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Guy Wants Marriage At Home And Single-Guy Trips To Thailand With Pals, Wife Says He Can’t Have Both
Going on a trip with your friends can be a wonderful experience and can help you all bond really well. The problem is that once folks get married, their partner might feel insecure if they just go on girls’ or boys’ trips with their buddies, especially if the destination is a bit sketchy.
This is how a woman felt when her husband threw a tantrum about not being invited on a 2-week trip to Thailand by his single guy friends. She felt that it was inappropriate for him to do so, whereas he felt that she was restricting his freedom.
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The poster felt that her husband shouldn’t be taking a 2-week trip with his single guy friends to Thailand, but he felt that she was restricting his freedom by setting such rules
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The woman told her husband that if he wanted to live a single life, then he should be alone, but since they were married, he should want to take her on such exciting trips
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The poster also clarified that her husband’s single friends had left him out of the Thailand plan because they wanted to sleep with other women during their trip
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The woman felt that it was inappropriate of her husband to want to go on such trips, especially since he was a married guy and they were all single men
The poster and her husband got into a big fight after he learned that his close guy friends had taken a trip to Thailand without him. Since they were all single men, they had chosen not to invite him along, which made the guy resentful toward his wife, who was also not on board with such a trip.
According to people in relationships, it is completely normal for folks to want to spend time with their friends or even travel with them. The only thing that changes once they get married is that they should discuss the trip with their partner and see if they are on board with the idea. This is also a great way to reduce any fears they might have about the situation.
Unfortunately, it seems like the man hadn’t spoken to his wife about wanting to go on such trips, so she felt uncomfortable with the idea. She also didn’t think that she was restricting him in any way by telling him not to go; in fact, she felt that since they were married, they should be traveling together.
Many folks might not want their spouse to go on a trip without them, and professionals explain that this might be because they miss them a lot or don’t know how to be alone. Although it can be an uncomfortable experience at first, a short time apart can sometimes be beneficial for the relationship.
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The poster tried to tell her husband that his idea of going on a 2-week trip abroad didn’t make sense to her because she wanted them to share such experiences. She also felt that since marriage was a partnership, he should consider her feelings rather than just do whatever he liked.
The man, on the other hand, felt that his wife was restricting his freedom, and he didn’t expect to be so stifled just because they had gotten married. He told her that he thought he’d still be able to travel and party with his boys whenever he wanted without having to ask for permission.
This is exactly why couples need to communicate openly and honestly with each other, or they might unknowingly stomp on each other’s boundaries. Experts state that both partners need to understand each other’s points of view in serious situations and then make decisions about it together.
The poster and her husband couldn’t resolve their fight, and the woman wasn’t willing to change her mind about the issue, especially since her partner’s friends had gone to Thailand to sleep with women. Hopefully, after calming down, both people were able to understand each other’s perspectives on the situation and reach a compromise.
Whose side are you on in this situation? Let us know your honest thoughts on the matter.
Folks were divided on the issue, with some feeling the couple wasn’t trusting each other enough, and others feeling like a single guy’s trip to Thailand was sketchy
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Heffalump 1 day ago (edited)
When you're married you don't go on single guy's holidays. You go on married men's weekend fishing trips where you catch no fish but do get very drunk next to a river. You then buy some trout on the way back, and your spouse affects to believe you.
Dill 16 hours ago
My husband went on a two week climbing trip to Nepal with his mates and I certainly had no problem with that. He often went on camping trips clambering up and down mountains with male friends - a few a year. Most trouble he got into was falling off a mountain and having to save himself with an 'ice axe arrest' to stop his fall. He nearly drowned by poor camping site choice (rain came down and 'whoosh a flood' and once chopped off the very tips of two of his fingers. My worry is what he'd do to himself quite frankly! I'd have a problem with him going off with single mates on s*x-tourism trips for certain, but mainly because I'd be worried about what bits he'd end up losing.
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Alexandra 1 day ago
First off: don't have kids with this guy. Second: is an annulment possible? Third: does your husband really think that he will stay quietly in his hotelroom when his buddies engage in s*x tourism? And does he think s*x tourism is morally defensible? It almost always involves vulnerable women and girls who have no agency whatsoever. Personally, I think engaging in s*x tourism is at least 'r**e-adjacent'. I think you bought a cat in the bag.
Marnie 14 hours ago
In one of the comments, the OP mentioned having s*x with "lady boys". I don't know what that means, but it doesn't sound good. I could never marry a person who is so reprehensible to engage in "s*x tourism" where likely some or all of the people were trafficked, or had to do it out of desperation, or are minors which clearly makes it r a p e. I could not work with someone like that, talk to, be friends with someone like that. If they were in my family, I would cut off all contact. OP is also awful since she's okay with it so long as the rapist/s*x-trafficker/a****r is single.
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FreeTheUnicorn 1 day ago
So I'm not ok with s*x tourism, so that type of trip is out full stop. But generally, if you think your spouse should never travel within it you, you are a controlling AH. If you aren't being neglected, why would you begrudge a trip with friends or solo? The only possible answer is because you want to control their social interactions to such an extent that you need to be physically present Both these people are horrible. Please don't procreate.
Iffydust 1 day ago
This my take also. S*x tourism is what I have problem with. My spouse is definitely allowed travel with his friends or by himself but if the trip includes s*x tourism that would be a dealbreaker for me.
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Heffalump 1 day ago (edited)
When you're married you don't go on single guy's holidays. You go on married men's weekend fishing trips where you catch no fish but do get very drunk next to a river. You then buy some trout on the way back, and your spouse affects to believe you.
Dill 16 hours ago
My husband went on a two week climbing trip to Nepal with his mates and I certainly had no problem with that. He often went on camping trips clambering up and down mountains with male friends - a few a year. Most trouble he got into was falling off a mountain and having to save himself with an 'ice axe arrest' to stop his fall. He nearly drowned by poor camping site choice (rain came down and 'whoosh a flood' and once chopped off the very tips of two of his fingers. My worry is what he'd do to himself quite frankly! I'd have a problem with him going off with single mates on s*x-tourism trips for certain, but mainly because I'd be worried about what bits he'd end up losing.
Load More Replies... Alexandra 1 day ago
First off: don't have kids with this guy. Second: is an annulment possible? Third: does your husband really think that he will stay quietly in his hotelroom when his buddies engage in s*x tourism? And does he think s*x tourism is morally defensible? It almost always involves vulnerable women and girls who have no agency whatsoever. Personally, I think engaging in s*x tourism is at least 'r**e-adjacent'. I think you bought a cat in the bag.
Marnie 14 hours ago
In one of the comments, the OP mentioned having s*x with "lady boys". I don't know what that means, but it doesn't sound good. I could never marry a person who is so reprehensible to engage in "s*x tourism" where likely some or all of the people were trafficked, or had to do it out of desperation, or are minors which clearly makes it r a p e. I could not work with someone like that, talk to, be friends with someone like that. If they were in my family, I would cut off all contact. OP is also awful since she's okay with it so long as the rapist/s*x-trafficker/a****r is single.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 1 day ago
So I'm not ok with s*x tourism, so that type of trip is out full stop. But generally, if you think your spouse should never travel within it you, you are a controlling AH. If you aren't being neglected, why would you begrudge a trip with friends or solo? The only possible answer is because you want to control their social interactions to such an extent that you need to be physically present Both these people are horrible. Please don't procreate.
Iffydust 1 day ago
This my take also. S*x tourism is what I have problem with. My spouse is definitely allowed travel with his friends or by himself but if the trip includes s*x tourism that would be a dealbreaker for me.
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