I smiled, waved and told her I really like your bumper sticker. She was so enraged her face almost turned purple. The light turned green and I said God bless you and left.
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Tabitha 15 hours ago
He went on a weekend away with his “church group” friends. A weekend getting drunk and most likely drunkenly cheating with his best ”church friend”, who also happens to be 21 to his 30. Typical “christian” behavior, in my long experience, and the reason I am not religious and haven’t ever been, as I easily saw through the hypocrites, even when I was young. Now, before you jump down my throat, let me tell you that I am NOT at all talking about anyone who has true faith and lives by it. No, those are legitimately good people who do not proselytize, so even a non-believer like me can get along really well with them. They don’t have to advertise their faith lime the hypocrites do, because they simply live it. I AM, however, talking about the hypocrites, like the drunk, cheating boyfriend and his church friends in this particular instance.
Sparky Hughes 12 hours ago
That’s the sad thing about Christian hypocrites. I am Christian and know I am flawed. I am kind, honest and fair. I have discussed my faith when people ask. But the sad thing is that some do bad in the name of their faith which is just wrong. I go to a non denominational church and my pastor drives home that we are all flawed and focuses on our walk, not the world’s. He also calls out hypocrisy in how we are called to treat others and how hard it is to reconcile how nasty the church crowd in general is at restaurants on Sundays. The worst are the drivers with the fish. I had some lady cut me off and I changed lanes. We hit a red light and she is cussing me out through her window. I smiled, waved and told her I really like your bumper sticker. She was so enraged her face almost turned purple. The light turned green and I said God bless you and left.
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