Hello. I am curious to understand what being LGBTQ means. I have some questions and others might have some too. Those of you that are LGBTQ, can you please answer us in the comments? So here's my question: if there is a same-sex couple that wanted to get married, who would propose to the other person. Please also note that it is important to be respectful to our LGBTQ friends and we can learn about them.

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k so it doesn't really matter who proposes in a same-sex couple. Hope this helped

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    #2

    we have no agenda. other than living a long and happy life with our spouse. also, we do not like being asked if we like you when we come out. JUST CAUSE WE"RE GAY DOESN"T MEAN WE LOVE EVERYONE OF OUR PREFFERED GENDER.

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    Sowieso
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, it's very akward. Because if you say no, people assume you find them ugly. If you say that they are your type, they are scared that you have a crush on them. Please don't ask this question. It is soul crushing and very anxiety inducing, since every possible answer can be interpreted the wrong way.

    TrixicBird(Any pronouns)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im too disorganized for an agenda. i always break it and freak out. :/

    Charlie Hyduk
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LIIIEEES OUR AGENDA IS FORCING OTHERS TO BE GAY AND BEING PREDATORS CHASING CHILDREN AND INNOCENT HETERO SNOWFLAKES

    #3

    Here's a fun question: Who/What helped you figure out you are LGBTQ+? for me it's was Pidge from Voltron (Don't ask, I don't know myself)

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    Athenalikesowls
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Umm for me It was my girl best friend. I dated her for a few years and realized holy s**t I'm gay

    HappyAxolotl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad, once we were talking about sexuality in general and we got to a point were I had to explain what I am, I told him "I don't know, I'm bi but not interested in sex" his answer was "you are asexual". That took me to make a lot of research and yes, now I know I am a biromantic asexual, I could have figure it before but when I was 15 my mom told me that i was too young to know anything about it because "sex is fun, you will know it when you grow" (a bit different, we speak spanish). And thats the reason why my sister and I can talk opnely about everything with my dad, and my mom does not know I'm asexual and sister is non-binary (she told me to use female pronouns).

    Dark Pearl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you have any advice for coming out as non-binary to my dad? My mum doesn't judge it, but my dad does...

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    Nela Rothenbach
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Falling in love with a girl was dead give away 😂

    Hehehehehehehehe
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a friend in 4th grade who said she was getting an LGBTQ+ tattoo when she was an adult. Sparked the realization.

    Loonatic7
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a crush on a girl in my class, and I was like wait I’m dating a guy- Am I bIsExUaL?! And the answer is yes. Indeed I am.

    MiaOokami
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because of the lack of recognition towards the aspec community, I had no idea what being aromantic was. Then, one day I found out what it meant and I was like "s**t that's me"

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    #4

    Never refer to a trans person by their dead name, it's insensitive and rude.

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    Pansexual-Pancake
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    people do that to me cause I don't have short hair like bruh... boys can have long hair too

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know how you feel. My hair used to be short but I grew out because I felt like it was sending people messages that weren't true. A girl can have short hair just like a boy can have long hair. They are so many things that can tell you about a person, don't use their appearance as a way to judge them

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    Willow West
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WAIT!! If, in the case that they aren't out yet and it might be dangerous, make sure to ask them first. Like, if they aren't out to their parents and they don't want to be, for any reason, make sure you don't. Because if they find out it could be dangerous. (I am SO SORRY if this sounds mean, I tried to get the point across as well as I could, without sounding like a jerk, but this happened to my friend and another friend of mine called them by their name, and someone was like *Deadname* what the heck?' and they got in a fight and I don't want that to happen to anyone else. Call people by their names if it's okay with them, and in the right situation, is what I really meant. Have a great day!)

    the Me_greatest
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did that a few times by mistake. Before virtual school there was a Girl and now she’s a boy so I called him by his dead name a few times.

    #5

    As a proud pansexual, it does not really matter who proposes the same thing with boy and girl couples I know the boy proposing is "traditional" the girl can propose too. So no it does NOT MATTER.

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    #6

    I was also wondering that how do you change your body if you are trans? Because you can't exactly cut off some male/female body parts

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    😸Marik😺
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh~ the modern medicine is pretty good with that - it's a long process, but it's possible. Firstly, both processes begins with taking the needed hormones. And then comes the surgeries. I mean taking off the breast is... yeah... not unkown (breastcancer often leads to the same). Forming a breast is just adding silicone. The surgery forming a vagina/penis are more difficult but possible. A penis, for example, is formed from the outer labia and the clitoris. Often additionally with skin from the forearm. // For a vagina, on the other hand, is formed from the skin of the penis, with the tip as a clitoris. // Both fall under the concept of "cosmetic surgery". (I hope, the comment won't be deleted for usage of direct wording to describe the human body x.X)

    AntiAntiVaxx
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So say your a girl then you get surergy to become a dude do you have a soft d**k all the time or a hard one and does it work like a normal d**k or just like a normal d**k

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    Livvy
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people take testosterone to make their voices deeper and stop other female things from happening. (development of female body parts, periods, etc.) Not sure if that was a good way to explain it, but I hope it helped.

    Hehehehehehehehe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You CAN get surgery for certain things

    #7

    Lgbtq+ pandas; Hoping someone could explain the various labels. I've noticed sometimes a combination is used eg: "I'm a trans queer non binary" and I have no idea what it means.

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    Juliet
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m a little new to the lgbtq+ community but I think I might be able to answer this. There are many different sexualities and gender identities and I don’t know all of them, but I think often when different labels are used in combination, it’s to describe different things about a particular person. It could be both a different gender identity, along with sexuality. “I am non-binary, asexual and pan romantic” would be acceptable. The person is non binary, meaning they don’t identify with being male or female, they are asexual meaning they don’t feel sexual attraction, and they are pan romantic which means they still feel romantic attraction, and in that sense, gender doesn’t matter to them. I hope what I said is accurate.

    Hehehehehehehehe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any specific titles you are confused about? I’ll be happy to answer questions. I am polysexual and greygender. Polysexual means you like 2 genders, for me I like enby (non binary) people and girls. Greygender means that I have a weak connection to my gender, I don’t really know how to explain it.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be fair I think most! Even queer has me stumped. My closest friends are actually part of this community but different terms have never come up in conversation.

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    Bakugou
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    trans means that they have or want to change their gender. queer is their sexuality. nonbinary is their gender identity

    #8

    OK. I understand you guys are a bit confused, but this question is getting out of control. BISEXUALS AND PANSEXUALS AREN'T THE SAME. Pansexuals like EVERYONE, nonbinary, female, male, genderqueer, etc. Bisexuals like GIRLS AND BOYS. ALSO, TO MOST GACHATUBERS, fetishizing the LGBTQ+ community is immature and gross. STOP.

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    DexterDogTheLovey
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1) Yes, they are different. 2) Pans care for the personality, so not sure if they like EVERYONE, but still, correct. 3) Isn't it GachaCringers?

    MiaOokami
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait, gachatubers are doing what now? *sigh* Why am I not surprised.

    Pansexual-Pancake
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they have ruined gachatube the days of singing challenges...OVER T-T

    Briley Lennen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pans like people for their persona, not looks, or gender, or none like that. Bisexual people however can actually like one sex more than the other, it's a fact.

    #9

    So, one of my questions. If a woman changes and becomes a man, and marries a man, is it a gay marriage, or is it still considered straight since one of the men was originally a woman?

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    Pansexual-Pancake
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it is considered gay because the woman is now a man Which makes the man in the relationship gay

    Dani_has_arrived <3
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is gay marriage because both people are male

    Briley Lennen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If a woman transitions, he is a male so it would be considered gay. If he married a woman, however, that means he is straight.

    #10

    When you came out to a family member or close friend, what did they say or could they have said that was/would have been really positive and supportive?

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    😸Marik😺
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Family: "you're sure?" / "what will you do if you want children?" (Adopt) / "you'll be my child - even if you come back with green dots and a tail." / "May I name you a 2nd time?" Friends: "ok. - where do you store the beer again?" / "... eh... ok... but you won't try to hit on me?!" The most supportive - what my mom & dad said. (Dots and tail / Name me a 2nd time) - all around, out of the family, the most supportive was the friend who just accepted it and asked for the beer ^_^"

    HappyAxolotl
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister told me "ok, that was obvious" and now shows me all of the asexual characters of her favorite comics because I told her there is not too much information and representation out there.

    Melanie King
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, i didnt intend on telling my family, only my sister, but yeah i ended up telling them, and lately in school i had skipped one of my classes for the first time and so when i told them, i knew they werent very supportive of the LGBTQ commuity and i ended up having to switch schools for it because they thought i was trying to be "rebellious". But my friends were and still are very supportive, and im grateful for that :)

    MiaOokami
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I told my close friend I was aromantic, she said "cool'. Honestly, that's a good reaction. She knows I'm aromantic, and keeps it in mind, but she doesn't make a huge deal about it. She just accepts it.

    #11

    How do you respond to homophobes? Polysexual enby here.

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    Melanie King
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, i live with one of them, which sucks, but i just kind of half-heartedly "agree" with him whenever he says something homophobic, and then think about how rude he is later.

    Pansexual-Pancake
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm also poly and 3 of my friends are homophobic(they aren't rude about it tho)and they try to accept me as I am

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh I’m sorry about that. Is there something specific you said/did so they accepted you?

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    😸Marik😺
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have that nice shirt saying "homophobia is not a phobia. You're just an a**hole" --- but besides of that, I just ignore the person or keep asking "why?" until the other person runs out of answers :)

    the Me_greatest
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Polysexual? Could I get a explanation?

    depressePANcake
    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Write down exactly what they said and f*cking burn it.

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    #12

    If someone is non-binary, and they like girls, and they were born female, are they lesbian?

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    TrixicBird(Any pronouns)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    depends, agab has nothing to do with it. because i prefer to define lesbian as nonmen who like nonmen not just wlw. nblw can also be called trixic tho (thats me)

    MiaOokami
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are different terms for someone who likes a gender, without specifying their own gender. When it comes to trying to identify the sexuality of someone who is trans, you won't have to take into account the sex they were born with.

    #13

    I personally are not a member of the lgbtq+ community but I do support it. My parents don’t tho. How can I change this

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    AntiAntiVaxx
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They don't have too. Many things across the world are supported by many people and disliked by others ie: Religon, LGBTQ , Polotics etc. The key to having a peaceful world filled with kindness and love is acceptance. I come from a very religous family and I myself am religous and do not belive in same sex relationships however I am not one to judge. If my child came out as gay I would be understanding and treat them the same as my child. That may mean I dont agree with what they are doing. As long as your parents are kind and welcomeing to LGBTQ members it will be OK.

    the Me_greatest
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go for acceptance. That may be the most you can get.

    😸Marik😺
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don't need to change it. If they have questions, try to answer them but don't try to force a changement of their minds. It may cause issues within your family you certainly don't want (and neither your parents, I assume). If your parents let you be yourself and accept you supporting lgbtq+, try to accept their non-support of lgbtq+ :)