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Wife Files For Divorce After Husband Points Out Her Weird Quirk That Makes Traveling Difficult
Love is about accepting your partner for who they are. It’s about looking past their flaws and finding ways to work through them, while helping each other grow as individuals.
But what if their shortcomings have become repetitive and extremely frustrating to the point that they have caused you a great deal of misery? This is what a man went through as he dealt with his wife’s overpacking tendencies.
But after trying to express his sentiments to her, the woman flipped out and wanted a divorce. He now wonders whether he was too harsh in how he handled the situation.
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Some people tend to overpack, and it usually isn’t a big deal
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However, it’s a slightly extreme case for this couple, as the man explains
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The husband finally spoke up, but it only made things worse
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His wife flipped out and escalated their argument to a whole new level
The man provided additional information, revealing that his wife is dealing with a condition
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He further explained their situation
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ADHD may be a heavy emotional baggage in relationships that both people may end up carrying
The story’s author mentioned that his wife had ADHD, a disorder that is often downplayed and misconstrued in multiple ways. However, the reality is much harsher, especially when it comes to relationships.
According to Healthline, ADHD often manifests as hyperfocus and being fully engrossed in an activity. In the man’s case, his wife tends to overpack and be late to scheduled commitments.
But behind that seemingly superficial issue is the emotional baggage in the form of negative self-image, lack of confidence, and feelings of shame.
According to NHS Berkshire Healthcare, intense emotions, impulsivity, frequent mood changes, and communication problems are other ways ADHD impacts relationships. This is likely why the wife suddenly went the extreme way and called for a divorce when her husband simply expressed his sentiment.
In such cases, working on communication methods is the most recommended approach. And according to psychosocial rehabilitation specialist Kendra Cherry, it all begins with understanding the afflicted partner’s condition and how it affects them.
“Recognize that they may have their own way of doing things and their own way of communicating,” Cherry wrote in an article for Very Well Mind.
At the same time, management of expectations is also key. As the person supporting the partner with ADHD, Cherry emphasizes the importance of knowing that their condition doesn’t define them.
So instead of holding them to a high standard, she advises finding more effective ways to find a healthy compromise.
It may help the author to have an honest and calm conversation with his wife about the issue at hand. He may have to assure her that he is willing to make the necessary compromises. But if all else fails, professional help is always an option.
Most people sided with the author, with some telling him to agree with the divorce
But others thought he was being a jerk, with some recommending professional help
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Trillian 4 months ago
I would be the one filing for divorce. She sounds so exhausting and quite entitled. Cancelling the babysitter to bring a toddler on a work trip without even talking about that first? Yeah, no.
Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
Dam right lol ,n this is from a woman’s view to , she’s totally exhausting I’d be outta there , n gone for full custody to ,until she sorts herself out poor bloke 💔
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Bubblebee 4 months ago
BP calling it a "weird quirk" in the title, smh. No, it's not a weird quirk, it's a safety and health issue. It's directly impacting her husband - not only while on vacation (when he obviously cannot rest due to her behaviour), but also while working. Her behaviour is extremely selfish and destructive, I don't care she comes from a hoarder background or has ADHD. These things require treatment and work - work that she simply isn't putting in. Not only does she completely dismiss his problems in all of this, but also threatens divorce. What an awful woman. I don't even want to know how the child will feel when older (and going somewhere on time will be important). I don't have a problem with mental issues in people. I do have a huge problem when they are not doing anything about them, though.
Papa 4 months ago
They've apparently changed the title since you posted that, because "weird quirk" no longer appears. Instead it refers to her "traveling habits."
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Rika 4 months ago
Being late is common for people with ADHD but bringing a lot of blankets and towels to a *hotel* isn't. That woman clearly has other issues.
Zoe Vokes 4 months ago
OP said she came from a hoarder background (in his list of bullet points after the first post). So probably the combination of ADHD and being inclined to hoard is making her do this.
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The_Nicest_Misanthrope 4 months ago (edited)
As a woman with ADHD, f**k that! Run my friend. Run.
The Starsong Princess 4 months ago
As an overpacker in recovery, I can tell you it’s about control. She wants to reduce anxiety by controlling every eventuality that might come up on the trip. Until she gets this anxiety treated, there will be no improvement.
Austzn 4 months ago
She needs therapy. He needs to be happy they only had 1 child together. He also needs to grow a spine and deal with this before the trip even starts. I can't even see the mirror? Trip cancelled. You think I'm moving all this stuff that you want in and out? Trip cancelled. Taking a child and this hot mess on a work trip? HaHaHa, there is no trip. Access denied.
Papa 4 months ago
I agree. It's time he tells her "I'm leaving at 10:00 am, and we are not taking all that stuff. If you aren't ready on time, or try to pack things we obviously will not need, then you aren't going." If she still can't stop being late and packing the ridiculous amount of stuff then it's time to get a therapist or an attorney involved, and maybe both.
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CatWoman1014 4 months ago
Sounds like she has OCD and refuses to address it and just gaslights instead. Divorce might be the best option if she refuses to get help.
Trillian 4 months ago
I would be the one filing for divorce. She sounds so exhausting and quite entitled. Cancelling the babysitter to bring a toddler on a work trip without even talking about that first? Yeah, no.
Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
Dam right lol ,n this is from a woman’s view to , she’s totally exhausting I’d be outta there , n gone for full custody to ,until she sorts herself out poor bloke 💔
Load More Replies... Bubblebee 4 months ago
BP calling it a "weird quirk" in the title, smh. No, it's not a weird quirk, it's a safety and health issue. It's directly impacting her husband - not only while on vacation (when he obviously cannot rest due to her behaviour), but also while working. Her behaviour is extremely selfish and destructive, I don't care she comes from a hoarder background or has ADHD. These things require treatment and work - work that she simply isn't putting in. Not only does she completely dismiss his problems in all of this, but also threatens divorce. What an awful woman. I don't even want to know how the child will feel when older (and going somewhere on time will be important). I don't have a problem with mental issues in people. I do have a huge problem when they are not doing anything about them, though.
Papa 4 months ago
They've apparently changed the title since you posted that, because "weird quirk" no longer appears. Instead it refers to her "traveling habits."
Load More Replies... Rika 4 months ago
Being late is common for people with ADHD but bringing a lot of blankets and towels to a *hotel* isn't. That woman clearly has other issues.
Zoe Vokes 4 months ago
OP said she came from a hoarder background (in his list of bullet points after the first post). So probably the combination of ADHD and being inclined to hoard is making her do this.
Load More Replies... The_Nicest_Misanthrope 4 months ago (edited)
As a woman with ADHD, f**k that! Run my friend. Run.
The Starsong Princess 4 months ago
As an overpacker in recovery, I can tell you it’s about control. She wants to reduce anxiety by controlling every eventuality that might come up on the trip. Until she gets this anxiety treated, there will be no improvement.
Austzn 4 months ago
She needs therapy. He needs to be happy they only had 1 child together. He also needs to grow a spine and deal with this before the trip even starts. I can't even see the mirror? Trip cancelled. You think I'm moving all this stuff that you want in and out? Trip cancelled. Taking a child and this hot mess on a work trip? HaHaHa, there is no trip. Access denied.
Papa 4 months ago
I agree. It's time he tells her "I'm leaving at 10:00 am, and we are not taking all that stuff. If you aren't ready on time, or try to pack things we obviously will not need, then you aren't going." If she still can't stop being late and packing the ridiculous amount of stuff then it's time to get a therapist or an attorney involved, and maybe both.
Load More Replies... CatWoman1014 4 months ago
Sounds like she has OCD and refuses to address it and just gaslights instead. Divorce might be the best option if she refuses to get help.
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