Husband Won’t Stop Laughing Off Wife’s Legitimate Concerns, She Coolly Warns Him Of Divorce
Some people have a real talent for dismissing their spouse’s feelings as easily as they’re swatting away flies. We’ve probably all seen the classic eye roll or heard the casual “you’re being dramatic” line, as if it ever solved anything.
But, when you brush off someone’s concerns long enough, it’s like you’re shaking up a can of soda – eventually it’s going to explode. And when it does? Well, let’s just say things can go downhill real quick. And sometimes, you might end up taking a tumble in front of your boss.
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All marriages have their ups and downs, and they can be fun, that is until someone starts treating their partner’s feelings like they’re optional
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One woman finally had enough of her husband’s dismissive behavior, dropping the divorce bomb at a work BBQ, in front of his boss
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The mom told her husband that she didn’t want her 18-year-old daughter sleeping in a stranger’s car, but the man laughed at her, saying she was overreacting
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After years of dealing with his dismissive behavior, the woman gave her husband an ultimatum, saying she will divorce him if he ever belittles her legitimate concerns again
Our Redditor (let’s just call her Nancy) has been putting up with her husband’s constant mocking and dismissive attitude for years. You probably know the type, the one who thinks their partner’s legitimate concerns are just them “being dramatic”. What’s worse in this story is that this guy likes to belittle his wife’s feelings in front of other people, too, and even their kids. Classy guy, right?
Nancy’s dear husband pulled that exact stunt at their work BBQ where his boss was present too. No big deal, right? Wrong. Nancy was less than thrilled about the idea of her 18-year-old daughter sleeping in a sketchy dude’s car after a party. That’s not exactly a recipe for a cozy night in, now is it? So, she made sure her husband was on the same page as she was.
But what did our guy do? He laughed it off in front of everyone. Instead of backing up his wife, as probably any seasoned parent would have done, he made Nancy out to be some sort of overprotective helicopter mom all in front of some of his colleagues and their 13-year-old daughter.
We’re talking about the same daughter who fell out the window because dear dad couldn’t be bothered to close the darn thing while mom was busy breastfeeding their baby. Nice going, dude!
After the BBQ incident, Nancy finally had enough. And, in the calmest, iciest tone imaginable, she dropped the D-word in a way even Gordon Ramsay himself couldn’t have served better: “If you ever belittle my legitimate concerns in front of our children again, I will instruct a solicitor to divorce you.”
Can we please get a round of applause for our mom? Because not only did she tell the guy off, but she did it with a level of calm that could make even a Zen master jealous. Her husband probably didn’t see that one coming. And his boss? Well, let’s just hope he wasn’t gulping down a mouthful of potato salad when that little gem was dropped.
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Was it the perfect timing for a such a declaration? Nah, probably not. BBQs are more about burgers and beer than divorce threats. But hey, when you’ve been dealing with the same nonsense for years, sometimes you just can’t wait for the perfect moment. It’s like trying to hold in a sneeze – eventually, it’s coming out whether you like it or not.
But this wasn’t just a random disagreement as Nancy had been dealing with her husband’s dismissive behavior for years, and this BBQ incident was just the last drop for her.
We’ve probably all had one of those moments when we feel completely unheard, like we’re talking to a wall. Well, that’s just the vibe you get from a dismissive spouse. It’s almost the emotional equivalent of someone walking out on dinner halfway through – frustrating, insulting and a tad infuriating.
Think about it this way: if every time you try to express a concern, your partner reacts with an eye-roll or brushes it off like it’s no big deal, how long would you keep sharing? Exactly! That’s how those cracks in trust start popping up.
And maybe you won’t notice it right away but, over time, it’s like pulling one Jenga block too many – eventually, the whole thing comes crashing down and you might as well start predicting your own divorce.
What’s your take on this story? Do you think our Redditor is a jerk for threatening her husband with a divorce in front of his boss or was this ultimatum a long time coming? Drop your comments below.
People online say that, while the woman had good reasons for saying what she said, doing it in front of her husband’s boss and their kids was not the best idea
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She's put up with him for a long time now at least 18 years. That's 18 years of belittlement and disrespect not only in your home but in public in front of others. You have not gone overboard you are simply matching his level if he feels he can and should disrespect you in public why should you not be able to to tell him to quit his sh*t or you're divorcing him.
This poor woman cracked and it happened in front of his boss. Not the best of circumstances, but who of us can choose when and where to crack? Exactly: you just crack. I'm sorry it had to come to this because, to be honest, she should have given him notice years earlier, but I'm an outsider so it's easy for me to say that.
I mean… HE has no problem trampling on HER in public, it seems. I’m not sure why it’d be so awful that she did something publicly awkward in turn.
Load More Replies...And it's about time she pushed Bach. It's been baroque long enough.
Load More Replies...It's interesting how many claim it was an inappropriate moment to react to her husband, yet none remark how inappropriate his belittlement of her in the exact same setting was...
You put any CHILD, at any age, in danger, AT ALL?... My Darling? It's ON. Come try that with me and mine. Her husband is all sorts of... "WTAF?"........ The whole "being dramatic" thing? It's exactly what the other person who is in the wrong says. They get defensive, try and say anything to defend their position. An 18yr old girl sleeping in a strangers car?... Any age? Even myself at the age I am? F*ck that sh*t. Nope. Btw? Why has noone else noticed that?
It sounds like a last straw moment, they are usually the pettiest, but the last straw is just too many. Girl, he has at least 18 years of this, he's not going to change. Put your ducks in a row as soon as you can (accounting for the sick family member) and get out.
She should have told him that 18 years ago. He deserves to be alone.
They both sound insufferable together, and sound like they lack respect for each other and resent each other. They also sound like awful parents if neither of them insisted window restrictors prior to their kid falling out a window. Why was that even an appropriate conversation to have in front of a party guests? It sounds like her legitimate concerns belittle his views as much as his actions belittle hers. Just break up and both be happier without each other.
I think you were right to say ut and to say it in front of whoever the f**k was there while life is this after all exactly it's yours honest and it's uo t you whi stays n whi gues fire his sorry as off start again you n the kids f**k him n f*x whoever doesn't agree they're nto really there for u imo
So he can belittle and humiliate her in public but she cant push back in public? She’s put up with this disrespect for years, of course she broke. I hope she divorced his a*s regardless of if he did it again or not
I'm so excited my broken heart has been restored. My man is back after he left me for another woman. I was so happy to meet Dr Williams and how he helped many people to bring back their happiness so I contacted him to help me too. That was how he helped me to bring back my man.. A big Thanks to you because I never thought my man would be back to me so quickly. You are such a nice man, I drop his contact below 👇 (WhatsApp +2348136785562) via email (highpriest422@gmail.com).
His reply was still wrong, you’re forgetting that part. And how do you know he didn’t bring it up first?
Load More Replies...You talk as if she made the conscious decision to snap when his boss was present. If anything, OP's husband is to blame because he blamed her in front of others and you just don't do that to your spouse, especially when you know it's a sore point and has been for several years. The bottom-line is: he just didn't and doesn't care about her. So why should she care about him? I rather think that her children's safety matters more to her than her husband's promotion.
Load More Replies...Wow, how nice that you basically felt fine falling right into the stereotype of "the woman does all the childcare, cooking, and cleaning WHILE pregnant/breastfeeding". I'd like to point out, however, that that is NOT a completely-healthy stereotype for mother OR child(ren), and even if it were perfectly fine, not EVERYONE is OKAY with that. It is totally fine that some birth-givers WANT or NEED their spouse to HELP with things while they are pregnant/breastfeeding. Additionally, I'm pretty sure OP just had had enough at that party, and basically snapped, whereas OP's husband has a pattern of nearly TWO DECADES of belittling OP and ignoring her concerns. An "I can't take this any more" statement DOES NOT put OP on the same level of her husband in that regard. Also, I'm pretty sure NOWHERE did OP say she thinks or feels like she's better than her husband. That is 100% you projecting.
Load More Replies...She's put up with him for a long time now at least 18 years. That's 18 years of belittlement and disrespect not only in your home but in public in front of others. You have not gone overboard you are simply matching his level if he feels he can and should disrespect you in public why should you not be able to to tell him to quit his sh*t or you're divorcing him.
This poor woman cracked and it happened in front of his boss. Not the best of circumstances, but who of us can choose when and where to crack? Exactly: you just crack. I'm sorry it had to come to this because, to be honest, she should have given him notice years earlier, but I'm an outsider so it's easy for me to say that.
I mean… HE has no problem trampling on HER in public, it seems. I’m not sure why it’d be so awful that she did something publicly awkward in turn.
Load More Replies...And it's about time she pushed Bach. It's been baroque long enough.
Load More Replies...It's interesting how many claim it was an inappropriate moment to react to her husband, yet none remark how inappropriate his belittlement of her in the exact same setting was...
You put any CHILD, at any age, in danger, AT ALL?... My Darling? It's ON. Come try that with me and mine. Her husband is all sorts of... "WTAF?"........ The whole "being dramatic" thing? It's exactly what the other person who is in the wrong says. They get defensive, try and say anything to defend their position. An 18yr old girl sleeping in a strangers car?... Any age? Even myself at the age I am? F*ck that sh*t. Nope. Btw? Why has noone else noticed that?
It sounds like a last straw moment, they are usually the pettiest, but the last straw is just too many. Girl, he has at least 18 years of this, he's not going to change. Put your ducks in a row as soon as you can (accounting for the sick family member) and get out.
She should have told him that 18 years ago. He deserves to be alone.
They both sound insufferable together, and sound like they lack respect for each other and resent each other. They also sound like awful parents if neither of them insisted window restrictors prior to their kid falling out a window. Why was that even an appropriate conversation to have in front of a party guests? It sounds like her legitimate concerns belittle his views as much as his actions belittle hers. Just break up and both be happier without each other.
I think you were right to say ut and to say it in front of whoever the f**k was there while life is this after all exactly it's yours honest and it's uo t you whi stays n whi gues fire his sorry as off start again you n the kids f**k him n f*x whoever doesn't agree they're nto really there for u imo
So he can belittle and humiliate her in public but she cant push back in public? She’s put up with this disrespect for years, of course she broke. I hope she divorced his a*s regardless of if he did it again or not
I'm so excited my broken heart has been restored. My man is back after he left me for another woman. I was so happy to meet Dr Williams and how he helped many people to bring back their happiness so I contacted him to help me too. That was how he helped me to bring back my man.. A big Thanks to you because I never thought my man would be back to me so quickly. You are such a nice man, I drop his contact below 👇 (WhatsApp +2348136785562) via email (highpriest422@gmail.com).
His reply was still wrong, you’re forgetting that part. And how do you know he didn’t bring it up first?
Load More Replies...You talk as if she made the conscious decision to snap when his boss was present. If anything, OP's husband is to blame because he blamed her in front of others and you just don't do that to your spouse, especially when you know it's a sore point and has been for several years. The bottom-line is: he just didn't and doesn't care about her. So why should she care about him? I rather think that her children's safety matters more to her than her husband's promotion.
Load More Replies...Wow, how nice that you basically felt fine falling right into the stereotype of "the woman does all the childcare, cooking, and cleaning WHILE pregnant/breastfeeding". I'd like to point out, however, that that is NOT a completely-healthy stereotype for mother OR child(ren), and even if it were perfectly fine, not EVERYONE is OKAY with that. It is totally fine that some birth-givers WANT or NEED their spouse to HELP with things while they are pregnant/breastfeeding. Additionally, I'm pretty sure OP just had had enough at that party, and basically snapped, whereas OP's husband has a pattern of nearly TWO DECADES of belittling OP and ignoring her concerns. An "I can't take this any more" statement DOES NOT put OP on the same level of her husband in that regard. Also, I'm pretty sure NOWHERE did OP say she thinks or feels like she's better than her husband. That is 100% you projecting.
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