“She Logged Into My Husband’s Facebook Account”: MIL Announces Daughter-In-Law’s Pregnancy, Is Hurt When She Gets Yelled At
Secrets have a way of spreading. It takes only one set of loose lips for a secret to turn into gossip. Especially if you reveal a secret to someone and then remind them to not tell anyone else. That’s just asking for trouble, though it hardly excuses the blabbermouth from not respecting you and spreading the sensitive information further.
One redditor, a married 23-year-old, opened up about some fiery family drama with her mother-in-law, as well as her husband. She explained how she wanted to keep the fact that she got pregnant a secret until she’s come to a decision. However, her mother-in-law disregarded any sense of privacy and took this decision out of her hands. The redditor got incredibly angry at her and she’s now asking the AITA community for a verdict on who was in the wrong here.
Scroll down for the full story, what the fallout was, and how the internet reacted. And when you’re done reading it, share your own verdict in the comment section, Pandas.
Some people have no sense of privacy or boundaries, and are quick to break your trust
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A woman who got pregnant opened up about what happened when her husband blabbed about the baby to his mother
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Things got out of hand very quickly
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There were two main issues with this whole situation. First of all, the husband broke his wife’s trust and told his mother about the pregnancy even though his partner asked him not to tell anyone at all.
And secondly, the mother-in-law decided to tell everyone about the pregnancy while pretending to be her son, by using his Facebook account. It seems like it will be very difficult to rebuild trust in both of these cases, and it will take a lot of time.
The majority of redditors who read the story were on the pregnant woman’s side. They thought that it was the husband and his mother who were to blame, 100%. They repeatedly went against the OP’s wishes and trampled over her feelings. What’s more, they put pressure on her to keep the baby, even though she was clear that she was still considering all of her options.
Relationship and self-love coach Alex Scot previously explained to Bored Panda how boundaries work. She suggested that the closer someone is to you, the more flexible those boundaries should be. Nonetheless, these boundaries have to exist and you have to enforce them, whether we’re talking about coworkers, friends, or in this case, family.
“Without them [boundaries], we live our lives at the expense of ourselves. The mindset for many when it comes to setting boundaries is that they feel selfish, or that they aren’t being a good partner when they implement them, so they avoid doing it altogether,” she told us.
“This only causes resentment to build and overwhelm to set in both within the individual and the relationship as a whole. Boundaries are there for us to be able to take care of and to protect ourselves so that we can show up and operate within our lives as successfully as possible.”
She added that strict boundaries are usually unsustainable in relationships, as there’s a need for compromise in certain situations.
Here’s what some redditors had to say about the situation, and the warnings they gave the OP
If I were that woman I'd make an announcement on FB that I had a miscarriage. Next I'd find a divorce lawyer and an abortion clinic. The husband and his mother showed what kind of people they really are and it's not the best kind of people.
I'd add to the announcement about the miscarriage that this is why we wanted to keep the pregnancy quiet until the third trimester but unfortunately MIL was just 'too excited' and had to tell people (that way it sounds like you understand her behaviour but everyone else reading it will judge her). And then divorce ASAP because this woman is going to try and run the OP's life for the entire time they're married and the husband has made it clear where he stands on that.
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She gets to decide if she wants to raise 2 children, one child or none. The next question, if she chooses 1, will it be her husband or her child.
Load More Replies... If I were that woman I'd make an announcement on FB that I had a miscarriage. Next I'd find a divorce lawyer and an abortion clinic. The husband and his mother showed what kind of people they really are and it's not the best kind of people.
I'd add to the announcement about the miscarriage that this is why we wanted to keep the pregnancy quiet until the third trimester but unfortunately MIL was just 'too excited' and had to tell people (that way it sounds like you understand her behaviour but everyone else reading it will judge her). And then divorce ASAP because this woman is going to try and run the OP's life for the entire time they're married and the husband has made it clear where he stands on that.
Load More Replies... She gets to decide if she wants to raise 2 children, one child or none. The next question, if she chooses 1, will it be her husband or her child.
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