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i sometimes wonder if i'm a good friend.
i technically have many friends, but only a few i can call close. i don't know if its my personality or the way i come off, but i dont know why i don't have as many friends now.
i guess we grew apart. even people who i consider close are kinda drifting away from me too. i wanna ask whats wrong, but idk how.
i don't understand why im (kindof) a loner. i wish people could tell me more upfront about my bad traits so i can change them.
i tried planning stuff with my friends but everyone's busy with school.
i wish i could be a better person, or at the very least, a more likable one.
you are an amazing person! Some people just don’t fit with each other—I’ve had this problem too. I only have one good friend and a ok amount of other friends, so I try to keep in mind that people grow and change. In the end it’s important to know that you are worth it and you can try to be what other people want, and sometimes that’s okay, but ultimately YOU are the one who will be with you for the rest of your life. THEY might not be. Anyway, I’m sure you’re a beautiful and wonderful person and you’ll find your people soon!
I have something:
Sometimes I wonder if I'm an annoying person. Sometimes I can be really over the top and crazy when i feel comfortable with my friends, and idk if my friends really want to be associated with me. They have never been mean to me or said anything but sometimes they look uncomfortable if im being crazy. Maybe I'm just being paranoid and it's just nothing but idk.
Oh hellll no. I feel this all the time too, and that’s the undiagnosed anxiety (i feel like a pick me typing this but I might have it?? I’m not sure) talking. You are AMAZING and I’m sure they know it! Feeling uncomfortable is a part of growing up and a part of life—even if it were targeted towards you, it’s usually something really little. I’m sure it’s not though, i make a lot of weird faces when I remember stupid things I’ve done in the past. Remember that you’ll always have friends here on BP! Have a lovely day <3
I hate when these community posts get ignored. BP should do more to promote them. These posts are better than the celebrity nonsense and the extended product adverts, items available at Amazon now!
I feel stress and tension in my right shoulder, it comes and goes dependant on real life situations. At the moment life is okay, yet my shoulder is constantly tense and aching. I am starting to wonder if I am actively ignoring some drama in my life.
thanks for your support! There’s a very specific oil that I use to make any sore muscles feel better but I forgot the name bc it’s in Chinese. Maybe try sleeping and sitting in different positions? I hope this helps!
It was my siblings birthday today, and I sent them a card in the post. My mother wanted me to call them, but it had slipped my mind. So, around 8pm, my mother suddenly got super frustrated, and told my other sibling to ring them.
We do that, and have a short enough conversation, wishing them a happy birthday and easter. We got off the phone and then went down to where my parents were.. My mother was bringing the washing in, and I asked if she would like help folding the towels, planning on telling her what I was talking about with my sibling on the phone. She just brushed me off, saying no. I tried to make conversation, but then she said something along the lines of "I'm trying to have a conversation with you, why aren't you talking" and then just wouldn't reply to anything I said.
I left the room, so she could have time to calm down. Well, evidently, she did not calm down, as she still refused to even acknowledge our (mine and my sibling's) existences.
An hour later, at quarter past nine, she got the sweeping brush (like, she never helps around the house, and suddenly she's cleaning at nine o'clock at night??) and proceeds to sweep the hallway. I try to ask if she needs/wants help, but she continued ignoring me.
I left back to the kitchen and told my sibling what happened. Anyway, I ask my mother if she'd like to do night prayers now, but still no answer. Anyway, around half nine, my mam just sits down at the kitchen table and I ask again if we should do prayers. She again ignored us. Goes on for five minutes before she tells us to sit down, and then says we're stupid for having to be told to sit down.
She then asks if we're naive, innocent, or just plain stupid, for not knowing what she was being píssy about. My sibling queried if it was because we didn't remember to call out sibling on their birthday. My mam said no, and fast forward an hour of me crying, my mother degrading us for being stupid and not knowing, she finally tells us it's because we didn't remember to call out sibling before she asked, and didn't tell her what we were talking about.
She then claimed that we didn't care about them (my sibling who's birthday it was), that we isolated them from our conversations, that we never make any effort to contact them, and that she's the only one in the family who cares for them, not us, not my father. Eventually said our night prayers (though I was finding it hard to talk whilst crying), and said goodnight. My mother said sorry if she was too harsh on us, and the only thing I could say was thank you for being honest (though most of what she said was false).
Just stopped crying about 20~ minutes ago, and decided to post it here for a reason I don't really know. I'm not sure what I'm doing, I think it's just venting, but if anyone has advice about anything that pertains to anything in this, let me know :)
This happened about a year ago.
So I had this friend, let's call her "Friend A". I got to know her in the beginning of the year. She seemed really cool. She introduced me to another one of her friends, "Friend B". But they both had a friend who seemed to not like me. (I'll talk more about that person later. Anyways, onto the drama)
Everything was fine until about the middle of the year until I was gone on vacation for a week. When I came back to school some things had happened. Apparently, Friend A had dated another one of my friends, "Friend C", even though she didn't actually like Friend C. I thought it was still a misunderstanding and continued to be her friend.
Friend A and I got closer during the school year and eventually became best friends. But that one friend that both Friend A and Friend B had (let's call her "P" bc she needs a name) who seemed to hate me, would continuesly tell my best friend, Friend A, lies about me. Oh yeah, "P" called me a b***h in Russian (my bestie spoke/speaks Russian) and Friend A thought it was funny.
Anyways, near summer break, Friend A and P dated, had a fight, and broke up. Both P and Friend B never spoke to Friend A again. I texted Friend B to never talk to me again bc they hurt my best friend.
Then, in August, my best friend suddenly texted me to never talk to her again. (She did have a few mental illnesses though, such as bipolar disorder). I tried to reach out to her but she ignored me. I then unblocked Friend B and told her what happened. She understood and I think she forgave me. She told me that during the whole time that Friend A and I were friends, Friend A would talk about me behind my back and stuff. The whole time she did that, I was nothing but supportive and kind to her and made sure she was okay through mental health struggles.
So, yeah. That's my story! But, hey, stuff happens. 🤷♀️
Damn I’m really angry on your behalf. They took advantage of you, and even though friend B seems to have become kinder. I don’t know why you said “forgave me” because there is NO WAY you’re in the wrong in this one, unless I’m missing something? I hope this sorts itself out, because friend A doesn’t sound like a very good friend, but there’s really a lot to unpack here. Have a lovely day x
