At this point, is there such a thing as a perfectly executed wedding? Sure, there’s the perfect wedding within the minds and aspirations of brides (and some grooms). But once the plan is put into motion, does it turn out perfect?
The answer is no (or it depends, but it’s ultimately still a no). Nothing’s perfect. And judging by the stories circulating online, it’s probably not gonna get any better any time soon.
You can see for yourself by reading on, but Reddit’s r/weddingshaming community has ample reason to believe that weddings just don’t come in the perfect variety. And that’s fine. The key here is to brace for impact and make the best of it because you can still have a blast. Also, humor helps.
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A Guest Filled 7 Tupperware Containers With Food From The Wedding Reception And Gave The Couple 5 USD As A Gift
Oh MAN I would have been SO PISSED no one stopped her. I would have had her charged with theft. Greedy a*****e
4 Weddings And A Cat Party
The more I read this, the larger the group of cats becomes in my mind 😅
Seen On Socials… I Can’t Believe How Entitled People Can Be! Sorry If Already Posted
For a little bit of context, r/weddingshaming is a dedicated subreddit that’s all about shaming wedding themes, brides and grooms, wedding parties, in-laws (and outlaws), guests, vendors, and everyone in-between.
The community is home to over 584,000 members who feel no shame in shaming that which is shame-worthy. It’s important to note that this sub isn’t for asking for advice or judgment calls, so be warned.
Kid Wants To Dress Up As A Lion To Their Wedding. Also Told To Change Their Centrepieces As Kid Doesn’t Like Balloons. Kid Is Op’s Mother’s Best Friend’s Child
It's not selfish to ask that people simply dress smart for an hour or so to attend a special moment of your life. This isn't a crazy or abnormal request.
But to save herself the stress, just have a word with the photographer to keep the kid out of the ceremony pics. Mother's best friend's child is not going to be in the formal photos and any informal ones are easy enough to keep her out of surely, with a talented photographer. Who even looks at wedding guests during a ceremony?
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The child should not be showing up at a wedding in a costume. Period. Not even at the reception, and the parents should be informed of this. If it rubs them the wrong way, tough; they can stay home with their "spoilt" cub.
Tell the parents if they can't bring their child well behaved and appropriately dressed, then they can't bring their child. Tell them you understand if they can't get childcare and one or both of them can't make it. Spoilt kids whose parents won't control their behaviour don't belong at formal events.
I’d start rethinking that friendship if I were her. It is absolutely your day to be selfish, as long as we’re talking reasonable requests. Having a smart dress code is absolutely reasonable.
*OUR day, not MY day. It should be just as much about your husband as it is about you. But that aside, it's totally reasonable to ask your guest to either dress their kid in normal clothes, or leave their kid with a babysitter. I personally love the idea of having the kids dress up as animals, it seems like a good way to make a long day more fun for kids, and makes for fun pictures, but that's just a matter of personal taste. It's totally legit to not want kids in animal costumes during your ceremony or on your pictures. If the bride and groom don't like it, they have every right to say no, and the guest should act reasonable and comply.
If the parents try to pressure OP into allowing it, OP should just uninvited them. Sorry, not sorry.
Kids need to learn the world does not revolve around them, and it seems some parents need to learn the world does not revolve around their kids.
I've just turned to my partner and asked if we can invite kids to dress up.
Yea, this isn't an abnormal request at all, I'm on the brides side here.
Certainly the guest can be a parent for one day and get her kid to wear proper clothing. That kid will be better off in the long run if this nonsense isn’t stopped now.
Your day, you set the rules, if people don't like it, they don't need to come. simples.
I wouldn't mind at all a kid in a lion costume in wedding photos. I'd find it entertaining. Kids are funny. Maybe I'm missing something as everyone else is fuming for the OP. I don't think I'd even care if they turned up on the day like that without warning. I guess 'respect' is in the eye of the beholder.
Yeah but that's you. Can you see how not everyone would feel the same way? Sure some people don't care what others wear to their weddings, but this is just as bad as a non-bride wearing a white dress. The focus should be on the bride and groom. Not some random kid in a costume.
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No, put some sense into the adults responsible for that child. She's a kid, she doesn't know what's appropriate. The adults should tell her and guide her.
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What a horrible, jealous friend. Tried to destroy your wedding and entire relationship in one go and something bad could have happened to you
Inviting 20 Extra People To A Wedding
Much of the subreddit’s content revolves around a number of main topics that can mostly be categorized under entitlement and family drama. Most days, it’s people disregarding certain dress code taboos, guests getting out of line, or mothers-in-law doing their thing. Other themes include alcohol, cringe, greed, and, of course, memes and satire.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Selfish Guests To A Bride With Cancer
"I decline. I would do so respectfully, but as you've made it clear your airfare is more of a priority than my having cancer, I do so gleefully instead. I hope you stub your toe in perpetuity."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
So, why are weddings so difficult to pull off? Same reason why there’s a law of sorts in engineering that dictates the more moving parts you have in a machine, the more likely it is to break. Sure, weddings can range from simple to over-elaborate depending on the imagination of the newlyweds-to-be. But even the basics require a lot of time, energy, and, you guessed it, money.
Wow.. Just Wow
"I Just Thought Your Wedding Was The Perfect Place For My Child's Birthday Party"
You haven't seen them because they are the family members that mean absolutely nothing...2nd andv3rd cousins you see sometimes at random gatherings and barely know by name. The audacity is insane
Motb In White! It Literally Looks Like A Double Wedding To Me
Weddings are so problematic that there’s this thing called wedding stress. Just think about it: creating guest lists, finding venues, sending invites, coordinating with vendors, managing budgets, creating your looks, organizing a wedding party, deciding on seating, planning a honeymoon and a million billion other things—can it be anything other than stressful at this point?
Idk How I Would Even Respond To This
"men and girls" Ugh, personal pet peeve is calling women girls. Blech.
What Was The Tought Process Behind This
From Casual UK, An Interesting End To The Night!
Wedding stress involves a number of symptoms, everything from exhaustion to high blood pressure to irritability and depression. But they are all there to tell you to plan, stay organized, set boundaries, anticipate stressors, and, above all else, practice self-care and positivity. At the end of the (wedding) day, it’s a celebration, and you, of all people, should have fun.
Bride Trusts The Wrong Friend And Is Robbed Of Her Wedding
If it's the same med I took for nausea during chemo, I'd say that the so-called friend had an ulterior motive.
Quirky “Girl Best Friend” Ruins Wedding
Lady In The Fur Stole Is The Brides Mum. She Could Have Worn Literally Any Other Colour
Apparently a lot of mothers with sons suffer from a Jocasta complex. These women need therapy.
So, what does the average wedding look like these days? According to the National Wedding Survey that surveyed nearly 2,500 individuals in the UK in 2022, it’s a number of things.
Turns out, today’s average wedding is a $22,382 (£18,400) hit in the wallet. Consider that half(ish), i.e. 47%, of all couples decided to go over their budget, and 63% of them got financial aid from friends, family, and other funders.
Wasn’t Invited But You Meant To Invite Me So I’ll Be There Anyway For Sure
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
A Guest Shows Up Drunk (Maybe More) And Grinds On The Groom, Motorboats The Bride
The average wedding is between millennials aged 25 through 34, who likely got engaged in December, and were set to get married in August or September. 26% of them met on online dating apps and 3 in 5 of them bragged about their engagement on social media. A lot of these couples prompted for a first date (86%) and a cake cutting ceremony (79%), but very little went with an alcohol-free wedding (11%).
No, No That's Not The Bride
That Woman On The Left Is Not The Bride
Bride Asks Mil Not To Wear A White Dress, Mil Does Anyways
Their wedding includes 81 guests, 10 vendors, and a honeymoon. Speaking of which, half of them will most definitely be on the beach with a 23% chance of spending more during the honeymoon than previous generations of newlyweds.
Lastly, 1 in 10 couples never lived together before marriage, 1 in 3 were saving for their wedding (as well as house), the same number also had children before marriage, and 1 in 5 went with an eco-friendly wedding option.
“Close Friend” Of The Bride Came Dressed Like This
"Thank You Sooooo Much For Sharing Your Special Day With Us"
Friends Wedding Photos That Will Never See The Light Of Day. She Asked Everyone Not To Wear Cream, White, Or Black. Sadly She Forgot To Mention You Also Couldn’t Wear A Wedding Dress. Sil Showed Up In A ‘Yellow’ Dress….with A Train!! Bride Is On The Left In The Bottom Photo
That is definitely not yellow. It looks more like a 10 year old not taken care of white dress.
For context, the average wedding in the US is pricier by about 20% (i.e. $28,000). Besides that, cakes aren’t a huge priority (sub-$100 in a 3rd of all cases), and wedding trends are a bit different. The most popular one (91%) was the first dance, followed by 79% of couples color-coordinating floral arrangements and wedding colors. Another popular tradition was the flower girl and ring bearer, with nearly 2/3 of couples prompting for it.
Mil In A Lovely “Taupe” Dress (She’d Be Leaving My Wedding In A Hearse)
I Look Good In White, And That’s What Matters At Someone Else’s Wedding
Girl I Rarely Speak To Anymore Asks If She's Invited To Our Wedding. After Telling Her That She Isn't She Tells Me I Should Rethink Marrying My Fiancé
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Wedding Guests, Please Don't Do This. It's Not Funny, And Putting "Just Kidding" Doesn't Make It Better
Step-Mother Of The Groom
Does she want to marry her step-son or something? I'm 75% confident this is some sort of kink... EDIT: It's a kink. Don't ask me how I found out.
My Sister Is Getting Married.. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
I Just Think The Whole “Marriage Is A Trap” Thing Is Tacky And Not Funny
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A little red wine and a clumsy friend ensures all the MILs and moms in white get their just reward. And you get pictures to use as a reminder.
When everyone knows it is taboo to wear white, why do so many people still do it? I don't understand.
Yes.. usually the bride not the guests lol. Glad there are at least 40 exceptions
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At our wedding, we had a coloured theme, pinks, purples and lilacs. My wife wanted the bridesmaids to wear lilac dresses. Nothing more than that, didn't have to match. Her sister in law then went off on one saying we should change the dresses to pink as her daughter wants to wear a pink dress. My wife explained very simply that bridesmaids' dresses are lilac and if SIL's daughter wants to wear a pink dress she is more them welcome to but she will not be a bridesmaid. She wore lilac. Same woman also told us she knew 10 people that wanted to come to the wedding and was it OK to bring them. It was not.
Apparently it’s just me, but I honestly wouldn’t care if others wore a white dress to my wedding. Everyone knows who the bride is, and to me, a wedding is a celebration of love, not the color of someone’s dress. Wear your wedding dress to my wedding, and we’ll do a conga line of brides, past & present 🥳
I wore white to my cousins wedding. I was 13 or 14 and no one told me I shouldn't. I cringe now to think about it, why didn't my mom or older sister tell me to change!!
You were young, and I should h o p e they wouldn’t confuse you with the bride!
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You're allowed to have that opinion. I don't know why you're downvoted. Some of us just come here to be entertained. Fake posts or not.
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Beyond the "red wine" option, you can get your photographer to photoshop a colour onto the offenders' dress.
All the women showing up in white give me an idea for a Hallmark Channel Movies & John Kramer Saw crossover event.
Gosh what is it with people wearing white when its not their day? Like i personally wouldn´t care much if it was my wedding, but they know they shouldn´t do that sh*t. Even if i don´t see the point of gate keeping white, i know not to wear it at someone else ´ s wedding.
I'm female, married, and I truly, truly, have never understood the whole "only the bride can wear white on the big day!" thing. The bride's the one with the veil and the bouquet, and it's a pretty safe bet hers is the only dress with a train, and it'll be more ornate than anything any of the other female guests will be wearing, so who cares if anyone else wants to wear white? There were only a couple of the above pics where I cringed because it actually *did* look like mother/stepmother was trying to upstage the bride, but the vast majority of the "gasp! someone else wore white! how dare they!" pics didn't even remotely resemble what the bride was wearing, so why does the mere color of the dress matter?!
These MILs wearing white, is it bc they lament not having a big wedding when they wed, or are they just a******s?
I'd be more than happy to lend my Photoshop coloring skills to many of these photos. I could easily turn that MIL's white dress into a shade of mauve or puce.
you could make quite the side hustle like this, and it sounds fun
Load More Replies... A little red wine and a clumsy friend ensures all the MILs and moms in white get their just reward. And you get pictures to use as a reminder.
When everyone knows it is taboo to wear white, why do so many people still do it? I don't understand.
Yes.. usually the bride not the guests lol. Glad there are at least 40 exceptions
Load More Replies... At our wedding, we had a coloured theme, pinks, purples and lilacs. My wife wanted the bridesmaids to wear lilac dresses. Nothing more than that, didn't have to match. Her sister in law then went off on one saying we should change the dresses to pink as her daughter wants to wear a pink dress. My wife explained very simply that bridesmaids' dresses are lilac and if SIL's daughter wants to wear a pink dress she is more them welcome to but she will not be a bridesmaid. She wore lilac. Same woman also told us she knew 10 people that wanted to come to the wedding and was it OK to bring them. It was not.
Apparently it’s just me, but I honestly wouldn’t care if others wore a white dress to my wedding. Everyone knows who the bride is, and to me, a wedding is a celebration of love, not the color of someone’s dress. Wear your wedding dress to my wedding, and we’ll do a conga line of brides, past & present 🥳
I wore white to my cousins wedding. I was 13 or 14 and no one told me I shouldn't. I cringe now to think about it, why didn't my mom or older sister tell me to change!!
You were young, and I should h o p e they wouldn’t confuse you with the bride!
Load More Replies... You're allowed to have that opinion. I don't know why you're downvoted. Some of us just come here to be entertained. Fake posts or not.
Load More Replies... Beyond the "red wine" option, you can get your photographer to photoshop a colour onto the offenders' dress.
All the women showing up in white give me an idea for a Hallmark Channel Movies & John Kramer Saw crossover event.
Gosh what is it with people wearing white when its not their day? Like i personally wouldn´t care much if it was my wedding, but they know they shouldn´t do that sh*t. Even if i don´t see the point of gate keeping white, i know not to wear it at someone else ´ s wedding.
I'm female, married, and I truly, truly, have never understood the whole "only the bride can wear white on the big day!" thing. The bride's the one with the veil and the bouquet, and it's a pretty safe bet hers is the only dress with a train, and it'll be more ornate than anything any of the other female guests will be wearing, so who cares if anyone else wants to wear white? There were only a couple of the above pics where I cringed because it actually *did* look like mother/stepmother was trying to upstage the bride, but the vast majority of the "gasp! someone else wore white! how dare they!" pics didn't even remotely resemble what the bride was wearing, so why does the mere color of the dress matter?!
These MILs wearing white, is it bc they lament not having a big wedding when they wed, or are they just a******s?
I'd be more than happy to lend my Photoshop coloring skills to many of these photos. I could easily turn that MIL's white dress into a shade of mauve or puce.
you could make quite the side hustle like this, and it sounds fun
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