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Wife Says Husband’s WFH Lifestyle Has Ruined Their Family As He Refuses To Join Them For Dinner
The family dinner is a concept romanticized in every sitcom from the last fifty years. It’s basically a cornerstone of the idealized family life. But in the real world, the family dinner is a chaotic mess of picky eaters, conflicting schedules, and the magnetic pull of screens.
It’s less of a Norman Rockwell painting and more of a hostage negotiation, with the kids bartering for their freedom and the parents just trying to get through it without a major incident. One mom is feeling this reality hard as she tries to make her sitcom dream come true against a mountain of very real obstacles.
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The idealized family dinner around a table is often a far cry from the chaotic reality of modern life
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A mother of two is desperate to start a family meal tradition but faces a mountain of hurdles
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Her husband works from home and has turned their dining room table into his office which is off-limits to everyone
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Her attempts at a “family meal” in the kitchen island ends with her son on a tablet and her husband on his phone
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To top it off, the husband is an incredibly fussy eater and he kicks up a fuss about the smell of her cooking seeping into the rest of the house
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The wife is starting to think there is an element of neurodivergence at play, making the husband unable to cope with any sort of change
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The husband argues that things are just fine the way they are and also feels kids don’t need to expand their pallets at their age
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The wife posted an update, detailing the conversation she had with her husband that didn’t go exactly as planned
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She is still willing to compromise on adding an extension to the kitchen island and even try to batch cook when he isn’t home
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The husband is adamant that nothing much should be done and that she is kicking up a fuss about nothing
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She feels she’s fighting a losing battle against a husband who refuses to support her simple wish
A mother of two is living with a deep sense of dissatisfaction: her family never, ever eats together. Her kids, aged 6 and 2, eat separately, and she’s feeling immense guilt about the lack of a traditional family mealtime. But she’s not just dealing with a simple scheduling issue; she’s up against a fortress of excuses and a completely unsupportive partner.
The first hurdle is her husband, an incredibly fussy eater. The second problem is that they have no dining table, and their kitchen island forces them to eat in a row like people waiting for a bus. The third, and most infuriating, obstacle is that they do have a dining room, but her husband has claimed it as his personal office and refuses to let it be used for its intended purpose.
She’s tried to force the issue, attempting to have family meals in the kitchen, but the experience is a soul-crushing failure. Her six-year-old immediately moans for his tablet, a habit she’s “ashamed” of but has come to rely on, and her husband just scrolls on his phone. She’s left feeling like she’s fighting a “losing battle,” a solo warrior for family connection in a sea of digital distraction and picky eating.
Now, she’s at her wit’s end, feeling completely defeated by a husband who “shuts it down” every time she tries to bring it up. She desperately wants the simple pleasure of a nice family meal, even just on the weekends, but she’s trapped by a house layout, a difficult husband, and a culture of disconnection that she feels powerless to change.
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The mother’s desire for family meals isn’t just a nostalgic dream; it’s a widely shared value with proven benefits. A recent study by ButcherBox found that 70% of Americans believe family dinners are important, with younger generations valuing them even more. A post-pandemic world sees a major upward trend for people enjoying their meals around a table.
Furthermore, experts at Wren Kitchens note that eating at a table “promotes mindfulness” and can even help with fussy eating. Ironically, the very thing her husband uses as an excuse is something that a structured family mealtime could potentially improve. The husband’s refusal to use the dining room is a major obstacle, as it prevents the family from reaping these benefits.
The Wren Kitchens report also emphasizes that a dinner table serves as a “focal point for communication,” which is exactly what the mother is craving. By commandeering this social space for his work and shutting down any discussion about it, he is actively preventing his family from connecting and creating the very “pointless” and disconnected atmosphere his wife is so unhappy with.
Ultimately, this isn’t a problem about food or furniture; it’s a serious communication breakdown in their marriage. The husband’s tendency to get annoyed and shut it down is a classic example of stonewalling, a behavior that mental health experts at Verywell Mind identify as highly damaging to a relationship. For any progress to be made, the conversation needs to shift from logistics to feelings.
Do you agree that table-based dinners are worth a shot for this shut-down family or is this mom being a little too traditional? Tell us your thoughts below!
The online community offered her advice, agreeing her problem wasn’t just about dinner, but her unsupportive husband
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The_Nicest_Misanthrope 1 month ago (edited)
Husband sounds like a pathetic, raging dickwad. Fill the house with tuna stank and leave his 'smelly' a*s
A S Mora 1 month ago
ND or not that man is a selfish effing prîck who will always prioritize his wants and comfort over everyone else else's and expects exact compliance. It's not just the dining room: the dining room is just Exhibit A. Those kids want their tablets because they're trying to disassociate from daddy's numerous other demands about smells, space, noise etc... Make him move out: he's probably going to need roommates and the experience of roommates who don't love you and don't feel they owe you obedience to the point of absurdity will devour him alive.
Lila Allen 1 month ago
She needs to sit him down and be blunt. Tell him " no you are not fine. You are socially limited, rigid, and closed off so that people cannot deal with you. This limits the jobs you have and the things you can do. I don't want a limited life for our kids. You refuse to address your issues, get help for your issues, or manage your issues. You make your needs the focus and push what the kids and I need away to make yourself happy. You aren't supposed to only care about you. You are a parent now and need to care more about your kids. This is unacceptable. Either you get help and we work together to resolve this or the kids and I move on without you because you've decided to be entirely focused on your needs and refuse to compromise or do anything to address your problems."
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 1 month ago (edited)
Husband sounds like a pathetic, raging dickwad. Fill the house with tuna stank and leave his 'smelly' a*s
A S Mora 1 month ago
ND or not that man is a selfish effing prîck who will always prioritize his wants and comfort over everyone else else's and expects exact compliance. It's not just the dining room: the dining room is just Exhibit A. Those kids want their tablets because they're trying to disassociate from daddy's numerous other demands about smells, space, noise etc... Make him move out: he's probably going to need roommates and the experience of roommates who don't love you and don't feel they owe you obedience to the point of absurdity will devour him alive.
Lila Allen 1 month ago
She needs to sit him down and be blunt. Tell him " no you are not fine. You are socially limited, rigid, and closed off so that people cannot deal with you. This limits the jobs you have and the things you can do. I don't want a limited life for our kids. You refuse to address your issues, get help for your issues, or manage your issues. You make your needs the focus and push what the kids and I need away to make yourself happy. You aren't supposed to only care about you. You are a parent now and need to care more about your kids. This is unacceptable. Either you get help and we work together to resolve this or the kids and I move on without you because you've decided to be entirely focused on your needs and refuse to compromise or do anything to address your problems."
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