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When you are at home or just do your everyday life routine what is something that just gets in the way and makes you sigh?
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#1
The ridiculous lack of pockets in women's clothes.
Final score:
66points
gay insomniac assassin panda 3 years ago
they have the cloth on it, but NOOOOO they just HAVE to sew it WRONG! AKKKKK, UGGGGG, OWHOHFOSDJNPFAFKEHroiAPhfLKHPDHRHREPHWELS:FHPSDFEWNLSHDFDHSIOOAEFHEWOIHFHLDHFLS *proceeds to die of asphyxiation*
Nitro Codes 3 years ago
Woah, buddy, calm down! Don't die of asphyxiation, kill the first people who put fake pockets in women's clothes with it!
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GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I think all clothing should have pockets, and decent size pockets at that. Unless they're body con style, there is no reason most dresses or skirts can't have at least a small pocket or two without ruining the line of the garment (unless you're intending to stuff everything you own in there). I think we need to normalize the way they did it in the old days... just tie on however many pockets you need. https://arielleacosta.com/historical-dress-18th-century-tie-on-pocket/
Geeki Nikki 3 years ago (edited)
I was just talking about this with my co workers. Pants, skirts, and dresses all need pockets. All the time!
Return of Saturn 3 years ago
Yes! I have a dress with 2 fake decorative heart-shaped pockets, and 2 actual pockets that I can are as big as my male friend's pockets! It doesn't make the dress any less cute so why can't they give us real pockets and if they must, fake pockets along with it for show?
Leanne Hildebrand 3 years ago
I made a pocket pattern that works on great on skirts and dresses - pants not so much. But I add pockets to almost every article of clothing I buy. No idea why they don't come with pockets - men's do.
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Fake pockets! The designer goes to the trouble of making pants look like they have pockets, but nope! It's only there to look nice and not to actually function! There are some decent youtube tutorials on how to add pockets/ extend pockets. Since the stitching doesn't show on the outside, you don't even have to be a good sewer!
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Technically you can 'fix' it by sewing some yourself, but the reason you buy clothes is so you don't have to do the work yourself.
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#2
Depression. Nuff said.
Final score:
55points
Colin L 3 years ago
I've had to explain to important people in my life that, no, I can't just "look on the bright side." I will continue to need antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds. I could no more "try harder" to throw off these than a diabetic could try harder to produce insulin. Depression lies.
TOTALLY not a lizard..or am i? (Submission author) 3 years ago
yea unfortunely im not on my meds rn ( im a minor and my moms in charge of them) so im really not doin to great lol.
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Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
More and more evidence is pointing to real biological differences in people with chronic depression. It's probably not "all in your head" (if I if that's better or worse tho)
TOTALLY not a lizard..or am i? (Submission author) 3 years ago
I know, literally every woman in my family has either depression, anxiety, or adhd...or in my case...all three lol
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Cindy Irvin 3 years ago
You can always "just get over it." At least that's what people tell me...gggrrr.
#3
Once I set a boundary, stop poking it. I get tired of having to remind the same people over and over what the boundaries are.
Final score:
53points
#4
Facebook.... I don't have it and I get annoyed at people telling me I am missing out on something. What? Drama? I have a 16 year old daughter. That is enough for me thank you very much.
Final score:
49points
Geeki Nikki 3 years ago
Yeah I ditched the book like 10 years ago. Just toxic, can make you feel awful about yourself, and if I have to see one more motivational quote I might get stabby!
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Facebook seems to have devolved into a place for conservatives to share conspiracyies and complain about the 'woke' and 'cancel culture ' and the supposedly stolen election. No thank you!
Miranda Waters 3 years ago
The difference between lib and conservative “conspiracy theories”? Libs spend years (and taxpayer $$) trying to prove a lie (Trump/Russia collusion {Mueller investigation}) and it turns out it’s the conspiracy Conservatives said it was all along. And Conservatives sit back and wait a couple years for for their so-called conspiracy theories to be proven true (Durham investigation). Libs should prob just stop trying to hide their dirty laundry. It always comes out in the wash. Repeating your lies over and over doesn’t make the true. 🤦🏼♀️
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I had a FB account for about a month back when it was the new big thing. It didn't take me long to realize it was just a toxic marketing platform, and since I valued my privacy I closed my account. FB made that as difficult as possible, and I still have friends who insist that I don't know what I'm missing. Even after all these data breeches, they still think FB is the best. Half the population doesn't use it, and I keep hoping more people will see the light.
kayla Mckee (Submission author) 3 years ago
I get it. Send me a damn email or a text. I don't need that crap just so people can "keep in touch".
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Nuku Nyara 3 years ago
I feel the same way. I will admit that I follow a couple of friends and family on IG but after my hubs created a Facebook and had to delete his account for Facebook marketplace; after 3 days of toxicity from family and friends he said "Nope"
kayla Mckee (Submission author) 3 years ago
Bored panda is literally the closest I get to social media. I don't have ANY platforms and it honestly irritates the hell out of me when I buy a new phone and have to delete social media apps as soon as I set it up.
Load More Replies... Trond Øien 3 years ago
Hear, hear! The missing out part may the the other way around too imho.
kayla Mckee (Submission author) 3 years ago
I think people glued to social media are missing out on life in general. Seriously. Play fetch with the dog or a card game with someone. Take a walk, plant a garden, go swimming, fishing, camping, hunting, or just have a face to face conversation with someone you love.
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Brodie Bruce 3 years ago
Wait, in 2022 people are telling you you're missing out on Facebook? Was this posted in 2008 or by a 70 year old? Anyone with a functional brain knows NOT to use Facebook.
kayla Mckee (Submission author) 3 years ago
Nope. 2022 and people are always like "you don't have Facebook?!? What?!?" Being on bored panda is the closest I get to any social media. If they don't have my personal number it is for a reason and I don't care. My age is 34.
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Actually a better one would be my ichthyosis vulgaris. I'll be able to move one day, but I'll never have normal skin. I'm tired of scrubbing. Bath times are chore. My feet are always cracked and the skin gets so built up I need a blade. I can't stand most warm fabrics that are common in this cold climate. Fleece, wool, flannel no way. It catches on my skin, it's intolerably itchy. My hands tend to crack. Allergic reactions pop up over random chemicals but I'm okay with some. I can hand acetone but not certain hand sanitizers. I break out in hives. It's been hell since 2020. I used to get painful, blistering heat rashes (but I think it was the latex gloves when I would wash dishes. I can't use latex.) I got made fun of for having flakey skin and very wrinkled hands ( a common feature of ichthyosis vulgaris and it's known as hyperlinear lines). They used to get super dry and flake all in the lines. I can't swim in chlorinated pools for too long (but I love the water so I endure it). Sand at the beach does NOT help with exfoliation. In fact, it makes my whole body flake. When I was younger, up until my adulthood, I couldn't sweat as easily so I would overheat a lot. I thought it was normal for kids not to sweat. As an adult when I sweat I get super itchy, and then I peel when I scratch. The sun feels like tiny pins shooting into my skin on hot days. People think it's gross and don't want to touch me. I'm suspecting this is why it's hard for me to find a job, too.
Final score:
47points
Emma Starr 3 years ago
Oh wow, that is so much to deal with:( I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of it.
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
My husband has had similar problems with his psoriasis, especially the part about fabrics catching on his skin. I had 4 sets of satin sheets and pillowcases in different colours when we got together. I'll still use one of the pillowcases for my pillow sometimes. And people pointedly staring and getting grossed out, especially adults. 😡 Frustrating. He has a good sense of humour about it though; in public, it's not unusual for a child to ask 'what happened?' His answer: that's where a zombie bit me! 😂🤣 Also helps the kids parent cuz they get embarrassed when their kid asks. (Then he tells the parent it's not communicable, if they look worried.)
Nuku Nyara 3 years ago
I'm sorry you have to deal with that, it makes my perioral dermititis seem easy in comparison 😢
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
Any skin condition is difficult to live with, but this one sounds particularly troubling. I am sorry you have to deal with it. I am hoping there are researchers working on causes and cures right now, and that they'll at least be able to relieve symptoms soon. I had an extremely high temperature for a long time, and from that I developed a type of psoriasis, which was temporary. At the time, the best medication they had was a sort of black tar goo that I had to spread all over myself at bedtime... it stained everything it touched and smelled like an oil change. Now I only get occasional small patches when I get sick, and the medications are soooo much better. I hope they make some advancements soon for you.
LagoonaBlueColleen (Submission author) 3 years ago
Ichthyosis is usually genetic. There's no cure, per se. But it's always being researched. It has to do with how the skin is programmed to shed and regenerate. There's different types of ichthyosis. Mines quite mild compared to some and not fatal as harlequin. Don't look up harlequin unless you have a stomach of steel. I just use foot files in a bath and slather on a good lotion I've found that works for me with in my budget. I've been trying iron supplements. I used to know someone with psoriasis. I'm not sure what he was doing to help it. I recall him taking a lot of echinacea but that could be to prevent colds. Glad the other medications are working out for you.
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voice of reason 3 years ago
Are there any studies (there usually are) you can enroll in. Just doing something is better on the mind than stagnating. So sorry for your suffering. Ex had psoriasis, now 15 yrs there are treatments. Hang on
#6
Although I'm female, I've generally held male dominated jobs like doing security work, warehouse work, building sites etc. I f*****g HATE that this is such a novelty for so many people - men especially. I've been told I'm considered attractive too, which actually tends to make it worse. For a while, I was working for a company as a plasterer and the boss decided to take me around to three different sites. Not to get me oriented, meet the team or survey the work I'd be doing - oh no. He walked me round to see every single one of his boys just to declare that he had (God forbid) a female plasterer working for him and that come next inspection, the equality and diversity people could suck it. He also invited them all to ask me questions about myself and declared that 'such a pretty one' shouldn't be doing such dirty work. Then he bombarded me with questions about my training up until that point. Because I was a self-taught plasterer, he spoke to me as if I'd unlocked the secret to eternal life. I learned on my own volition? A woman? Good God, what is this madness?! Never been so mortified in my life. Worked for them for four months before the guy started avoiding paying me and I got the Hell outta there. Like dude, I just want to do my job, go home and get paid like everyone else - wtf?
Final score:
41points
AW 3 years ago
Why did you feel mortified, you haven't done anything wrong? If anyone disrespects you, the best you can do is distancing yourself from them asap. Hope you found a better work place.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope (Submission author) 3 years ago
It was just so embarrassing - I felt like a prize pig. Thankfully I'm much happier where I am now.
Load More Replies... Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Blows my mind just how sexist some men still are. It's the 21st century, for crying out loud!
LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago (edited)
Geez. I'm surprised you didn't walk off right when you realized you were just hired for diversity. These equality and diversity standards are supposed to mean well but they just worsen things for those who are trying to be taken seriously and just want to do their craft. Did you report them when you left?
The_Nicest_Misanthrope (Submission author) 3 years ago
If I hadn't been in serious debt I would've but I had to suck it up til I could find something better. I wouldn't have much luck reporting him anyway as I was self employed at the time and was being paid cash in hand. :/
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Phil Green 3 years ago
I worked in a male-dominated world for most of my adult life, and still do. The best bosses I ever had? Women. They had a better grasp of how best to manage. They didn't come out with asinine ideas. They set achievable goals and were just better to work with. I pointed out to one of them when she was confiding in me why it was that certain men wouldn't chat her up or try it on with her; she was a strong, woman working with some difficult people in a male-dominated profession, to be able to do that successfully she had to be assertive and strong. To be successful she had to work twice as hard to be seen as half as good as a guy. It used to annoy the s*** out of me. Things have changed, to a degree, but nowhere near enough.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope (Submission author) 3 years ago
She sounds like an amazing boss!
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I didn't know this was still a problem. When I was 17 I was working in what was an entirely male field at the time, and people were surprised... and got over it. (And they were as surprised by my age as by my gender). When I was growing up, women could be teachers, nurses, secretaries, sales clerks, waitresses or lunch ladies, and that was about it. By the time I was a teen, women had made huge inroads, but it was still thought to be odd when women were doctors, construction workers, etc. I don't know anyone at all who still thinks of any job as being tied to gender anymore, especially younger people, but I know there are a few dinosaurs who still only hire to fill quotas.
Phyzzi 3 years ago
It's unfortunately not just dinosaurs. Don't get me wrong, things are much better than they were, but such deep roots don't come out so easily.
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Joy 3 years ago
I hear you. Similar to male nurses - I'm neither but I'm involved in healthcare - and a new-to-the-team male nurse is STILL paraded around as if he's an exotic extraterrestrial. The ones I know take it in their stride and are very good-humoured about it but it shows that the more things change, the more they stay the same.
#7
Anxiety. It gets to the point where I am unable to function and sometimes if it continues complete disassociation from reality, where I dont comprehend what is happening. It feels as if O were floating on the outside of my body barely in control of it
Final score:
39points
Geeki Nikki 3 years ago (edited)
I have crazy anxiety issues. I can breakout into hives. My arms and hands can go numb. I'll have heart palpitations. I do my best to just get out of my head and breath but it can be hard. Just have to keep trying and not be ashamed of it. We will all be ok!
IrrelevantNonsense 3 years ago
What I do when I have anxiety is tap my finger or thumb on my hand or a surface. Focus on the tap. It’s the only thing there. Tap. Tap. Tap. It takes away the anxiety (not completely or super fast, because nothing will) but if you focus hard enough it takes your mind off it. Hope I can help.
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Is Be 3 years ago
After deciding I had enough of fighting my severe anxieties decided to finally consult a doctor. Meds he gave me did not work and super expensive. Changed doctors and now take a cheap generic that really works. I can finally function normally, it is life changing.
voice of reason 3 years ago
My vision starts going dark, I shake, can barely talk or walk. I make myself breathe but it's an effort. Absolutely unexplainable to others which makes me feel like a freak. "Why didn't you come to the movies, pretty stress free place?" Cuz I couldn't get up from bed.
Cindy Irvin 3 years ago
I feel for you so much. I've been on meds since 2007 for Panic Disorder. Without it, I have multiple panic attacks a day. The meds don't stop it completely, but I'm a functioning human being. Vitamin D and magnesium help as well. I just wish a day would come where my anxiety was gone completely...where my teeth don't chatter and my insides don't shake.
Toy Slaughter 3 years ago
I'm usually against medication (for myself not others) but Lexapro has helped me immensely with the effects of having terrible anxiety. As has inderal for those heart palpitations that feel like you're gonna die
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Having anxiety is awful, it really does distort reality. It tells your brain things that are just not true, but when it has a hold of you it is so hard to see it from the outside to realise the lie. I am just starting to get better through therapy (I finally found a great psychologist) and I can't believe how far from truth my thinking patterns have been.
#8
Bullies at school
Final score:
36points
Joy 3 years ago
Yup - and I will say this because I'm as soft as a marshmallow and I don't like confrontation - but stand up to them. Trust me on this. We know that most bullies are cowards or have grown up in hostile environments - what's less known is they KNOW they're bullies and don't want to be exposed especially to people in senior or influential positions. If face-to-face is too tricky (perfectly understandable if it is) write to them explaining calmly and succinctly why their behaviour/actions are unprofessional and unsustainable. Blind copy in a trusted member of staff and watch what happens 🤫 Far from the bullying increasing, it will stop. I tried the same method and now the bully hasn't just changed their behaviour with me, they've changed it with the entire group. I wish you luck.
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I really wish there was a way to fix this. As a teacher it can be hard to know what to do because a) there is so much that goes on we don't see, especially online, b) punishing bullies can make it worse and many people don't speak up because of this. I mainly worked in primary (elementary) schools and preschools and I had to hope that we did enough wellbeing and social skills stuff to prevent the situation arising in the first place. I wish I could just make it stop, because no one deserves to be bullied.
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
At my daughter's second middle school they had a zero tolerance for revenge rule that they strictly adhered to. More victims/kids felt like they could come forward and after the first few bullies were disciplined at the beginning of every year for trying to 'get even with tattle tailers' (in school suspension for, I think, 3 days for 1st offense AND parent gets called in), the bullying really leveled off for the rest of the year. Part of why it was her 2nd middle school was because of bullies at her 1st middle school.
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The price of things we pay for these days and the 1% keep raking in the money.
Final score:
33points
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Remember back in 2016 when Bernie kept saying that the 400 richest Americans have half of the country's wealth? That was 6 years ago and It's only gotten more lopsided. And it will continue to get more and more lopsided because nothing is being accomplished to prevent it.
voice of reason 3 years ago
Coronavirus made them much richer. Trillions! Either killed us, our jobs, our childcare,our homes and gave them trillions. Makes me sick. I pay $700/month rent out of $1100/month SS. Not really living, sold car cuz couldn't afford.
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
It really is ridiculous, and the conservatives think it's absolutely okay to concentrate all the nation's wealth in a tiny pool of individuals... and heaven forbid we tax them!
#10
Toxic Dysfunctional Family Members. I can not fix them, it is not my obligation to fix them. So, I put myself into Family Witness Protection Program. I moved where they can not find me.
Final score:
29points
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
I left the country for over 11 years, and no one knew where I was. I came back, and I am back in Hell, unable to leave.
Danniee Gyrl (Submission author) 3 years ago
I am so sorry that you are back in hell. Are you able to limit your time around them. If you have to be around them. Set your timer for 30 minutes and leave. Limit all conversation. Look up Grey Rock Technique. Protect your mental health. Protect your emotional health. Protect your self at all cost. Put your phone on DND at a certain time. Do not answer your phone if you know the people on the other end will cause you unnecessary chaos, confusion, and drama. I hope all of this helps you. Sending you good thoughts and vibes
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Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
I hear you! I’ve become invisible, backed away slowly and kept very quiet. Also, lots of people run away at the word “cancer” so that worked to my advantage!
Danniee Gyrl (Submission author) 3 years ago
I hope that you beat your cancer! Yeah, it seems like everything that went wrong, that was wrong, that goes wrong was my fault...even when I did not live in the same area or state. So, when my mother passed, I cut all cut contact with her family.
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Wise beauty 3 years ago
I didn’t know you could do this! Is it possible to do it with one side of the family that’s hella toxic but the other side still be in contact with? My moms side of the family is full of saints while my dads is homophobic, racist, sexist, etc. my moms side of the family doesn’t want anything to do with them.
Danniee Gyrl (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yes, this is very possible. Just let people know you do not want what ever side knowing anything about your life at all. My Dad's side (I love this side dearly) does not really communicate with my Mom's side so I do not have this issue at all....
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Alice Landers 3 years ago
Don't feel bad I tried to 'reconnect' to family 10 - 15 years later .You can't fix them they are broken and never will be any different I'm proud that you were able to leave that "toxic" situation You should be proud of yourself
LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago
There's a few family, actually an entire side of my family, I either never contact or limit it to a couple times a year and keep the conversation short and light.
#11
The horrible grammar and spelling on so many posts makes me think many people never went to school.
Final score:
27points
RandomFrog 3 years ago
I misspell a lot when typing on mobile like phones or iPads, but that’s just cuz I’m more accustomed to keyboards and I type really fast on mobile and sometimes miss keys
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Elvira Dirge 3 years ago
There may be people for whom English isn't their first language. I've stopped criticizing because you just never know.
Mike Dragneff (Submission author) 3 years ago
People who post in English as a second language are very commendable individuals. I tend to take posts that have grievous grammar and spelling errors far less serious than those that are written proficiently. Those who are endeavoring to become proficient may never achieve that level if their errors are simply ignored.
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Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
I look back at a lot of my comments and find that autocorrect replaced a perfectly normal word with something else. I fully spelled out a common word and it swapped it. Then there's the problem of it learning words that I started to type, tried to hit the autocorrect suggestion and missed. Guess what? My phone remembers that forever now. 😭
RandomFrog 3 years ago
Omg I get that!! One time I put “thst” and now whenever I type “that” it autocorrects and I have to go back and fix it
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GoddessOdd 3 years ago
LOL! I thought I was the only one who reacted strongly to bad spelling and grammar. I also despair every time I read a "today I learned" post on BP. The complete lack of curiosity troubles me... "today I learned 'breakfast' is called that because you break your fast". Really? You never thought of that before? I think the biggest gift we can give kids is the gift of curiosity... why is it called that? What is that for? How does that work?
Gabby M 3 years ago
Raises my hand; I still have mine. If I run across anything I don't know, I want to know.
Load More Replies... LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago (edited)
Not everyone likes dealing with autocorrect. Trying to remember and feel which key is for what letter is different than just writing out words manually. And people are just busy, distracted human beings who make grammar errors by accident when they're thinking about what they want to say quickly and then post. Not many people are going to take the time to revise every word, punctuation and sentence structure. As long as you understand the context is what matters. Plus, some people have learning disorders or they're not fluent, yet, in the language they're typing in, among other valid reasons. There are, also, kids on these platforms, too. I wonder how many have been turned off of wanting to learn to read and spell because someone told them they're not smart enough for trying.
Mike Dragneff (Submission author) 3 years ago
I disagree. What you have described is simple laziness. Those who don’t care enough to ensure their messages are spelled correctly and utilize proper grammar deserve to have their thoughts taken less seriously than those who do. I know I take poorly spelled and constructed posts with very large grains of salt. The odd error is forgivable as we are all human, but poorly written articles and posts show a lack of thought and effort. Why should anyone bother taking the time read or understand something someone posted who didn’t care enough to do it correctly? Perhaps the same lack of care shown towards grammar and spelling may go into the poster’s main idea or opinion being completely dismissed and forgotten. If it’s important enough to write down or post then maybe it’s important enough to do it right. ;-)
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The way my mind wanders when I have to do chores. I'm a very messy person because of it.
Final score:
25points
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I used to have that problem. For me headphones were the game changer. Bee Gees 'One Night Only' album (I have no idea why!), headphones on/in, Smashed those chores!
Titas Burinskas (Submission author) 3 years ago
I'll try something like that just to see if it works.
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robin woordes 3 years ago
Pretty much everything related to my adhd. Forgetting stuff, doing half work, not being able to focus on my chores, live in a messy room so my distraction is even worse... Etc
Spampampams 3 years ago
Me too. The laundry basket is still sitting on top of the washer because I thought of something that I needed to do before washing clothes. That was 3 days ago. Ask me if I care
#13
my autism and ADHD... I cant focus in school and I cant survive even 15 minutes in a loud space.
Final score:
25points
Wise beauty 3 years ago
Oh man, as a person with ADHD, I already know how rough it is to focus, I can’t imagine how hard it is along with autism. The fact that people think that it’s easy to focus is infuriating to me.
Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
Why was this downvoted? There I evened it out.
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 3 years ago
My sister has both of those and it can get really tough. There just isn't a way to stop it, just finding ways to live with it. She also has auditory processing disorder and fibromyalgia, all of which can build up and cause sensory issues that sometimes hit really unexpectedly. I hope that you are able to find a way to manage your symptoms, maybe take some time out when it gets too loud, and get through school.
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
That's a rough combo of issues your sis has. That's a lot for any one person to have. My heart goes out to her.
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DeathShine 3 years ago
This is my son. It's gotten better with meds but he decided not to take one of them anymore. I won't fight his decision even though it helps him alot. He has learned to cope with some things in his own way and I respect that. It won't get better per say but you'll find something that works for you!
#14
Working towards being content with life after extreme depression and anxiety issues to the point of attempted suicide. I’m getting much better but sometimes it’s just frustrating because it feels like there will always be relapses or really hard weeks/months.
Final score:
25points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I am sending you heartfelt hugs. I believe that it does get better, just often more slowly than we'd like. There will always be tough spots (for all of us) but there are better tools for coping every day. Hang in there!
Hanna Henderson (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thank you, I appreciate it :)
Load More Replies... Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
the anxiety of wondering when the depression will come flooding back. Always when you least expect it.
voice of reason 3 years ago
There are always glitches but YOU MADE IT! Once you crawled thru the glass and survived you Know it'll hurt but you'll make it. Believe me...I KNOW. I'm so proud of you. You're stronger than you know. Remove those who question you from your life. Fill it with positives, books, movies, especially friends. Learn what helps (me..libraries, can't be depressed when surrounded by books, music, good kind). Keep notes of what helps, we forget in our depths. I have faith in you.
#15
Having a mechanical aortic valve at 34... There will never be peace and quiet in my head and body ever again because of the ticking valve. But it is keeping me alive...
Final score:
24points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I am so sorry you have to endure this... I had no idea! Heart issues at any age are difficult, but especially when you are so young. I just developed a condition at 60, and I still feel too young to be debilitated. Hopefully medical science can come to your rescue soon... maybe a porcine valve?
Sanita Pike (Submission author) 3 years ago (edited)
I had my first surgery at the age of 21 when they put a pigs valve in (I was born with a deformed valve), so from 21 to 34 I was living with that one. Then it was discovered that I had an ascending aortic aneurysm, which is considered a deadly condition if it was to rupture, for which I had a graft put in. And while I was "open" they decided (I knew about it before) to put in the mechanical valve in so I don't need a 3rd surgery later in life to switch it, once the pigs valve would have served its purpose and time. So here I am, surviving everything that's being thrown at me by life.
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#16
My social anxiety by way of my lack of self-esteem/self-confidence. I've been told on many occasions that I am attractive and that I have "boyfriend qualities" but anytime I see someone I'm interested in I have a complete inability to ask them out. I just freeze and no words come out.
Final score:
19points
Bob Stuart 3 years ago
Instead, just be interesting, and watch for who seems interested. Women pre-select.
Cindy Irvin 3 years ago
Social anxiety is terrible. I have been very lonely in my life because I can rarely get up the nerve to talk to people.
Is Be 3 years ago
These things take time. Not sure why someone would tell you have boyfriend qualities, looking at your overall qualities seems a more balanced approach. When I met my husband I was so shy I barely talked, I was definitely overthinking it. Looking back I wish I had not let this relationship define me so much. I should have stayed single longer and come into my own first.
Stealthee 3k (Submission author) 3 years ago
The "boyfriend qualities" is just an oversimplification of things told to me. Usually friends, or friend's wives will ask about my never ending singleness and I try to explain my brain gets in the way and I usually get a response of how nice, sweet, funny, etc I am.
Load More Replies... LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago
I wouldn't even know what "boyfriend qualities" mean. I guess they're trying to help boast your confidence but it doesn't work that way.
#17
Itching caused by nerve damage from chemo. It is slowly getting better but had me in tears at times at the start. Never would have believed itching could be so intense or come on so fast.
Final score:
17points
Chich (Submission author) 3 years ago
Mine is at nerve endings in my skin, just have to find something to 'take its mind off' the itching signals :) I was getting relief from Gold bond medicated creme but not as effective now. Might try tiger balm next.
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
Uncontrolled itching is torture! I have friends who have similar nerve damage from chemo, and I don't know which is harder to live with...itching or pain. I am sorry you're going through this. I hope you feel better soon.
LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago
Are you able to choose your treatment? I'm just asking because the last time my mom had cancer for the 2nd time she opted for radiation. She had chemo the 1st time and said it was so terrible she wouldn't get it again.
Chich (Submission author) 3 years ago
Radiation wasn't an option for the type I had. I really shouldn't complain too loudly. Although it has been a few years since treatment ended and the itching and some numbness is still here, life expectancy without chemo with this cancer is a few weeks. It is amazing how far they have come with treatments.
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ljbeanfield 3 years ago
Awww I didn't know that chemotherapy can cause such awful itching... Thanks for sharing!
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I don't have it as bad, but I have allergies and also fibromyalgia, so all of a sudden I will get intense prickling on top of a mole or something and then it gets really itchy. I can sometimes get relief from cocoa butter if it's just from my allergies, but the fibromyalgia causes nerves to send incorrect messages to my brain and I have to just bear it and try and distract myself.
#18
My medical conditions and peoples opinions about them. I have a long list of problems, many of which are chronic - meaning they're never going away or getting better. I already feel bad enough that I can't do the things I want to, telling me if I tried harder to get better then I could do those things - just pisses me off! And just because you can't see my disability, doesn't mean I don't have one! I'd like to see some of them live with the pain I do on a daily basis! Yes, I have medications and pain pills, but they only do so much and I don't want to get addicted. Try learning about my conditions, do some research if you want to understand why I'm like this. But mostly, have compassion and be glad you don't have to go through this
Final score:
17points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
Agreed. I believe every human on earth has their own burdens, and if you don't understand what another is going through, either try to learn, or try to sympathize, but keep your judgements to yourself.
Danniee Gyrl 3 years ago
I understand this so much.... I have just started staring at people until they shut up. You do not have to explain your medical condition to anyone but your Dr's and Nurses. Just stare at them like they are moldy cheese with bugs on it. Yes, just like that.
Judy Reynolds 3 years ago
In the last 10 years, I have accepted that my mental issues are an invisible disability, so I sort of understand what you are saying, but I do not have the pain you suffer, so maybe I am lucky. My heart goes out to you!
Brenda (Submission author) 3 years ago
Mental illness IS a disability! I suffer from depression, which got worse when I got sick. Luckily, one of my fibro medications is an antidepressant so it does double duty. My daughter has a few mental conditions and watching her struggle breaks my heart. Mental pain is just as real as physical pain. HUGS
Load More Replies... LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago
I know what you mean. My daughter has an invisible intellectual disability. You wouldn't tell by talking to her, initially. She's able-bodied enough. But give her instructions or tell her to do something she's never done before and she's lost at what to do correctly. Her whole dad's side of the family is in denial she has this disability despite her very early diagnosis and several assessments, speech therapy and needing to be in a modified program in High School. We've learned some people are so set in their old-school ways you cannot reason with them so no point in bothering to explain it to them anymore. "I don't believe in anything I can't see." seems to be the mind frame of these types of people. Super aggravating.
Marnie 3 years ago
I just watched a horrible documentary on Netflix called "Afflicted" about people with chronic illnesses. Very sensationalized, skewed, and false. I hope the people sueing them win. I also just watched a documentary called Unrest about a people with ME just today. It's quite good. My heart is breaking today not just for those who suffer from chronic illnesses, but to the great injustices that have been done and continue to be done to them across the globe. The only good thing I can say is that I think more and more people are becoming aware that many illnesses are "invisible". I hope the poo-pooing is being reduced. My hypothesis today is that there are many companies funding propaganda against people being diagnosed and treated (like producing "Afflicted") because 1) Health and disability insurance companies lose money if it's recognized, and 2) The over-the-counter self-help industry is booming. Rich people like getting richer. Unfettered capitalism at work. I wish you well!!!!!!!!!!!
#19
My Mother.
Final score:
16points
#20
People with horrible attitudes. Some can change, but others will not. They think they are so entitled to EVERYTHING! (please understand i said some people do change.)
Final score:
16points
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
You often have to pick your battles. Some people won't listen, or aren't ready to listen, so you just have to let them go for your own wellbeing. If there is someone who is unsure or open to listening then it is fantastic when you can get through to them and change their outlook but it is not your responsibility to constantly battle someone who won't change.
*Displayname*=idk (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yeah, I just like helping people, but some people just are not ready.
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#21
Autism. I don't mind being autistic, what I do mind is it's a disability but no one cares. They still expect you to do everything exactly like anyone else. I'm decent at masking, but that's just hiding who I am. You can't really be my friend if I have to hide from you. I have lots of ideas that I love to share. Unfortunately, because I can't easily relate to neurotypicals I'm incapable of selling anything. "Selling" in terms of ideas that is. I try. I study every aspect of relating to others but neurotypicals are full of contradictory behaviors that they don't see. Like playing hard to get. I understand the concept. It feels good to be wanted so much that someone is willing to work to get your affection. But you're rejecting the other person and that feels bad to them. There are a million other examples.
Final score:
15points
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
Although I am not autistic, my nephew is. His mother worker very hard with him to make eye contact when speaking with people he is comfortable with. One day, we were having a conversation, and I looked away for a minute. He called me on it, and I was proud of him. He is developmentally delayed as well, about age 8, although he is 33, and much smarter than a lot of "normal" people. I am so sorry that you can't find someone who "gets" you. I feel blessed to have my guy in my life. He is not related by blood, but closer than most of my family.
Emmett O'Brian (Submission author) 3 years ago
Oh, I'm married for 27 years to a wonderful wife with two great kids. I do have good relationships but there are a lot of people that I have to hold at arms length because the just won't understand. Just remember, with eye contact, it's not a constant contact, it's a rhythm of contact. A lot of asd folks make the mistake of thinking they have to stare the other person down.
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Rens 3 years ago
I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome or whatever the new term is, 10 years ago as an adult. I know it made my life hell as a teenager going through school and never feeling like I fitted in anywhere. I hope it gets easier for you. I've learnt to like and accept who I am, I like the way my mind works and I'm with somebody now who gets me. My daughter is the same as me but she's much better adjusted, not being raised by neurotypicals the way I was. I really wish I had the savant part of my autism, it would be so much more useful than what I do have!
Emmett O'Brian (Submission author) 3 years ago
Nearing 50, and after 2 concerted 2 year project to improve my communication skills (verbal and non) had limited success, I think I'm where I'm going to be. I hope I did better for my kids than was done for me. Time will tell.
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I can understand your frustration. Playing hard to get is something I don't understand myself and I don't have autism. I think you should take someone at their word and be truthful with them but you don't know whether they have the same opinion.
LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago
The more I learn about Autism the more I feel like I relate. I've never been diagnosed, although assessments for anything wasn't on my mom's radar back when I was a kid. Do you find it's harder to have successful job interviews due to being, not only uncomfortable, but unable to look at the interview while you're speaking? Do you find it's hard to catch on to the games employers play to test job seekers? Or if you do, is it immediate or only when it's too late?
Emmett O'Brian (Submission author) 3 years ago
Your questions may have been rhetorical, but just in case they weren't, yes, particularly with having difficulty making eye contact. The other questions are more common with everybody since interviewers wouldn't use them if they were easy to spot. I'd encourage you to stop buy an autism Reddit group or even better, a community like wrong planet. If you walk in and feel like you've suddenly found "your people" you might be on the spectrum.
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Eating. If I could get my nutrition out of a pill I pop that sucker and never slow down. It's to much trouble to cook it, eat it, put up the leftovers and then clean the pots and pans that you couldn't wash while you were cooking. I miss the days when I was only responsible for myself. At least then I could fix a sandwich and eat it over the sink.
Final score:
14points
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I get what you mean about the exhaustion from cooking, cleaning and even the eating itself. I have had days where I was too tired to eat, even though the food was in front of me and my mum didn't understand why. I thankfully do live on my own, so if I don't eat it's not so bad, but I want to have kids soon so I will have to make sure they eat. I have been trying to get into the habit of cooking one-two meals a week and then eating the leftovers/other frozen meals the other days. If you really can't eat but need the nutrition Sustagen drink is pretty good. My sister used to drink it as well as having normal meals once a day because she was underweight and wasn't getting enough nutrients.
Spampampams (Submission author) 3 years ago
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Load More Replies... LagoonaBlueColleen 3 years ago
It is at times. Smoothies are nice as you can pop in veggies, fruit and nuts. Maybe add some almond milk and yogurt. Cleaning a blender is still a pain. Eating involves too much chewing, sometimes. I swear the older you get the less hungry you feel.
Tigerpacingthecage 3 years ago
Having kids took away a lot of the fun in cooking and eating for me (you said you missed the days when you were responsible only for yourself, don't know if kids are the reason or not but...). You have to adjust what you cook, serve it while everyone is everywhere and try to keep that together, maybe have time to eat yourself (depending on kids ages) and clean. Often multiple times a day. Pretty stressful. So, if that's the case it makes total sense wanting to just be over with it!
Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
Have you heard of soylent? Not the green kind made of people. It's a meal replacement that's made to be as close to what you described and still keep you alive.
Spampampams (Submission author) 3 years ago
No I have not, thanks I'll find out about it. I was hoping for a replicator. When 3D printers came out I thought humm maybe my replicator was just around the corner. But I looked and it's still not there. But hey, soylent sounds interesting. Thanks again.
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My ADHD
Final score:
13points
#24
The constant, incessant ringing in my ears.
Final score:
13points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
Tinnatus is a real burden for those who suffer. My sister is just about driven crazy by it. She blames Eric Clapton.
Jette Wang Wahnon 3 years ago
Most people get that at a point in life...tinitus,if I am not mistaken something to do with the crystals in the inner ear not being in the right place...I have it as well,but try to ignore it and don´t get worked up...A doctor will twist your head in various positions and that should help relocate the crystals...a friend of mine does that every so often..
#25
Controversial. Being gay? It’s not a f**king choice and I’m convinced life would be easier if I was just the same as most folks. But you learn to deal with it. Like it or lump it - if you do the latter, you’ll be miserable for your entire life.
Final score:
12points
Joel Hopkins 3 years ago
I think this is probably location dependent. Being gay in Iran or Saudi Arabia, very controversial or possibly even dangerous, in West Hollywood or Wilton Manors, not so much.
AW 3 years ago
People would always find something "wrong" with you, that's how most are unfortunately
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I like to believe it isn't most people, but there are a lot who feel that way.
Load More Replies... Stealthee 3k 3 years ago
Being gay is not controversial, but acting like being gay makes one special or different is stupid.
Jaqi Hegland 3 years ago
I hate to say it, but being gay IS controversial. There are still people that tell gays they need to stop being gay, or people that if they MUST be gay, at least don't go around holding hands and kissing their loved ones in public.
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Putin. I sixteen and live in America. I would put a bullet through his head anyday. My grandparents lived in Ukraine. Yesterday my great grandma turned 100. She stepped in front of a bullet to save her dog. They killed the dog anyways. It was a Husky named Moscow. Russia is destroying itself.
Final score:
12points
PixelShroom (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thank you to everyone who has been so nice in the comments.
#27
Rosacea and (non alcohol related) Cirrhosis. No cure for either of 'em. Not really life threatening but bloody irritating nonetheless!
Final score:
11points
Colin L 3 years ago
Citation needed. "Intense Pulsed Light" raised some red flags, gets lumped in (mistakenly) with effective laser treatments, and I would love to read something more than a pilot study showing efficacy. (Sorry not sorry, I have a strong pseudoscience reflex)
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Oh, well, I have a list of correlated issues: being constantly misgender; hormones not working properly on my body and not one single doctor making the effort to figure out why; being incapable to work due to autism (I don't speak IRL) and brain damage and therefore not having the means to pay for better doctors ou surgeries. All the crap that comes with the mix of autism and PTSD, the never-ending guilt, the wish to leave this damn prision of a house that is slowly driving me insane but the lack of capability to do so. Brain damage that went undiagnosed for years due to medical prejudice blaming me not being able to walk on my weight meanwhile it's quite the opposite I'm fat cause I can't walk. Being unable to lose weight due to not being able to walk, and my weight not helping with hormones or the misgendering issue. Being constantly treated like I'm mentally r******d or a child just because I don't talk, while I have almost genius IQ (128). Plus to top it all off the whole fear and crap that comes with being LGBT+ in Brazil.
Final score:
10points
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
That is an awful lot for one person to have to deal with! Muito sinto! Having the internet so you can communicate with the outside world must be a relief, huh? (Growing up pre-internet was really lonely sometimes.) I sincerely hope you are able to find a better endocrinologist for your hormones and online support groups. 💞
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I am so sorry you have to go through all of this physical and mental anguish. I hope that in time things will improve for you
Elvira Dirge 3 years ago
Thank you for sharing that. It's important for others to hear your "voice" where you can express it. Do you have a support system?
#29
In my 60's, allowing toxic family members back in my life, wrecking my sanity once again, re-living the Hell that was my childhood , and developing new health issues that have confounded my doctors.
Final score:
10points
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Toxic fam is the worst! At one point in time I considered faking my own death just so I could live in peace.
IrrelevantNonsense 3 years ago
Your username is making my head spin I can’t understand it i think im turning dumb
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That billionaires exist in the same space as houseless individuals
Final score:
10points
Gabby M 3 years ago
Orrrrr how about the top 7% figure out the homeless sitch. They are supposed to be smart...no? Daily I see things that could be done if only (the rich) man seeks to raise up fellow mankind. Actual money saving answers, less waste!!! Example All the retired cruise ships sitting dormant and rusting away. Or unused buildings that can be transformed. The RICH could give a SHYTE about normal people. Its a Narcissistic Society, well they outnumber the Empathetic by A LOT anyway.. All about Me!!!
#31
Ageism. I am still a vibrant and active person but as I grow older, people I know and new people I meet, treat me differently. I have a superior education, agile mind, drive, walk just fine, watch TV/look at computers to know what people are talking about . . . but I am not included in conversations or invitations. Jokes surface about eating early, not staying out late, or needing eye glasses. And a few gray hairs have axed me out of boyfriends and the dating pool. HATE THIS!
Final score:
9points
Vira 3 years ago (edited)
Relatable. I am childfree, and I have a passion for learning. This means I am frequently in environments with a mix of ages. WOW everyone loves to make some rather insane assumptions about me (older, and younger). All the assumptions seem to be ageist or sexist. Apparently once you are beyond college aged, you are expected to be incapable of social interaction, learning, or fun. Can't play sports, games, read, or learn a new skill. Very weird. Also, I guess if someone isn't exactly my age, I shouldn't talk to them? I don't get it, at all.
voice of reason 3 years ago
And as an older , boomer, woman...I've become invisible. Can't see me at Starbucks or any line. As a boomer getting lumped in with anything any younger gen doesn't like. I'm ME! SHEESH! I can think rings around youngers, know soon much more, yet am dismissed. Grrerrrr!
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
That sucks! I have found since finishing uni, most friends I make are older than me. I seem to get along so well with people who are 20-30 years older! I do notice my sister saying things like 'it's because you're old' to my mum, which is sad. My mum and stepdad are still living like they are younger than they are. The only time they don't is when the grandchildren are being really boisterous!
#32
The US government taxes the money you earn. Then the same money when you spend it. Or, if you invest it, and it makes money, you get taxed on that! How is our government in debt when they take so much?!
Final score:
8points
Stealthee 3k 3 years ago
Because the government doesn't know how to budget. Now the US government doesn't get anything on purchases, that's just state and local levels and even depends on where you live/what you buy sometimes. Anyway the government's problem is spending more than they make.
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
The one that gets me is death tax. You make money and pay your taxes on it, then when you die and want to pass on your money to your kids, they have to pay taxes on the money that you already paid taxes on? I wonder if this is a U.S. thing or if other countries double dip too.
Buggycas 3 years ago
Because they're taxing the wrong people. Rich people run things and have been giving themselves tax breaks for years, but leaving everyone else to foot the bill. The less wealthy can't give the government enough to run properly so they have to tax more, but the rich, who can afford it, aren't getting taxed. Politics time. Biden's new tax bill will FIX THIS. By giving those who make more in a year than you or I will make in our LIVES a specific wealth based income tax rate, the government can pay it's bills, fix it's infrastructure problems and reduce the strain on you and me, the poor shits being taxed to all hell.
#33
Single guy here... one of those things: As soon as you show interest in someone who has showed interest in you, suddenly they lose interest. W T F ?!
Final score:
8points
Stealthee 3k 3 years ago
Or even better, if you show interest they get disinterested, then you "ignore" them and they get interested again, but then you shoot your shot and they have "moved on" because they didn't think you liked them.
#34
My intense (sometimes good?) mood swings
Final score:
8points
*Displayname*=idk 3 years ago
I can agree with this one as well! I'll be happy, then all of a sudden I'm a furious beast!
#35
When you get something out of the fridge and leave it open expecting it to close by itself like it has always done so, and then shortly afterwards you hear the annoying beep reminding you to go close it. Or vice versa When you have tons and tons of shopping you need to put in the fridge and everytime you turn your back it shuts itself on you. 😑🙄
Final score:
7points
Donkey boi 3 years ago
The feet should be adjustable. Make sure it's perfectly flat and don't put heavy liquids on the shelf/rack inside the door. Once you have equilibrium the door will stay wherever you leave it.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I have a fridge that does like a vacuum seal when it closes and you have to wait about 30 seconds before you can open it again- but it doesn't always do it! I take the milk out of the fridge, hope the door stays open while I pour milk in my tea and turn back to put the milk in the fridge. Sometimes it will stay open and sometimes it shuts just as you go to put the milk back in!
Vira 3 years ago
Related: I really just want a standard top freezer fridge, with ice+water, and large slide in shelves. I prefer single door, top fridges. It's more efficient, and I don't need fancy extras, drawers, Bluetooth, touch screens, or voice commands. Also, for f*ks sale, no $4k price tag. Why is this only available everywhere that isn't where I live??
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Or when you think it closed like usual only to have your serenity shattered with mom yelling "unless you're planning to pay the power bill, close the damn door!" 😬
#36
My metabolism. Everything that is wrong with me today was caused by doctors screwing up 30 years ago. People always assume that if you're overweight, it must be because you're a lazy slob, even though it's been proved that many overweight people actually eat less than normal weight people. I just read an article that said that ALL mammals seem to be getting heavier, so something is going on besides over eating and sedentary living.(https://www.livescience.com/10277-obesity-rise-animals.html) I am not sure how it became OK for people to make such assumptions about a person, just because of their looks. BP is filled with people who see a picture of an overweight animal or child and just assume someone is overfeeding (and feel the need to jump in and criticize)...but it might not be the case.
Final score:
7points
Phyzzi 3 years ago
We're flooding the environment, and especially ourselves, with plastics that can cause hormone responses, straight up growth hormone, and antibiotics that are killing our internal balance. It's no shock that weight gain is an issue.
GoddessOdd (Submission author) 3 years ago
Agreed. Chemicals in potable water are already a huge issue, and I can't imagine what they'll one day find out about the stuff we've been ingesting.
Load More Replies... Is Be 3 years ago
There is hope, was buying clothes on line last week and they had models of all shapes and sizes. It's going to take time, but I see it as a step forward. I am starting to love my curves and it feels so good to stop putting myself down.
GoddessOdd (Submission author) 3 years ago
That is true, and I think people are *slowly* becoming more enlightened, but people still jump right in with their assumptions, no matter what. I've had a couple obese rescue cats... one was overfed by a geriatric owner, one had a metabolic disorder very similar to mine. Strangers felt the need to approach me and tell me I was doing everything wrong and killing my cat. They had no idea of the situation, but felt that I was obviously in need of their "expert" advice. Someone at work once said "I don't understand, you barely eat and you walk all day long..." and I wondered how they would feel if I said "I don't understand, you've had every opportunity but you're still dumb" 😂😂😂
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My siblings
Final score:
6points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I don't know your age or your circumstances, but I just want to put out there that my sister and I, once mortal enemies, are now best of friends. It took 40+ years, but we made it thru. It's not necessarily a life sentence, unless you wish it to be. Estrangement is always difficult within families.
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
We may share DNA but I dont claim him as family! One of the benefits of becoming an adult and moving out; dont have to see or hear them every. damn. day.
voice of reason 3 years ago
My sister and I worked it out young, in college. We were the best of friends until her awful untimely death at 38 from melanoma. I miss her every day.
#38
I don't know exactly what it is, but it sounds like a fan motor or blades, or ventilation pipes, but there's a constant tremor, vibration emanating all over my apartment. In some places it's intense, such as in the bathroom. It's never quiet in the bathroom to take a peaceful, relaxing bath. I've been sleeping with earphones for years (I just don't want to move). The fixtures rattle at times. Sometimes, on a very windy day, there's a bottle-blowing sound coming from somewhere close outside that echoes all over, even with the windows closed. I've spoken to management about it several times. They gotten maintenance to inspect the roof and tell me everything is okay. Sometimes one or both neighbours keep their bathroom fans on all night and day and I can't tell them to shut them off. I can hear them in the bedroom loudly when I'm trying to sleep, over my sleep music in my earphones. *end rant*
Final score:
6points
Is Be 3 years ago
I can't imagine how you can live like this. Do noise canceling headphones work for you?
LagoonaBlueColleen (Submission author) 3 years ago
They have been for the past 6 or 7 years. We've gotten so used to wearing them it's hard to sleep at other people's quiet homes without them.
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
Have you asked the other neighbors if they can hear it too? It might be worth investing in a stethoscope, and listening to each appliance, and in the walls in each room, so you can try to pinpoint the source. That said, in my backyard, if I stick a shovel in the ground, the shovel vibrates. I have no idea why. Fortunately, I can't hear it, but it's odd just the same.
LagoonaBlueColleen (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yeah but I have to be careful with approaching neighbours. One lady who used to live below me got pissed off with me knocking on her door. All I asked was if she was keeping an exhaust fan on in her bathroom in a calm, inquisitive tone, and then complained to management. I swear someone either beside me or below the person beside does. I can just use my ears. In the hallway and some parts of my bedroom, sometimes, it feels like subs set to a very, very low, low base on super loud and my head is about to implode. I've brought the caretakers to check it out a few times and they admitted they "hear something" but nothing comes of it. I was explained by the new mgmt it's like the air vents that were installed back in 2014 (I remember the exact day we started hearing the noise) by the previous mgmt (who denied anything). Apparently those will bang around in the wall and the air shooting down them on windy days will cause a vibration but they're needed to keep the new basement dry.
Load More Replies... Jennifer Abrams 3 years ago
I had this. mgmt company lied for years saying no one else heard it, gaslighting me. then some neighbors with more time found it was a broken fan in garage below the building exceeding the allowable decibels. It somehow reverberated to a bunch of separate condos. they fixed it. bliss!
#39
When people comment on my burn scaring I have some rude people say stuff about it. I know it there I just want you to go on about your day like it is not. I know it was horrible I know I almost died so I know. I get real down out about when people comment about it. But I can't control it. I wish I didn't have it but it is part of my life now. But I wish people would not comment on and go about there day.
Final score:
6points
IrrelevantNonsense 3 years ago
Burn scarring is so beautiful!!!! Victory scars! To show you kicked life on the nuts! You said “Motherf^cker, i’m still here whether ya like it or not!”
voice of reason 3 years ago
I had a badly broken leg requiring surgery and many months of rehab in cast. Got tired of explaining finally settled on "Bar fight in Mexico" or "It got bit". Try amusing yourself with the most bizarre things you can think of like "You don't like it? I spent thousands to get just this look from my plastic surgeon". Or I was born this way, you should see my twin brother". I don't know, but thinking of stupid answers my give you amusement and take you that step away from the horrible pain. Good luck .
Trisha Howson (Submission author) 3 years ago
See I've thought of some crazy story like that
Load More Replies... Gabby M 3 years ago
Be Creative doll!!!!. Have some fun coming up with responses to typically ask (moronic) questions. Hell make small signs to flip out when the morons say something. Never go to waste that's for sure LOL Take it easy kiddo .... Be Happy! It's always fun making a moron see they are a moron ღ(¯`◕‿◕´¯)
#40
Raising my kid Can’t control how they are going to turn out all you can do is try. And hope friends and media won’t win in the end
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5points
*Displayname*=idk 3 years ago
Just try your best, push, but don't push to hard. It will work out if you don't loose hope! (Dont have kids but someone once told me this.)
Spampampams 3 years ago
If you're worried about being a good parent, then you're already a good one. If as children they say that they hate you then you're a great parent. When they became parents be sure to wish good luck. P. S. They're going to blame you for EVERYTHING, try not to take it to heart. After it's all said n done, they will know that you loved them.
Load More Replies... Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
Let them be their own person, help them work on their weaknesses, and support their strengths. Really encourage their strengths. Talk to them about how to work on the things they have problems with. Let them know they're not going to be good at everything and that's ok but they have to work at being functionally competent in life skills. My kids are adults now. They're not perfect but they're pretty great.
#41
Can’t change or fix your family. Whether it’s religion, politics, life experiences or choices. There is family that loves you unconditionally and family that will pass judgement and write you off. At 38 I still can’t fix that nagging feeling of being a disappointment or not making my family proud. Even knowing I accomplished great things, it wasn’t their idea of what great is, or where I should be in life. It sucks
Final score:
5points
IrrelevantNonsense 3 years ago
I never fully understood imp syndrome- TO GOOGLE! 😌👌
Load More Replies... #42
Having to pee. When you're finally able to focus on schoolwork - gotto pee and it's gone. When you're having a really good, intense conversation with a friend and they're pooring their heart out - gotto pee. Finally in a warm and cosy bed after a long day - gotto pee. Just left your house for a long trip.. You'll get the picture.
Final score:
5points
TKA 3 years ago
When your sons cat wants to sit on your lap and usually hates you, that’s even worse lol
Load More Replies... Jette Wang Wahnon 3 years ago
Consult your doctor...you probably have a urinary tract infection that has not been detected...easy to cure..
#43
obsessive . compulsive . disorder .
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5points
#44
The fact that I want to cease to exist 80% of the time but I don’t want to be a failure and a disappointment to my parents who consider giving up in general a fail.
Final score:
5points
Susan Hammons 3 years ago
I have the desire to simply "not exist" when I am in a depressive episode (I have bipolar disorder, but primarily depression.). Perhaps you could talk to someone you trust about counseling or see a doctor? I'm concerned for you.
#45
My lack of freedom. I'm not allowed to go anywhere or do anything. Sometimes I'm allowed to go somewhere with someone but they need literally everything about the parents and they still say no. I have only ever had one sleepover and I've never been inside any of my friends houses. This is especially bad right now because my friend asked me to see sonic two with him and my mom said yes for once and my dad vetoed because he has never met my friend even tho my mom has.... And I'm gay.. and there's no way to even get pregnant because it's a movie theater and my friend doesn't have a penis
Final score:
5points
Phyzzi 3 years ago
You might look into becoming an "emancipated minor". Your situation sounds like it could be emotional abuse.
ljbeanfield (Submission author) 3 years ago
Oh no... No I guess I didn't make it out so well in my rambling. I promise I'm fine, it's just frustrating
Load More Replies... #46
I can't go to clubs, concerts, bars, restaurants or anywhere with fast flashing, blinking or strobe lights. I can't go to a movie theater or watch any type of "fast action" tv shows or movies (in the dark). I can't play 90% of console or pc games I like (so I watch streamers and/or friends play). I have to close and cover my eyes near P.D. blue lights in evening & night time (no I don't drive) plus I have to wait til I'm far away to uncover them. I wanted to join the USAF since I was 10 but at 12 knew I would have failed the physical. Although I've worked since I was 15 (except when recovering from injuries) I still can't work in many places/fields because I'm considered a major Liability. I've had more injuries, TBI's & concussions than entire NFL football teams. I'm not allowed to drive which is a good thing but I'm also not allowed live or go anywhere alone. I'm now 44, still working odd jobs to help support myself. Until 2016 I've never filed for disability but was denied 2xs. I have all the paperwork, records, Drs explain my main condition along with the issues I developed because of it, even my neurologist who specializes (22 years) in my condition testified. The SSDI "judge" said he has trusted a Dr as his consultant for 10 years tell "No one is going to pay her to have seizures" I have NESD (Non-Epileptic Seizure Disorder) & minor conditions that developed through injuries from seizures. It sucks & it's heart-breaking when you have no real life, freedom and privacy.
Final score:
5points
#47
When browsing Bored Panda and several “load 10 mores into a list” that you’re enjoying. You swipe the page the littlest bit diagonal and bam you onto a new list. But worse when you swipe back you have to scroll and load the items again to get back to your place. In your frustration you scroll the tiniest bit diagonal…..
Final score:
5points
Christopher Binks (Submission author) 3 years ago
It spoils things some times when I'm really into a post
#48
Humans
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4points
#49
People say they want smart leaders but what they really want is someone to make things seem simple so they feel smart.
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4points
#50
Random things always tend to break faster than you can fix ‘em
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4points
Phyzzi 3 years ago
Why would something else break before you can fix the first thing is more the issue.
Load More Replies... #51
Panromantic Asexual here. The fact that most people can't separate romantic attraction from sexual attraction and just getting the bi/pan erasure on top of the Ace erasure makes me think my life would be easier if I had just been born Aromantic as well.
Final score:
4points
Vira 3 years ago
People seem to be woefully bad at relationships, in general. There's only three options for most people: family you put up with, war-bonding(task related relationships), or sexual attraction. It's actually way more complicated, but people like their easy boxes, and get very angry if you won't fit one.
#52
That everything is loud. I’m feeling warm, and i turn on the fan and i can hear it even when i put earmuffs on. those ones at car races. turn on the ac and i can still hear it
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4points
#53
That I am introvert. I hate it how I find human interaction stressful and tiring.
Final score:
4points
Bob Stuart 3 years ago
If you can get along alone, you can focus on discovering new things that can't be seen by distracted people. Pointing them out is another people problem, but at least you have something worth their attention.
Danna Dela Cruz (Submission author) 3 years ago
It was in my late 40's that I finally realized what the problem was with why I am not "normal" like my friends. Unfortunately, I have invested years and now have a successful career that unfortunately involves talking to people the whole day. I am trying to figure out what I can do that suits me better and still be able to hold up all my adult financial obligations.
Load More Replies... #54
People who hold very strong opinions but don't actually know WHY they hold them..
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4points
#55
People who never stop complaining about how bad the USA is. Just because we have bad healthcare and terrible bosses doesn't mean the whole country sucks.
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4points
#56
Dyslexia. I swear everyone tells me this learning disability will help me one day, but two failed chem tests because I read the entire thing backward doesn't help anything. I sometimes get lost while driving because I can't tell left from right, I can barely read my own handwriting, and learning a new language is nearly impossible! So far, I haven't found anything that can fix it
Final score:
3points
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I have a problem with people saying 'x disability is actually an asset' because they make it sound like you should be grateful for the condition. You can learn a lot because you have a disability, in the way you have to deal with it, but the condition itself is still a b***h. I think it is more important to focus on what you can achieve despite the disability. You may always struggle with school work and not want to go to college, for example, but you might find your place in a particular workforce where it doesn't impede you and you can be really happy. I just hope you are able to get the support you need to achieve what you want. I know this can be hard, especially for things like dyslexia or autism because the system doesn't recognise what support you need. I don't know your situation but one of my friend's sons was dyslexic and has adhd and other things and his mum was able to make sure he had a scribe during tests and stuff.
Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Yes! If it were an asset, it wouldn't be called a dis-abilty!
Load More Replies... Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
Saying that dyslexia will help you one day is true, but I don't know if those triumphs will make up for the hassle. Dyslexics tend to come up with novel solutions to problems and tend to be creative. My dyslexia is quite mild and I enjoy being creative, maybe it's worth it for me?
Phyzzi 3 years ago
A few things. If you live in the US, you should be getting accomodations (an IEP) for your disability. This isn't "unfair" but many schools will avoid it even though it is their responsibility to provide it because it is expensive and requires extra work for teachers and administrators who don't get paid more for the work, so you will have to either self advocate or get an advocate (like a parent or guardian) to push the issue. You should NOT be failing tests because you were not provided proper accomodations. The other thing I would say is that this might be related to ADHD, which is often treatable with medication. It's a bit of an if, but possibly worth looking into.
Phyzzi 3 years ago
PS, even if it's collage/university they should provide accomodations for a known disability. If not, you might look into bringing it up with the collage board. You still will need to advocate for yourself here, and it might be even more of a hassle, but you are entitled to fair treatment.
Load More Replies... Spampampams 3 years ago
I have a touch of it ( if that's possible) also I'm self diagnosing here. Mine shows up when I'm tired. I read things backwards, transpose numbers. Give back the wrong change. The list goes on. It's a pain sometimes.
#57
My attachment issues. One example is: a few days ago, my favorite teacher left my school, and I was extremely attached to her, to the point that I've been crying on and off since I found out, I cant focus, and my anxiety went through the roof being worried about her. If anyone knows a way to not get attached so easily, let me know please.
Final score:
3points
#58
When people message me (at work) just part of the message, then hit enter. They type multiple sentences, hit enter, then pause to type the next. So, I stop what I'm doing and wait (and wait) for them to type, which is a waste of time. Oftentimes, I'm unsure when they are done typing and I can answer, so I have to wait a little longer to be sure they're done. Or alternatively, I start typing a response and we end up "talking over each other". I've tried just ignoring it until they have not sent a new message in a minute or two, but often I just forget about it and I don't want to leave them hanging. Please stop. Type the entire thing, then hit enter. You can even do Ctrl-enter or Shift-enter in almost all messaging apps to put a line break in there for readability.
Final score:
3points
#59
My dad pressuring me to have children, when I know I don’t want them. I really don’t wanna be pregnant, like I don’t want the experience. I would rather adopt if I ever have kids. Anyways, I’m gay, and he doesn’t even know that yet. Anyways, I’m not even 25, and that’s weird.
Final score:
3points
Auntriarch 3 years ago
There is literally only one good reason to have children. Because you very much want them. And you're old enough to tell him that
Phyzzi 3 years ago
Sorry you have to feel that pressure. I am a parent, and a proud one, and I feel strongly that anyone who doesn't VERY MUCH want to have kids will really not enjoy it. Being pregnant isn't even necessarily the worst part: after that comes years of poor sleep and constantly handling human poop, and that's if you have a nice, healthy, relatively uncomplicated baby. Even if you like kids, there is a ton of demand for child care that can get you a lot of the good with less of the bad unless someone really really wants to have their own kids.
#60
The two toxic a** b****es in my friend group. They won’t stop making plans in front of us and not inviting us at all. Then the rub it in after they go hangout together.
Final score:
2points
Danniee Gyrl 3 years ago
Just a suggestion: When these two people start making plans, walk away from them. These type of people live off of chaos and confusion. If you starve them of their attention seeking ways they will disappear
Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
"Yeah that sounds like it would be really fun, you two going off on your own and leaving. The you leaving part sounds fun. You should do that. It'd be great."
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
'Friends'?? These are not friends. Find a new group of nicer people to hang out with.
#61
i get distracted on my computer at school alot, and i have intense focus issues, which can make long tedious important school assignments really hard to do.
Final score:
2points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I think we are all getting worse at this. Before the computer age, I read, all the time, day and night. Now, I can't read without distraction for more than a half hour, and I try but fail to sit through a two hour movie. I've gotten in the habit of skimming the headlines instead of reading the articles, and on the internet, I can sample 15 topics, instead of reading in depth about one. You've probably heard it before, but I think maybe less computer time = longer attention span.
ZefRam (Submission author) 3 years ago
yep. although my ADHD also might have something to do with it. good point though! lots of people need to hear this
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#62
The fact that many people do not teach their animals leash manners.
Final score:
2points
bababoibilli 3 years ago
ofc i saw a person taking his dog on a walk. its leash wasnt even a leash it was a rope. and to get it in the right area to walk he literally beats its butt cheeks with a think stick!!
#63
Random people automatically assuming that i play Netball because I'm female and tall. No offense intended, but I hate Netball. Netball sucks. I don't play it and I never, ever, ever will.
Final score:
2points
robin woordes 3 years ago
Same for me and basketball. I tried it, I sucked and now leave me alone.
Rens 3 years ago
This is what I went through in high school! I was over 6/4 at the age of 15, terribly clumsy and awkward, couldn't catch a ball to save my life but it turned out I could actually play volleyball pretty well!
bababoibilli 3 years ago
OFC i hate netball too its so boring, its just like basketball and it sucks.
#64
There are some things in my life irritating me without being possible to fix it, but as of lately: Bored Panda randomly and without notice suspending me temporarely from posting. Reading and Posting hear is something I thought I can do even when due to depression my energy is on it's lowest. But than being suspended for nothing and without notice Bugs me a lot. I mean: what did I do? I'm not swearing or posting insppropriate stuff? I posting the same as ever and it only started recently (about a month ago) with the suspending. It steals the fun out of bored panda. I'd rather leave soon if it keeps Happening cause it's another thing depression me. -.-
Final score:
2points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I think BP has started doing that a lot lately. I got hit for using the word S-t-r-i-p-p-e-r in reply to a post about them.
Nubis Knight (Submission author) 3 years ago
After three days. o.o ...it would be less bugging if I knew why I got suspended. ^^'
Load More Replies... Auntriarch 3 years ago
I was suspended for 24 hours, still no idea why, I asked for clarification but had no reply.
#65
My attachment issues. One example is: a few days ago, my favorite teacher left my school, and I was extremely attached to her, to the point that I've been crying on and off since I found out, I cant focus, and my anxiety went through the roof being worried about her. If anyone knows a way to not get attached so easily, let me know please.
Final score:
2points
Ashe (Submission author) 3 years ago
Unintentionally, it must have glitched when in signed me in
Load More Replies... #66
Silly really, compared to many of the posts above but....the flimsy plastic bags rolled up on a hanger that you find in shops,supermarkets etc.to fill with your fruit,vegs and what ever.....they are virtually glued to-gether and to prize them open is a battle not won..Tetra-packs,jars with lids hermetically closed...you´ll need to be a heavy-weight wrestler to open them...I actually had to take a jar of pickles back to the store and ask them to open it...even tea-bags need a pair of scissors now-a-days...
Final score:
2points
El Dee 3 years ago
Outside of the UK teabags come in a small 'envelope' which you must open to retrieve your teabag..
Load More Replies... #68
That I didn't have any input on rather I wanted to be born or not so I'm forced to live here in this existence with a bunch of ppl who suck because they probably hate it here too but we can't bond on that fact alone because they too are miserable existing.
Final score:
2points
#69
Your mom. No actually the still ridiculous unacceptance of lesbians like we're dating women deal with it.
Final score:
2points
#70
Crappy “friends”
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2points
Amelia Kolodsick (Submission author) 3 years ago
Forgot to say this, but I know this can be fixed but I never fix it due to validation problems ( for example,I won’t do anything unless somebody else approves) whenever I try to confront the “friend” my other friends get mad at me and blame me for god knows what.
#71
Others opinions
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2points
#74
myself
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2points
IrrelevantNonsense 3 years ago
Noo i bet your great. Good people are good because they at least have a conscience. Most who say stuff like “I hate myself” is because they think they do bad stuff but in reality they’re really nice because they are always making sure they are doing the right thing because of an over-bearing conscience.
#75
getting up early
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2points
bababoibilli 3 years ago
yes ofc getting up early affect your mental health! and ofc it will strain your eyes too!
#Amelia animal lover (Submission author) 3 years ago
Hehe love ur profile pic
Load More Replies... #78
The Air in Chip Bags!!!!! :(
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2points
bababoibilli 3 years ago
yes they take more money and give the chips which costs like 1% of the price, i pay 10 for chips and get like only a little chips in it
#79
The sexism when making clothes. I mean why are girls flowery, bright and colourful and boys are plain, dark and have pictures. It's a gender stereotype and it needs to go.
Final score:
2points
#80
Suicidal thoughts, my parents, my school and church counselors, and self harm urges
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2points
bababoibilli 3 years ago
yes ofc i even tried to do it :( but im too small like im just 11 i and i get suicidal thoughts
Silver the Sloth (they/them)️️️️️️ (Submission author) 3 years ago
I'm 13 :(
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#82
Being alive
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1point
Jenna Weirich (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yes you read that correctly.
Load More Replies... #83
The fact that I walk a lot faster than everyone else. So whenever I'm in a crowded hallway I'll be all stop go, stop go until I get to a large open area.
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1point
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
That is me when I'm walking with my mum! But in her case it's because she gets distracted easily. Going shopping with her when you want to just go, get one thing and leave is especially difficult. At school when I walked to and from the school bus I was always faster than anyone but I didn't have any real friends so I could walk how I wanted which was good. When it was lunch/recess it would depend which friends I was with.
#85
People always asking why I'm not with a man. I've been single 13 years. I have 2 teenagers one special needs, 2 jobs, an uncle I care for 24/7, animals with health issues, Im always tired due to extreme low iron and I rescue bottle babies when I can. I hate people, I have anxiety, I don't like to talk much, I'm shy. I have depression issues. People don't understand where I'm coming from or what goes on in my life so I don't bother trying to extend that to another person anymore. I'm happy cuddling with my animals every night. If one day someone comes along that can handle everything in my life great if not great as well!
Final score:
1point
#86
When your parents call your name, you call back, they don't answer. You then walk to them, and it's something dumb. "oH, yOu'Ve BeEn In ThAt DaRn RoOm So LoNg!" also, "iT's BeCaUsE oF tHaT dAnG pHoNe."
Final score:
1point
#88
My skin. I have atopic dermatitis ever since I was born, and somedays it's really wearing me down. I got a new medication about 1.5 years ago and it's so much better, but I still have days where I just cannot deal with it.
Final score:
1point
#90
Not so much in my life specifically but still: The existence of so-called influencers.
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1point
#91
Trump
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1point
#92
childhood trauma
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1point
#93
When I was forced to Move to Germany. A place tbst I only knew from vacations. I never got the chance to move back to the states.
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0points
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Although I don't fully understand, I get that it would be hard, feeling like you are cut off from your homeland and culture. My stepdad was born in England and moved to Australia when he was 10. He has been back to England a few times, but not for more than 15 years. He really wanted to take my mum to see where he grew up and thought he would have the time when he retired but is tied to the house they just bought and the numerous animals they have so it's not looking likely which is sad.
Patricia Fonda (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yes, it is. Especially if you come frim the City and move to a small village. I was 13 and missed everything. The only good Thing was I only had to walk to school, 10 Minuten. I didn't want to Star länger than 10 years now it's 46.
Load More Replies... #94
All of the marijuana dispensaries advertising on the radio stations. I hate hearing that crap when I'm in the car with my kids.....and I smoke weed.
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0points
vxbes (she/her) 3 years ago
why do you smoke weed when you have kids? do you know what kind of message ur sending to them?
#95
One of my roommates. On ssdi, and there’s a 5+ year waiting list for housing here in Vegas. This guy is an id10t and for instance, thinks it ok to pee outside. I’m afraid he’ll pee in our pool knowing I love to swim in it in the summer.
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0points
Marty Sunderland 3 years ago
That's awful. You should all get together and find new lodgings for your awful roommate.
#98
My husband's racist bigotry father. We don't necessarily have a good relationship. Neither does my husband too him. Makes me want to scream.
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0points
#99
Procrastination. Fibro symptoms. Stupidity. Lack of sympathy. Phony people.
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#100
Bilateral profound deafness due to Meniere’s disease and the belief some have that a cochlear implant provides "normal" hearing.
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#101
Sad truth: I cannot fix what is so deeply broken inside my boyfriend’s mind, heart and soul. Love can’t fix everything, unfortunately.
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#102
Misophonia.
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#103
The fact that when someone tries to tell you something that is a common fact, and when you get angry, they say "I was only trying to help."
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#104
Racism and sexism. Like, we’re all people, if you want to pretend you’re better than someone because of the hormones in your body or the melatonin of your skin, then you should keep it to yourself and burn in hell
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0points
#105
tRUMP and his litter, repukes that kiss his fat ass.
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#106
The general public never reading signs in all the places I've ever worked and currently worked. It doesn't matter how many, how big, or placement of said signs...people just choose to not read them then get Karenfied when told "sorry, can't do that" "well why not" *points to sign*
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#107
The cost of heart worm preventatives for dogs. There is no reason for these to be so costly, and the expense just about guarantees that a lot of dogs from low income areas will test heart worm positive. My rescue group took in 42 dogs after Hurricane Katrina. 38 were tested positive. This could have been made much better if the medication was a lot less expensive.
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#108
A coworker. They only do things they like. They ignore legitimate work. They are NEVER on time. EVER. They are not a team player. They slack off every chance they get and only do the bare minimum. They leave things for others to do. After 2 years, they still don't understand their basic job. My boss used to complain to me about them, and that fed my anger and frustration. I finally told my boss: 1) YOU created this monster by not correcting them at the outset. 2) I don't want to hear about it anymore It's not any better, but I just do my job and ignore them
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0points
#109
Having to watch as the increasing divide in political views in the United State slowly but surely erodes the quality of life of those of us living here. Far to much cruelty, senselessness and lack of empathy or understanding is destroying what remained of the elusive American Dream. It just makes me so sad.
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0points
#110
Bipolar. I can take meds to mitigate but it's impact over the years and increasing severity as I get older is very concerning to me. I just hope my son doesn't have it too.
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0points
#111
The disparity between the "haves" and the "have nots". I always thought if there needs to be a minimum wage, it should be enough to cover the cost of living in this county (USA), which I believe was the original intention. Conversely, why is there no "maximum wage", as there nothing that someone like Jeff Bezos could ever do to actually EARN the absurd amount of money he makes. It seems obscene.
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#112
this rat in my house, which people say is my sister. she is so annoying!!!!!. she always makes me cry. she beats me. says bad about me.
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#114
People having conversations during live performances. If I don't say something, I have to endure it and the performance is ruined for me. If I do say something, I run the risk of just making them speak louder or a confrontation. It is a lose/lose situation.
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0points
#115
I strongly suspect I have autism but my mom downplays it and I probably won't be able to get a diagnosis. I also can't really come out to my friends and family, because they'll just continue to misgender me while insisting they're trying.
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0points
#116
My daughter's terrible boyfriend/fiance. They live with me, and I can hardly stand to be in the same room with him. I'm disabled due to chronic arthritis pain, back pain, and anxiety, and he can't wrap his head around what it's like to be older and have such severe pain that you can't stand up or walk for more than twenty feet at a time. Neither of them can. She used to understand somewhat, but he's turned her against me. He is constantly saying, in response to my pain, 'My gramma (who raised him) has terrible back pain and has a plate in her back, and she works full-time as a custodian.' Well, I'm sure she can obviously stand and walk a lot further than me. He's loud, he and she are constantly calling each other nonsensical little names (the most annoying of which is 'bubbie'), and they do this thing where they both have to say 'Umm' (and it's not "Umm' as in um i dont know, its umm like yum yum), to each other when they have to be apart and one of them is leaving. Every morning at four-thirty am he watches his anime programs with the volume so high that I can't believe the neighbors don't complain, all the while trading the nonsensical nicknames with my daughter and yelling things just to yell because apparently his life is so awesome he just can't contain it. And don't even get me started on the PDA. I can hear their lips smacking when they kiss in their room, which is next to mine. And he knows it is annoying, but does it just to needle me. He knows better, because for a while his gramma forbade him to bring my daughteralong to any of their family gatherings, even on holidays, because they just sat in the corner doing their little routine and not talking to anyone else. I used to think she was too hard on him, but now I know why. He needs clear boundaries stated and, a disciplinary system to keep him in line. I can't wait until they move out, if they ever do.
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#117
the fact that my type of chick always ends up being gay for some reason... or trans, that happened once.
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-1point
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Don't focus too much on this. Live your life how you want and I'm sure you will find someone who feels the same way. I think lots of people, especially in your teens and 20s put so much pressure on themselves to find someone or the fact they haven't yet that it makes it hard to make natural connections with people. Don't let past experience hold you back and just be your true self.
#118
Lots of people apparently cannot lock their car doors without setting off the car horn. This is so annoying. Why they do this is a mystery to me. There isn't a single day that I can walk from the parking lot into the workplace without having to hear half a dozen bleating car horns ruining the early morning still. I'd rather enjoy a moment before the workday begins listening to the breeze and the birds, but instead it's the honk, honk, honk of idiots locking their car doors.
Final score:
-1point
Marty Sunderland 3 years ago
The high school across the street has crews mowing the football field on every Monday morning at exactly 6 am. Big industrial mowers. Not sure what's wrong with after school.
Load More Replies... voice of reason 3 years ago
They're illegal in several cities in California. Mine is one of them. Yay!
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I think sometimes it is a anxiety thing. If I press my fob once it locks without beeping but if I press it twice it's still locked but has a horn to tell me it is. I know there are people who will press it twice because they are paranoid about it not locking so even if they know the have locked it they just want the noise to be extra sure.
TKA 3 years ago
Now I’m curious if mine honks the first time I push it 🤔 (dogs are sleeping, so I’m not trying it now lol)
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What do you think ?
NAVYA PRASAD 3 years ago
Kinda embarrassing but masturba... Yeah no that big of a one but still
Kyndal T 3 years ago
Me. I irritate the sh*t out of myself. Less serious answer? The way my cat bites and claws at anyone who touches or gets close to me. I don't mind it but I know other people (mainly husband) just want to love on us both separately and without injury. Salem is a good boy. He just loves me too much. He's a big tuxedo cat with amazing white whiskers and big green eyes. He's not dangerous. He's just complicated.
-logansucrose- 3 years ago
the ex i want back has moved on, and the one who i broke up with because she was emotionally abusive DOES want me back.
Marnie 3 years ago (edited)
It's heartbreaking to read some of these posts. But it is also irritating to me that someone would respond to a question about what irritates someone to have them then post about some major life disaster or condition. Are you trying to say, "Don't be irritated by something little when people are suffering?" If that worked, nobody would EVER be irritated. My sister suffers from chronic Lyme, MS, and thyroid problems and still could probably come up with some interesting irritations here that had nothing to do with those chronic and tragic conditions. In fact, she's hilarious, so she'd be posting something that everyone would say, "OMG, me, too! I thought it was just me, ha ha." I posted about how people send messages. I did not post about being irritated that people get hit by cars, get Lewy Body dementia, die of COPD, hang themselves, or shoot themselves in the head (all of which happened to people I love).
vxbes (she/her) 3 years ago
im so sorry to hear that! and i agree; why post something serious like that to just brush it off your shoulder?
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voice of reason 3 years ago
I found these far too sad and un-panda like. We all have problems and this really isn't the forum. Most of these people could benefit from various medical care, from therapy to specialists. I wound up skipping over half of them because nothing I could do or say would help and they were beyond anything we could do. Please, no more of these.
NAVYA PRASAD 3 years ago
Kinda embarrassing but masturba... Yeah no that big of a one but still
Kyndal T 3 years ago
Me. I irritate the sh*t out of myself. Less serious answer? The way my cat bites and claws at anyone who touches or gets close to me. I don't mind it but I know other people (mainly husband) just want to love on us both separately and without injury. Salem is a good boy. He just loves me too much. He's a big tuxedo cat with amazing white whiskers and big green eyes. He's not dangerous. He's just complicated.
-logansucrose- 3 years ago
the ex i want back has moved on, and the one who i broke up with because she was emotionally abusive DOES want me back.
Marnie 3 years ago (edited)
It's heartbreaking to read some of these posts. But it is also irritating to me that someone would respond to a question about what irritates someone to have them then post about some major life disaster or condition. Are you trying to say, "Don't be irritated by something little when people are suffering?" If that worked, nobody would EVER be irritated. My sister suffers from chronic Lyme, MS, and thyroid problems and still could probably come up with some interesting irritations here that had nothing to do with those chronic and tragic conditions. In fact, she's hilarious, so she'd be posting something that everyone would say, "OMG, me, too! I thought it was just me, ha ha." I posted about how people send messages. I did not post about being irritated that people get hit by cars, get Lewy Body dementia, die of COPD, hang themselves, or shoot themselves in the head (all of which happened to people I love).
vxbes (she/her) 3 years ago
im so sorry to hear that! and i agree; why post something serious like that to just brush it off your shoulder?
Load More Replies... voice of reason 3 years ago
I found these far too sad and un-panda like. We all have problems and this really isn't the forum. Most of these people could benefit from various medical care, from therapy to specialists. I wound up skipping over half of them because nothing I could do or say would help and they were beyond anything we could do. Please, no more of these.
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