Man Jumps Straight To Divorce The Day His Wife Secretly Quits Her Job To Be A SAHM
Interview With ExpertFor many of us, selecting a life partner may be an exciting yet uncertain process. You’re not just looking for someone who shares your values and interests; you’re also looking for someone who you can go through the highs and lows of life with. So when you find that person, life feels happy and complete.
Over time, perspectives can shift, leading to situations where you may not always see eye to eye with your partner on every decision. For instance, a man turned to the internet for advice after his wife decided to quit her job to become a stay-at-home mother. Keep reading to see how the author’s wife used good food and other tactics to gain his support before secretly quitting her job. Below, you will find our interview with Adv. Isha Pincha, where she discusses the legal process of separation.
You might not always agree with your partner, but it’s important to reach an understanding
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A man shared that he was contemplating divorce after his wife secretly quit her job to become a “tradwife”
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Marriage thrives on effective communication between couples
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Marriage is a lifelong commitment that creates a personal and legal connection between two people. As a couple, individuals need to align their priorities to make well-rounded decisions about their future. For instance, before making any life-altering decisions, you should have a heart-to-heart conversation with your partner.
However, it’s possible that your better half might not agree with your choices, and you end up fighting. When such arguments become irreconcilable, relationships break down and, in the worst situations, end in divorce. But calling it quits on a marriage is not a small thing.
To understand the intricacies of divorce proceedings, Bored Panda spoke with Adv. Isha Pincha, a family and matrimonial advocate. She graciously offered to share her expertise with us.
It’s a common misconception that you can simply split up with your spouse by signing a piece of paper, but this is untrue. Isha, who practices law in India, believes that people from rural areas often don’t know much about legal proceedings. She says, “We meet many clients who say they have stamp paper duly signed by husband and wife; they believe it’s a divorce paper. This is not their fault, of course. We don’t expect a layman to understand the law and procedure.”
Marriage dissolution processes vary significantly across the globe. They are influenced by distinct legal frameworks and cultural practices. Isha further highlights the persistent stigma surrounding divorce: “Divorce is often viewed as a personal failure, and in many countries, it continues to carry a stigma or be seen as abnormal. However, it’s a common life transition, akin to moving or changing jobs, and it should be accepted as a natural part of life’s journey.”
Couples often benefit from a mandated cooling-off period before finalizing a divorce
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She believes that, contrary to the popular belief that children are always devastated by divorce, they might thrive with co-parenting and support. Talking about the actual process, she mentions that after filing for divorce, couples usually have to undergo a mandated cooling-off period. The purpose of this period is to help reduce impulsive decisions and encourage thoughtful consideration of the emotional and practical implications of divorce.
“When we try to do counseling for both spouses, it is sometimes a failure. There are people who don’t understand the happiness of letting go of egos and giving their marriage a new try.”
After self-reflection, a couple might reconcile due to various factors
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Isha even spoke about the reasons why couples get back together after nasty fights. “The factors that contribute to reconciliation in relationships include realizing the value of the partnership, engaging in effective communication, taking time for self-reflection on personal contributions to problems, and considering external factors such as financial stress or health issues.”
Couples going through a separation, however, frequently feel a wide range of contradictory feelings. They may be confident in their choice to split up, but they may also be experiencing conflicting emotions of doubt, melancholy, and uncertainty. It can be especially difficult to manage the process of separation and its aftermath because of this emotional ambivalence.
“To handle mixed feelings during the cooling-off period, one should take time to explore their feelings and options. Remember, every situation is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to divorce or reconciliation. Prioritize your well-being and seek support.”
In this particular case, the author didn’t agree with his wife’s choice to transition from a working professional to a stay-at-home parent. After threatening her with a divorce, the husband couldn’t imagine his life without his wife. This shows the importance of couples taking time to cool off after conflicts. The space allows them to reflect and make thoughtful decisions. What are your thoughts on this situation? Tell us in the comments below.
Many people felt the author’s wife was being manipulative, while a few thought they simply weren’t a compatible couple
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There’s a word for those who offer sex in exchange for favors. Use that word in court
Seriously. And the idiot YTA talking about "have fun paying alimony". That's not how it works in real life when one partner unilaterally quits their day job, forcing the issue of a divorce. They don't then get to demand the partner they screwed over pays for their lifestyle ANYWAYS. Any reasonable judge would take one look at this case and give full custody to Dad with a stable job and head on straight, over Mom who blows up her life on TikTok whims and trades blowjobs for brownie points.
Load More Replies...Cut up all her cards and change the bank passwords. If she wants to be lazy at home, she can be completely reliant on OP.
And every meal made from scratch. Home baked bread, knitted sweaters, sew kids clothes, have a veggie patch.
Load More Replies...UPDATE 1 https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1c78klu/update_aita_for_threatening_my_wife_with_divorce/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button UPDATE 2 https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1cg27k1/final_update_aita_for_threatening_my_wife_with/
I hope he is ok. His kids might be angry or upset now, but that can change.
Load More Replies...The only reason ESH is because he blew off his kids. That is unacceptable. He didn't have to abandon his kids to take a stand or decide that the marriage isn't working. My wife and I went through a rough patch and considered divorce. I moved out. But I still took my stepkids to school, helped them with homework, and made them dinner - the issues we had weren't about them. They are in their 30s now and we occasionally talk about how weird it was at that time, but they never felt like they were the issue (they weren't).
Exactly. Ditching the manipulative wife is justifiable but the kids are innocent and won't understand why their dad just up and left one day without saying a word.
Load More Replies...Well, if she wants to be a tradwife, put her on a tight allowance for food and clothing, inspect the bills every single month, make sure she buys the kids supplies for school, and inspect the house every day when you come home from work. That's how tradwives are treated, isn't it? No money of their own, no freedom, you don't get to buy anything without hubby's permission, you don't need a second car since she doesn't work, and any uber money comes out of her allowance.
Let her know you will pay for bills/groceries and children expenses. She wants anything, haircut, getting nails done, make up etc she needs to find away to pay for it because you won't.
Seriously this would have been the more mature route to go. Give her what she wants but in a way where she realizes it's not a party where you wear a 50 style dress well cooking cookies all day. In fact he should probably have just stayed at his 80% time, and the money that they lost from her not working just simply disappeared causing a tighter budget.
Load More Replies...How stupid is that woman? 40% of marriages end in divorce and then what is she going to do? Tell the landlord they're not getting the rent and to get over it? Why anyone would depend 100% on another person for their survival is just bizarre.
She's a lazy s***k. She's offering BJs for what amounts to a household allowance. There's a word for that and she is one.
Load More Replies...NTA. SAHP is a two yes, one no decision. Both partners need to be on board. I don't gaf if she didn't want to work anymore and wanted to play house instead. That's a want and one an adult doesn't get to make without agreement and consequences. He didn't agree to it. And her behavior from treating him poorly in an effort to manipulate him is disgusting. He needs to speak to his kids and make that right. Everyone else, his parents included, can pound sand. And yes, get the divorce. There's no reconciliation with someone who acts the way she did. She could get her job back and recant, but she's already shown a willingness to act this way. If it doesn't work for this, she'll test his boundaries over and over again for other things. To say nothing of a willingness to be vindictive.
There’s a word for those who offer sex in exchange for favors. Use that word in court
Seriously. And the idiot YTA talking about "have fun paying alimony". That's not how it works in real life when one partner unilaterally quits their day job, forcing the issue of a divorce. They don't then get to demand the partner they screwed over pays for their lifestyle ANYWAYS. Any reasonable judge would take one look at this case and give full custody to Dad with a stable job and head on straight, over Mom who blows up her life on TikTok whims and trades blowjobs for brownie points.
Load More Replies...Cut up all her cards and change the bank passwords. If she wants to be lazy at home, she can be completely reliant on OP.
And every meal made from scratch. Home baked bread, knitted sweaters, sew kids clothes, have a veggie patch.
Load More Replies...UPDATE 1 https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1c78klu/update_aita_for_threatening_my_wife_with_divorce/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button UPDATE 2 https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1cg27k1/final_update_aita_for_threatening_my_wife_with/
I hope he is ok. His kids might be angry or upset now, but that can change.
Load More Replies...The only reason ESH is because he blew off his kids. That is unacceptable. He didn't have to abandon his kids to take a stand or decide that the marriage isn't working. My wife and I went through a rough patch and considered divorce. I moved out. But I still took my stepkids to school, helped them with homework, and made them dinner - the issues we had weren't about them. They are in their 30s now and we occasionally talk about how weird it was at that time, but they never felt like they were the issue (they weren't).
Exactly. Ditching the manipulative wife is justifiable but the kids are innocent and won't understand why their dad just up and left one day without saying a word.
Load More Replies...Well, if she wants to be a tradwife, put her on a tight allowance for food and clothing, inspect the bills every single month, make sure she buys the kids supplies for school, and inspect the house every day when you come home from work. That's how tradwives are treated, isn't it? No money of their own, no freedom, you don't get to buy anything without hubby's permission, you don't need a second car since she doesn't work, and any uber money comes out of her allowance.
Let her know you will pay for bills/groceries and children expenses. She wants anything, haircut, getting nails done, make up etc she needs to find away to pay for it because you won't.
Seriously this would have been the more mature route to go. Give her what she wants but in a way where she realizes it's not a party where you wear a 50 style dress well cooking cookies all day. In fact he should probably have just stayed at his 80% time, and the money that they lost from her not working just simply disappeared causing a tighter budget.
Load More Replies...How stupid is that woman? 40% of marriages end in divorce and then what is she going to do? Tell the landlord they're not getting the rent and to get over it? Why anyone would depend 100% on another person for their survival is just bizarre.
She's a lazy s***k. She's offering BJs for what amounts to a household allowance. There's a word for that and she is one.
Load More Replies...NTA. SAHP is a two yes, one no decision. Both partners need to be on board. I don't gaf if she didn't want to work anymore and wanted to play house instead. That's a want and one an adult doesn't get to make without agreement and consequences. He didn't agree to it. And her behavior from treating him poorly in an effort to manipulate him is disgusting. He needs to speak to his kids and make that right. Everyone else, his parents included, can pound sand. And yes, get the divorce. There's no reconciliation with someone who acts the way she did. She could get her job back and recant, but she's already shown a willingness to act this way. If it doesn't work for this, she'll test his boundaries over and over again for other things. To say nothing of a willingness to be vindictive.






































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