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#1
I have moderate arthritis in my hip. The problem is is that I’m in agony and I limp when I walk, and because of this I’ve got pain in my whole thigh and throbbing pain around my knee. It’s seriously affecting my quality of life! The pain is unbearable and I’m in tears often, but because I’m only 51yrs and the consultant doesn’t recommend a replacement. I’m desperate! I’d love to have people comment and advise me. I’d appreciate peoples opinion.
Final score:
7points
Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago
Im sry youre going through this... idk much about arthritis is there not a pain med they can give you? Or would swimming help arthritis?
CascadedFalls 2 years ago
My grandmother-in-law also deals with arthritis, though we're not very close, so I'm not fully aware of the severity of her condition. She does engage in light swimming, and she believes it helps alleviate her pain. Although, it depends on the person and how much pain their condition is causing.
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Vermonta 2 years ago
I have arthritis in my hand. I'm going to the dr. next week for him to attach something to my stomach to collect stem calls. When it's ready it will be injected into my hand where I have arthritis.--------------Mesenchymal stem cells are collected from the patient. The process of collecting cells is often called harvesting. People who have had it in their knees give it 2 thumbs up.
Donkey boi 2 years ago
Firstly, I'd ask your consultant for more information as to why they don't recommend the replacement. Age is not often a factor with arthritis, is more about the type and severity (there is like, 100 types). It's could be that there is a reason for wanting to wait, maybe he feels that your type would make it worse in the long run if you have a replacement now. If it is just your age, seek a second opinion. In the mean time, my dad uses a product called "deep freeze", and once a week he rubs peppermint oil on his hip before a hot bath (don't over do it because it'll sting the s**t out of your eyes) and says that that helps.
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#2
There is so much hate right now. Against my people and others, but there doesn't seem to be anything I can do. I'm also under a lot of stress. On a less sad note, I finished my first draft for my ideology, but I don't know how to share it with strangers in a safe way where I can get perspective that don't know me that well without making myself vulnerable to harm.
Final score:
5points
Lex <3 (they/them) 2 years ago (edited)
Ugh people can be such little a******s. If you're able to, I'd ask a trusted friend, family member or therapist for advice because I'm not great as suggesting things lol. Other pandas may be able to help more than I can though! For the second paragraph, I'd suggest maybe starting with privately emailing a few friends (online or irl) that you trust and ask for their perspective maybe?
The Amazing Fluffernaut (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thanks, also for the second paragraph , I asked my Mom and she said to just copy it into a spam account. Here's the link if anyone wants it: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1SRozI1SJajF4Di33FuTCHJ8E4DiaOzSlaa-VeyCx8MM/edit?usp=sharing
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I see my dad every day, but he still isn’t really a part of my life anymore. He barely even knows me, constantly tells me he loves me and is proud of me but acts like I’m a little toddler with no valuable input to conversations. I don’t think this is ever going to change, because my mom (parents are divorced) says he often treated her like that too. My mom is awesome, but she still doesn’t understand that I don’t really HAVE a relationship my dad anymore. She knows I’m upset about how he treats me, and she’s on my side, but she doesn’t know how deeply this impacts my relationship with him. I keep TRYING all the time, thinking maybe if I talked to him more he would actually care about my life enough to know me a little better. But talking to him never gets anywhere, it’s like he can’t hear me. On the rare occasion that we have a conversation, he speaks to me like I’m a six year old the whole time. It’s impossible to talk to him about ANYTHING, being around him is infuriating. But I keep trying because idk what else to do, I see him every day and there isn’t a way I can avoid that. But even when I do go months barely talking to him, he doesn’t notice. He also only ever notices my flaws to correct, never my brother’s. It’s exhausting. I just want him to care about me enough to ACTUALLY TRY to be a part of my life. Cause he CONSTANTLY tells me he loves me so much, always talks to his friends about how proud he is of me and how clever I am. It would be nice if he ever demonstrated all that love (which is actually there) by treating me like a real person. Wow, sorry that was long.
Final score:
3points
UnimportantDog/Imp (she/her) 2 years ago
im sorry. does your dad know about this? if he doesn't, he might not realize that it bothers you
GhostlySnail (she/her) (Submission author) 2 years ago
I’ve tried telling him about the ways he treats me that annoy me, but he always brushes me off or pretends to care but doesn’t actually listen. Like I said he always treats me like I’m his precious little toddler who doesn’t actually have anything important to say.
Load More Replies... Vermonta 2 years ago
Do you have conversations about regular everyday stuff? Start conversations about world or local news - or weather, dads love knowing the weather for no reason at all - Have a few topics in case one falls flat. Keep it light and ask what he thinks of the topic. Your dad sounds like the typical dad in the 1950's and 60's.
#4
im an anxious mess im getting more and more panic attacks, its been gradual but its definitely there, i want to get on meds but i CANT because im not old enough to get some without parental consent and theres no way im telling my parents about it
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3points
Lex <3 (they/them) 2 years ago
Do you have a therapist you can talk to about getting medication? Maybe they could talk to your parents about it? If you don't, try finding some coping strategies that work for you or use a helpline. Please keep yourself safe imp <3
UnimportantDog/Imp (she/her) (Submission author) 2 years ago
I don’t have a therapist because my parents don’t think I need one, plus my dad is super against that type of stuff. I have like one or two coping methods but sometimes I can’t do them. Ty for your concern <3
Load More Replies... Vermonta 2 years ago
I learned this for cognitive behavior therapy. Breathe and focus on a concentric circle until you feel calmer. Mine is a circle within a circle. yellow in the large area and blue in the middle. Wallet size works.--- Another is to imagine yourself walking down an outdoor staircase and breathe with each step. No running : )
#5
Do you guys actually see me as nonbinary or do you see me as a girl? I want your honest answers pls, I won't get mad but it's something I'd like to know.
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CascadedFalls 2 years ago (edited)
Non-binary, and a little more masc then feminine imo, just as Mermeow said. Plus a great friend. :D
UnimportantDog/Imp (she/her) 2 years ago
I see you as non-binary, sometimes leaning towards the fem side but that’s probably because my parents are very transphobic and they don’t want me to think nb people exist. I’m trying to break that habit tho
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
I see you as non-binary but leaning a bit to the masc side.
◦•●◉ 𝒮𝒽𝓎 𝒟𝓇𝒶𝑔𝑜𝓃 (𝓈𝒽𝑒/𝒽𝑒𝓇) ◉● 2 years ago
I see your mind as non binary and your body as female because… ehh.. it is…?
#6
Ok so this isn't exactly a super deep and scary problem but that being said I DO need advice. So a while ago I broke into my mums phone (muahahahahaha) and discovered that the app she has to monitor my debit card purchases only shows WHERE I buy stuff and not WHAT I spend it on. You probably know what I'm thinking at this point :P I've saved up some money and am planning to go clothes shopping with my friends sometime soon, so I was thinking of buying a binder and/or some they/them pins or smthn. Idk where I could buy a binder though. Like, it needs to be at an actual store, not an online ordering thingy because my parents don't allow me to. For reference I live in the US, so if you guys know of any stores that sell them here please tell me! It can't be a specialty binder store though because my friend's mum is driving us since neither of us have drivers licenses yet. I'm pretty sure her parents are transphobic. If I can't find a store ig I'll just wait until my friend gets her license (wahhh 2 more years to go) Ty for reading lol byeeee :D
Final score:
2points
CascadedFalls 2 years ago
That's wonderful that you finally have a chance to shop for a binder that suits your preferences! <3 I've heard you can find what you're looking for at either Target or Walmart. When you're old enough to make your own purchases without parental supervision, Spectrum Binders is a great place for LGBTQ+ accessories. However, I'm not sure if there's a physical store in the US, or if you have to order online. It's unfortunate that both you and your friend have parents who can't accept LGBTQ+, and it's disheartening that you have to keep it hidden. :((
Lex <3 (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago (edited)
Thanks for the suggestions
Load More Replies... UnimportantDog/Imp (she/her) 2 years ago
okay so i found some stuff at target and walmart and dollar tree
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 2 years ago
Firstly, I don't know what a binder is, my brain goes to something like a book or folder, but I'm guessing that's not it based on the 'transphobic' reference. Based off the info provided, here is what I would do. Buy small purchases from a store that your mother would approve of, but get cashback. Give the cash to a trusted friend or other adult that you can trust, and ask them to place your online orders for you. Worst case scenario, find a supportive member of the LGBTQ,etc community to help guide you.
Lex <3 (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
A binder is sorta like a compression shirt I guess, it can be used as a temporary alternative to, say, getting top surgery or something. Idk if that made any sense haha. I'm not great at explaining things 😅
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Sorry for blowing up your post mermeow 😅 Now we're going to be serious though. Has anyone seen Chex? I took a bit of a short break from BP about a week ago and I haven't seen them since I came back. I'm pretty sure I was following Chex's account but I just looked through everyone I was following and couldn't find them. I know they were threatening to k!ll themselves so I'm getting super worried. Did they change their account name or did they just completely leave BP and delete their account? I'm so confused someone pls helppppp
Final score:
2points
Lex <3 (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
I looked through everyone I was following 3 times already...
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
She has been active on Worst Joke Ever, if you go onto that site you should be very careful, Wade is like the Nathaniel of that place, https://worstjokesever.com/@flappyatemynuggies/community.
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ok so yesterdays attempt at binding was a flop. i convinced my mum to take me to the store and i bought ky tape (compression tape for sports/joint pain) i told her it was "for my ankle" (which was actually true cuz i sprained my ankle today lol) so she was like, ok yeah whatever. So we bought it and i put some on my anke, but uhhh, i also decided to use it to uhm bind. it does work, and it isn't nearly as painful as the other methods i tried. i tried making it not super tight because i dont wanna restrict my breathing too much, but i am kinda concerned about getting rib issues.
Final score:
2points
Lex <3 (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
Oop I meant KT tape. T and Y are next to each other and my keyboard is tiny lmao
#9
Alright so I convinced my mum to take me to a pharmacy to get sports wrap lol. I didn't tell her the reason (diy binding) but she let me soooo... 🤭 Ngl the ones I bought look really uncomfortable so I might ask my mum to take me to another store sometime soon to get ace bandages (they didn't have them at the pharmacy we went to) The only think is that there are LOTS of pretty severe health risks with DIY binding, especially when using sports wraps, but it's what I'm going to have to do until I find a safer way to bind. Let's just hope I don't, like, crack any ribs or something because then I'll have some serious explaining to do... WISH ME LUCKKKKK 🥹 Oh and also I had a therapy appointment today. She knows I'm ✨non binary✨ so we kinda talked about me coming out to my parents eventually. The only thing is that if I DO come out and things go wrong, I don't have a safe place to stay at. I've got a few friends who accept me but since we're all underage and we all have transphobic parents so I can't stay at their houses. My closest relatives are 16 hours away. So... :/ My therapist said she'd help me find a safe place to stay at if things go wrong though. Still, I probably won't come out for a while.
Final score:
1point
#10
My life feels so slow and so fast, I feel like I don't have much time to keep living. Because of the pandemic I didn't go to school for THREE years and it feels like a time machine. I feel old, I feel like I am going to get my own house and car really soon yet I feel like everything is going too slowly. Help please
Final score:
1point
shanila.pheonix_ 2 years ago
i agree dude. sometimes i wish to go back in time so i can relive my childhood cuz i miss it a lot. there isnt really much you can do besides enjoying the journey as you go on. do stuff you love, break rules(lol hj), and enjoy the experience ig. no point in reminiscing about the past anyways when there is no way to revisit it(besides memories). just make more fun and happy memories. not the best advice, but i hope it helped regardless :)
#11
I was going to rant about my terrible mental health or how much pain I'm in, but something very annoying happened so you guys get to hear (see?? Idk) me complain about that instead :D For context i go to a public high school that reaslcenrly installed a weapons detector that everyone has to walk through every morning. Yesterday morning, after having my bag thoroughly searched multiple times and walking through the weapons detector no less than four separate times, I was informed that unless I want to to be searched every single day I need to remove the pins from my bag. I was also told that my bag was too messy and I needed to clean it, even though the main reason it's messy is because it gets dug through randomly by teachers and security officers so often. After the administrator finally decided there weren't any weapons in my bag (something that apparently requires taking literally everything out of my bag and shoving in back in randomly to determine) she said "the pins are super cute though" (despite having just told me to take them off) and left me to pack up my stuff and rush up 2 flights of stairs and down a very long hallway in the less than 2 minutes that remained before class started. Needless to say, I will be acquiring many more pins as soon as possible.
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#12
I'm a teen and eeeghh. I've had to deal with two suicidal friends in the past 2 years. (They're fine now. Well one is still not feeling great but at least not dead) I don't feel prepared for high school. Elementary and part of middle school were a joke, like i learned but it wasn't as good as other school systems in the world (I'm in America) This year I am in the school play (like last year but this time it's actually an important role.) And my parents signed me up for 3 after school sports and the schoolwork suddenly got more intense (8th grade) to "prepare" us for high school. There's a lot of stress and when I say that my parents say I'll need to take even more after school activities in high school in order to get into college (they're not wrong it just scares me) and I'm scared at the prospect of "future." I have to work nonstop, possibly unable to retire, working some job I hate if I don't find something I like and go for it. I am in advanced classes but in the class i'm average. I don't have a passion, im not good at the things i want to be good at but I procrastinate and don't practice, making me hate myself but not actually doing anything about it. sigh. i'm sometimes devoured by utmost loneliness. I have great friends and family but i feel like I need an SO. I feel so utterly alone.
Final score:
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Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
This is very relatable, grade 8 was so stressful, I would suggest asking for a spare or a class where you have time to do other work, do you have an IEP (individual education plan) because you should make sure that your teachers are following it, if you have any questions about the work, I can try to help.
Vermonta 2 years ago
Twist your ankle in one of the sports and you'll be out of all 3 sports. Do you want to go to college? Sounds like they are hoping you get a scholarship. Tell them if they really care about your future they will look at options besides burning yourself out by the time you are 20. If you want a job in your field of study then you should go to trade school.
#13
I got to put this here, or else I won't forgive myself: The war against Israel. Here are somethings I need to make sure are known, I am speaking for myself, and probably others, I respect the other side ONLY if they will respect mine, which so far they have not from what I have seen. Hamas started this attacking on a holiday, called Shmeni Atzeret, or translated from Hebrew, the time of our happiness, which happened to coincide with shabbat. No matter what you've heard or think, Hamas is not the side to back. They attacked on a time when everyone was with their loved ones, k!lling, taking hostage, and much worse things to innocents. Why, because they think that Israel should not exist, and that all Israelis must be exterminated. Their supports promote Anti-semitism, the very idea that Jews, must go bye-bye. This is hard on me because this an attack on my people, my family an attack on and those who are with Hamas, they want another Holocaust, they want death and they want it so much, they are willing to die and for their supports to as well just to k!ll. Anyone who supports them, don't, and don't attack me just because I'm sounding very one sided. I am being one sided because the one thing I know about Jews is that we are always prosecuted, for being ourselves. This is an attack on the ability for others to just exist. And it's hard to just sit and not be able to do anything to stop this plague that has existed in humanity. This mindless hate that destroys and corrupts, and it seems it will consume the world at this point, or maybe just mine Sorry for dumping this, but please don't just speak with hate, I know it's hard not to but if we don't, we will only speed the decay of this doomed world.
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The Amazing Fluffernaut (Submission author) 2 years ago
I wonder how many mental states I'm in right now
What do you think ?
Lex <3 (they/them) 2 years ago
Also can I ask u a favour? I made a BP post and it says it's a draft. I upvoted the post to see if it would be visible. It still says it's a draft but on my profile it also says that I upvoted it. If you have time would you mind going to my profile and clicking on the post/commenting on it or adding a submission? I want to see if it'll post itself if someone does that but idk if it'll work.
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Lex <3 (they/them) 2 years ago
Also can I ask u a favour? I made a BP post and it says it's a draft. I upvoted the post to see if it would be visible. It still says it's a draft but on my profile it also says that I upvoted it. If you have time would you mind going to my profile and clicking on the post/commenting on it or adding a submission? I want to see if it'll post itself if someone does that but idk if it'll work.
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