Man Hides A Camera In The House To Prove His Stay-At-Home Wife Is Lazy And Worthless
How a couple figures out childcare, finances, and general responsibilities will, quite literally, make or break their relationship. Unfortunately, communication is easier said than done, particularly when people choose to not be honest with one another.
A SAHM decided to divorce her husband when she discovered that he was secretly spying on her to prove a point. But the way she described his reasoning led to no small amount of debate in the comments. Bored Panda has reached out to OP via Reddit and will update the story when she gets back to us.
Being a stay-at-home-parent comes with it’s perks and downsides
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But one woman ended up getting divorced when her husband thought she was being lazy
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OP appears to be lacking a good deal of self-awareness
At first glance, the idea of one’s spouse spying on them is a pretty big eyebrow-raiser. There are all sorts of messed up scenarios where something like this might happen. Indeed, even after it’s revealed that the wife is not keeping up her end of the bargain, it’s still a questionable action. While OP might not actually acknowledge that she is in the wrong, a spy camera is still a pretty extreme measure to take.
After all, a common thread in many, similar arguments, is the working partner complaining that the stay-at-home spouse does too little or does not contribute to the household. There are hundreds, if not thousands of stories out there of entitled and useless husbands. More often than not, this belief is misguided and ignorant, as cooking, cleaning, and looking after kids is a lot of responsibility. Except, as OP herself admits, they have a house cleaner.
On top of that, their kids are not toddlers who need constant supervision, one is old enough to drive and, presumably, babysit the other. A twelve-year-old needs to be looked after but isn’t so young that they can’t entertain themselves. As one comment noted, it’s pretty telling that the kids will call their father for help and not the mother, despite the fact that one of them is literally working throughout the day.
Browsing your phone all day is not exactly back-breaking work
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Indeed, OP does a great job of almost making us forget and forgive her husband for literally installing a secret camera. For example, she sees going to the post office as akin to working an entire daily shift. Yes, it might not be fun, but running a handful of errands is not a full-time job. Running an errand after working eight hours, however, is absolutely soul-crushing.
More egregiously, she also decided that sending out paychecks late was acceptable. Not only does this put employees at risk, but this also interferes with her husband’s business, the same business that allows her to not clean all day. To take a step back, it’s easy to see how the spying and feeling of underappreciation can be difficult.
If she wants a certain lifestyle, that is her right, but making entitled demands when someone else pays the bills and you have multiple kids is a pretty extreme level of delusion. Most unworkable relationships have a “last straw” moment, but it’s surprising that it would come from her and not her husband.
The husband has a lot more ground to stand on than OP
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While we do not see his side of the story, there is a decent chance that he hasn’t made any extreme moves precisely because they have children together. Splitting the family is difficult, even if, based on both kid’s behavior, they know which parent is the actual adult in the room.
Given the massive amount of popularity this story garnered on Reddit, it’s almost worth considering if the husband and, presumably, his lawyers, will stumble upon it. The details are specific enough. On the other hand, perhaps OP will read the comments, do some real soul-searching, and conclude that this marriage needs counseling and some more responsibility, not a divorce.
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Ugh. I used to do domestic and gardening work for people like op and they are the worst. They stare at you and get in the way and micromanage you, criticize, and b***h about their families your entire time there. Some people put so much effort into feeling busy they make laziness look exhausting.
I'm with the Redditors here. I really wanted to be on the OPs side because hiding a camera in the house to spy on her is a fúcked up thing to do, but it does sound like she is indeed slacking off. There's no need to watch what a cleaning lady or gardener is doing, especially not everyday. So how could she be so busy all day that she forgot to sign the paper of her kid, even if she hadn't have to do any chores except for making food plans? I'd have totally understood it if she's a SAHM that does all the house work and is therefore so busy she forgets things, but she doesn't. It also speaks volumes that her kid decided to go to the father first and tell him what happened instead of asking the mother, telling me that the kid expected her to forget again. Who knows what other things happened before this event? Also, props for the Redditor who mentioned that some people indeed can't afford to have their paycheck mailed too late, one can get evicted in the US over that. OP is overprivileged
Let's see....She's got 3 teenagers, she has a cleaner, a gardener, she buys pre-made meals and apparently she needs MORE help than that because she couldn't carve a few minutes out of whatever she does all day (laundry?) to fill out a piece of paper? She's in for a rude awakening. However, I do think if you're at the point where you feel like you need to hide a camera to spy on your spouse the relationship is over.
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Ugh. I used to do domestic and gardening work for people like op and they are the worst. They stare at you and get in the way and micromanage you, criticize, and b***h about their families your entire time there. Some people put so much effort into feeling busy they make laziness look exhausting.
I'm with the Redditors here. I really wanted to be on the OPs side because hiding a camera in the house to spy on her is a fúcked up thing to do, but it does sound like she is indeed slacking off. There's no need to watch what a cleaning lady or gardener is doing, especially not everyday. So how could she be so busy all day that she forgot to sign the paper of her kid, even if she hadn't have to do any chores except for making food plans? I'd have totally understood it if she's a SAHM that does all the house work and is therefore so busy she forgets things, but she doesn't. It also speaks volumes that her kid decided to go to the father first and tell him what happened instead of asking the mother, telling me that the kid expected her to forget again. Who knows what other things happened before this event? Also, props for the Redditor who mentioned that some people indeed can't afford to have their paycheck mailed too late, one can get evicted in the US over that. OP is overprivileged
Let's see....She's got 3 teenagers, she has a cleaner, a gardener, she buys pre-made meals and apparently she needs MORE help than that because she couldn't carve a few minutes out of whatever she does all day (laundry?) to fill out a piece of paper? She's in for a rude awakening. However, I do think if you're at the point where you feel like you need to hide a camera to spy on your spouse the relationship is over.
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