I’m asking a dude out and I am a girl, thanks for the help.

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I would say sure, go for it. You could ask him via text or one on one in person so there are not lots of people around. Maybe that will help with your nerves.

Be mentally prepared for the answer to be “no” just in case. And if he doo ok wavy chance say no, at least you took the chance.

I asked my crush via a letter but have it to him on the bus. Someone got it and then proceeded to read it out to everyone l on the bus. That was over thirty years ago and yes I was embarrassed. He and I never went on a date as he said he thought of me as more like a sister. There is a saying about how you regret the things you didn’t do so much more than the things you try - even if you fail. If you decide to ask him out, good luck! If you decide not to, maybe you decide maybe not to ask him right now or if you’re too scared or nervous just know it’s really truly going to be ok. Either way, you have people who love you for who you are!

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Pillowarmidiloroku
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ty but I found out from his friends its a yes if I say it I just need to know how to make it not awkward

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Be clear but also make it easy for him to say no. That means not asking him when there are many people around and keeping it casual enough so that he can refuse without it becoming awkward. It's important to make it clear that it is a date and not a "friend" thing. For example: hi, I think you are [insert thing you like about him], would you want to get coffee/food/activity with me this Saturday? If he says no, I'm busy that day and doesn't come up with an alternative option/suggestion it means he does not want to go out with you. If he is really busy but interested he would suggest another day or time. Take rejection gracefully with a "no worries, let me know if you change your mind" and continue with your day.

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Pillowarmidiloroku
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you for this he ended up asking me out almost a week after I posted this like a year ago but Ty’s for taking time to find a way for me to ask him out

#3

if you're too shy to ask him in person, get in contact with him! through discord, texting and any other means, would be fine. when you guys aren't seeing each other in person talk to him online and get to know him! i too am a 13yo girl and no, i've never asked anyone out but i think it might work. once you really get to know him, then ask him out! i think you'll do great! (probably better than i would do!) best of luck!

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As a female/girl. Get her some flowers, but make sure they are her favorite flowers! Take her out, but remember, it does not have to be fancy. (Most girls like McDonald's or something like that)
Don't try to hard or she will feel awkward, but don't not try, or she'll feel upset. Also don't text/call her that you like her. This will cause mixed emotions. Most girls feel special when someone proposes face to face. They can also see that you actually like them. (Sorry if this seems like a lot but remember, starting and maintaining a relationship is also a lot.) Go for it!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH NO! SORRY! I read the description fast, saw girl thought you were a guy proposing to a girl! I'm so sorry!

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To ask someone out is tough because you are playing with someone's feelings.so to master the art of asking out there is two methods.1 write a note and slip it to him this is risky because he can bring it to his friends and tease you but if you like him I suppose he is nice. 2 find him in private to ask him be clear with what you're saying but make sure he doesn't feel obligated.
Ps. Once you ask him out pls post what he answered. Good luck

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