When your partner is upset with you, how do you ease the tension between the two of you? Do you just let them be upset, or do you try to make them laugh? Tell me your secrets!

#1

We talk it out. Usually it's over a little misunderstanding.

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    #2

    After 14 years of marriage, I have learned that the best way is to take the responsibility and say she's right. It doesn't matter the context, and this won't work for everyone, but no point in wasting breath when you know they're not going to accept any other terms.

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    StrangeOne
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That doesn't sound like a healthy, balanced relationship.

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    #3

    What I do varies by context. If he's upset in the car (I don't drive because I'm terrible at it), it's best to stop somewhere and talk. In other situations, I might apologize and try to solve the problem. Sometimes, we both need a moment apart to calm down and think.

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    #4

    Leave him alone. After almost 30 years together I've learned that my partner needs time to process how he feels before we talk. If I don't respect that and push him we end up fighting. If I'm patient and give him space we're almost always able to have a productive conversation. Besides, given time to cool off he often says he overreacted and it becomes a non issue.

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