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Husband Won’t Stop Laughing Off Wife’s Legitimate Concerns, She Coolly Warns Him Of Divorce
Husband Won’t Stop Laughing Off Wife’s Legitimate Concerns, She Coolly Warns Him Of Divorce
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Husband Won’t Stop Laughing Off Wife’s Legitimate Concerns, She Coolly Warns Him Of Divorce

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Some people have a real talent for dismissing their spouse’s feelings as easily as they’re swatting away flies. We’ve probably all seen the classic eye roll or heard the casual “you’re being dramatic” line, as if it ever solved anything.

But, when you brush off someone’s concerns long enough, it’s like you’re shaking up a can of soda – eventually it’s going to explode. And when it does? Well, let’s just say things can go downhill real quick. And sometimes, you might end up taking a tumble in front of your boss.

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    One woman finally had enough of her husband’s dismissive behavior, dropping the divorce bomb at a work BBQ, in front of his boss

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    The mom told her husband that she didn’t want her 18-year-old daughter sleeping in a stranger’s car, but the man laughed at her, saying she was overreacting

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    After years of dealing with his dismissive behavior, the woman gave her husband an ultimatum, saying she will divorce him if he ever belittles her legitimate concerns again

    Our Redditor (let’s just call her Nancy) has been putting up with her husband’s constant mocking and dismissive attitude for years. You probably know the type, the one who thinks their partner’s legitimate concerns are just them “being dramatic”. What’s worse in this story is that this guy likes to belittle his wife’s feelings in front of other people, too, and even their kids. Classy guy, right?

    Nancy’s dear husband pulled that exact stunt at their work BBQ where his boss was present too. No big deal, right? Wrong. Nancy was less than thrilled about the idea of her 18-year-old daughter sleeping in a sketchy dude’s car after a party. That’s not exactly a recipe for a cozy night in, now is it? So, she made sure her husband was on the same page as she was.

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    But what did our guy do? He laughed it off in front of everyone. Instead of backing up his wife, as probably any seasoned parent would have done, he made Nancy out to be some sort of overprotective helicopter mom all in front of some of his colleagues and their 13-year-old daughter.

    We’re talking about the same daughter who fell out the window because dear dad couldn’t be bothered to close the darn thing while mom was busy breastfeeding their baby. Nice going, dude!

    After the BBQ incident, Nancy finally had enough. And, in the calmest, iciest tone imaginable, she dropped the D-word in a way even Gordon Ramsay himself couldn’t have served better: “If you ever belittle my legitimate concerns in front of our children again, I will instruct a solicitor to divorce you.”

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    Can we please get a round of applause for our mom? Because not only did she tell the guy off, but she did it with a level of calm that could make even a Zen master jealous. Her husband probably didn’t see that one coming. And his boss? Well, let’s just hope he wasn’t gulping down a mouthful of potato salad when that little gem was dropped.

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    Was it the perfect timing for a such a declaration? Nah, probably not. BBQs are more about burgers and beer than divorce threats. But hey, when you’ve been dealing with the same nonsense for years, sometimes you just can’t wait for the perfect moment. It’s like trying to hold in a sneeze – eventually, it’s coming out whether you like it or not.

    But this wasn’t just a random disagreement as Nancy had been dealing with her husband’s dismissive behavior for years, and this BBQ incident was just the last drop for her.

    We’ve probably all had one of those moments when we feel completely unheard, like we’re talking to a wall. Well, that’s just the vibe you get from a dismissive spouse. It’s almost the emotional equivalent of someone walking out on dinner halfway through – frustrating, insulting and a tad infuriating.

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    Think about it this way: if every time you try to express a concern, your partner reacts with an eye-roll or brushes it off like it’s no big deal, how long would you keep sharing? Exactly! That’s how those cracks in trust start popping up.

    And maybe you won’t notice it right away but, over time, it’s like pulling one Jenga block too many – eventually, the whole thing comes crashing down and you might as well start predicting your own divorce.

    What’s your take on this story? Do you think our Redditor is a jerk for threatening her husband with a divorce in front of his boss or was this ultimatum a long time coming? Drop your comments below.

    People online say that, while the woman had good reasons for saying what she said, doing it in front of her husband’s boss and their kids was not the best idea

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    Monica Selvi

    Monica Selvi

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    Hi! I'm Moni. I’m a globetrotting creative with a camera in one hand and a notebook in the other. I’ve lived in 4 different countries, an visited 17, soaking up inspiration wherever I go. A marketer by trade but a writer at heart, I’ve been crafting stories, poems, and songs, and creating quirky characters since I was 7.

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    Monica Selvi

    Monica Selvi

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hi! I'm Moni. I’m a globetrotting creative with a camera in one hand and a notebook in the other. I’ve lived in 4 different countries, an visited 17, soaking up inspiration wherever I go. A marketer by trade but a writer at heart, I’ve been crafting stories, poems, and songs, and creating quirky characters since I was 7.

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    Makenzie McNeal
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's put up with him for a long time now at least 18 years. That's 18 years of belittlement and disrespect not only in your home but in public in front of others. You have not gone overboard you are simply matching his level if he feels he can and should disrespect you in public why should you not be able to to tell him to quit his sh*t or you're divorcing him.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This poor woman cracked and it happened in front of his boss. Not the best of circumstances, but who of us can choose when and where to crack? Exactly: you just crack. I'm sorry it had to come to this because, to be honest, she should have given him notice years earlier, but I'm an outsider so it's easy for me to say that.

    Featherking
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean… HE has no problem trampling on HER in public, it seems. I’m not sure why it’d be so awful that she did something publicly awkward in turn.

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    Monica G
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP just pushed bach. But the marriage seem already at it's last leg.

    Mark Alexander
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it's about time she pushed Bach. It's been baroque long enough.

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He belittles her for years, even so far as to get a child injured, but hey, SHE is the bad one for finally standing her ground. So many comments from abusers and / or enablers, it's disgusting. How about demanding from him to behave like an adult in front of his boss?

    Space Invader
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's interesting how many claim it was an inappropriate moment to react to her husband, yet none remark how inappropriate his belittlement of her in the exact same setting was...

    Cee Cee
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think I'd have left years ago. Certainly that incident where a 3 year old fell out of the window would have made me think long and hard and install window restrictors. The latter should have been done at toddler stage.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You put any CHILD, at any age, in danger, AT ALL?... My Darling? It's ON. Come try that with me and mine. Her husband is all sorts of... "WTAF?"........ The whole "being dramatic" thing? It's exactly what the other person who is in the wrong says. They get defensive, try and say anything to defend their position. An 18yr old girl sleeping in a strangers car?... Any age? Even myself at the age I am? F*ck that sh*t. Nope. Btw? Why has noone else noticed that?

    Key Lime
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kramer VS Kramer, the Dad loses custody of his kid because Mom, who had left them both, brought up the fact in court, that said child fell off the monkey bars and needed stitches while in Dad's care.

    Nimitz
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very little information. Sounds like someone just hoping for blind affirmation. Marriage is stressful, but don't ask the public to decide if you're not going to provide enough info

    Ivy at Eve
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds like a last straw moment, they are usually the pettiest, but the last straw is just too many. Girl, he has at least 18 years of this, he's not going to change. Put your ducks in a row as soon as you can (accounting for the sick family member) and get out.

    Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should have told him that 18 years ago. He deserves to be alone.

    Tristan J
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They both sound insufferable together, and sound like they lack respect for each other and resent each other. They also sound like awful parents if neither of them insisted window restrictors prior to their kid falling out a window. Why was that even an appropriate conversation to have in front of a party guests? It sounds like her legitimate concerns belittle his views as much as his actions belittle hers. Just break up and both be happier without each other.

    Elle Gea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think you were right to say ut and to say it in front of whoever the f**k was there while life is this after all exactly it's yours honest and it's uo t you whi stays n whi gues fire his sorry as off start again you n the kids f**k him n f*x whoever doesn't agree they're nto really there for u imo

    Ravioli
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly I don't know how she resisted this long, the first time one endangers my kids I will absolutely destroy them.

    Ginger ninja
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So he can belittle and humiliate her in public but she cant push back in public? She’s put up with this disrespect for years, of course she broke. I hope she divorced his a*s regardless of if he did it again or not

    Susan Cooke
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Father always said don’t telegraph your punches.

    Matthew Barabas
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it wasnt the right time or the right place.

    Isabella Sandoval
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so excited my broken heart has been restored. My man is back after he left me for another woman. I was so happy to meet Dr Williams and how he helped many people to bring back their happiness so I contacted him to help me too. That was how he helped me to bring back my man.. A big Thanks to you because I never thought my man would be back to me so quickly. You are such a nice man, I drop his contact below 👇 (WhatsApp +2348136785562) via email (highpriest422@gmail.com).

    Jonas Fisher
    Community Member
    1 year ago

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    If the party example is a typical example, then I think this is on OP. If she hadn't raised the issue in front of people, then his reply wouldn't have been in front of people. How is it reasonable that he be held to a standard to which she isn't holding herself?

    Kangaroo
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His reply was still wrong, you’re forgetting that part. And how do you know he didn’t bring it up first?

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    Game Guy
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    1 year ago

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    Not the greatest idea to do it in front of the boss if you have any ideas of continuing the marriage. People whose reputation gets damaged at work tend to miss out on promotions/etc which means you as a couple have a lower income. But what was said was something that should have been said years ago, when the daughter fell out of the window. Women do not have to put up with being treated like brainless, silly little kids, and the sooner you put a stop to c**p like that, the better off you are.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You talk as if she made the conscious decision to snap when his boss was present. If anything, OP's husband is to blame because he blamed her in front of others and you just don't do that to your spouse, especially when you know it's a sore point and has been for several years. The bottom-line is: he just didn't and doesn't care about her. So why should she care about him? I rather think that her children's safety matters more to her than her husband's promotion.

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    Hey!
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    1 year ago (edited)

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    Wow this escalated fast.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, how nice that you basically felt fine falling right into the stereotype of "the woman does all the childcare, cooking, and cleaning WHILE pregnant/breastfeeding". I'd like to point out, however, that that is NOT a completely-healthy stereotype for mother OR child(ren), and even if it were perfectly fine, not EVERYONE is OKAY with that. It is totally fine that some birth-givers WANT or NEED their spouse to HELP with things while they are pregnant/breastfeeding. Additionally, I'm pretty sure OP just had had enough at that party, and basically snapped, whereas OP's husband has a pattern of nearly TWO DECADES of belittling OP and ignoring her concerns. An "I can't take this any more" statement DOES NOT put OP on the same level of her husband in that regard. Also, I'm pretty sure NOWHERE did OP say she thinks or feels like she's better than her husband. That is 100% you projecting.

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    Makenzie McNeal
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's put up with him for a long time now at least 18 years. That's 18 years of belittlement and disrespect not only in your home but in public in front of others. You have not gone overboard you are simply matching his level if he feels he can and should disrespect you in public why should you not be able to to tell him to quit his sh*t or you're divorcing him.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This poor woman cracked and it happened in front of his boss. Not the best of circumstances, but who of us can choose when and where to crack? Exactly: you just crack. I'm sorry it had to come to this because, to be honest, she should have given him notice years earlier, but I'm an outsider so it's easy for me to say that.

    Featherking
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean… HE has no problem trampling on HER in public, it seems. I’m not sure why it’d be so awful that she did something publicly awkward in turn.

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    Monica G
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP just pushed bach. But the marriage seem already at it's last leg.

    Mark Alexander
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it's about time she pushed Bach. It's been baroque long enough.

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He belittles her for years, even so far as to get a child injured, but hey, SHE is the bad one for finally standing her ground. So many comments from abusers and / or enablers, it's disgusting. How about demanding from him to behave like an adult in front of his boss?

    Space Invader
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's interesting how many claim it was an inappropriate moment to react to her husband, yet none remark how inappropriate his belittlement of her in the exact same setting was...

    Cee Cee
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think I'd have left years ago. Certainly that incident where a 3 year old fell out of the window would have made me think long and hard and install window restrictors. The latter should have been done at toddler stage.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You put any CHILD, at any age, in danger, AT ALL?... My Darling? It's ON. Come try that with me and mine. Her husband is all sorts of... "WTAF?"........ The whole "being dramatic" thing? It's exactly what the other person who is in the wrong says. They get defensive, try and say anything to defend their position. An 18yr old girl sleeping in a strangers car?... Any age? Even myself at the age I am? F*ck that sh*t. Nope. Btw? Why has noone else noticed that?

    Key Lime
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kramer VS Kramer, the Dad loses custody of his kid because Mom, who had left them both, brought up the fact in court, that said child fell off the monkey bars and needed stitches while in Dad's care.

    Nimitz
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very little information. Sounds like someone just hoping for blind affirmation. Marriage is stressful, but don't ask the public to decide if you're not going to provide enough info

    Ivy at Eve
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds like a last straw moment, they are usually the pettiest, but the last straw is just too many. Girl, he has at least 18 years of this, he's not going to change. Put your ducks in a row as soon as you can (accounting for the sick family member) and get out.

    Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should have told him that 18 years ago. He deserves to be alone.

    Tristan J
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They both sound insufferable together, and sound like they lack respect for each other and resent each other. They also sound like awful parents if neither of them insisted window restrictors prior to their kid falling out a window. Why was that even an appropriate conversation to have in front of a party guests? It sounds like her legitimate concerns belittle his views as much as his actions belittle hers. Just break up and both be happier without each other.

    Elle Gea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think you were right to say ut and to say it in front of whoever the f**k was there while life is this after all exactly it's yours honest and it's uo t you whi stays n whi gues fire his sorry as off start again you n the kids f**k him n f*x whoever doesn't agree they're nto really there for u imo

    Ravioli
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly I don't know how she resisted this long, the first time one endangers my kids I will absolutely destroy them.

    Ginger ninja
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So he can belittle and humiliate her in public but she cant push back in public? She’s put up with this disrespect for years, of course she broke. I hope she divorced his a*s regardless of if he did it again or not

    Susan Cooke
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Father always said don’t telegraph your punches.

    Matthew Barabas
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it wasnt the right time or the right place.

    Isabella Sandoval
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so excited my broken heart has been restored. My man is back after he left me for another woman. I was so happy to meet Dr Williams and how he helped many people to bring back their happiness so I contacted him to help me too. That was how he helped me to bring back my man.. A big Thanks to you because I never thought my man would be back to me so quickly. You are such a nice man, I drop his contact below 👇 (WhatsApp +2348136785562) via email (highpriest422@gmail.com).

    Jonas Fisher
    Community Member
    1 year ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    If the party example is a typical example, then I think this is on OP. If she hadn't raised the issue in front of people, then his reply wouldn't have been in front of people. How is it reasonable that he be held to a standard to which she isn't holding herself?

    Kangaroo
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His reply was still wrong, you’re forgetting that part. And how do you know he didn’t bring it up first?

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    Game Guy
    Community Member
    1 year ago

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    Not the greatest idea to do it in front of the boss if you have any ideas of continuing the marriage. People whose reputation gets damaged at work tend to miss out on promotions/etc which means you as a couple have a lower income. But what was said was something that should have been said years ago, when the daughter fell out of the window. Women do not have to put up with being treated like brainless, silly little kids, and the sooner you put a stop to c**p like that, the better off you are.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You talk as if she made the conscious decision to snap when his boss was present. If anything, OP's husband is to blame because he blamed her in front of others and you just don't do that to your spouse, especially when you know it's a sore point and has been for several years. The bottom-line is: he just didn't and doesn't care about her. So why should she care about him? I rather think that her children's safety matters more to her than her husband's promotion.

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    Hey!
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited)

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    Wow this escalated fast.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, how nice that you basically felt fine falling right into the stereotype of "the woman does all the childcare, cooking, and cleaning WHILE pregnant/breastfeeding". I'd like to point out, however, that that is NOT a completely-healthy stereotype for mother OR child(ren), and even if it were perfectly fine, not EVERYONE is OKAY with that. It is totally fine that some birth-givers WANT or NEED their spouse to HELP with things while they are pregnant/breastfeeding. Additionally, I'm pretty sure OP just had had enough at that party, and basically snapped, whereas OP's husband has a pattern of nearly TWO DECADES of belittling OP and ignoring her concerns. An "I can't take this any more" statement DOES NOT put OP on the same level of her husband in that regard. Also, I'm pretty sure NOWHERE did OP say she thinks or feels like she's better than her husband. That is 100% you projecting.

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